The Awkward Silence

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

10:01 AM

@avazula You might say that but your red nose disagrees.

Imus

@M.A.R.ಠ_ಠ to emphasize how important it is

@M.A.R.ಠ_ಠ Best thing about that is that it was a measuring error in the first place :p

spinach is rich in iron but not any more than other iron-rich vegies

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

@Imus It makes your forearm look inflamed

@Imus I'd rather normal-ass things. Like meat. Or eggs.

I'm actually not supposed to eat too much red meat.

One kidney can only bear so much

But since when has that stopped anyone.

Imus

bears have stopped plenty of people

Rainb

@M.A.R.ಠ_ಠ I think you intended to ping someone else

oh nvm

it turns out I got pinged anyway

whatevah

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

@Rainb Oh. I just thought there's the possibility that you took my general remark the wrong way, like I was referring to you, and I needed to negate that implication

@Rainb Three letters are enough to ping people in chat

Rainb

10:06 AM

ohh

@M.A test

Imus

So that means that any time anyone pings Rainb, Rainbacon also gets pinged? funny

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

@Imus They don't stop anything. They just make them move in the wrong direction

Rainb

@Imus yeah, I guess so

Imus

@M.A.R.ಠ_ಠ not if the bear was fast enough :p

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

Wait.

Waaaaaait.

Rainb

10:07 AM

yeah

now you're getting it

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

Oh, you're his sock. I thought he/you/it renamed

Rainb

no

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

Pronouns are hard

Rainb

I'm not a sock

I'm a completely different person

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

Pants?

Rainb

10:08 AM

That has been a while here

People confuse me often with rainbacon

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

Well the plot thickens

Rainb

yeah, just look at my history in this chat

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

I need to recheck who I was talking to for the past two weeks.

Rainb

Rainbacon, I think

I never seen you before

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

Your loss

My humor is unmatched

Imus

10:10 AM

@M.A.R.ಠ_ಠ so never on fire?

Rainb

M.A.R: chat user since 2014

so I guess you've been here for a while.

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

Also, @Mith also pings the Mith-some-numbers but they don't mind it

Rainb

so the longer your name

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

@Rainb That's a possibility

Rainb

the more likely you're gonna get pinged

Imus

10:11 AM

@Rainb no, the more common your first letters

Rainb

so shorter names = better

Imus

not much to do with lenght

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

People that haven't been in this chat for the past week are not pingable

Rainb

ahh

I didn't know this.

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

@Rainb Not really. Two Bobs walk into a chatroom.

Rainb

10:12 AM

well, I was here before asking for advice and stuff, so maybe that's why I got pinged

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

@Imus It spontaneously combusts

Rainb

what is the most common first letters?

in a name?

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

I dunno

I think you're overthinking this

Or I'm overthinking your overthinking

Rainb

I don't know why it's so bad to be curious about how stuff works in a while.

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

As long as your name is unique-ish, you don't run into much trouble

If you don't like pings choosing a common English first name as the beginning of the username is a bad idea, for example

But this Rainb thing is such a coincidence

Rainb

10:15 AM

I guess not many people think people care about how stuff works as much as I do. Because usually people don't care, I suppose. But then again.

Rainbow

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

@Rainb It's not. It's just there are way cooler things to be curious about.

Like what do they put in toothpastes.

Rainb

@M.A.R.ಠ_ಠ ohh, what cool things?

ahh

Imus

@Rainb that's not it. You're fine asking how stuff works

Rainb

hmm.

Imus

even better if people can answer it :)

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

10:17 AM

Why are toffees so sticky.

Imus

Just know that M.A.R. and Imus like to troll people (as long as it's obvious that they're joking)

I on the other hand am always serious!

Rainb

Well.. do you know what do they put in toothpastes?

Imus

white sand among other things

Rainb

And, does it even help to your dental health, and, why does it?

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

@Rainb Mint tablets

It's never obvious that I'm trolling. That goes against the definition

Imus

10:18 AM

it helps shrub off the sticky things from your teeth

Rainb

But I'm curious now, the purpose of brushing your teeth is removing sediment, so that bacteria doesn't grow on it, I think.

Imus

why are you curious about stuff you already know? :)

(I know the answer already, just want to make you think too!)

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

@Rainb It's not just the food residue

Rainb

I heard something about that sweat itself doesn't cause bad odor, but bacteria that lives in the sweat. And that's what causes bad odor according to the internet.

Imus

@Rainb confirmed

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

10:20 AM

Just generally making it uncomfortable for the bad microbes

Rainb

So, my question is.. if you kill the bacteria, will you still smell bad?

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

Pretty sure there are lots of good microbes in our mouth too

Imus

@Rainb you wont, the problem is how to kill the bacteria

Rainb

ahh

well, you can use antibiotics, but that will cause bacteria to grow antibiotic resistant..

However nature has evolved the most efficient bacteria killing machine in the world

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

@Rainb Yeah since you probably won't be able to digest things as easily

Imus

10:21 AM

that's just a temporary fix. Once removed they'll be replaced soon after anyway

Rainb

The virus.

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

It's not just the intestines with flora

Rainb

So stop showering, just put viruses on your armpits

what can go wrong

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

That sounds like a marvelous idea.

@Rainb Thanos snap

Imus

bacteria out produce the virus?

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

10:22 AM

Viruses don't reproduce @Imus

And they have specific hosts

Imus

They do reproduce. Just not on their own

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

You can't expect TMV to attack bacteria. Or influenza. They have a problem with us

Imus

well technically they force other cells to copy them ... does that count as reproducing?

Rainb

not really

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

@Imus Well, there are no living cells on the skin

Imus

10:23 AM

semantics :p

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

@Imus If biologists knew the answer to that you wouldn't have heard so much shouting from next door

And Dawkins would have been a happier person.

Rainb

I mean, viruses can reproduce but they need the body of a host.

they can't reproduce on their own

which is why we say, they're not "alive"

Imus

@M.A.R.ಠ_ಠ there are bacteria living on the skin. bacteria are single celled organisms. So that means there ARE cells living on the skin.

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

It's basically whether or not you can drive a car 'on your own' if you don't own one

@Imus Yeah I was trying to say our cells but I got to lazy to word it properly

Imus

If you're sitting in a self driving car behind the steering wheel. Are you still the driver?

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

10:26 AM

That's a different analogy

Imus

Sorry, my mind must've wondered off

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

. . . Is a man in a lonely forest still wrong

Rainb

I just had the idea of using viruses after I heard in a podcast that russians used to cure bacterial infections with viruses before some penicillin was discovered.

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

And is downloading music immoral.

Rainb

listening to music is immoral

distracts you from praying

Imus

10:27 AM

I don't pray in the first place

Rainb

good, it's a waste of time.

don't pray, take some action.

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

You can pray on the go

Rainb

sitting down and hoping to things get better is a terrible strategy, if you ask me.

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

You can keep shouting Amen in the middle of a surgery

Rainb

you make things get better through the use of your own body, thoughts, ideas.

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

10:28 AM

That sounds brutal

Rainb

it's called fighting for what you believe in.

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

@Rainb Look at it from another perspective. What good is your prayer if you do it only because you want something?

Imus

Idonno. The world would be a lot better place if certain people would pray instead of shout at people who are just doing their jobs ...

so sometimes, praying IS the answer

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

@Rainb still brutal

Rainb

You might be right, but on an individual level, I have no faith that praying will change things.

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

10:30 AM

Wait.

I think we need to clear up things here. Whose side are each of you on.

Rainb

Against you.

Always.

Imus

I'm on the side that maks people think

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

Cool. COME AT ME BRUH

Imus

@M.A.R.ಠ_ಠ that sounds nsfw

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

No it also has a meaning of "en garde"

Or did until yesterday

I do think people underestimate how much their viewpoint can affect the outcome of their effort

So yeah, praying can matter. And a lot.

Imus

10:32 AM

imgur.com/gallery/YOENEod

Rainb

well

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

Now THAT can be NSFW

Rainb

on social aspects

if you believe it will work

it will work, most likely

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

I can't access it anyway

Rainb

on science, it doesn't matter what you believe.

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

10:34 AM

@Rainb What does that constitute?

Oh, right. "constitute". I was looking for this word yesterday. Found it in my back pocket

Imus

@M.A.R.ಠ_ಠ It's stephen fry saying: If you are physically bullied, the best thing to say is "no,no,no, don't do that, you'll give me an erection."

Rainb

@M.A.R.ಠ_ಠ what do you mean with "that"?

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

@Rainb I was looking for it when I was typing a message elsewhere, a word that starts with "c" and has connotations of "contain"

Rainb

yeah

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

Started from here. Good discussion.

Rainb

10:36 AM

I ask something like

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

Considering I had it in 4 a.m.

Rainb

what does that entail?

What does that mean?

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

Oh, I meant what you really mean by "social aspects"

Rainb

ah

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

Science, yeah. Conflating the two doesn't help

Rainb

10:37 AM

If you approach someone believing they'll be really friendly, and that they're nice people.

It is likely they will.

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

It's like trying to make a milkshake with both raspberries and bananas.

That's hardly practical. I was thinking faith in more practical contexts.

Imus

@M.A.R.ಠ_ಠ never tried that, sounds awesome

Rainb

if you approach someone thinking they're bad people and angry, they might also behave that after a while, it's a self-fulfilling prophecy

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

Ya know, like that frog story

The one who was climbing the hole

Rainb

nah, I don't think faith matters that much, except having good faith in people, or in social interactions, or having faith in yourself.

avazula

10:39 AM

@M.A.R.ಠ_ಠ nah, this is because of alcohol

Rainb

like, if you are programming something and have faith you will find the bug, that kind of faith, is irrelevant, it might give you motivation to keep trying, which will make you succeed, but that didn't depend because you had faith.

it's not a direct cause.

Imus

@Rainb Then again, I have experience shouting "work" at my program which made it work ... so faith does have a certain effect :p

Rainb

I don't believing that shaking the screen will make the computer unhang, for example

Thats probably because I kinda understand how computers work, so I know why they hang...

Imus

well, you got to have faith in the right religion

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

@SmokeDetector 'Whate' is German

Rainb

10:42 AM

Was ist das für ein Wort aber?

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

. . . no u

Imus

"What kind of word is that?"

Rainb

Well Whate is not german

Imus

should not be answered with "no u"

Rainb

German doesn't have "wh" except from words that come from english

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

10:44 AM

in English Language & Usage: Multi-Layered Discourse Room, May 10 at 19:02, by M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

May 5 at 13:34, by M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

@Færd I think this chat has a problem of taking my remarks too seriously.

Second degree of nesting

Let's see how far we can get with that

Rainb

oh are you from Iran

I used to learn some persian

but I only learned bad words...

Fortunately, I can't type farsi, so you're safe.

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

I'm more like a bank vault

Imus

@M.A.R.ಠ_ಠ empty inside until you can find a rich person to give you stuff?

didn't know you were such a materialistic person/thing

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

Better than a safe at least. It takes more to satisfy me

Also I got lasers. And CCTVs. So awesome.

Laaaaaaaaaasers

JAD

in The Litter Box, Mar 19 at 15:31, by Henders

Dec 3 '18 at 9:31, by Henders

Nov 16 at 9:35, by Henders

yesterday, by Henders

20 hours ago, by Henders

Nov 4 '13 at 4:53, by Tim Post

</groan>

quite far

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

10:55 AM

That's cheating

I can say achoo in winter and quote it 20 times after

no, that's Henders

Cheating is an alias

a hall monitor

@Magisch Oh is that Bill The Lizard

Imus

I've heard of tail gators. This looks like the perfect solution

Magisch

11:02 AM

@M.A.R.ಠ_ಠ no, it's DiscreteLizard

Rainbacon

12:19 PM

Ooh, I'm sad that I missed the great conversation about autism and eating this morning :(

Tinkeringbell

Just restart it :P

It's one of those that can safely be had more than once ;)

Ælis

@Rainbacon I believe dhein still have questions about it, you could ping them and tell them how it is for you

Rainbacon

@dhein to answer your question, I have a lot of sensory issues related to my mouth

Tastes and textures are very exaggerated for me

It's also not just food. I feel pain in my mouth greater than other parts of my body

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

@Rainbacon I ate TWO chocolate bars.

Rainbacon

My guess is that that entire area is just hypertuned to sensory input

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

12:21 PM

@Rainbacon Is that . . . not a good thing?

Rainbacon

My blog post goes into a lot more detail

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

Unless you drink really hot tea.

Rainbacon

@M.A.R.ಠ_ಠ It's most definitely a bad thing

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

Or eat very cold ice cream. Ouch, my teeth

Rainbacon

There is a lot of food that I can't eat because the taste or texture of it will overload my brain.

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12:22 PM

"Me? I'm from Earth. Yep. Normal Earthling over here" — Baldrickk 1 min ago

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

Fact nugget: Did you know butterflies are 200 times more sensitive to sweetness than us

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M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

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M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

I take that as a yes

@Rainbacon Oh :/

Rainbacon

12:24 PM

Also, @Magisch are you on the spectrum?

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

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Magisch

@Rainbacon yas

Rainbacon

Also, it's a good thing that my commute got 20 minutes longer when I moved, y'all are talking so much that I'm having trouble keeping up with the transcript

@Magisch Ah, I was unaware. That's good to know. I guessed as much based on your disdain for autism speaks

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

@Rainbacon Yessir! On it sir!

Magisch

12:32 PM

@Rainbacon I'm less private on here then irl. Nobody at my workplace knows

Rainbacon

Fun fact I just learned, you can grab the link to your profile in the top bar and drag it to the chrome bookmarks bar and it creates a bookmark to your profile that has your rep number, and the numbers of your badges

Magisch

And of my family, only the people close to me know

Rainbacon

Understandable

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

@Rainbacon Whoa that's cool

@Magisch Eesh, trusting me with that information

Rainbacon

I didn't tell many people at first, but eventually I posted about it on Facebook. I kept it quite for a while at work as well, but ultimately found that telling people made it easier to work with them (I have a few really great coworkers who have been super supportive of doing what they can to help me given the knowledge that I have autism)

Now I'm pretty much an open book. Plus I'm fairly certain that an enterprising person could take my IPS account and follow it back to my actual identity

avazula

12:35 PM

@Magisch I haven't disclose my autism to my new coworkers yet. I'd like to, but I don't want to be told "but you don't look autistic / you just need to open up / get stronger"

Rainbacon

@avazula I keep meaning to write a blog post of "things not to say to an autistic person". That phrase is at the top of the list

Magisch

I have it under control reasonably well, and outside the boundary ignoring front desk ladies, everyone here behaves like an adult, so I can work with that

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

That's an inspirational non-rhythmic Haiku.

Except the first part. And also maybe the second part.

Magisch

@Rainbacon one of my aunts is in total denial and says it's just a phase because I wasn't socialized enough as a kid

apparently men can't have migraines either and I'm faking those too

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

Maybe just the third part. And mostly the quotation mark.

Ælis

12:37 PM

@Rainbacon I wish I would have tell my coworker about it sooner. Now I feel that me, bringing it up, would be weird :/

avazula

@Rainbacon Hoping I won't scare you by saying this, but I wish I knew you "IRL", you and most people in this chat

I'm so glad I got to know @Ælis by IPS by the way :)

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

@Magisch Pfft, migraines are just communists making a deal with aliens who're trying to disrupt our thinking from afar.

Ælis

@avazula I'm so glad too :D <3

avazula

@Magisch eeew. Another great one: "your mother didn't care enough about you when you were a kid"

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

I'm glad too! It's written on my forehead.

M.A.Glad

Rainbacon

12:39 PM

@avazula Well, if you ever find yourself in New York City, let me know and we can meet up

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

Or Tabriz.

Rainbacon

And maybe we can convince @ElizB and @El'endiaStarman to come down too

Magisch

It's easier to wear the "private and weird" label at work then dispelling decades worth of misinformation from people who are very resistant to opinion change

JAD

@Magisch Just tell her you are in menopause

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

@Magisch Isn't that like a default though? Being resistant to change

JAD

12:41 PM

@M.A.R.ಠ_ಠ resistant to change is fine, unless the basis you are asked to change away from is outlandish and outdated

Rainbacon

@Magisch That's fair. I don't know your coworkers, so I don't know how much misinformation they have, but I can say that my coworkers were really awesome when I told them (except for the part where they told me that I should never mention it to a client, but that's another story to unpack)

JAD

then maybe hurry up a bit

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

@JAD Aaaand those are subjective.

avazula

@Magisch I'm not sure I feel the same way. I despise the "weird" label. At least autism explains why I'm (and feel) different. but people sure don't try to understand.

Rainbacon

They've all been supportive and they ask genuine questions because they want to understand

avazula

12:42 PM

@Rainbacon o_o

JAD

@M.A.R.ಠ_ಠ eh, quite a bit of misconceptions about autism are objectively wrong

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

If you meet me IRL I kinda look like agent Smith but with a youngster beard.

Rainbacon

@avazula Basically they told me that I shouldn't tell the clients because there's no telling how the clients will react. I have a few issues with that, but I've mostly just let it rest

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

@JAD I was talking generally. "Outdated" is subjective.

Magisch

@avazula I had severely bad experiences telling people before

avazula

12:49 PM

@Magisch me too... now I remain silent

Magisch

Like some people assumed I must be one weird reaction away from going on a rampage and becoming violent

avazula

o_o

JAD

that's sad

Magisch

and one particularly unsavory individual decided to prove I wasn't autistic by provoking me and using my self control as evidence that I couldn't be

avazula

what an unpleasant idea

Rainbacon

12:50 PM

@Magisch Sounds like grounds for a harassment claim and an HR incident

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

BTW, I might have an answer to the newest question, coming from a culture almost fully alien to the English-speaking community, but I'm wary of posting it

@Magisch . . . Wow.

Rainbacon

@M.A.R.ಠ_ಠ Yeah, I would be very careful of that.

Magisch

@Rainbacon That wasnt at work. That was at a family gathering a couple of months ago

Rainbacon

@Magisch Oh dear, even worse then

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

@Rainbacon I have never ever started out on a site with answering, and I properly intend to keep it that way

Rainbacon

12:55 PM

@M.A.R.ಠ_ಠ I'm curious as to what your answer would be and what sort of backup you have

Imus

@M.A.R.ಠ_ಠ you mean the question I just posted an answer on? And which just got another answer as well :o

it's an interesting question :)

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

My backup won't be about this slavery anniversary thing, it'd be about telling other people about memorials no one knows about

AFAICT worrying about the "white savior" accusation is unnecessary

Nevermind anyway, I wasn't planning on posting it.

Rainbacon

@M.A.R.ಠ_ಠ It's absolutely not unnecessary

Imus

that part is indeed something that could be imrpoved on their answer

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

If I post something on Eeps, it will definitely be a question first

JAD

12:57 PM

Probably approaching it as "hey did you know X" is better than just wishing someone a happy whateverday

Rainbacon

I think that the racial dynamics in America play a bigger role in this situation than you might think

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

@Rainbacon sure, you can say things that can come off as that, but a normal person without some motivation or background wouldn't assume it most of the time

Imus

@M.A.R.ಠ_ಠ I don't post questions, only answers, for I already know everything, and anyone that doesn't agree with me is just wrong

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

@JAD Exactamundo

JAD

@Rainbacon hmm, that's a bag'o'worms I like to steer away from

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

12:59 PM

@Rainbacon It could be more charged than I take it to be, sure. I'm exposed to lots of it but that never replaces living there

Magisch

I actually only got formally diagnosed in early 2017 because of a conversation from the water cooler

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

If someone is, say, overtly, excessively feminist, they will take anything a man would say on the subject under suspicion and scrutiny

Rainbacon

Hmm, there are close votes on the HNQ?

Magisch

a shrink suspected way earlier, from when I was like 8 or so, but I never went with it or pursued it

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

@Rainbacon You can maybe check the timeline and see if they're new interpersonal.stackexchange.com/posts/22092/timeline

I forgot how much info it reveals and I don't have 3k

. . . Wow. Just 500 rep.

Hmm, OldPadawan seems to be the review frontrunner. I wonder why they didn't run

Rainbacon

1:07 PM

It doesn't show close votes

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

Maybe Yoda is too old for that running stuff. He just jumps high.

Rainbacon

The only votes it shows are a daily rollup of up/down/favorite

JAD

@M.A.R.ಠ_ಠ all the flips

Rainbacon

I was a tad surprised he didn't run, but I think he's been around a bit less lately, so maybe that's why

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

@Rainbacon Well, then you have 2k tools and you can check out how the review is doing if you find it here interpersonal.stackexchange.com/review/close/history

Khkhkh 2k tools

Rainbacon

1:10 PM

I mean, it's not going anywhere anytime soon, it's on HNQ and one of the mods has an answer to it ;)

It's pretty clearly on topic (so far has 3 "leave open" votes in the queue)

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

@Rainbacon That concludes the review

So I doubt it'll get any more CVs if it has one.

@Rainbacon Surely a pain in the arse though. And I say this from afar

Rainbacon

I just hope the juneteenth question doesn't get to HNQ. If it does there will probably be some horrible content that we have to clean up

Imus

@Rainbacon that I can agree with :o

Ælis

@Rainbacon I hope that too. But, worse case, we can still ask the mod to remove it from HNQ

Rainbacon

Yeah

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Tinkeringbell

1:32 PM

interpersonal.stackexchange.com/a/22119/1599 < Eyeballs please. :)

Imus

rood

Magisch

deliberating between delete vote and r/a flag

Rainbacon

Same boat as @Magisch

It is most definitely unkind

The thing is, I don't want to just delete without leaving a comment

Tinkeringbell

meta link to 'respect the premise/request' perhaps? And then explain that this doesn't answer OP's question of how to communicate to people they don't want to answer? I dunno...

It's a hard one. See it as good election training XD

Rainbacon

Yeah, I'm working on a comment. We'll see if I get it done before the post collects enough delete votes

Fortunately I've started keeping a folder of meta bookmarks

Ok, I posted the comment

@Tinkeringbell If the questionnaire is any indication, I don't need training because Ava is going to win ;)

Tinkeringbell

1:52 PM

That's assuming this will be the only elections IPS ever gets to hold :P

Magisch

at the latest when ips graduates, the current mods will have to stand for re-election then

picturing "parrot 2024" stickers

Rainbacon

How many R/A flags have to be on a post for it to get redacted when it is deleted by delete votes?

IPS Comment Bot

@Barmar I've never had trouble redirecting a conversation from something so dull as "where are you from" after answering, but that doesn't mean anything with respect to the OP's situation. But my entire point in these comments is that we shouldn't have to imagine circumstances that might explain the OP's reticence. My advice would be very different if the reason they want to avoid the question is because they think it's boring versus if people make horrifically rude assumptions based on the answer. A bit more information would make it easier to give advice that meet the OP's goals. — Upper_Case 14 secs ago

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Rainbacon

@IPSCommentBot fp

IPS Comment Bot

Marked this comment as caught incorrectly (fp). Currently marked 0tps/1fps

Magisch

2:00 PM

@Rainbacon 1 that hasn't been declined or disputed

Ælis

2:14 PM

The open space is very loud today and I wish I could be home. But since I can't, I decided to look at pictures of "peaceful place" and share that with you (it helps me, hope it will do the same for you):