The Awkward Silence

Extroverted Main Man

00:04

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Q: Sister-in-law who lies about being mad

How do I handle this situation with my sister-in-law? Backstory: My sister-in-law and I have always gotten along great until.. She got mad at my mom and I for getting upset with her and some other family members for excluding us from a breakfast when we were all in town for a family reunion. ...

ankiiiiiii

04:49

@ExtrovertedMainMan people who write such titles never made class presentations.

interpersonal.stackexchange.com/questions/22740/… About this Q, if they ask "Is written better than video chat?", would it be less primarily opinion based? As there are 3 close votes for the same and Q asks that " Would a letter to family members be an appropriate way..."

M.A.R.

07:28

@avazula I have a history with James Franco too. His smiles are really creepy

@ExtrovertedMainMan Make a meta rant about downvotes threaten to rage quit use "contact us" ragequit wait you weren't talking about SE?

@EmC No, autoflagging is for posts that reach a certain 'weight' which is calculated, for most reasons, by the percentage of spam/total posts it catches. "Blacklisted website" has a reason weight of 92, IIRC, which means 92 percent of posts with the URLs Charcoal has blacklisted end up being spam.

@ankiiiiiii There's nothing SE can do about 'typo' malicious domains. Use browser history, or in case of PC browsers, it'd autocomplete sites you visit.

ankiiiiiii

08:21

@M.A.R. you didnt focus on the second half. I click so many links in a day. Should I be worried?

M.A.R.

@ankiiiiiii On SE? No, you shouldn't be worried

ankiiiiiii

@M.A.R. due to Charcoal?

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avazula

Nomination period has ended. Congrats to our two candidates and new room owners @Ælis & @scohe001! Thank you both for volunteering, we're glad to have you as ROs.

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M.A.R.

08:40

-- OpenSTV version 2019

avazula

08:53

@M.A.R. what's that?

ankiiiiiii

09:21

Congo Ælis and Scohe (I don't know your name)!

M.A.R.

@avazula Election app

Jun 25 at 19:54, by M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

@Ælis The immediate results will be a .blt file you can run through the OpenSTV app

ankiiiiiii

@M.A.R. go to the other room ;)

IPS Comment Bot

12:10

To me your post sounds like this is what she's thinking: "oh no, them again with their stupid breakfast 3 years ago". I don't know if this is true, but if you keep bothering a person with stuff they think is not important, they find you annoying. But I might be way off since your description is very superficial and leaves a lot of room for interpretation. Could you reflect a bit more on the issue and include that in your post? Asking "what do I do" isoff topic, but many people will give you suggestions anyways, so ask yourself: what is your goal and then ask "how do I get there?" — Raditz_35 1 min ago

#22741 Raditz_35 (259 rep) | Q: Sister-in-law who lies about being mad (score: 0) | posted 12 hours ago by K Lee (1 rep) | Toxicity 0.6935978 | tps/fps: 0/0

Matched regex(es) ["possible-aic"]

ankiiiiiii

15:16

@JourneymanGeek could I quickly use the sandbox for my Q on meta?

I'd delete it later

Journeyman Geek

what sandbox ._.

You need to be clear. I'm running on not much sleep XD

ankiiiiiii

IPS' sandbox

please get a coffee, it'd be helpful for me too

Journeyman Geek

Oh. You need feedback?

naw, I need to sleep at some point lol

ankiiiiiii

yes

Journeyman Geek

carry on!

ankiiiiiii

15:19

done interpersonal.meta.stackexchange.com/questions/3129/…

Journeyman Geek

I need to look up comment ping rules XD

THIS IS THE PROBLEM WITH BEING HERE AGES.

You forget all the rulez

ankiiiiiii

haha, I'll add that in Q too

https://meta.stackexchange.com/questions/43019/how-do-comment-replies-work and
https://interpersonal.stackexchange.com/help/privileges/comment

Journeyman Geek

Yes

and well

everyone who commented gets pinged

so @noticing people isn't actually typically necessary

in some cases its not really something we want new users to use too much too

ankiiiiiii

@JourneymanGeek on that meta post I commented, I wasn't notified unless the other mod used my @

Journeyman Geek

oh my bad

checking!

ankiiiiiii

15:23

@JourneymanGeek that would be in the answers

Journeyman Geek

@ankiiiiiii well, typically comments should be fire and forget

pinging people invites... discussion

(ignore anything wrong or nonsensical I say)

ankiiiiiii

I am preparing counters

Journeyman Geek

So I guess the underlying questioin I'd ask is

when do we want new users pinging other users?

And how much friction do we want?

ankiiiiiii

@JourneymanGeek if there's a possibility of them answering, always. And maybe that's why they commented in the first place something that requires replying( not like read the tour etc.)

Journeyman Geek

ah, that's true

How likely is a new user to get that? ;p

ankiiiiiii

15:27

@JourneymanGeek this idea has minimum friction, otherwise Q are left ignored, people dont visit old comments and additional comments like mine are required, thus more noise . And if OP then uses @, further confusion arises when system deletes their redundant @

Sandman

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A: Sandbox for Proposed Questions

Slightly different approach to what I think enable ping completion for all comments want to achieve. "new user should know that @ pinging in comments exists." Discussions for the same intention were tell the user who will be notified of a comment Don't remove the @ part of my comment I have...

Journeyman Geek

no no

So, by friction I mean "Do we need to make things hard enough so folks don't abuse it?"

Its the childproof lid of UX ;p

ankiiiiiii

the other discussions show that pings are necessary. Does this motivate unnecessary pings?

Journeyman Geek

That's a really good question XD

ankiiiiiii

Now that I know that ping can be done, do I abuse it? no, so that *ignored* placeholder doesn't do much.
When I didnt know it could be done, would knowing it be useful? yes

Journeyman Geek

15:31

You're not a new user ;p

You've had time to get the culture.

ankiiiiiii

ok a possibility that a new user pings a lot of other users that are good in that topic right?

Journeyman Geek

Well you can't ping someone who isn't already in the conversation.

So that's not an issue ;p

ankiiiiiii

So that line "or the person is not here." can be removed

@JourneymanGeek I think it can be done

Journeyman Geek

"You can get the attention of someone who already commented with @..." might work

ankiiiiiii

yes line is up for modification!

Journeyman Geek

15:34

> Any user who has a visible (non-deleted) comment on the post.

Mind if I hack down your question to a minimum? ;p

ankiiiiiii

okay...

with suspicion

Journeyman Geek

aww snap I don't have edit rights so I can't grab the MD :p

lol How do I doooo this

ankiiiiiii

nopaste.xyz/…

use fork and then send me back one ;p

a bit awkward I know or, use the text somewhere you can edit.

or on meta itself after I post. Its almost finished

Why don’t you just try yourself and ask specific questions (with a link back to @stockb‘s Original answer) if you get stuck? The first part (up to opening it in mail) won‘t break anything, the rest is kind of guided anyway. — nohillside ♦ Aug 20 at 20:14

maybe cause he is a mod?

stockb was not there.

Journeyman Geek

nopaste.xyz/…

lol

probably

and I don't have enough rep to edit on IPS

tried to keep most of what you wrote, some stylistic tweaks, some changes related to our conversation

right to sleep with me XD

ankiiiiiii

That was helpful! the linked Q has the workflow, so better to remove it. I would add some references FAQ, help section etc.

why did you remove the prev discussion?

I'll wish you a good night soon

ok bye and thanks ^^

Journeyman Geek

15:55

Good meta questions are concise.

ankiiiiiii

so are meta-mod's good replies. ;)

Journeyman Geek

People don't really want a story. Keeping stuff minimal helps keep attention.

ankiiiiiii

Ok ... Good night!

ankiiiiiii

16:34

meta.stackexchange.com/questions/332638/… for those wondering and getting confused.

ElizB

good morning :)

scohe001

17:36

@avazula Woohoo! Now when people are like "Get a room!" I can respond "I already own one, thank you very much"

Check that one off my bucket list

Ælis

@scohe001 XD

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scohe001

Boo that's no fair

Ælis

I was too quick for you :p @scohe001

scohe001

Lol

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Ælis

→ 3 messages moved to Trash

scohe001

17:42

Hmm but how do you kill the moved messages?

Ælis

Not sure what you mean by "kill" but that's probably only a mod thing, no?

scohe001

Hmm must be

Em C

18:11

that's why you want to move all the messages in one go ;P I think some people have a script for that..

aha: chat.stackexchange.com/transcript/message/48633423#48633423

ankiiiiiii

@EmC Thanks for the clean up on sandbox

I forgot about 20kdivided-by-beta users

Em C

@ankiiiiiii np! yeah, the view gets cluttered for people who can see deleted posts :)

ankiiiiiii

how much is the rep for them?

Em C

@ankiiiiiii 2k for beta

ankiiiiiii

okay, also do comment if anything on Meta

not trying to do marketing but yeah

Em C

18:18

hm? you mean on your Meta.SE post?

ankiiiiiii

yes

quite well received, no DV, 4 UV, but no comment either

Em C

well, I guess people think it's a good idea then :)

ankiiiiiii

:) . . . Bye

Ælis

18:52

If you always dream to see a picture of me, there you go:

I went to the lego store today and had some fun making an avatar of myself

El'endia Starman

19:25

...you're the cat?

Ælis

No, I'm a tree imp :p

M.A.R.

Or the background. Neither of which I can see without a VPN unless I save this page on Wayback Machine.

Em C

@Ælis nice hat :D

Ælis

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@M.A.R. That was for you but the space are gone :(

ankiiiiiii

@Ælis code format?

Ælis

19:34

@EmC Thanks! I believe that was almost the last one in the shop, I was lucky to find it :D

@ankiiiiiii Ascii art from here

M.A.R.

@Ælis shift+enter and click on fixed font

Beautiful nonetheless less than three

Ælis

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ankiiiiiii

hahahahaha

oh okay

M.A.R.

Hey you try making ASCII art in the depth of an SE chat

Even Frodo failed and eventually snapped.

Ælis

@M.A.R. Thanks for the tip!

M.A.R.

19:38

👍

Ælis

20:50

Nice meta post @Tink :)

Tinkeringbell

@Ælis Thank you! :) If there's any questions, drop them in here and I'll try to answer them tomorrow ;) I am now going to shut down the PC and read a bit.

Ælis

Then good reading and good night :)

Tinkeringbell

Thanks! Good night to you too, and sleep well once it's time to sleep!

Ælis

I'll try :p

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