The Awkward Silence

chumpbot

05:07

@EmC While I agree completely with your question, there are a number of things that can be particularly important to those of us on spectrum. I've attempted to give an answer which both addresses the general case, as well as a little for the on spectrum case. Unfortunately, I'd say the topic is too broad for a really great answer, but I don't feel like that means an answer can't be given that will at least be helpful. — Ed Grimm 2 mins ago

#23979 Ed Grimm (1333 rep) | Q: How to address mutual colleague's Asperger's syndrome? (score: 0) | posted 6 hours ago by miszo (19 rep) | Toxicity 0.0 | tps/fps: 0/0

Matched regex(es) ["possible-aic"]

dhein

06:31

Hey everyone :)

avazula

Morning

A J

Afternoon

dhein

:P

But lets please not continue this here. It will just make me even more unproductive >.<

ankii

@Ash snorts and giggles

So I am among those 65 % SO Survey participants who dread objective C

A J

@dhein Nope. :P

dhein

06:41

Oh did I miss this years survey already? :O

ankii

@dhein no I guess, I saw last year's

dhein

@AJ Who are you to tell that? :P

ankii

AJ stands for Emoticon Lord.

Lord Emoticon is better

insights.stackoverflow.com/survey/…

Why is rust up top?

A J

@dhein Interpersonal Skills Stack Exchange Community Moderator. :P

dhein

@AJ And that gives you the final call in identifying cats on low reso pics? :P

A J

06:50

Yes. I have a supervote. :P

dhein

I see ^^

CaldeiraG

07:22

Find the cat easy mode @Ælis xDD

Morning all

Ælis

@CaldeiraG Don't make fun of me, would you >< (also, I really want to pet this one!)

This one is for you @rain (even though you already knew that, I figured a little bit of validation wouldn't harm) instagram.com/p/B7o5ki5B9Zm/?igshid=7nzan6cs9qoi

CaldeiraG

08:00

@Ælis it's a cute cat :)

Tinkeringbell

morning :)

CaldeiraG

09:11

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A: Is there any way to move VLC media player to system tray while a music/video is being played?

When playing a file on VLC media player, it will appear on the system tray as well. In order to minimize the windows, right-click on VLC logo in the system tray and select the option "Hide VLC media player in taskbar": You can also define if your player should autoraise for a specific conten...

Free hand circle bonus :D

avazula

@CaldeiraG yay!!

dhein

@CaldeiraG When after washing your face your towel starts scratching and biting you.... What a perfect start into the day :D

Ælis

xD

Belle

Morning

Ælis

So, I asked (in writing) some of my coworkers to call me Ælis instead of <deadname>. Now I'm terrified and avoiding them ^^'

dhein

09:30

Huh? you changed your name not just here? ^^

Belle

@Ælis that's very brave of you

Journeyman Geek

@CaldeiraG bottom right

Belle

@JourneymanGeek no, bottom left

Ælis

@dhein I'm non-binary so yeah, I choose I named that I liked more and that I found more fitting :)

Journeyman Geek

@Ælis I suspect my reply would be "How would that be pronounced" :D

Ælis

09:33

@JourneymanGeek Don't worry, I told them that it's pronounced "a-é-li-ce" (in French) in my message to them :D

Journeyman Geek

the accented e is an english e instead of a french eh e? :D

Ælis

@JourneymanGeek The "é" is pronounced like the "e" in "hello"

Journeyman Geek

OH

I could probably pronounce that :D

Ælis

@Belle Good thing that bravery is defined as the "ability to act beside the fear". Otherwise, I'll promise you I'm not brave ^^

@JourneymanGeek :D

dhein

@Ælis Ah I see. I started chatting with someone who identifys non-binary a few days ago. Despite not being able to relate to it, I found their explanation of it quite sound :D So what that name actually means, if I may ask? Aaaand... About that email, I think I would try to avoid them, too :P

@JourneymanGeek "And where I can find that letter on my keyboard, when writing you an email?" :P

CaldeiraG

09:39

@dhein xD

Ælis

@dhein You can't, just type "AElis" instead x)

dhein

Ahhhhh great :D

CaldeiraG

there is a alt code which i forgot by now

dhein

@CaldeiraG Thanks Cal, thats veeeeery usefull xP

CaldeiraG

Aug 28 '19 at 10:40, by CaldeiraG

Alt + 146 :p

Ælis yay :)

Windows btw

MacOS it's 154 according to ankii

Belle

09:43

Well, the alt code works, but on the 4 it reloads chat XD

It does put in the letter

Ælis

@dhein The name doesn't really have a "meaning" per se. It's just that 1) I love name that start with an "A". 2) I love the sound "l" and "m" (there is no "m" is AElis, but there is a "l"). And 3) the letter "æ" is often use in the feminist/non-binary community to avoid using gendering word.

@CaldeiraG IMO, it's much more easier on Linux. In fact, when on my windows work laptop, I copy-past the letter x) But I "write it" for real with my windows (it's under the "g" letter, you just have to do a "Alt Gr" on it)

dhein

æ is actually an danish letter similiar to the german ä :D I was always wondering what your connection do denmark was '^.^

Ælis

@dhein Well, none :p

dhein

@Belle yeah x'D

@Ælis I start seeing the big picture now :P

Mithical

10:14

Shared this on Discord but might as well drop it here too:

Tinkeringbell

Pretty! :)

Journeyman Geek

That appears to be a monumental floof

Ælis

@Mithical Oh, that's a nice one!

Mithical

@JourneymanGeek And the queen of the walkway there.

Journeyman Geek

@Mithical used to have one of those :D

used to demand I pick her up and move her cause she couldn't be arsed to jump up

Mithical

10:15

heh

Belle

Oh it’s finally on spotify: open.spotify.com/track/…

Journeyman Geek

I miss that cat. (She's probably fine. Evil RC (Its like a HMA crossed with a party block representative) person insisted all the local cats be moved)

Mithical

I really want a cat but my family has deathly severe allergies to animals with fur so I have to make do with the street cats. (And not really touch them because then I get fur on my clothes and that's bad.)

...and so like this one cat will always come over and want pets but I can't

Ælis

@Mithical You can't even touch them Oo That's so sad! :'(

Ælis

10:29

So, one of my coworker is Spanish and, when I told her to call me Ælis, I also told her that I was non-binary and used the pronoun "iel". So she decided to go ahead and look what was the equivalent of "iel" in Spanish! *-* <3

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CaldeiraG

10:54

:D

Ælis

I must admit, the whole time we were talking (in writing), I was like: "OMG, she is talking to me and she being nice. I don't know how to deal with that!" #panic

Tinkeringbell

11:38

Aww. Don't. You deserve people being kind to you just as much as anyone else ;)

Ælis

I'm not use to it, it's unsettling ^^

Tinkeringbell

That's kinda sad. Everyone should be used to kindness :(

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Ælis

No arguing there

Belle

13:19

I'm falling asleep at my desk today

Tinkeringbell

It's the weather. I have the same problem :)

Not enough sunlight/daylight.

A J

Happens to me every day. There should be a rule of sleeping for one hour after lunch.

I miss my old workplace.

avazula

@AJ ? :(

dhein

@AJ Siesta? :D

Ælis

@AJ Agreed with that. Though my nap tend to last three hours ^^'

Belle

13:25

I'm going to get a coke, perhaps that will help

Tinkeringbell

I almost missed the 'a' ...

And thought WUT

I'm expecting a Skype message from a co-worker between now and 15:00 asking me for a coffee date :P

That should help a little too.

Ælis

@Tinkeringbell Same here xD

Belle

lol

Doing drugs at work x)

Ælis

We sometimes do alcohol at work (when someone is leaving the company). Drug isn't that different :p

Belle

I agree, but the law doesn't. We generally have a drink Thursday afternoon (so today!)

I don't drink because I drive to work

Tinkeringbell

13:35

I should try and pick a date to go to the old office and join Friday afternoon drinks again. Those days do give me a lot of energy :D

Ælis

14:13

IPS activity is so low lately. I miss having more questions asked per day

Rainbacon

Morning everyone!

Ælis

@Rainbacon Hello only one! :D

Rainbacon

@Ælis Thank you for that link!

Ælis

You're welcome :)

Tinkeringbell

@Ælis Having 1 question on HNQ certainly helps getting more to the site, but that means we need a good question with a great answer to get a bunch of votes ;)

Ælis

14:22

Yeah. I thinking my currently Sandbox question might do the trick if I post it at the right time (the keyword "autism" do tend to attract a lot of attention. Not always in the good way...)

Tinkeringbell

I'll try and dive into some literature/books once I have the energy, and find a nice topic to ask a research question again :)

My last one did get an answer but it wasn't very well. Maybe I'll write a self-answer to that one first.

On a slightly unrelated rant note:

Ælis

@Tinkeringbell I think I like when people do self answer. In any case, it's true that the answer you got from your last one was slightly disappointed

Tinkeringbell

I've been putting off having the company laptop upgraded to windows 10, because I was considering getting rid of it (I never have to use it, so all it does is gather dust, take up space, and give me headaches when the company starts whining about upgrading it). Now, I got an e-mail this morning from my manager saying that I should hurry up because windows 7 is officialy deprecated.

Just now, I got an e-mail saying they already prepared a new laptop for me :/ I don't want to have to update another one every month just to never use it...

Ælis

@Tinkeringbell :/ Do they know you don't even use your laptop?

Tinkeringbell

@Ælis Nope. It's one of those nice fully automated 'systems' where they know you have one, so you have to keep it up to date (makes sense, but isn't a satisfying task if you don't use it)...

I'll put it on the list to deal with tomorrow, there's a bunch of company crap I'm planning on working through already. I wonder what happens if I make an appointment to turn in my current laptop but never pick up the new one ;)

Ælis

14:32

@Tinkeringbell Won't they give you the new one at the same time you are turning in your current one?

Tinkeringbell

@Ælis I don't think so, given that I can turn in the old one at a different office if I make an appointment for that.

I'll see tomorrow. Most of the tools this company uses need edge or internet explorer to work, which I don't feel like logging in to now.

Ælis

Oh yeah, sounds like you could definitively do that then!

Tinkeringbell

That's why things end up on lists. It needs to be 'worth' the effort of starting up a weblinks session on edge/explorer XD

Ælis

Also, good luck with dealing with those "company crap" things. It really doesn't seem fun

Tinkeringbell

It's okay-ish. I need to finish two more parts of a three part training, and figure out what the next step is for that lease car. And the laptop stuff.

It's just... it's going to take me almost 2/3 hours to do all that, and I'm also still supposed to work 8 hours for the client.

So it's crap, less weekend :(

Ælis

14:38

@Tinkeringbell Arf :/ You really shouldn't have to do that on your personal hours IMO

Changing subject, I think I found my good resolution for this year: "Be vocal about your needs". So far, it's both terrifying and exalting. It's a chance for me to make my life better, but it's still gonna be hard to do (and exhausting)

Tinkeringbell

@Ælis but with restraint... No one wants to hear you say 'I need to poop' :P

scohe001

@Ælis Since being vocal about your needs is now one of your needs, by telling us its your new year's resolution are you also simultaneously fulfilling that resolution? :thonk:

Ælis

@Tinkeringbell Ahah xD Though if I'm stuck in a meeting and I need to poop, it would be nice if I were able to say: "I need to go to the bathroom"

avazula

@Tinkeringbell I indicate my need to pee every single time. Even if I'm alone. That's like a trademark.

I can't help it xD

Ælis

@avazula Sometimes, when I'm not at home and a little lost, I have to give instruction to myself out loud (otherwise, I don't get anything done). Like "spoon" then "orange juice" then "milk", etc... So I will also sometimes say "toilet" and then go to the toilet :p

Tinkeringbell

14:49

Y'all are weird :P

@Ælis That's true ;)

Ælis

@Tinkeringbell We are a tree and some blue smoke. What did you expected :p

Tinkeringbell

I thought ava was blue ink/paint ;)

avazula

@Tinkeringbell I'm a shapeless blob

~~Be it in here or IRL~~

Tinkeringbell

Ahhh...

I'm a shapeless blob in real life too, don't worry ;)

avazula

@Tinkeringbell Matter can't stop us!!

Ælis

14:53

@avazula I'm a blob but armchair to act like a trap on me. This kind of matter can definitively stop me :p

avazula

hahaha

Tinkeringbell

I really want to blob in bed.

Ælis

Beds also make really good trap for me too :p

CaldeiraG

@scohe001 o/

I'm kinda of disappointed that a comment of mine was just deleted for no apparent reason. :\

avazula

@CaldeiraG on which post?

Ælis

14:59

@CaldeiraG Isn't that the normal behavior of comments? x)

CaldeiraG

@avazula it's not on IPS :) writing it as we speak

https://superuser.com/a/1519550/880618

The comment I made: "That's a bold statement. Would you buy an Intel-only with a Ryzen CPU just because Amazon tells you that is "Frequently bought together"? (this is a pretty obvious example and probably wouldn't happen at all but you get the idea)".

Belle

@CaldeiraG x) Just yesterday I was browsing bol.com (site similar to Amazon) for stuffing for my crochet, when it recommended me to get the book "Nice girls don't get the corner office" as a frequently bought together deal with toy stuffing.

CaldeiraG

@Belle lol :p

Tinkeringbell

@Belle May I ask how expensive stuffing generally is there? :)

Belle

My most recent project now looks like it swallowed a book

Tinkeringbell

15:08

XD

Belle

@Tinkeringbell Couldn't find decent stuffing for a reasonable price :\

Tinkeringbell

@Belle I use these: action.com/nl-nl/p/binnenkussen ;)

Belle

@Tinkeringbell I usually get these hema.nl/vrije-tijd-kantoor/hobby/fournituren/…

Well, "usually" is too big of a word. I got one and I've not ran out yet.

scohe001

@CaldeiraG \o

Tinkeringbell

I've gone through at least 3/4 pillows. But I stuff toys tightly.

For some of the bigger toys I made, I might've needed a whole bag of that HEMA stuff...

There's about as much in those cheap pillows. Though it's of a lesser quality.

It might also have bits of scrap fabric in it, for example.

Belle

15:16

Ah yea, I like the HEMA stuff because it's good quality. It shapes very well.

The reason I was looking at stuffing on bol was because someone asked me how much it would cost them to crochet a life-size Snorlax body-pillow.

Tinkeringbell

o.O That sounds like fun and very expensive. Though if you can get a cheap second hand bean-bag...

A life size snorlax sounds bean-bag sized.

Belle

I think they were looking for a price of around €100, maybe €200, not the €1000 I quoted them.

Tinkeringbell

I can imagine!

You made a good quote though, never work for cheap ;)

Belle

I told them I wouldn't be offended if they didn't want it for that price. I know it's a lot of money.

I found bean bag filling on bol for not too expensive (€20 for 200L). I'd make the belly bean-bag size.

@Tinkeringbell Agreed. They don't seem to realize how much time it takes to make something like that and how much it costs in materials.

My quick calculations said it would be €300-400 to make a cotton Snorlax

Tinkeringbell

15:32

@Belle \o/ I'll keep bean bag filling in mind too, I might want to make some bigger stuff too ;)

@Belle pretty much, yes. Acrylic can be a lot cheaper but won't last as well IMO so cotton it definitely better

Belle

I also prefer cotton over acrylic because of it's melting resistance and environmental impact.

Acrylic is nice and cheap though :)

But I am guilty of buying way too expensive yarn... I especially love silk. I'm working on a silk, alpaca and mohair mix scarf. Sooooooo soft.

Tinkeringbell