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12:05 AM

This does not really answer the question. If you have a different question, you can ask it by clicking Ask Question. You can also add a bounty to draw more attention to this question once you have enough reputation. - From Review — ElizB 1 min ago

#19337 ElizB | A: Girlfriend gets extremely angry over small issues, how can I help her? (score: -1) | posted 14 hours ago by Bizzy (7 rep) | Toxicity 0.04959667 | tps/fps: 0/0

I'm voting to close this question as off-topic because this question is about the origin of a custom, not an interpersonal relationships or how to solve an issue through interpersonal exchange. — ElizB 1 min ago

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12:43 AM

We can't tell you whether to make a decision to invite your friend or not, because we don't know enough about you or your friends or the situation. However, we can help with achieving the goal of How to tell your friend that they need to stop inviting my other friends to these parties?. Can you edit your question so that you are explicitly asking that question, and also I want some clarification on a few things- Where do you live (what country)? How long has this been going on? Would there be any other reason other than (that you feel bothered) to tell A not to invite your other friends? — ElizB 31 secs ago

#19351 ElizB | Q: Can I ask my friend to stop inviting my other friends to parties? (score: 0) | posted 10 minutes ago by erbert (438 rep) | Toxicity 0.09511131 | tps/fps: 0/0

@GoodDeeds Most, if not all, of the suggested responses are ironic, in the sense that "the expression of one's meaning by using language that normally signifies the opposite, typically for humorous or emphatic effect," (first definition of irony to appear in Google). I think what Dr4gon means is the fact that the responses are ironic should not be revealed deliberately through tone, manner, etc. Perhaps the advice could be "play it straight", or "keep it deadpan" (although, deadpan might imply lack of emotion, whereas appearing to agree might require a bit more acting). — Joshua Taylor 1 min ago

#19339 Joshua Taylor | A: How to make girlfriend feel better about health and body (score: 3) | posted 12 hours ago by Dr4gon (46 rep) | Toxicity 0.21864788 | tps/fps: 0/0

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1:32 AM

@thesecretmaster how do you mean?? Right now anything that calls scan_comments will still call the API and try to call record_comment to add it to the DB (so manscan should still be doing an actual re-scan). After that it just passes the ActiveRecord comment instead of the SE::API comment to the report_comments funct I made that prints from there. Anything that doesn't require scan_comments that's just trying to print a comment can call report_comments with the ActiveRecord

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eh?

Oh that comment was deleted

It doesn't exist on the SE::API side anymore

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> You could try getting a girlfriend. Then you could tell them you have one, and it would be true.

#19279 Nacht | Q: How do I tell students at a school I volunteer at to stop flirting with me? (score: 31) | posted 2 days ago by gparyani (590 rep) | Toxicity 0.065900356 | tps/fps: 0/0

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IPS bot recognizes it was deleted and posts without a link^

(cid calls report_comments instead of going through scan_comments since we're just pulling from the db)

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3:19 AM

@msb Really? Are cheeky remarks that require smiles to soften the blow not usually sarcasm? [Smile] — Mateen Ulhaq 40 secs ago

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3:39 AM

@MateenUlhaq what? your comment doesn't make sense. — msb 1 min ago

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4:04 AM

As an ace-aro, your advice about not enforcing the perception that everyone needs a boyfriend or girlfriend is very good. But it appears that for many of these students, the things they hear from their family or peers helps enforce that feeling in them, and they might consider it "weird" that I'm implying something different. Could you please edit your answer to add additional details about how I can overcome that? — gparyani 1 min ago

#19353 gparyani | A: How do I tell students at a school I volunteer at to stop flirting with me? (score: 1) | posted 9 minutes ago by Alex Cannon (215 rep) | Toxicity 0.089625135 | tps/fps: 0/0

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4:57 AM

Thanks. I would say he depends on her quite a lot, particularly for making decisions (he is no longer used to making decisions himself). — Oliv 30 secs ago

#19346 Oliv | Q: How to ask my grandmother to be nicer with my grandfather? (score: 1) | posted 8 hours ago by Oliv (201 rep) | Toxicity 0.05341762 | tps/fps: 0/0

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5:18 AM

This, however, isn't really compatible sex positivity and consent. Yes it's a trope that's pretty clear in culture at this point but the pressure to say yes to sex is much higher when you're in someone's room rather than still at dinner — Sirens 22 secs ago

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5:37 AM

Water condensation produces water out of thin air, so it's technically possible to design a kettle that would produce water out of thin air by lowering the temperature first (condensation) then raising it (boiling). — Cœur 1 min ago

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7:32 AM

@GoodDeeds Languages change. For some reason (likely because irony and sarcasm is kind of hard to grasp), "ironic" now means what "sarcastic" used to mean (while "sarcastic" seems to mean the same thing, but harsher). I didn't find any replacement for "irony", sadly - it just seems to complicated for most people to reliably get. Remember the Morissette "Ironic" era, where "irony" basically meant "bad luck"? :) — Luaan 1 min ago

#19339 Luaan | A: How to make girlfriend feel better about health and body (score: 5) | posted 18 hours ago by Dr4gon (66 rep) | Toxicity 0.3738496 | tps/fps: 0/0

@msb If you smile and say it in a light-hearted way I think it can be more irony than sarcasm. However, I added that it's also sarcasm. — Trilarion 1 min ago

Sounds like she is super stressed and probably should consider some help around the home to take the pressure off. Where do you live because services vary so much between countries (here in the uk there’s loads of support for this) — Matthew E Cornish 1 min ago

#19346 Matthew E Cornish | Q: How to ask my grandmother to be nicer with my grandfather? (score: 2) | posted 11 hours ago by Oliv (206 rep) | Toxicity 0.06933213 | tps/fps: 0/0

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Both works. I just have been seeing a trend where people use "sarcasm" more for when you're making a comment on purpose, and "irony" for things that happen. But anyway, both are correct at the end of the day. :-) — msb 42 secs ago

@GoodDeeds I think it goes in the same corner, see the "definition". Both of them are bad because you need be sincere with your exaggeration and your statement in general. Otherwise you'll hurt the feelings of that person because either you mean the opposite (irony) or you mock them (irony + looking down). I know it's counter intuitive at first. I can promise you this works great even in therapy, see the founder Frank Farrelly. — Dr4gon 44 secs ago

#19339 Dr4gon | A: How to make girlfriend feel better about health and body (score: 5) | posted 19 hours ago by Dr4gon (66 rep) | Toxicity 0.32732004 | tps/fps: 0/0

In the film "Brassed off"; "Would you like to come up for coffee?" "I don't drink coffee." "It's alright, I haven't got any." Quite clear what they meant! — RedSonja 45 secs ago

+5 for the last sentence. I hate shaking hands and try to avoid it (wave, both hands full, whatever). But I live in Germany so I've had to get used to it. But people are starting to hug and I have real problems with that. So I have to revert to aggressive, preemptive hand shaking. Then there are the people who escalate a handshake into a hug. Just take a deep breath and go with it. — RedSonja 1 min ago

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8:28 AM

@ElizB Are you saying the value and use of nonverbal communication is disputed? If anything this is so obvious it might warrant more of a comment than an answer, but what's obvious to the one isn't so obvious to everyone. I found this answer helpful and have been missing the ideas in other answers. — sehe 7 secs ago

#19311 sehe | A: How do I tell students at a school I volunteer at to stop flirting with me? (score: 3) | posted 2 days ago by Arcanist Lupus (2593 rep) | Toxicity 0.10840038 | tps/fps: 0/0

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@sehe This is not about questioning the answer helpfulness but rather its construction. As ElizB said, this answer is currently incomplete and needs a bit more of explanation so as so to explain what's suggested in it would help OP. This is because we expect answers to both 1) answer OP's actual question and 2) explain why it may help solve OP's problem, as discussed in the site policy. — avazula 1 min ago

#19311 avazula | A: How do I tell students at a school I volunteer at to stop flirting with me? (score: 3) | posted 2 days ago by Arcanist Lupus (2593 rep) | Toxicity 0.06823566 | tps/fps: 0/0

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@Tinkeringbell I'm talking about creative answers - same as the question here. If an oos question doesn't belong here, then an answer which avoids the original to reframe the question in a way that goes oos should be treated the same way and flagged for deletion. — Astralbee 1 min ago

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You say your friend posts a lot about personal matters on Facebook. Have any mutual friends voiced concerns over him before (to him or to you)? Not necessarily about autism but in general. — Kozaky 1 min ago

Could you elaborate on how he helped you realise you were on the spectrum? Maybe it might work out to use a similar approach to his. At least it sounds like you are somewhat similar. (Although the spectrum is wide and personalities can still differ.) — ArtificialSoul just now

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Do you know if they are expecting specific details, or just a vague outline? In many places, "how was your weekend" is just typical morning banter and won't mean anything in the long run. — Kozaky 42 secs ago

#19356 Kozaky | Q: Handling the question "what did you do for the weekend?" (score: 0) | posted 3 minutes ago by lowselfesteemsucks (190 rep) | Toxicity 0.3214827 | tps/fps: 0/0

Mention this to your boss/manager. It is imperative your concerns are recorded now, before any incidents (I am not applying any such would be instigated by yourself) — Paul 28 secs ago

#19279 Paul | Q: How do I tell students at a school I volunteer at to stop flirting with me? (score: 36) | posted 3 days ago by gparyani (618 rep) | Toxicity 0.08221507 | tps/fps: 0/0

@Kozaky, I don't think it is just a vague outline, because several times already, while speaking on other topics like saving accounts, some of them mentioned that I should enjoy the life more. Now, this is a profile they have created for me. I don't think that it is also about specific details. — lowselfesteemsucks 19 secs ago

#19356 lowselfesteemsucks | Q: Handling the question "what did you do for the weekend?" (score: 0) | posted 8 minutes ago by lowselfesteemsucks (190 rep) | Toxicity 0.18419695 | tps/fps: 0/0

While I do agree that he should not diagnose him in detail, but I didn't get from the question that he attempts to do that. He is quite certain the other one might be thinking they are on the spectrum and might benefit from an outside source with experience on the topic to throw their cent in. OP does not act like they are a professional and merely wants to suggest the friend might suffer from the same condition (?) as they do. — ArtificialSoul 50 secs ago

#19357 ArtificialSoul | A: How do you tell a Facebook friend that they might be on the autism spectrum? (score: 1) | posted 8 minutes ago by JAD (5919 rep) | Toxicity 0.25445053 | tps/fps: 0/0

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Applying no pressure is indistinguishable from disinterest. If being alone in a room with you is enough to overpower her ability to say no, you should probably discuss it with her handler/carer/psychologist because she's mentally unwell. If she is cognizant of pressure in the bedroom situation she was also aware she would feel pressured as she consented to enter the bedroom. If she can't connect those dots, her ability to consent even under ideal circumstances is suspect. — gunfulker 1 min ago

@J.ChrisCompton Hi! You might wanna add this additional information in your answer especially the reasoning about why OP should say that statement instead of asking a question. — A J ♦ 7 secs ago

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9:17 AM

@Tinkeringbell *When the dinner starts to conclude: "As you are also fan of X would you care to watch X together at my room i rented for my stay here? :)" If there is attraction on both sides this is a no brainer :D Actually thats exactly the way i got together with my current girlfriend after a very very extended coffee ;D — MansNotHot 50 secs ago

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Because right now, I'm getting the impression that you're in favour of allowing people to make whatever question they want out of the original question, instead of challenging e.g. a proposed way of doing something by explaining why the first isn't a good idea and their method may yield the same results. — Tinkeringbell ♦ just now

I think what's confusing me in this post is that we're talking about frame-challenge answers everywhere, yet here you mention/use different terminology (reframing the question). I think I get it, and indeed your second example may be a proper frame-challenge answer provided it has enough back up. But asides from 'anything on-topic on IPS goes', the OP here is asking for the difference between respecting a premise and a proper frame-challenge. Would you think a frame-challenge like you're suggesting should always honour a premise? Which premise is then being honoured here? — Tinkeringbell ♦ 1 min ago

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@Kozaky We don't have mutual friends so, no (I edited) — Noon 1 min ago

@ArtificialSoul They just posted a lot of link to article about autism (a lot of testimony from adults who were diagnosed late in life and, at one occasion, a quizz to know if you are neurotypical or not) — Noon 15 secs ago

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9:40 AM

@Tinkeringbell The OP says "I feel like a lot of flagged and downvoted on the fence answers are right on the gray line between being not-quite-frame challenges and not respecting the premise of the question". So he is talking about answers, and so am I. A "re-frame challenge" has to provide a re-framed question and then answer it, right? Otherwise it is just an opinion-based answer telling them what to do / not to do. I'm saying the new, reframed question must be in-scope too. — Astralbee 33 secs ago

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'don't tell anyone that they are definitely autistic' Isn't that a slightly unfair comment on a question which is specifically asking how they can tell someone that they 'might' be on the spectrum? Also, the OP says ' I still waited two years after that before asking for an actual diagnostic' which certainly suggests the OP has a professional diagnosis. Also from previous posts the OP appears to have been diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome. — Spagirl 56 secs ago

#19359 Spagirl | A: How do you tell a Facebook friend that they might be on the autism spectrum? (score: 0) | posted 13 minutes ago by Astralbee (20615 rep) | Toxicity 0.14335388 | tps/fps: 0/0

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9:57 AM

@Spagirl Fair comment on the diagnosis - I had missed that detail in the lengthy question and have edited accordingly. I don't think anything I have said is unfair however - nobody but a healthcare professional should be telling anyone they are autistic. I wouldn't call this a reframe challenge because I have gone on to show how they can "tell" their friend in an indirect way which I feel better respects the friend's own feelings on whether or not they should seek a diagnosis. — Astralbee 1 min ago

week-end, I edited in the question — faflo10 1 min ago

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10:23 AM

There's still quite a lot of room between in-scope and respecting the premise of a question though. Like from the examples on Parenting, both questions about co-sleeping and putting a kid in their own bed are on-topic, yet in their policy about respecting premises, they're clear that reframing a question about cosleeping into one about putting a kid in their own bed is a no-go. So I'm wondering how 'as long as it's on topic' measures up to 'respecting the premise' in your answer. — Tinkeringbell ♦ 18 secs ago

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"You may as well be telling them you don't like small talk." - which is actually a pretty common dislike for many people. I certainly don't like it :) — Erik 8 secs ago

#19361 Erik | A: Handling the question "what did you do for the weekend?" (score: 1) | posted 14 minutes ago by colmde (131 rep) | Toxicity 0.23260383 | tps/fps: 0/0

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10:46 AM

(...) say it with a smile then it is a gentle but public rebuke which is probably just embarrassing enough for them not to ask again, and discourage others from doing so -- or they will interpret the smile as "I see what you did there. Do not stop". Source: being a parent of teenagers who lost hope to understand their way of interpreting things, and happily waiting for them to grow up :) — WoJ 1 min ago

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I'm alive!

I'm alive!

@WoJ Its possible that I have failed to communicate the tone I envisage (Lightly sarcastic to withering), but clearly if the OP can't smile without doing so suggestively, they should refrain from attempting to deploy a smile in the execution of the rebuke. — Spagirl 1 min ago

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10:50 AM

No, I think your answer is very good (I +1 it) - it is just that teenagers are sometimes so unpredictable that what one sees as blue, they see as white, red, yellow, or whatever, depending on the day, the hour, the phase of Jupiter and last Justin Bieber tweets. — WoJ 44 secs ago

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Since they were both intoxicates at that point, you did not stand much chance (other than not driving them). Do you also have examples where there was no alcoholic influence? — Lot 41 secs ago

#19358 Lot | Q: Make my friends take serious what I say (score: 0) | posted 1 hours ago by Suimon (308 rep) | Toxicity 0.114195235 | tps/fps: 0/0

(Other than that, this is a really good answer and I've upvoted it.) — Erik 1 min ago

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This all seems to be a wonderful way to... make the cab driver really uncomfortable. — Erik 1 min ago

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11:18 AM

If you don't have a problem with being spelled "Padl" in all kinds of situations because people took the writing from your email address, then it's fine. — Philipp 1 min ago

#19332 Philipp | Q: Is omission of a singular letter in an email handle professional? (score: -2) | posted 36 hours ago by John Padel (1 rep) | Toxicity 0.19548588 | tps/fps: 0/0

@Lot None of us was drunk (intoxicated). They "only" had like 2-3 drinks over the course of several hours. — Suimon 1 min ago

#19358 Suimon | Q: Make my friends take serious what I say (score: 0) | posted 1 hours ago by Suimon (308 rep) | Toxicity 0.34930485 | tps/fps: 0/0

Maybe not "almost all" are obese, but you're getting close at 40% and growing (pun intended). — pipe 23 secs ago

#19334 pipe | Q: How to make girlfriend feel better about health and body (score: 26) | posted 27 hours ago by DaveThePerson (133 rep) | Toxicity 0.43819714 | tps/fps: 0/0

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@Paul The boss is already aware of it, otherwise they wouldn't give me advice to lie about my relationship status. Also, please note that on this site, comments are only supposed to be used for suggesting improvements to posts; other comments are routinely deleted. — gparyani 1 min ago

#19279 gparyani | Q: How do I tell students at a school I volunteer at to stop flirting with me? (score: 39) | posted 3 days ago by gparyani (633 rep) | Toxicity 0.20590104 | tps/fps: 0/0

How did Claire react to Alice's suggestion? Is your current relationship with Claire strictly monogamous? Having Bob understand what your relationship with Claire is like (where the boundaries are) might help if you need to discuss this. — Kozaky 11 secs ago

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11:48 AM

Most introverts I know enjoy talking about personal stuff and spend their weekends doing things that might be more popular. I think it is a reasonable question to ask - how do you sell what you do as interesting without coming across as the kind of person people don't like - I hope you get the right answer, but could you remove your introvert stuff? I find it borderline offensive tbo. Not every introvert is x, that's just stereotypes and let's not spread them further. You just happen to be both introverted and really into working hard — Raditz_35 59 secs ago

#19356 Raditz_35 | Q: Handling the question "what did you do for the weekend?" (score: 2) | posted 3 hours ago by lowselfesteemsucks (200 rep) | Toxicity 0.109073386 | tps/fps: 0/0

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12:07 PM

@Raditz_35 thanks for your suggestion, I think you are right about being introvert and edited the post. — lowselfesteemsucks 46 secs ago

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12:18 PM

Claire was ok with Alice's suggestion. Claire and I are actually in an open relationship (which means that she and I could sleep with whomever we want as long as some rules are followed). Bob is aware of the nature of my relationship with Claire. — faflo10 43 secs ago

Cool! Could you perhaps edit that into your answer somehow, so people won't have to look at the comments to see this? (Also, that makes your answer more complete and a better example for people looking to write answers here as well :) ) — Tinkeringbell ♦ 28 secs ago

> Great edit, thank you!

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Why "of course"? Alice seemed to think Bob might say "sure, have fun". (Try looking up "compersion".) — Martin Bonner 33 secs ago

Yes, you're right, I wrote it as if everyone knew the person in question, but here wasn't the point. I edited the question to match your comment, as the "of course" was not wise to employ. — faflo10 37 secs ago

If you are worrying about the age difference: don't. 34 years of being told "you're so young!" (we are six years apart too), is what has kept me feeling so youthful. (And our son is has been seeing a girl six years younger for more than three years.) — Martin Bonner 48 secs ago

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1:14 PM

We need more solid posts for our faq and this looks like a perfect candidate for the faq-proposed tag! (also I made a similar faq-proposed post awhile ago, so for more, see this related post) — scohe001 1 min ago

#3320 scohe001 | Q: When should one recommend deletion for a Low Quality Post in the queue? (score: 3) | posted 6 hours ago by Noon (3229 rep) | Toxicity 0.026724549 | tps/fps: 0/0

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1:37 PM

When I was more active on this site one of the more common reasons for recommending the deletion of an answer was when it did not answer the OP's question, most often in an attempt to misuse the answer as a platform to provide personal commentary related to the question. — sphennings 30 secs ago

#3321 sphennings | A: When should one recommend deletion for a Low Quality Post in the queue? (score: 3) | posted 6 hours ago by Noon (3229 rep) | Toxicity 0.12920928 | tps/fps: 0/0

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2:12 PM

I don't really disagree with anything you said, but I don't think this provides an answer to the question posed. OP wants to know how to go about suggesting to their friend they might be on the spectrum, which is something you merely mentioned in the first paragraph. — ArtificialSoul 44 secs ago

#19366 ArtificialSoul | A: How do you tell a Facebook friend that they might be on the autism spectrum? (score: 1) | posted 53 minutes ago by Sean Houlihane (176 rep) | Toxicity 0.14887674 | tps/fps: 0/0

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It's an X-Y question to some extent. — Sean Houlihane 1 min ago

#19366 Sean Houlihane | A: How do you tell a Facebook friend that they might be on the autism spectrum? (score: 1) | posted 56 minutes ago by Sean Houlihane (176 rep) | Toxicity 0.055704925 | tps/fps: 0/0

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I am not sure about that, as OP has a clear goal and asks for a method. It is not a question about an attempted solution. They are very clearly stating the end goal and not some off-track mid-goal. — ArtificialSoul 49 secs ago

#19366 ArtificialSoul | A: How do you tell a Facebook friend that they might be on the autism spectrum? (score: 1) | posted 1 hours ago by Sean Houlihane (176 rep) | Toxicity 0.050098628 | tps/fps: 0/0

Regarding the printer. If you live in an area with electricity problems you may have to check the printer is on after a blackout. — Juan Carlos Oropeza 33 secs ago

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2:41 PM

@thesecretmaster did you figure out that thing you were asking about last night?

thesecretmaster

@scohe001 Sorta

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Regarding the printer. If you live in an area with electricity problems you may have to check the printer is on after a blackout. — Juan Carlos Oropeza 14 mins ago

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Oh good

Yep, thanks

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2:43 PM

Ooh fancy. Glad it's working!

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living with an significant other of 10+ years. Should that be for or is your SO not particularly old ? — Evargalo 7 secs ago

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This is exactly what I thought when I read it. And this is another perfect example of what I was talking about in this recent question. Thanks for posting this! — scohe001 38 secs ago

#3322 scohe001 | Q: Does this post provide an answer or is it missing the point of OP's question? (score: 1) | posted 9 minutes ago by ArtificialSoul (2065 rep) | Toxicity 0.08327001 | tps/fps: 0/0

@scohe001 yes, but with this answer I feel it comes less from the idea of a frame challenge and more from a misunderstanding of the question. — ArtificialSoul 1 min ago

#3322 ArtificialSoul | Q: Does this post provide an answer or is it missing the point of OP's question? (score: 1) | posted 14 minutes ago by ArtificialSoul (2065 rep) | Toxicity 0.06973438 | tps/fps: 0/0

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Do you have a car that would allow you to spot check the back seat/floor as they're getting out, or is there anything that would block your vision? I ask because this may go along with an interpersonal solution. — Jess K. 17 secs ago

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3:00 PM

Exactly, it looks like it's not respecting the premise of the question ("how can I tell my friend they may be on the spectrum?") and answering with a "You don't." I think it's the right answer in this situation and deserves the upvotes, so it'll be interesting to see what the rest of the community thinks of it. — scohe001 43 secs ago

#3322 scohe001 | Q: Does this post provide an answer or is it missing the point of OP's question? (score: 2) | posted 21 minutes ago by ArtificialSoul (2065 rep) | Toxicity 0.118264414 | tps/fps: 0/0

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That's an amazing answer, thank you! (and for the other people, keep reading, the other answers are great as well) — Noon 28 secs ago

#19367 Noon | A: When should one do "la bise" in France? (score: 1) | posted 1 hours ago by user22588 (26 rep) | Toxicity 0.011953718 | tps/fps: 0/0

This doesn't deal with the question directly, but you could ask another teacher to sit in on the session. Even if they sit in the corner and do marking, it provides you with some cover. — Chris Cudmore 59 secs ago

#19279 Chris Cudmore | Q: How do I tell students at a school I volunteer at to stop flirting with me? (score: 45) | posted 3 days ago by gparyani (663 rep) | Toxicity 0.21221823 | tps/fps: 0/0

@Noon from the post it sounds to me like the focus was meant to be for the meeting itself, see ' But we're due to meet in person tomorrow so how do I stop her talking my ear off...', perhaps a second question can be opened if the OP would like help limiting their interactions after the meeting. — BKlassen 1 min ago

This answer is currently discussed on meta. As I feel it does not respect the premise of the question (from a misunderstanding in my opinion). I do agree with your last paragraph and think that in itself is a valid answer, but the rest seems to come from a misunderstanding of the question and the given context of the situation. — ArtificialSoul 1 min ago

#19357 ArtificialSoul | A: How do you tell a Facebook friend that they might be on the autism spectrum? (score: 17) | posted 6 hours ago by JAD (6087 rep) | Toxicity 0.026421212 | tps/fps: 0/0

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3:24 PM

!!/howgood ips you\Wcould

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@sphennings The case of answers that * don't* provide an answer was so obvious that I forgot about it. Thanks for the reminder. — Noon 45 secs ago

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Type must be q/a/question/answer/*

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> @DaveG In my experience, people are reluctant to admit they've been proven wrong, even if they know it's true. It doesn't mean they weren't humbled by the experience. They may have even learned a valuable lesson. It's hard to tell how much you've affected someone at the time of the interaction. Of course, there are narcissistic sociopaths who believe the truth is whatever they say it is, but IPS won't help much in their case.

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> What kind of relationship do you have with her? By that I mean, how much time have you spent with her? Do you know her well? It doesn't sound like you do given the depth of information you are providing and limited examples. Maybe suggest that you all get together for an extended time/vacation together so you can get to know her better. Maybe get on the phone with your brother-in-law and talk with him at length about how he feels about her, what he loves about her, etc. It sounds like you want to help but are unsure on what to say from lack of extensive information.

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> Hello, It doesn't warrant an answer but I had a friend that suffered similar problems. Very low energy, getting tired quickly, low motivation for anything. It turned out to be Iron Deficiency Anemia. Have you by any chance checked for that? It is a simple blood test and sometimes when the case is milder it isn't something that doctors check for right away.

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Relevant. Also relevant. — JAD 1 min ago

#3322 JAD | Q: Does this post provide an answer or is it missing the point of OP's question? (score: 2) | posted 47 minutes ago by ArtificialSoul (2065 rep) | Toxicity 0.067376256 | tps/fps: 0/0

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3:28 PM

!!/add ips q doesn't[^.]+but experimental-aic(@scohe001)

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!!/manscan 78286

nope

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This doesn't deal with the question directly, but you could ask another teacher to sit in on the session. Even if they sit in the corner and do marking, it provides you with some cover. — Chris Cudmore 22 mins ago

#19279 Chris Cudmore | Q: How do I tell students at a school I volunteer at to stop flirting with me? (score: 46) | posted 3 days ago by gparyani (668 rep) | Toxicity 0.21221823 | tps/fps: 0/0

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3:46 PM

Getting diagnosed when I was about 60 was slightly useful in some ways. — David Thornley 1 min ago

@JessK. Sure, I'd be able to check if they picked everything up. I just wasn't paying attention to the back seats when I dropped them off. — Suimon 10 secs ago

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Related. — avazula 21 secs ago

#3322 avazula | Q: Does this post provide an answer or is it missing the point of OP's question? (score: 1) | posted 1 hours ago by ArtificialSoul (2065 rep) | Toxicity 0.070455104 | tps/fps: 0/0

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4:18 PM

@AJ Thanks for your comment! I tried to do that in the second paragraph. Feel free to pad it out more if you think it is needed. I didn't want to mention Spagirl specifically in my answer as there's nothing wrong with what she said (because she meant it to be taken as fun/harmless sarcasm) it is just my opinion that a comment would leave less area for misunderstanding. — J. Chris Compton 35 secs ago

I wish I had problems like this. — Tyler Durden 1 min ago

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I suspect the OP is concerned that his friend would think there was another step at the beginning, where he instigated it before she texted. But I agree that someone who's known to have been in an open relationship would probably not be that concerned. — Barmar 46 secs ago

#19370 Barmar | A: How to approach a friend about his girlfriend asking to sleep with me? (score: 0) | posted 45 minutes ago by Tom (5751 rep) | Toxicity 0.077714816 | tps/fps: 0/0

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Some of these answers seem a bit more harsh than called for in this situation, at least at first. Number four is a good place to start. I admit to not having been in the situation directly, and like you answer otherwise +1 — J. Chris Compton 1 min ago

#19352 J. Chris Compton | A: How do I tell students at a school I volunteer at to stop flirting with me? (score: 7) | posted 13 hours ago by Taladris (597 rep) | Toxicity 0.056582417 | tps/fps: 0/0

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When you say "the answer was no", did you mean from you or from Bob? — Kat 19 secs ago

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5:21 PM

@Sirens could you elaborate a little? I'm not sure what you mean but I am interested. — grinch 1 min ago

I added an information in my question and would like to know if it changes your answer. The information is this: I know that, in the past, this friend were looking for an answer to why they were the way they are (and why they were always so tired). Also, if there is a chance that I might help this friend by pointing them in the direction of ASD (just suggesting to them that it might be worth looking into it), why shouldn't I do it? What are the drawbacks? I understand that "it's none of my business" but is there something else I should take into account? — Noon 1 min ago

#19357 Noon | A: How do you tell a Facebook friend that they might be on the autism spectrum? (score: 23) | posted 8 hours ago by JAD (6109 rep) | Toxicity 0.08152948 | tps/fps: 0/0

@BryanKrause yes, she was able to say what was in it, definitely mine. — Meelah just now

@Noon specifically at the meeting, afterwards I can block her number if needs be. — Meelah 11 secs ago

Thanks for the answer. I didn't see it until after the interaction was over but it's pretty much what I ended up doing. I did basically have to physically walk away before she'd stop talking though! — Meelah 1 min ago

#19307 Meelah | A: How to gently and compassionately stop a stranger talking to you about their problems? (score: 2) | posted 2 days ago by BKlassen (281 rep) | Toxicity 0.16858613 | tps/fps: 0/0

This does not provide an answer to the question. To critique or request clarification from an author, leave a comment below their post. - From Review — Crazy Cucumber 1 min ago

#19373 Crazy Cucumber | A: How to ask my grandmother to be nicer with my grandfather? (score: 0) | posted 27 minutes ago by werfu (401 rep) | Toxicity 0.102838635 | tps/fps: 0/0

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6:03 PM

Here, added a clearer answer. — werfu 42 secs ago

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@grinch Consent is all about influence and power. If one person has more power over another person, the consent between the two individuals is questionable. It’s a spectrum of course so little things like being physically larger don’t completely invalidate consent where as things like an adult and a child makes consent completely invalid because the power delta is too high. The topic at hand falls in the middle. In a safe, public setting like a restaurant both parties are on more equal footing. If, however, you are alone in someone else’s room the power shifts to them significantly — Sirens 1 min ago

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6:41 PM

@anongoodnurse I'm not sure it changes much. Your answer is based off the idea that the father can't understand that other people feel differently from him; whether he's just astonishingly arrogant, has a mental disorder, or is trying to cope with the trauma of separation, the fact is that (a) he's trying to visit the mother and (b) the mother has repeatedly expressed a desire not to see him again. He's long since overstepped any boundaries, and harsher actions -- like the ones you describe -- must be taken. — Nic Hartley 26 secs ago

Does their linking to autism articles imply that maybe they already know? — Jamie Clinton 1 min ago

@JamieClinton At the time, they were linking to autism articles because they were wondering if they might be on the spectrum themselves. But there is a huge cap between wondering if you are on the spectrum and taking that possibility seriously (and seriously enough to seek a professional diagnostic) — Noon 5 secs ago

@Sirens thanks for the added info. It's an interesting thing to think about. But now I'm curious what you are really suggesting. If someone asks another for something but they have that power advantage of being on their own private property the consent is not necessarily valid? — grinch 1 min ago

here is a link to a tutorial by paul taylor :-) youtube.com/watch?v=T-VWbV6TJxU — Pierre 53 secs ago

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7:11 PM

"If it is not affecting their daily life in a way that they would need help with dealing with ASD, what good is a diagnosis. This is a big part of the reason you shouldn't offer your opinion" -- If it doesn't hurt but can possibly help then I disagree, OP should suggest it to their friend. If the worst that can happen is "nothing really changes", but the best that can happen is positive change for OP's friend then why not try it when there's no drawbacks? — Quantic 1 min ago

#19357 Quantic | A: How do you tell a Facebook friend that they might be on the autism spectrum? (score: 27) | posted 10 hours ago by JAD (6109 rep) | Toxicity 0.17693849 | tps/fps: 0/0

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After reading this post, I might need to create a "How do you tell someone who posts a query on interpersonal.stackexchange.com that they might be on the autism spectrum?" question. I've never seen this person in real life, but after reading one of their questions on the board, I think there is a really good chance that they are on the autism spectrum. — user6014 19 secs ago

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7:29 PM

Are there specific cultures to be considered in this question? — apaul 1 min ago

What do you mean by "how can I deal with"? What are you trying to accomplish? Change their view or justify yours? We cannot tell you what to do, just how to do what you want to achieve. — Crazy Cucumber 1 min ago

Unfortunately, this question appears to be asking “What should I do?”, which the community has determined to not be a good fit for Interpersonal Skills Stack Exchange. We can’t decide for you what to do; after you determine what you want to do, we can help you with your goal. So, please edit your question to tell us what you want to achieve. Do you want to communicate that it's none of there business? Something else? — Noon 2 mins ago

@CrazyCucumber :D — Salmaan Al-Faaris 29 secs ago

#19380 Salmaan Al-Faaris | Q: How to deal with people who think staying a virgin until marriage is wrong or odd (score: 0) | posted 13 minutes ago by Salmaan Al-Faaris (44 rep) | edited 46 seconds ago by Salmaan Al-Faaris (44 rep) | Toxicity 0.2822436 | tps/fps: 0/0

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@SalmaanAl-Faaris The edited version is answerable on an interpersonal level, so I've retracted my close vote. — Crazy Cucumber 1 min ago

#19380 Crazy Cucumber | Q: How to deal with people who think staying a virgin until marriage is wrong or odd (score: 0) | posted 13 minutes ago by Salmaan Al-Faaris (44 rep) | edited 49 seconds ago by Salmaan Al-Faaris (44 rep) | Toxicity 0.2220417 | tps/fps: 0/0

@CrazyCucumber edited. — Salmaan Al-Faaris 1 min ago

#19380 Salmaan Al-Faaris | Q: How to deal with people who think staying a virgin until marriage is wrong or odd (score: 0) | posted 13 minutes ago by Salmaan Al-Faaris (44 rep) | edited 54 seconds ago by Salmaan Al-Faaris (44 rep) | Toxicity 0.0907558 | tps/fps: 0/0

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"rather than let Alice and Bob discuss it between themselves." Bob and Alice already did discuss it. There's nothing wrong with OP expressing his own notions of what he felt was (to him) right and wrong about the situation, and about making sure Bob understands what the actual sequence of events was. — Beanluc 25 secs ago

@apaul religion, but every pov in general. — Salmaan Al-Faaris just now

#19380 Salmaan Al-Faaris | Q: How to deal with people who think staying a virgin until marriage is wrong or odd (score: 0) | posted 23 minutes ago by Salmaan Al-Faaris (44 rep) | edited 11 minutes ago by Salmaan Al-Faaris (44 rep) | Toxicity 0.11811689 | tps/fps: 0/0

"every point of view in general" may be too-broad to be answered well in this format. — apaul 1 min ago

@Quantic that's completely disregarding the time (and depending on your location money) it takes to get a diagnosis. it can take months to get a diagnosis. That's a significant investment if you ask me. And even then my point still remains the same. Address the problems the person is actually having, bring those to a psychiatrist, and let them figure out what diagnosis and help is useful in that situation. Addressing the symptoms is so much less likely to be taken a/the wrong way. — JAD 1 min ago

#19357 JAD | A: How do you tell a Facebook friend that they might be on the autism spectrum? (score: 32) | posted 11 hours ago by JAD (6109 rep) | Toxicity 0.08020867 | tps/fps: 0/0

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8:08 PM

How does this even come up? From this question you make it seem like random people on the street are coming up to you and judging you, which can't possibly what's actually happening :P — Laurel 27 secs ago

@grinch mods don't smite me for conversation, like I said it's a continuum of factors and this falls between the two extremes. All I'm saying is that asking someone back "for coffee" when they don't get the implication of sex can be manipulative and put them in a bad position so I therefore don't recommend using implications and suggestions but rather direct questions — Sirens 1 min ago

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8:23 PM

Hi Daniel, I'd recommend checking out help center; we don't decide for you what to do or handle phrasing requests here. So, we'll need some more context to make this not opinion-based - what are you trying to accomplish by apologizing? What's the culture, your relationship to the other person, and possible means of communication? — Em C ♦ 15 secs ago

#19376 Em C | Q: Apologize to someone because you overbid them? (score: 0) | posted 25 hours ago by Daniel Marschall (101 rep) | Toxicity 0.07373121 | tps/fps: 0/0

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You seem pretty chill about the fact that the three of them were a threesome up until recently, and you say above that you and Claire are in an open relationship. So are you feeling awkward about the order in which things went about, or the presumption that you okayed something you didn't okay? Because if you're this close to polyamory, I'm sure you know that communication is likely the most important thing. — Carduus 1 min ago

I'll add that standing for a woman can also come from helping her into and out of her chair, i.e. pulling her chair out for her and helping her scoot towards the table. This depends on the level of interaction, such as a date vs a business meeting, as pulling out a chair is more of an intimate gesture that might not be appropriate for business. A lady in (high) heels or a large skirt may have difficulty in getting into or out of the chair, so this could also be considered chivalrous act. — computercarguy 15 secs ago

Cultural context is really important here, not for you, but for them. You would approach this very differently in Singapore than you would in the USA. — Carduus 20 secs ago

@Laurel obviouslnif it is repetitive it is not a street thing that just pops up from different people, that's impossible. — Salmaan Al-Faaris 1 min ago

You missed he want to communicate his independent decision was no. — paparazzo 7 secs ago

@Carduus An open relationship means you still get to chose. OP is free to chose no. OP just want to communicate his decision was no. — paparazzo 1 min ago

@Orbit, can you edit your reasoning in? Check out How do I write a good answer? - we prefer answers to include some explanation of why you’re suggesting this course of action, such as personal experience or references. — Em C ♦ 5 secs ago

#18976 Em C | A: Accidental queue jumpers refuse to believe their mistake (score: 0) | posted 15 days ago by Orbit (287 rep) | Toxicity 0.071909145 | tps/fps: 0/0

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The "it might be useful"- section is actually what would qualify as an overall answer or advice-answer, perhaps edit? :D — Salmaan Al-Faaris 52 secs ago

#19383 Salmaan Al-Faaris | A: How to deal with people who think staying a virgin until marriage is wrong or odd (score: 0) | posted 2 minutes ago by aaaaaa (2016 rep) | Toxicity 0.11966692 | tps/fps: 0/0

@paparazzo - the way it is phrased in the text it is impossible to discern whether the 'no' was OP's answer or the Bob's answer. — Empischon 1 min ago

@SalmaanAl-Faaris I also would like to point OP in the direction of other similar questions — aaaaaa 34 secs ago

#19383 aaaaaa | A: How to deal with people who think staying a virgin until marriage is wrong or odd (score: 0) | posted 3 minutes ago by aaaaaa (2016 rep) | Toxicity 0.07156384 | tps/fps: 0/0

"Even if my girlfriend was cool with that, I wasn't" is pretty clear to me. — paparazzo 48 secs ago

@MindDr810 is sounds like you want to make sure she is aware you are ending the friendship, is that the case? When it comes to people with addictions, seeing how their actions have repercussions, such as losing friends and family, can help them change their behavior, as a counselor I'm sure you're aware of this. Is this an ulterior motive to making it clear you no longer wish to continue the friendship? — cheshire 30 secs ago

@cheshire your statement about "some young women" is in fact a broad generalization. Many in fact would get offended (I presume some have just from reading it here...) but many wont. — JSON 35 secs ago

if "tapped their shoulders" stresses you out, there is a problem — aaaaaa 14 secs ago

thanks, no offense intended, just a bunch of respect for your trying to help, here; 📦 — Salmaan Al-Faaris 1 min ago

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9:42 PM

This might be a better fit for workplace.stackexchange.com — David Thornley 1 min ago

#19332 David Thornley | Q: Is omission of a singular letter in an email handle professional? (score: -2) | posted 46 hours ago by John Padel (1 rep) | Toxicity 0.122715786 | tps/fps: 0/0

I agree with Laurel that is is confusing why so many people who obviously are not your sex partners are possessed of the details of your private choices of your sex life. — swbarnes2 1 min ago

@DavidThornley from their help page, they specifically list "Questions asking for advice on a specific choice (including reviewing resumes, CVs, cover letters, e-mails, ..." (emphasis mine) as being off-topic. Please do not suggest other SE sites without reading their help pages. — scohe001 1 min ago

#19332 scohe001 | Q: Is omission of a singular letter in an email handle professional? (score: -2) | posted 46 hours ago by John Padel (1 rep) | Toxicity 0.16448843 | tps/fps: 0/0

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10:35 PM

We prefer answers on this site to include some explanation, could you edit to to include why you’re suggesting this course of action? For example, have you done this successfully in the past, or read about this technique somewhere? — Em C ♦ 16 secs ago

#19363 Em C | A: How to approach a friend about his girlfriend asking to sleep with me? (score: 2) | posted 10 hours ago by SZCZERZO KŁY (966 rep) | Toxicity 0.04223472 | tps/fps: 0/0

@Mast the trope was around FAR before the game was even in development. — user19312 1 min ago

Comments are not for extended discussion; this conversation has been moved to chat. — Em C ♦ 1 min ago

I presume the main reason you were not okay with it is because Bob was not okay with it (or, prior to that, Bob had not yet weighed in)? If Bob had said yes, would your reason for not being okay with it go away? If, so it seems like proper procedure was followed: Alice asked Bob, Bob said no, Bob's request was granted, zero people are at fault and nothing needs to be clarified. — Bryan Krause 1 min ago

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11:19 PM

Thanks for answering! To address the considerations you posted: — JustAnotherAlt 49 secs ago

#19386 JustAnotherAlt | A: Confused on whether I should or shouldn't try to start a romantic relationship with friend of a girl who friendzoned me (score: 0) | posted 8 minutes ago by Sam Hartman (101 rep) | Toxicity 0.05091828 | tps/fps: 0/0

Thanks for answering! To address the considerations you posted: 2) I don't think that she would hold it against me. Most likely scenario: she rejects me and we move on. 3) I like Jane as a personality and in fact I would make a move on her first, but I just hadn't found the courage to do so until after trying once with her friend. 1) I don't care a lot about what the others will say if she's interested. My problem is more like whether it's proper etiquette to do so, which I don't know. — JustAnotherAlt 26 secs ago

#19386 JustAnotherAlt | A: Confused on whether I should or shouldn't try to start a romantic relationship with friend of a girl who friendzoned me (score: 0) | posted 17 minutes ago by Sam Hartman (101 rep) | Toxicity 0.13524632 | tps/fps: 0/0

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etiquette is a question of culture, geography and a lot of other factors. — Sam Hartman 1 min ago

#19386 Sam Hartman | A: Confused on whether I should or shouldn't try to start a romantic relationship with friend of a girl who friendzoned me (score: 0) | posted 24 minutes ago by Sam Hartman (101 rep) | Toxicity 0.030633297 | tps/fps: 0/0

Not really an answer and I get it will get deleted. I had a bad finger sprain for 2 years and could not shake hands. I would tape my fingers even though I did not really need to in an office environment and tell them I had a sprain. When it healed and took off the tape it took them a while to get used to shaking my hand. Maybe you could wear a bandage? — paparazzo 1 min ago

#19387 paparazzo | Q: How to avoid shaking hands? (score: 1) | posted 13 minutes ago by qsp (121 rep) | Toxicity 0.1647036 | tps/fps: 0/0

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Welcome to IPS! Please take a minute to read through How to Answer and How do I write a good answer?. If you don't feel you have enough information to fully answer a question, please refrain from doing so - you can instead comment to ask OP for clarification, and then answer when it's no longer unclear or off-topic. — Em C ♦ 2 mins ago

#19386 Em C | A: Confused on whether I should or shouldn't try to start a romantic relationship with friend of a girl who friendzoned me (score: -1) | posted 33 minutes ago by Sam Hartman (99 rep) | Toxicity 0.095625445 | tps/fps: 0/0

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Hi, as explained by the help center, we can't make that decision about what to do for you. Once you've figured out what you want to do, we could help with that (for instance, talking to the friend about that - we actually have a couple similar questions on that already), but you'll have to make the decision on whether to pursue a relationship yourself. — Em C ♦ 1 min ago

#19385 Em C | Q: Confused on whether I should or shouldn't try to start a romantic relationship with friend of a girl who friendzoned me (score: -2) | posted 1 hours ago by JustAnotherAlt (1 rep) | edited 50 minutes ago by JustAnotherAlt (1 rep) | Toxicity 0.08353017 | tps/fps: 0/0

Hi qsp, we have some related questions already answered here - How to refuse to shake hands without offending the other party? and Greeting others as someone with clammy hands seem similar. Do those help for your situation? — Em C ♦ 6 secs ago

#19387 Em C | Q: How to avoid shaking hands? (score: 1) | posted 19 minutes ago by qsp (121 rep) | Toxicity 0.13780159 | tps/fps: 0/0

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