their top three answers are text walls that contain some ips skills, but also some serious toxicity and a fair helping of totally off (ips) topic stuff
@spiralsucculent I'm pretty sure it's based on machine learning. It takes a lot of time and effort to train machines. Especially since there's so many ways to be toxic or offensive in ways other than swearing.
I think you might be able to differentiate my normal discourse from shitposting because I will actually use less foul language when I'm trolling/flaming
@El'endiaStarman I know, I really just want to be an engineer on that project
or, more specifically, I want to create training sets for that project
That time of year is approaching once again. Tis' the season for social obligation, and my cousin has already started in about Thanksgiving via text messages. This year has brought a bit of a twist in that she asked me to bring my new partner...
I'm not opposed to spending time with my family, m...
Scenario
When it comes to certain family matters, one of my cousins always lies to my mom. It could be from a simple occasion like where the family had gone for a vacation or a more serious one like when a family member was admitted to a hospital.
My mom does know that he is lying but doesn't...
@Belle-Sophie Hi. Downvote is mine. I didn't know how to write a message saying "hey, that answer may be 13+ months old, but it's actually off-topic so, please edit it?"
So I just recommended deletion and DVed so it stays in the queue
Usually I go 'Hey, I realise this answer is old, but we've changed our policies on good answers since. See [our meta on answers] for more guidance on what makes a good answer right now.' Then point out what is wrong and how to improve it.
If I delete it, I also sometimes mention that for posts over 60 days old, you won't lose any reputation over them being deleted, and that this is in fact a good thing as it prevents it from being downvoted too much now and the person losing rep over that XD
Last week this happened. I tried finding the best way to solve a software engineering problem. I thought solution A would work, but it didn't. I spent a few days trying to understand why it didn't work and figuring out what to do instead. I finally implemented solution B that was a bit more verbose but worked perfectly. Then a colleague came along and started telling me to use solution A, because it was clearly better :|
@Magisch Using a route optimization API. I had to send some JSON to that API, a little bit in NoSQL style, containing a list of orders, drivers and adresses. The colleague's solution is to "call ToJSON on the address table in the database and write the result right back".
Well, the address table doesn't contain orders, for one, nor drivers.
Second, the API requires coordinates, which I explained to him, but we save address lines in our database. He insists that "addresses are coordinates" or something, so it's really simple.
Flashback
Today when I entered in class, I came late due to the fact that I’m in flow that I stayed on telephone. And when I came to school, I asked Chemistry teacher to annulate my absence, and an ugly( inside) girl told me, “get out of here!” and that made me be very angry at her that I wanted...
A few days back I fixed a bug from the bug-pile. I had effectively reduced the amount of code during the fixing. "Why didn't you write any code today?"
Luckily this is just one colleague. I have many more who are awesome.
I do know that threading is not a magic fix-all solution and you really need to know what you're doing to try and run large parts of your program that depend on other threads.
@Cashbee depends a lot on which language you are using. Afaik in C# the language provides ways to check for interruptions without having to manually sleep here and there
My colleague and I disagree on whether Linq is a good choice here: allAddresses = driverAddresses.Concat(orderAddresses).Distinct(new Address.AddressComparer()).ToList();
I'm not sure what Distinct does under the hood, but sounds like a use for a HashSet
static IEnumerable<TSource> DistinctIterator<TSource>(IEnumerable<TSource> source, IEqualityComparer<TSource> comparer) {
Set<TSource> set = new Set<TSource>(comparer);
foreach (TSource element in source)
if (set.Add(element)) yield return element;
}
var adresses = new List<string>();
var distinctAdresses = new List<string>();
foreach(var adress in adresses) {
var alreadyInAdress = false;
// Check if adress is already in result
foreach(var otherAdress in distinctAdresses) {
if(otherAdress == adress) {
alreadyInAdress = true;
break;
}
}
if (!alreadyInAdress) {
distinctAdresses.Add(adress);
}
}
A little while back a customer wanted a different order of evaluation in some function. Upon checking the function out, I went NOPE. Big spaghetti. It worked and I didn't want to break it. One of them things you don't want to touch. Luckily, I could just swap the statements around, which I did. I thought, problem solved.
Went to review with colleague after I tested it. He insisted my fix wasn't actually solving the customer's issue and I needed to change a lot more stuff.
I hated that he made me "fix" the code. I didn't understand it and didn't want responsibility for breaking it if my fix introduced a bug.
I would like to ask for advise about my current situation, my girlfriend (26) and I (31) have been together for 2 months now and we really have lots in common and always have a great time together but! I am an IT guy so I am into technology very much and currently own a Nintendo Switch.
I really...
TL;DR: I wanna befriend a male colleague who's 20+ years older than me but I'm afraid he'd feel I'm flirty because 1) I have a past of harrasment from a 45y.o. male teacher and 2) Since I've questioned the neurotypical-ness of my brain I realize how much I struggle to make new friends when the context is that I can't see them often
Wooh, that could be a great IPS question!
Gonna see whether it's already been posted, maybe I'd find some advice
But seriously, I feel so dumb that I struggle so much to become friends with someone!
@Cashbee I think it's gonna go through the Sandbox first the last thing I wanna read is "if you wanna befriend him that much that's because you have a crush of him" u_u
I'm sorry to give this exhausting question, but I want to be sure I state every important detail. This question has 2 parts, both, I feel, have something in common.
To give some background about myself, I am a big extrovert - it's quite okay for me to just start talking with girls at train and g...
Amazing, how a FGITW-answer from a new user answers the only aspect of the question that is on topic. It's like he knew the question was going to be edited shortly
Specifically about the problem with your girlfriend, I think it is expected of you that you sympathise. But that does not mean you have to lie/can't talk. Just comfort her when she needs, hold your thoughts until afterwards and then maybe, if you feel it's necessary, bring back the topic when she...
My colleague was trashtalking my work again, but the manager shut him down. He said that my colleague shouldn't talk down my work, that I actually have something useful to show, that it actually looks really good and that the direction I am taking with it is a lot more useful than the direction colleague is trying to push, which only benefits colleague's agenda.
It was supposed to be delivered along with some big project colleague has been working on, which he said he could do in 300 hours. We're now a year in and it's not even remotely close to finishing. I think he's losing credibility and I'm gaining it.
@gparyani Just read it. It does seem to touch this situation. My colleague is reasonably good. A little outdated in his knowledge maybe, but he knows what he's doing. Just working in a team is very difficult to him.
@Belle-Sophie "Rick was a very talented developer. Rick could solve complex business logic problems and create sophisticated architectures to support his lofty designs. Rick could not solve the problem of how to work effectively on a team."
I thought the term full stack not only refers to web dev, but more generally that one masters all related languages and frameworks related to their field. Did I assume wrongly?
hmm speaking of which. I've been toying a bit with programming some board- or cardgames in my free time. The scope kinda exploded and now I'm working on an authentication interface with password hashing and all that stuff
throws cochlear implants off oiiiii. People need to understand that if you're in a work environment without doors then at least keep your boisterous laughing to a minimum, puh-leeeze!!! Seriously. steam coming out of ears and top of head ..... okay, I'm okay now. Oi.
@avazula this is an excellent topic for a question and as far as i see, there's no question that matches my situation even close, so I posted it as a question! :)
@avazula i feel better, but I don't like having to take out my environmental awareness
You're so gentle. "Clearing my throat loudly to indicate there is someone here" and "Sighing annoyingly to indicate that I am not happy with the noise". I'm not familiar with US culture so I'm not going to write an answer but here it would be perfectly acceptable to shout: "Shut up, I'm working here!"
Okay, perfectly acceptable is a bit of a stretch. Tolerated. In nicer phrasing it would be perfectly acceptable.
TL;DR:
People in my academic department office like to talk loudly, and today, there was boisterous laughing, which caused me to lose concentration. How do I indicate that they need to quiet down, politely?
Background:
I work as an unpaid intern in the school department X (Graduate school int...
I'm only making myself more open and friendly about suggestions and I know stack exchange has a thing about it being more informal, but this is as formal as that line can get, so I respectfully disagree with removing that line
@Cashbee yeah, I think it would be too passive aggressive :P I don't think I want to shine the light on myself being the one needing quiet, when I can just "become" deaf, but because I saw there wasn't a sufficient question that matches what I wanted, I generalized it
Going to live in someone house, how to ask for rules?
tag: family, france, (autism)
Background
I have found a new job in another city. While looking for an apartment I will be living in my cousin house.
I have never lived in her house before (and I have been at her house for the weekend le...
@BenjaminGruenbaum you've been knocking it out of the park this morning, I love your answers! I called you in just so I wouldn't have to leave another comment on your post that'd end up getting deleted, but if you can't take a suggestion or don't want to, you can just leave the comment or flag it as NLN for next time
In online dating, people often find themselves in a situation where they are in contact with someone but do not want to continue the encounter and need to terminate it somehow. Doing this in a good way for both the person wanting to end the contact and the recipient of the rejection is not always...
@Noon hey, I can see why you'd consider this question intrapersonal (and it was early on in the site anyhow) but I think there are still some interpersonal skills to be learned there in regards to de-escalating or preventing a phone call from escalating (which is kinda what the accepted answer talks about). any thoughts (from the room in general too!) on rewording it?
(or maybe I'm just too biased since it's my own question, which is fine too :P)
@EmC A quick scan of the Q and A's attached and I'm thinking that something like @Noon s suggestion would work. Do try to avoid invalidating answers with the edit, however.
TL;DR
I'd like to befriend a coworker with similar hobbies and values but I'm afraid I'd either sound awkward or flirty. How can I make him understand I'd like to become friends?
Situation
I've been working in the same company for 9 months now. There's a coworker I met at the very beginning of...
I'm uncertain how to deal with a family issue.
My 15-year-old daughter is being hounded by her aunt for $8,000, for no good reason, and she's kept phoning her cellphone morning, noon and night.
She told me she's terrified and worries about how to get the money.
As it is, she's a quiet kid, not...
@avazula Mission can mean something completely different where I am (see here). If that's not what you meant, you might want to consider a different word.
@Noon Sorry you feel that way. My reading of the answer, as applied to the question, suggests that the comment is correct. It's a simple solution to a simple problem.
@WitanapDanu The point isn't to know if the answer is correct or not. The point is that the answer doesn't provide back-up. They are just suggestion things whitout telling why we should follow their advise. And, has I said in my comment, back-up are require here
Dealing with a very easily bruised ego
Tags: conflict-aversion coworkers work-environment
My company has several co-owners. One of these co-owners is notorious for having a short temper and an easily bruised ego. He does not take criticism well and is known to lash out when someone contradicts ...
@Noon "backup" explains why the answer should work. That answer says why it should work "a blocked number cannot call, hence end of harassment." How much more backup is needed.
@WitanapDanu Well, first blocking a number isn't an IPS solution, so it's off-topic and should be deleted (but it's tolerate if the answer also suggest an IPS solution). But where I would like a back-up is for the part: "Tell your daughter to not respond. Then speak to the aunt and tell her you'd like her to stop." (Note: I hadn't notice that they had indeed edited, infortunately it's not the good part but now I know what to answer them)