One of my parents, A, is going through the last months of cancer. They are forced in bed at home and constantly taking painkillers to manage the pain.
When relatives and friends come to visit, there are situations which are simply exhausting to A, to name a few:
Multiple visitors coming over a...
@avazula Of course it's not funny. I sadly don't think we can do anything... it was a cowardly anonymous edit. I guess this means the trolling has started :(
Just let us know when something happens. If it's really bad, I'm often around on chat, so raise a flag and ping me to let me know I should check the queue RIGHT NOW! :)
@Tinkeringbell @avazula @EmC @AJ If you see another vandalism (edit/answer/comment) linked to the MSE stuff, don't ask me, just remove the question from HNQ. I really don't need MSE troll on IPS
Every time you post one of these, I think:
The Twitter/HNQ incident was caused by the question title, "How do I tell students at a school I volunteer at to stop flirting with me?" appearing on the sidebar. That text was considered so awful that an immediate change had to be made so that there w...
@CaldeiraG Lot of people don't, yet think they know everything. They even bypass the fact that IPS had been grumpy about being on HNQ for a long while too, just for the convenience of a good rant.
I didn't feel like rewriting the entire answer though.
I see you aren't one of those rainbow punk, then (note: nothing wrong with being a rainbow punk or a dark one). Your avatar is kind of misleading about that :p
On a brighter note, last week was the second time in a month that I was at someone's place and their dog just decided to sit on me. Apparently dogs like me. :D I'm not usually around many dogs, so that's a surprise.
@brug Oh, I'd love to go to bed at 8 each day, and then wake up at 8 too... Those were times! :D (I'm really not a nightowl, unless drunk. Then I end up watching documentaries till 2AM)
@brug You don't sound like a fun or mellow drunk. :(
The documentaries are usually just because I drink on weekends, but my parents often watch tv too, so if I want to watch something for myself, I can only put it on after they've gone to bed.
We don't have a fire pit though, so I'll have to make do with 1 bonfire at New Year's Eve each year. We light that one to get rid of all the cardboard from the fireworks.
Just takes quite some time sometimes before it is started though... I guess I'll miss it once I have my own place :P Then, bedtime on New Year's Eve will be at 8! XD
I'm getting a small apartment: Bedroom, bathroom (with bathtub) and room for a washing/drying machine, living room/kitchen (not decked to the nines, but with all the basics) ... and a front and back garden + bike shed :D
Yeah, okay... your own opinion of yourself is kinda important ;)
@brug But you'd have to keep it clean, and also use it to not feel like you've wasted a bunch of money on just being fancy! That's why my kitchen block is going to be small, but functional ;)
Yeah, it's the first thing you learn... I've seen my parents financial situation get better with the years (as us kids grew older). I've picked up way more budgeting skills from mom than my 10 year younger brother did, I'm also a lot more likely to go 'I don't really need this right now'.
I should stop throwing the word poor around. I'm not that bad off. My wife is in grad school and I am an undergrad. So neither of us works full time and money is tight.
Yeah, that's why my mom stopped working as a nurse -but for a home with elderly people- when she got pregnant with me. She didn't want to have to work nights and weekends, and wanted to be home for the kids. I must say, now that I'm older I appreciate it sooo much! I always had someone to talk to if I had a really bad or great day :)
I used to find it annoying that I couldn't just storm off to my room, could only take 1 piece of candy, only had 1 hour of PC time... That kinda stuff :P
There's no control on that if your parents aren't home ;)
I've got autism. This means, in simple terms, that I have more brain-connections, which means I can easily get overstimulated. My brain uses more resources than for most people, which means I get tired faster. In very rare cases I can have an autistic meltdown, where some parts of my brain, like ...
@ExtrovertedMainMan Any one able to give some suggestions to make it not so broad, without making it a dup of the related post? I can't really find it, despite the core of the OP looks so legit to me.
I think Ælis' comment is quite right: We can probably help better with the specific situation (e.g. a sensory issue not being taken seriously) than the whole broad 'you don't look autistic', as there's already a question on that. Or Belle should clarify in her question why the answers there don't help here (why their question is different)...
@Belle we're discussing your question here, if you find chatting easier than comments, please drop by :)
Why not just skip the first part, and use the characters to point to the bits from 'meta post' that the answer seems to be lacking?
E.g. "You haven't explained/backed up why OPs original suggested approach won't work", "You haven't included an alternative that might reach the same goals in the end", that kind of stuff.
(Also, switch our 'you' for 'this answer', makes it less personal)
Thanks :D Basically the same thing. Still Typescript and ASP.NET. It's a similar product in a different niche.
It just doesn't have that colleague who harassed me, it doesn't have that boss that turned a blind eye to the harassment, it has flexible working hours and it pays 30% more, so it's infinitely better.
@CaldeiraG It is different because it doesn't pre se invite a counter example or arguments to otherwise. I still might happen, and then you have to interrupt and repeat - "I am sorry, but it is not a headache" and repeat the assertion (not the argument) that the issue (the behaviour) is causing discomfort. Any attempt at tying it to a causal relationship is more likely to invoke argument than not. The assertion can be strengthened further, but that is borderline confrontational, which the OP seems to want to avoid. "I need you to stop wearing scents, it is causing me discomfort..." — Stian Yttervik15 mins ago
@avazula "Woman" here means married, 6 kids, van, husband working, you spend your days cleaning your house until it looks like a showroom, including the mess from your kids, and the highlight of your week is the church woman only prayer group and the gossip exchanged when you drop your kids off at school or are grocery shopping. I'm female, but not a woman!
one of my friends said this this weekend: "My husband is becoming an engineer soon. Once he is, I'm gonna stop working and enjoy my time taking care of the house". I smiled, but I was mentally like ... "oh no ... I would go nuts"
@avazula Don't get me wrong, I had a conversation with brug this morning where I stated my appreciation that mom never just dumped me at a daycare ;) So yeah, I do appreciate the 'raise the kids you put into this world yourself' attitude, and if there's one parent that wants to do all of that, fine! What I don't really like is that you're also supposed to keep your house spotless (with kids!) or have 6 of them to be taken seriously ;)
@Theik Ehhh... I just bought an apartment at the same village I grew up in ;) But it's a newly built area of the village, and we're on bible belt edge, so it'll be fine ;-)
less happy topic, does anyone know of a place I can ask people to r/a flag main meta posts that need it.. there's one I flagged/commented on and am concerned it's still up :/
As far as I'm concerned, you could ask in any chatroom I'm in and I will be happy to flag r/a stuff. Also, I totally understand you for not wanting to post in The Tavern. I definitively don't feel very safe over there myself
@ankii Do be a bit careful with those kinds of messages. Usually people change their names for a reason, and don't like chat transcripts where their old name can easily be found. If I'm asked to delete this by brug, I will ;)
@scohe001 Well, then Japan is a bit like France on that. Only people with a bad sense of etiquette do that however here. It's more ok in trains, though
@brug Funny, anytime I shorten your username in my mind, it was to use "bru" not "brug". (also, fun fact, "bru" mean "daughter-in-law" in old French :p )
@ankii I'm planning to phase the name out entirely even though I like it and have had it for 15 years. Ending a name with an o is coded masculine in my culture (and many others)
so the tavern resulted in a couple more downvotes but it's still up and they moved on to being snarky about the whole situation ._. this is the post I was talking about, if anyone else thinks it needs r/a flags