It just occurred to me that my email-writing and way of speaking really has improved and become more thought through and eloquent, and i was telling el'endia that, and he said "IPS in real life!" so... yeah, this site really helped but so subtly... now it's apparent. Cool :)
I had it happen to me about a year after I started the job I'm in. My coworkers had been trying to help me with the social skills I needed to do my job. I didn't feel like it working. I went to visit my family for Thanksgiving and my mom told me how amazed she was at how much I had changed. Specifically she was very surprised when I made small talk with a cashier.
When close family members give me gifts, it's often in the form of gift cards or pre-paid debit cards. I appreciate their generosity, and I spend the balances eventually, but I think both giver and receiver could be better off if the gift was plain money rather than credit at a store:
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See, we're mixing up the parts of two laptops (and a hard drive that's heading into its fourth host), so... hopefully at least one will work when we're done.
@Tinkeringbell hmm, when I built my pc I found out I forgotten one of the mounting pins for my motherboard. To fix it I would've had to taken it all out again. Couldn't be bothered with that :P
@Noon do you use l'écriture inclusive when you chat or mail your coworkers?
disclaimer: "écriture inclusive" means inclusive writing, it's something French speaking people have come up with as our language is very gender oriented. Inclusive writing prevents talking like the whole world is only composed of men ;)
@Noon haha. How do they react to it when you do so? I was just chatting with a team mate and caught myself writing "iels/they" but I was afraid he'd judge me
@avazula Well, there is already someone here who is all for the "écriture inclusive" so it wasn't really new. But then my boss read online about "iel" and was all confuse as why you would use "iel/they" for someone call "Robert" and same for Robert's mom ("it's obviously a man and a woman!"). I didn't told him about agenre and intersexe people (I mean, let's start slowly here ^^)
@avazula But I didn't use it in my previous job for the same reason you didn't
@JAD I must say, I don't find that "i" is much different than "il". You just added a letter but you can still ear the "i" very clearly (not like in "oi" for example)
@JAD yup. If you say "à plus tard" (see you later), the s is silent. But if you go for its shorter version, "à plus" (see you), then you pronounce it. How weird is that for a French learner?
Anyways, the way I would expect the i in iel to be pronounced differs from il in the sense of whether the consonant in the word before is swallowed or not
et iel parle francais sounds like it would be pronounced differently from et il parle francais in the sense that there would be a bigger emphasis on i.
@avazula It sucks on hearing tests, because not being able to tell words apart makes things very hard :P
@JAD Two on etiquette, a third on basic interpersonal communication. The third one is going to take until March, the other two will arrive tomorrow (including 'de etiquette bijbel')
Since I forgot to update: Laptop surgery was successful; hard drive transplanted and dead bugs removed, so hopefully that will have fixed the issue of smoke coming from under the laptop. Keyboard was taken out and put back in and now it works. Might go back in to see about transplanting some RAM later.
@scohe001 Well, one thing I have to deal with is people being offended on my behalf. Isn't that infantilizing a person? Suggesting that they're not strong enough to handle it themselves?
When I was growing up, we were heading the opposite direction. "Let him handle it himself, or he'll never be able to stand on his own"
@RichardU That's just... people do that for all sorts of stuff these days, not just disabilities (though it will stand out there more). I think it's the current society, where almost everyone has a pet peeve or 10 they want to see fixed :/
Hmm maybe. Or it could be someone who doesn't know enough about the situation but wants to help. Or someone who wants to be outraged and be "in the right" at all times (which I feel like I've seen a lot of lately)
@scohe001 Yeah, that second part is what I meant with current society. It seems to revolve a lot about taking a really activistic approach to whatever your view on life in general is.
@Tinkeringbell one of the happiest moments in my life was the first time I stood up for myself in school. A kid made a snide comment "May your hearing aid batteries DIE!" and I said "May you follow them". The teacher was MAD AS HELL, but saw that I was unaffected, and a bit proud of myself, as I'd made a public jackass out of the kid who tried to pick on me.
Today, the teacher would step in, and nail the kid, and rob me of that victory
@RichardU That is a fantastic retort. That said, I'm of the opinion that it's generally a good thing that there seems to be a trend towards people standing up for others.
@RichardU Yes, and perhaps no... I can't really blame a teacher for doing so. Preventing 'bullying' has kinda become part of their job description, and with kids and their parents these days... Letting it slide even once can have some pretty serious consequences :/
@RichardU I think that depends on the teacher, but even if adults are getting "softer" on kids, there are even more places where kids interact now out of sight of adults than then, so I'm sure that bullying and opportunities for retorts like those are still rampant
I grew up autistic, hearing impaired, LD, and so terribly uncoordinated that I was picked last in Gym class, after all the girls. Talk about being bullied.
@Tinkeringbell the best way to stop bullying is to remove the targets by giving them the ability to fight back.
And, now, not only do I defend myself, but I'm very good at stopping it.
Back in the early 2000s, I ended a bullying ring online.
I also trolled a bunch of neo-nazis to the point where they left.
@RichardU Perhaps. I kinda liked it when I finally got a teacher to step in and I didn't have to fight back or learn to fight back harder anymore. Another way to stop bullying is to make sure people know that bullying isn't acceptable. And it's not upon the victim to always do so.
@El'endiaStarman no, that's pretty specific. Would you start pulling items off the grocery shelves for someone in a wheelchair if they could reach them themselves without any difficulty?
@Tinkeringbell yeah, sometimes we FORMER victims step in and make life a living hell for the bullies.
I enjoy doing that. neo-nazis are my favorite target.
@RichardU I think what El'endia means is... my mom can perfectly fine make her own breakfast or do her own laundry... yet it's highly appreciated if I sometimes do it ;)
@Jad there is nothing more exhilarating than driving down solid ice on a dropoff road with no guard rail. Driving tests out there are pass/fail(notify next of kin)
Denver is right up against the mountains, and Grand junction is on the other side.
@El'endiaStarman yeah, the locals end up rescuing a good deal many European tourists who forget to drink their water, as dehydration catches up with them, never anything too serious. The serious problems are caused by Californians wanting to commune with nature, but who have never been outside of a major city.... facepalm
It is like an entirely different world out there.
They're right about the "dry heat", in the high desert. But what people don't know is that you have no signs of dhydration. It's so dry that your sweat evaporates before you feel wet, the air isn't humid and oppressive, and you could still be able to pee. But you're dehydrated before you know it.
It happened to me once. The way to get bye is to drink more than you think possible, then drink some more. You can go through a gallon of water or more a day to keep up.
@El'endiaStarman It's so dry, it catches the Europeans off guard. The Americans, esp from California, do worse though.
The Europeans are usually well equipped, but don't drink enough water.
The Americans are just ill equipped.
Esp in the mountains, you need to be well equipped because you can have the temperature fluctuate by 40-50 degrees or more in a single day. You can have it up to near 80 degrees in the day, then drop below freezing very quickly when the sun goes down
That happened to me once, driving from Grand Jucntion to Denver. Left, it was 78 degrees, drove right through a blizzard.
That's crazy. Most extreme temperature swing I've experienced was in North Carolina where it was 72 F and sunny one day and then snow and ice on the ground the next morning.
@El'endiaStarman that's one reason why people who aren't local get in trouble. I've seen people hiking in shorts and completely unprepared for the temperature drop
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@RichardU Ah, alright. The only experience I have with a car accident is a fender bender- i bumped someone from behind with my car, had to replace the internal guard and hood, it was bent :P the other car had a scratch, that's all.
@ElizB I was hit so hard that my entire passenger side wheelwell was destroyed, along with the fender and the bumper. I fixed the mechanical damage, but need the insurance check to fix the body.
The woman that hit me was given two tickets. The officer (and my mechanic) couldn't believe how much damage was done.
@ElizB, sadly, my truck took most of the damage, as my wheelwell took the direct hit.
@El'endiaStarman Well, in the Midwest, and New England states, they tend to do better, until you get to Massachusetts, where the massholes just don't know how to drive either.
It was fun when I worked for the road department when I was young. I hated plowing in the cities, as they would actually attack the plows, they actually shot at one one year
Oh, I should clarify my statement: people forget how to drive in snow the first time it happens every year. In every region. Example: Edmonton in Alberta, Canada.
I am a female and I started working at a big organization in a new country 6 months back after my studies. There is this male colleague at work who has been friendly with me. A week back he asked for my personal number and I shared with him. We also went for a drink that day evening after work. H...
A few months ago I moved into a shared house. The house used to be a kind of community house for (where people would eat dinner together and roommates are found through the church). I'm not religious but most people in the house are and there still is an expectation to be respectful and trust eac...
When close family members give me gifts, it's often in the form of gift cards or pre-paid debit cards. I appreciate their generosity, and I spend the balances eventually, but I think both giver and receiver could be better off if the gift was plain money rather than credit at a store:
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