Not an answer, but you should not do it not just because it is a fraud, but also because marrying implies a series of consequences that may force you to have to support her financially for the rest of your life. — user1 min ago
@Jesse usually the answer is close it and you can always reopen but that'd reject the migration, sigh. So there's more incentive to try to fix in this case.
Not an answer, but important to mention. Marrying will also imply you may have to legally support this person indefinitely, so that is something else for you to keep in mind. — user1 min ago
I have posted a comment on a question. The comment was deleted twice. The first time I thought I forgot to press enter, I re-posted it. In less than 10 minutes it was deleted again, clearly not because it was flagged. The comment was not rude, inappropriate or out of context. How can I find out w...
I am a university student, in my current group we are only 5 students (2 women and 3 men).
One of my teachers has been discriminating me since the course started (approximately 2 weeks ago), that is, he never looks at me when he gives his class, he looks at all my classmates during the whole cla...
You're getting downvoted because this is blatantly breaching the BNP. I will not be surprised if you get multiple flags for rude/abusive either. — Nij1 min ago
Does anyone have an example of a question about "understanding social norms as they relate to interpersonal interactions - why do we interact the way we do?"
I have an idea but would love to see an example of a successful question in this context before I ask it
@Clay07g Yes, you are partly right. The younger the receiver is, the more acceptable giving the advice is. I would be okay giving my sons behavioral advice, but I wouldn't do the same to my parents. — Peter Abolins47 secs ago
I'm surprised to see atleast two people upvote such a blatantly rude answer. I haven't flagged as R/A because a heavily-downvoted answers teaches new users a thing or two about good answer vs bad answer, rather than a deleted post which becomes invisible. — Simpleton35 secs ago
its just a similar situation. But in the elevator there are more things to adress than on an open road. And yes it's going to be more about etiquette than skills yes
@Tinkeringbell That's one of the possible questions yes. I could also (instead) maybe ask about about the awkwardness inside the elevator, or about waiting for others (keeping the door open), ....
@Cashbee I don't really know what you could do about awkwardness, because it's often 'greet people when you get in, greet them when you get out' over here...
But it would be interesting I guess ;)
Have you googled already? I think keeping the door open has the most chance of actually having some form of etiquette related to it
no I haven't googled yet, that is beside the point :) and yes I think too that holding the door open would be best fit. I will try to formulate a Q about that
Mine would be about declining people asking me for my future plans.
I have a tendency not to tell anybody my future plans, because if I do tell, they will not success. There have been cases where I didn't tell the plan and it was successful.
-1 for 1) trying to guilt-trip/create bad conscience and 2) not being upfront with what the intention of the guilt-trip is. Trying to achieve compliance by making people feel bad about what they do seldom works. The need that drives them to do it is still there and pushing them in that direction. All you do with actions like this is making them feel bad for fulfilling that need. Rock & A Hard Place. Either you take away the need.... or you make sure they can fulfil the need without bad consequences. — MichaelK19 secs ago
@Tinkeringbell hmmmm, they don't quite emulate the sort of thing i had in mind
My question essentially was going to be: "In order to save face, why are people often willing to use methods that lose them more face than was lost to begin with?"
@Cashbee the on-topic i was trying to emulate was this: understanding social norms as they relate to interpersonal interactions - why do we interact the way we do?
but the examples currently active are not quite the same style to what i just said... so I figured id bring it up here first
@Jesse social norms. Social norms aren't psychology. Social norms are the expectations society puts upon you: 'stand up in the bus for the frail elderly lady' for example
@Jesse I was suggesting so because to me, it's a bit more abstract than a question with a concrete issue to address. Answers you'll get will give hypotheses, not advice
@avazula we generally don't use meta to discuss question drafts ;-) Only if it doesn't fit within the already established guidelines, and even then the advice most likely will be 'write your question, ask on main... and see how it ends up'
I'm not sure how I could dissuade from opinion based answers... might be too difficult, especially since its clearly different from most current questions so even our regular users wouldnt be able to help much
So it has to specifically be about social norms, far less interesting but its also far less opinion-based
@Jesse I think it's gonna be difficult to avoid opinion-based answers, especially when observing the current trend with new users trying to anwser but who haven't the tour so they end up telling their own stories rather than trying to give a generic answer
@avazula As long as they tell their own stories, that's a start ;) Experience based answers are always better than opinions (sorry, that hasn't changed now that I'm a mod)
@Tinkeringbell Roger that :) As I see meta, they're main categories of questions there: Q about how we should rule IPS, and Q about "why my Q/A/C has been deleted?"
a meta question could be "are questions about general human psychology off-topic?" but the question about why we act like that itself is either main site or nothing
@Tinkeringbell I do like to think we're numerous to contribute to this site's moderation :) small stones added up together makes the big beautiful mountain feels poetic
My 2 cents in this would be to recommend you to take a chance on the main site anyway, and see if we can keep it on topic together, but I'd understand that you'd not want to try
I really don't hink it's a good fit for this stack, and I would have to VTC. We can further discuss this here in chat, but I think we all found a consensus that it doesn't really belong here (IPS.SE), unless the question is changed quite a bit
Hallucinations by schizophrenics are not determined by the space around them and self asserted by the content of the world around them as a certainance to there observation. The belief in the hallucination is strenuous to the response of there association within the real world and is a product o...
Just a few I wrote lately. It's possible, although you might not always end up with 'scientific' sources but references to reference guides and blogposts
@Mithrandir the first sentence prevents it from being a 100% try this answer. as I said, more explanations (and sources?) would be nice. also some format-editing..
When someone tries to save face, they are attempting to avoid other people losing respect for them. The scenarios I am referring to are those when someone realises they have done something particularly humiliating, or have been called out publicly on an embarrassing mistake and attempt to downpla...
@Tinkeringbell I know, ahah! I think it means that people should ask even if they're unsure of the legitimacy of the question. SE doesn't say "don't post your shitty questions", it says "put your shitty questions on the appropriate site" xD
@Mithrandir I think that low-quality questions are either because they don't belong to this stack, or it's poorly written / lacks of details or references
In the abovementioned phrase, "bad questions" would be questions you're afraid of asking because they're sensible, or may people assume you're stupid / lack of knowledge
I do flag and comment almost all of their answers because they're too short, lack of explanation and smts are even rude/abusive, but they is a serial answerer
Terrible advice. These old people have got sucked into the world of TV shopping, the OP wants to help wean them off it in a nice way, but you think they should be introduced to the world of selling online? Vulnerable older people could be ripped off by dodgy buyers on Ebay. They might not even have internet access. We are here for interpersonal solutions, not financial advice. — Astralbee1 min ago
If the discussion about the price of caravanning comes up every year but is never resolved, it sounds like there's more going on than the money issue... Is it possible that grandpa wants to caravan but your grandma really doesn't and she brings up the price as a diversion? In any case, I agree with @peufeu: not answerable without knowing what your grandpa's stance is on all this. — AllTheKingsHorses17 secs ago
I'll have to agree with @Kamil and baldPrussian here. Please, for the sake of your friend, figure out the truth here and don't rely on the media blindly. A very dear friend of mine got accused of a horrible crime and lost many friends (one can argue that they were not his friends) as soon as a local newspaper reported about it. Turns out, there is no proof he did it. In fact, there is proof he couldn't have done it, but no one cared reporting that. The poor guy had to move far away for a fresh start, because of something he didn't even do. — Belle-Sophie31 secs ago