The Awkward Silence - 2018-10-24 (page 2 of 2)

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5:06 PM

What's good as an answer here is all too often a moving target. This month's good answers become next month's delete candidates. I no longer attempt to evaluate answers based on anything in the ephemeral "site standards." I merely follow the tooltip guidelines for the voting: Useful or not.

@avazula Oh darn... Lemme look up that old picture too, like I promised!

@Noon Ending the contact (shutting up, walking away, blocking the number, ignoring emails and posts, etc.) is, in fact, a part of interpersonal skills. Using technology to effect that ending of contact does not render it "non interpersonal".

That was me @avazula

@Tinkeringbell daaaaang you're beautiful! :D

@avazula *was :P

5:12 PM

senior prom?

I'm old and ugly now ;)

@Tinkeringbell I love your gloves

@Magisch graduation prom for me, I was 17 in that picture :)

@Tinkeringbell Wahoo, so chic!

@Tinkeringbell naah that's not true, i saw your Twitter :3

5:12 PM

@avazula I guess that was the only part of the outfit I liked too, that and the hair :)

I went to my graduation prom in a tshirt and slacks. Got my diploma and left

@avazula I've definitely gained too much weight though. I really want to get back to losing weight again (although I'm glad I haven't gained any anymore).

@Magisch Ahah, that sounds like something I could do XD

@Magisch Ehh, this wasn't related to the 'getting a diploma' part. Just the kind of prom you have after your exams are finished but the results not in yet.

ah

was it worth it?

5:14 PM

@Magisch No, but mom threatened with grounding me AND taking my library card if I didn't go.

Not the library card. Shudder

@Tinkeringbell I feel you. I gained 30kg in 6 months last year after my depression and bad medication. I finally stabilized but I have to put so much effort getting back in shape, like, I can't be careless one single day or it'd mess everything up.

@Tinkeringbell yikes, no fun... :P

@ElizB Yeah, I shouldn't have started laughing at 'or you're grounded'. That gave off a hint ;)

This is very frustrating because i work out 4 times and week and am eating mostly veggies and beans

5:16 PM

@avazula Wow.

But hey. I'm alive :)

Here is mine if you wanna see (sorry the picture quality isn't very good) :

My eating habits are okay-ish I guess, because I'm not gaining. It's the exercise I need to work on, and I'm not a fan of any sports :(

Here we go

@avazula I love blue dresses!

Sorry I can't hide it like you did, don't know how to do it from my phone

5:18 PM

@avazula Oh wow! That's really great! :D

I have high metabolism, so whatever I eat and however much I eat doesn't seem to be affecting my weight. Problem is, i have hypoglycemia. Therefore, I need to make sure I have food in my system, otherwise I pass out

@avazula You're doing shopping?

I glanced into chat just in time to see a beautiful dress, I love that! :-D

@avazula Just edit your message, type a [ message ] ( photo.jpg )

@Noon hehe . I used to be in emerald green, this year I opted for blue :D

5:18 PM

without spaces.

@TheTinyMan You should scroll up, there's a me in a dress too :P

@AJ I bought a new dress for my upcoming gala :v

@avazula Looks amazing. :)

Not being bold, but I like blue color.

phew, just went through review queue :) all done on my end!

@Tinkeringbell Ooh, I love both the dress and the purse! And those gloves are an elegant touch! :-)

@ElizB would be annoying for me

5:21 PM

@Tinkeringbell have you ever tried dance? I danced for a very long time and to me it's a great way to get/stay in shape while having lots of fun :D

@Magisch it somewhat is. oh, did i mention that i have to eat gluten free and dairy free foods? That's another limiting factor but it isn't too bad really

I feel you on the dairy

every time I eat any I have to take medication

Same here

@avazula I'm thinking either dance or something like sword-fighting right now... but both aren't given near my place, and as long as I'm not consistent with my driving behavior, I'm not going to go join a far away club.

My daily life is mostly based of bloating

5:22 PM

@Tinkeringbell Sword-fighting! Fencing! LARP! :-D

yuuuuup. I am half-italian.... so my italian aunts are all like "ohhhh have you been eating enough????" i'm like "yeah... i eat a lot" they're like "apparently not enough, oh just kidding"

@Tinkeringbell arh, that's a shame there aren't any nearby :/

@TheTinyMan Real sword fighting, not the pool noodle kind :P

@Tinkeringbell rock climbing?

@ElizB It's so infuriating that people don't realize that shit like that is body-shaming. Or maybe they don't care.

@Tinkeringbell That, too! Do all of those things! :-D

5:23 PM

@ElizB I have a fear of falling.

@TheTinyMan and that they think that it's okay because I am family...

@Tinkeringbell you don't have to do bouldering, you can do climbing with harness and rope and it's very safe

@ElizB That's terrible, I'm sorry they do that. :-( Have you ever called them out on it?

@ElizB :P I'm still not comfortable with heights :)

you go at your own pace and trust me, my brother has the same fear and it took him many tries but he really finally suceeded

I kind of feel like when people say "it's okay because we're family," what they mean is, "you can't level consequences on me because we're family so I care even less about how you feel." >.<

5:25 PM

@Tinkeringbell just an idea :) i understand a fear of heights. I'm kinda an adrenaline junkie here... climbing and roller coasters are great for me :P

@ElizB I'm saving this question for when we're back on HNQ :P : "How to apologize to the people behind me on an escalator" XD

@AJ Thanks for deleting an answer which I didn't realize had become invalidated. It was my own edit that invalidated it too.

@TheTinyMan yeah

@avazula you've got nothing to worry about

I think they do it less when i respond with a non-committal "yeah"

5:26 PM

@Mithrandir what do you mean?

i just shake it off because thankfully i have a lot of self-love :)

@ElizB aaaaw, that is sooo nice to read!

@avazula re: chat.stackexchange.com/transcript/message/47327086#47327086

@avazula :) you people who say nice things help me as well ;)

@ElizB I didn't see a picture of you, but you have nothing to worry about either ;D

5:29 PM

@Mithrandir lol actually i never went to any kind of prom because I was homeschooled

@ElizB I'm going to star this because I like throwing flowers to myself :P

so no dress pictures here of prom... I can still pull up another

@Mithrandir erh... Actually I have, at least a bit. I'm nearly 90kg now, I'm in the obese category

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@ElizB I never went to any dance/prom thing in high school, I went to my actual graduation ceremony because I had to but it was nothing really special

@Ash ah, cool.

5:31 PM

But on the other hand I regained my mental health (recovering from depression) and that's priceless

@avazula Well, as long as your in good health, it's all that matter to me :)

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@ElizB I was just like "I could go stand awkwardly in a gym with people or I could stay home and read books and play video games"

@Ash yeah, that's probably my thoughts when I was 16-18- i read books so much :P

@Ash : @Tink would have liked to stay home and read a book but, unfortunately, she couldn't :P

Anyone want a picture of me in here? just curious.

5:33 PM

@avazula mental health takes precedence over something like weight any day

@ElizB Since I'm curious too, I definitively want one! :D

@Noon yeah :) I actually feel quite good and think I'm pretty. I was just stunned by the difficulty to find bigger clothes

@Mithrandir I 100% agree :)

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@avazula I'm 300 lbs on a 6ft frame, I feel you on that one

The Awkward Silence, isn't very silent after all. :P

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(I mean a bunch of that is muscle (powerlifting and boxing) but it wasn't always, and also, just...yeah, clothes are tricky)

5:34 PM

@Sid sometimes it is, other times it is very loud

@Ash how come bigger clothes don't have the same beautiful design that size 2 have? ._.

@avazula This.

even though I am small, and find clothes relatively easy, I see this problem.... not happy about it.

@avazula Yeah, being unable to find big clothes when you are above a certain size isn't nice :/ I don't have this problem but you have all my sympathy

Having less clothes forced me to minimalism in the end haha

Since we are talking clothes, I am fairly sure, 90% of my wardrobe, just contains black-colored clothes.

maybe, 95%

5:38 PM

in Tavern on the Meta on Meta Stack Exchange Chat, 3 mins ago, by Catija

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in Tavern on the Meta on Meta Stack Exchange Chat, 3 mins ago, by Catija

^^^ New bean has arrived!

Awwwwwww yay!!!

@Mithrandir aaaaaaaaw

Is it her first?

Second

@ElizB second :)

5:40 PM

gotcha :)

okayyyy picture incoming

Picture of me in a pretty dress with other people

@ElizB Wahoo! What was the occasion?

Can you guess?

@ElizB wedding (yours?)

@avazula giggles (nods)

Aaaaaaaaw :D

You're beautiful.

5:44 PM

yes, that was my wedding and in between me and hubby is my little brother.

@ElizB I love the flowers in your hair, it's so beautiful

I found that on Etsy, they're actually fake- but made so well

@ElizB You dream crusher ><

sorry?

I get to keep them forever, though

El'endia Starman

~~Heroes~~ flowers never die!

5:46 PM

@ElizB I love everything about that outfit, you look amazing!

@ElizB Well, that's a nice thing indeed :)

thanks. anyone wanna guess how much that was and where I found it?

@ElizB Didn't you just said it was on Etsy? And I'm guessing very cheap?

@ElizB Found in a second-hand store for 3-hour's pay.

@Noon FLowers were Etsy.

So, we are talking about the dress now?

5:51 PM

yes, can you guess how much the dress cost and where I found it?

$10 at the Dollar Store?

My brother is actually this height compared to me

(disclaimer: I ask that because it doesn't look like it should be, the thing is gorgeous)

I was about to comment on that haha

Was it a family dress (for your mom maybe?) or in a garage sale?

5:52 PM

it was relatively low priced compared to bridal dresses

No, not from family

I'm around 5 foot 3 and my brother is only 10 years old...

Did someone gift it to you?

@Mithrandir Awwww

@Noon no, i bought it

I looked like a dog in socks at my wedding. Tuxedos are the pinnacle of uncomfortable.

@ElizB Was it a "previous season dress"? Or was it slightly damaged so it was cheaper?

5:56 PM

@apaul That's why hubby and I agreed to not make people wear tuxes

I need to go now, time to eat

@Noon hmm, maybe... i don't know for sure

@ElizB Ya, I was a gentleman and spared my groomsmen that fate too.

@apaul yeah, a lot easier all around that way. the only thing we rented was a vest for my little brother (so sharp and handsome, that fellow...) and ties for groomsmen and groom

@Noon i'm making my late lunch too

Think I'll take a hard pass on that adventure next time around... Marriage is a wonderful institution, but who really wants to be institutionalized ;)

5:59 PM

@ElizB Just caught up! You look great! :D

@apaul Buuuut... then what about sex? That's supposed to only go after marriage, right? :P

@apaul kilts for the win!

@Tinkeringbell Riiight

@RoryAlsop way more comfortable, I'm sure.

@apaul totally

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@avazula I don't know but it makes me sad

Although at my wedding I did have to remove the sword for actual dancing - it got in the way a bit

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6:02 PM

@apaul snorts

@Tinkeringbell As a queen person, I'm already "living in sin". So... In for a penny, in for a pound?

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In my case, immigration sure does like you being married.

^jokes

user15026

(There were other reasons, but....y'know.)

@apaul giggle Okay you win this round ;)

6:03 PM

@Ash Ya, my roommate is considering getting married for similar reasons.

user15026

@apaul It wasn't our sole reason, but it was why we got married as quickly as we did and why it was a city hall thing

Looks like things could be getting nasty on the US side, so he's thinking about getting hitched and moving to Canada.

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@apaul As someone who is working on that...it's not as easy as just getting married and moving, just so you know

Alright the dress was $90 US and I found it online on ModCloth.com :D

Hey, y'all! He's here:

6:05 PM

@Ash Ya, painfully aware.

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@apaul (there's a process, it's...a lot. You have to basically be willing to put your entire life on display.)

@Catija Congratulations! :-D Lookit that!

@Catija Congratulations! :)

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(Sorry, you probably know that, but I have had SO MANY PEOPLE think they know how it works and they are SO wrong.)

6:06 PM

@Catija Congrats he's adorbs

Little smiles are the best.

😀

awkward silence

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haha

Bo- Prolonged eye contact

Just gotta make it weird, ya'know...

hahaha

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6:22 PM

@Catija I still can't get over his adorable little nose. You guys made a most excellently adorable tiny person.

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Grrrrr

melts into a puddle so cute.........

@apaul "As a queen person", well, nice to meet you our royalty! *bows in deference*

@Catija Don't growl at your kids :) Cutest hat, did you make it?

It's weird, the photo isn't sideways on my phone.

6:27 PM

@Catija Oh, so cute! Congratulation!

@Tinkeringbell yep. :)

@Noon Stupid autocorrect, but it still fits. curtsies

@Ash thanks! I adore him so much.

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6:40 PM

@Catija oh gosh, my heart.

7:24 PM

@IPSCommentBot huh?

I should have known editing that question would have led to new answers >.< I'm not sure how to reply to them, especially now that it's a year in the past

Benjamin Gruenbaum

I am chatty -_-, I need to be better at asking for clarification or changes in answers at this site. It's very different from SO.

@EmC Sorry, my fault :p On a more serious note, don't put to much pressure on yourself to answer them. If the answers are bad, we, as a community, will handle it. Otherwise, comment if you feel like it

@IPSCommentBot tp

@IPSCommentBot tp

@BenjaminGruenbaum this meta post is pretty helpful at explaining how to write constructive comments :)

Benjamin Gruenbaum

Thanks

7:34 PM

@Noon thanks :) I want to comment and say "no, that wouldn't work because of circumstance xyz / you misunderstood"... but also I don't really feel like rehashing that situation. so I'll just sit on my hands ;)

@EmC if you disagree with an answer you should downvote or write your own answer :P

@scohe001 hahaha

more like "hm, maybe I should add some clarifiying information" :P

it's ok though, the accepted answer is basically what I did :)

Meh I mean at this point those answers are to help anyone with the same problem who finds your question in the future so maybe it'll work for them

yeah

@EmC Maybe you should say that in a comment under the accepted answer and say that it worked? It will give the comment more weight

For the people with delete privilege: eyeball | NAA | interpersonal.stackexchange.com/a/19525/21067 (for the others, wait for the review queue and use your vote)

7:45 PM

@Noon eh, I think the checkmark says that, I'll just leave it be for others to vote on and hope it's helpful to them :)

@EmC Hum, not sure everyone read the checkmark the same way but okay :)

@IPSCommentBot tp

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^ good thing my new project takes so long to compile, haha

Sword fight?

8:05 PM

@scohe001 haha that's actually linked in our docs about compiling :P

@EmC haha your dev's sound awesome! Always good to have a sense of humor

Introverted Meta Man.

8:43 PM

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Q: Why do I get “on hold”?

I’m asking this question because, in this question which I posted, I have corrected myself. And of course, I have bulled only her, but not in front of her. Question: Why do I get “on hold messages”? For example: How can I ask my classmates to do as I want?. What’s wrong in this? I have seen...

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9:13 PM

chatty-no-doubt(@noon) lol

9:37 PM

You around, @apaul?

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is my comment too rude?

yep

im learning cool comment bot stuff all the time

@spiralsucculent lol I just added that functionality the other day, so I don't think you're the only one that didn't know

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neat

I know a secret

I tried to keep my comment as polite as possible for that NAA, I wanted the person to start understanding why his answers are getting VLQ deleted

also speaking of rude things i did, copy-pasting the "What should I do?" close reason text into that meta answer was pretty curmudgeon community member of me

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9:54 PM

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Q: Family friend came over and started kissing my grandpa in front of me

Our family takes turns watching over my grandpa since he's 92 and cannot live independently without assistance. I was at my grandpa's house over lunch and "Alice" stops by which was unusual- she is the mother of a man who is closer to my parents and they know each other through church- I'm not th...

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fair enough bbot, fair enough

but I'm trying to be welcoming while recommending deletion on somebodies answer to an off topic question

@spiralsucculent it was "crafting a good answer..." that tipped it off. Try "crafting a well thought out IPS answer" next time :p

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haha, thank you for the regex evasion tip

"crafting an extravagant answer" would also work if you're feeling zesty ;)

10:19 PM

@Mithrandir What's up?

@apaul I'm on mobile now, but do you have a private place to chat for a minute?

@Mithrandir Umm? I use telegram and hangouts?

Hmm. Gimme a minute, then - I'll set up a private chat room

Okie

@apaul alright, can you pop in here for a moment please? chat.stackexchange.com/rooms/58064/miths-desk

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10:26 PM

im coming tooo

#opsec

@Mithrandir you should delete this if you don't want people reading the chat history later

@spiralsucculent I'll be cleaning up the room in the morning. It can stand being private for a few hours until I'm at a laptop again

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oh, my comment was based on a misconception about how chat worked and I didn't realize you could make a room with a whitelist

i thought it was an 'anybody with this link has access' deal

sorry lol

up until your second message I hadn't clicked the link because i wasn't trying to snoop, then I clicked the link to check my premise and understood my mistake

Heh.

10:43 PM

😮🤔 -110 on the meta about HNQ. Not surprised.... Well, I'm just happy that we are still keeping going and keep the site up as best as we can, and i'm glad I'm thinking of more questions and answers

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@ElizB I am a little disappointed because it seems less about fixing HNQ (the votes) than it does anger at what happened

@Shog9 Beetlejuice Beetlejuice Beetlejuice

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And I get teh anger, this is horribly mistimed, but sigh its all a stupid mess

@ExtrovertedMainMan Y'all really aren't bothered by this title?

@Ash I understand the need to vent, yeah, and I'm not sure how to fix the HNQ because I haven't been here long enough to really get familiar with it. Still, I'm seeing the benefit of being off the list.

I think people are angry that that question was actually asked after the fact. That's the gist of what i'm getting.

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10:47 PM

@Catija Whoa, that's...a thing alright

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@ElizB Yeaaaaaah, that would be it yes

@Ash yeah. Sorry, can't talk much. Making my cheat-sheet for the midterm tomorrow morning!

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@ElizB Good luck with the mideterm! :D

@Ash :) thanks!

@ExtrovertedMainMan That one does smell a little odd...

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10:51 PM

@apaul lol

@spiralsucculent You'd be surprised... It works sometimes.

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I believe it

that grandpa kissing title would have that question on HNQ within seconds of being posted lol

idk how to fix the title, the question seems totally legit, and could probably be good without the clickbaity title

@spiralsucculent catija already fixed it

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lol, I actually didn't realize

no worries

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10:56 PM

when I'm at work and looking at IPS questions I scroll the page to hide the title as soon as the page loads

my husband did a cheesy thing - he got me this card! 😂❤

user15026

11:10 PM

@ElizB That is adorable

@Cashbee how long are you going to let that joke ride?

user15026

@ElizB They're doing a new version of the Greatest Showman soundtrack with different artists doing the songs, and Pink is doing one of them, with her daughter, and they released this video for it, which just melted me

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P!nk, Willow Sage Hart (P!nk’s Daughter) - A Million Dreams / A Million Dreams (Reprise)

11:43 PM

@Ash totally out of the blue, and yeah i basically melted when he just gave it to me :P

@Ash Oooh, cool! I'll check it out when I'm able.... I'm about 3/4 way through the cheat sheet, and I still want to practice and eat

my hand is begging me to stop writing so small

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@ElizB No worries, I just knew we'd talked about it before :) Good luck with getting things done (and give your hand a break when you can!)

@Ash giving myself a break now! I finished notes for the binomial distribution, paused at Normal distribution.

El'endia Starman

Just, y'know, normal stats stuff.

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All of that goes right over my head

I still have that and then determining when... snorts [glances over at hubby next to me with a 🙄] anyway.

Yeah, i know. Just thinking out loud here....

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11:48 PM

laughs I just never have been good with math stuff :P

I'm married to a math genius, apparently :P

really advanced, deep stuff. waves hands mysteriously

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My husband is much better with numbers than me

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So I outsource the numbers if I need to :P

haha. 'kay, gonna warm up some soup

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