The Awkward Silence

avazula

5:13 AM

@Rainbacon you live in the suburbs?

Tinkeringbell

6:29 AM

@Rainbacon Yay!

Extroverted Main Man

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Q: Managing visitors to a terminally hill person

One of my parents, A, is going through the last months of cancer. They are forced in bed at home and constantly taking painkillers to manage the pain. When relatives and friends come to visit, there are situations which are simply exhausting to A, to name a few: Multiple visitors coming over a...

Ælis

Wow, someone just replace all my "they/them" by "he/him"... Now, I'm angry for the rest of the day...

Tinkeringbell

@Ælis On IPS?

If so, please flag :)

brug

@Ælis I'm so sorry

avazula

@Ælis where?

Ælis

6:42 AM

IPS, on my latest question and it's already flagged

avazula

I'm on it

Ælis

Thank you people <3

Tinkeringbell

@avazula Why do you get all the fun flags! :P

avazula

@Tinkeringbell My bootcamp hasn't started yet :p

and I don't find it funny honestly ... rather "blegh"

Tinkeringbell

@avazula Of course it's not funny. I sadly don't think we can do anything... it was a cowardly anonymous edit. I guess this means the trolling has started :(

brug

6:45 AM

:(

Tinkeringbell

Just let us know when something happens. If it's really bad, I'm often around on chat, so raise a flag and ping me to let me know I should check the queue RIGHT NOW! :)

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brug

I know it's hard but try not to let it ruin your day @Ælis. If send you pics of cats but I'm on Mobile. Maybe someone else can oblige? :hugs: <3<3

Tinkeringbell

Not a cat, but hope this helps too ;)

JAD

@brug This, rollback, move on, don't let them get to you

Ælis

Thank you all for all this love, it truly help <3

avazula

6:52 AM

<3

Ælis

@Tinkeringbell @avazula @EmC @AJ If you see another vandalism (edit/answer/comment) linked to the MSE stuff, don't ask me, just remove the question from HNQ. I really don't need MSE troll on IPS

A J

@Ælis Sure. Just raise a flag if you see anything wrong and we will take care of it. :)

dhein

Morning :)

A J

Afternoon!

CaldeiraG

7:35 AM

Morning :D

@Tinkeringbell Aw, so cute :D

CaldeiraG

7:57 AM

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A: Today's inappropriate ad: Playboy model on Biology

Every time you post one of these, I think: The Twitter/HNQ incident was caused by the question title, "How do I tell students at a school I volunteer at to stop flirting with me?" appearing on the sidebar. That text was considered so awful that an immediate change had to be made so that there w...

Tinkeringbell

8:12 AM

@CaldeiraG I don't see how Sonic's title is the one people remember, the first title that Tweet mentioned was worse, IMO.

Or at least, the combination of the two showing up together was bad, not just that one.

Tinkeringbell

8:23 AM

Fixed it... :/

Tinkeringbell

8:51 AM

hey brug, are you up very late or sleepchatting?

CaldeiraG

@Tinkeringbell Probably they didn't took the time to look at the meta post

Tinkeringbell

@CaldeiraG Lot of people don't, yet think they know everything. They even bypass the fact that IPS had been grumpy about being on HNQ for a long while too, just for the convenience of a good rant.

I didn't feel like rewriting the entire answer though.

CaldeiraG

9:07 AM

@Tinkeringbell :\ yea

JAD

@Tinkeringbell The HNQ issue wasn't the only instance of TDD though

Tinkeringbell

9:33 AM

@JAD I don't remember the entire answer by now, but I felt it was the only one mentioned there?

Tinkeringbell

10:10 AM

twitter.com/smolrobots/status/1184046503914016769?s=20 < Because I know some people in here can use those :)

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Ælis

→ 13 messages moved to Trash

Poof

Tinkeringbell

Apparently we're not having that discussion, @user58 :P

Ælis

Now we can focus on this cute post by @Tink :p

@Tinkeringbell Go to the closet -> []

Tinkeringbell

@Ælis But but I don't like hiding in closets!

user58

It's okay, I apparently spoke too soon about feeling better, and so now I'm directing soup creation from the couch. Peak... something.

Tinkeringbell

10:15 AM

Ouch... I hope you do feel better soon, and that the soup turns out tolerable :P

user58

Hopefully. The person making it is 11, so... we'll see.

Ælis

@Tinkeringbell There was too many negative stuff, you should post more giant rabbits if you want to have those serious discussions here :p

Tinkeringbell

@user58 Pretty heavy responsibility, but 11 year olds can do a lot if needed ;)

Ælis

@user58 :/ <3 See @Tink, I knew this room needed more cuteness to help people feel better!

user58

My small robots sweatshirt should be arriving with my grandmother in a couple months. ;)

Tinkeringbell

10:19 AM

@user58 Nice! I ordered 4 new shirts this weekend, I think they'll be arriving tomorrow. I hope they're warm and thick, not see-through thin.

Ælis

@user58 Oh, that sounds nice! Do you have a picture of what they will look like?

user58

Yeah, let's see if I can dig it up

Ælis

Ahah, so punk!

user58

I wear a lot of black, so it suits me ;)

Ælis

I see you aren't one of those rainbow punk, then (note: nothing wrong with being a rainbow punk or a dark one). Your avatar is kind of misleading about that :p

user58

10:28 AM

If I tried to be a rainbow punk my parents would kick me out of the house :P

Ælis

Are your parent strickly dark punk? :p

user58

More button-down shirt every day....

Ælis

A little less fun then :/

user58

On a brighter note, last week was the second time in a month that I was at someone's place and their dog just decided to sit on me. Apparently dogs like me. :D I'm not usually around many dogs, so that's a surprise.

Ælis

\o/

It's always nice when you discover that some random animal likes you. I find it very gratifying (note that it also works with baby humans too ^^)

user58

10:37 AM

I have less luck with small humans. :(

Tinkeringbell

@Ælis baby humans? Please... If they start liking me, I'm running!

Journeyman Geek

@user58 i once wasa visiting a friend and crashing on his couch in a sleeping bag....

his husky lab cross decided I was comfy///

Ælis

@Tinkeringbell That's assuming they won't catch a hand of your hair :p Baby humans do like to grab and they seem to looooove grabbing hair :p

user58

That sounds like.... not a small dog, too. It was probably warm! :P

Journeyman Geek

@user58 My parents complain I wear too much black ;p

Tinkeringbell

10:39 AM

@Ælis Oh, yeah... well, I can do without a few hairs, I guess...

JAD

@Tinkeringbell there it was

Tinkeringbell

10:56 AM

@JAD Okay, great. Then I don't need to open it again to look :)

brug

@Tinkeringbell I do

@Tinkeringbell I had woken up in the middle of the night

Tinkeringbell

11:15 AM

Ah, yeah... I do that too sometimes ;)

(waking up)

brug

yeah I fell asleep extra early when I was putting the kids to bed

wich almost always means waking up in the middle of the night

Tinkeringbell

Ah, childhood bedtime times. Those were great, it should be socially acceptable to keep those up as an adult. :D

brug

You couldn't make me go to bed at 8 at gunpoint. >< I'm a night owl.

That is one thing I am not nostalgiac about.

I've done 9 different anime girl representations of myself network wide so far.

Tinkeringbell

@brug Oh, I'd love to go to bed at 8 each day, and then wake up at 8 too... Those were times! :D (I'm really not a nightowl, unless drunk. Then I end up watching documentaries till 2AM)

brug

@Tinkeringbell That is an interesting side-effect to drinking. I used to just cry and put holes in walls.

Tinkeringbell

11:28 AM

@brug You don't sound like a fun or mellow drunk. :(

The documentaries are usually just because I drink on weekends, but my parents often watch tv too, so if I want to watch something for myself, I can only put it on after they've gone to bed.

brug

@Tinkeringbell That's part of the reason I quit drinking in 2011

Tinkeringbell

@brug Sounds like you made the right decision there :)

(If you feel we should talk less about drinking in here, lemme know)

brug

@Tinkeringbell unwaveringly

@Tinkeringbell No, it doesn't bother me

Tinkeringbell

@brug That must've taken quite a lot of effort :) I have family that failed a few times.

brug

I worked in bars until last year

It was not easy

Tinkeringbell

11:30 AM

@brug Oh. Yeah, that sounds like playing with fire.

brug

@Tinkeringbell Only literally because I was a chef

Tinkeringbell

@brug Hahaha XD

brug

I think fire is the thing I will miss the most

Tinkeringbell

Get a fire pit? :D

brug

I might just

Tinkeringbell

11:32 AM

I like bonfires/campfires. I don't like how I smell after, but I love just being outside and the feeling of a warm fire :)

brug

I like the feeling of heat on my hands

Tinkeringbell

We don't have a fire pit though, so I'll have to make do with 1 bonfire at New Year's Eve each year. We light that one to get rid of all the cardboard from the fireworks.

brug

hahaha still sounds fun

Tinkeringbell

It is!

Just takes quite some time sometimes before it is started though... I guess I'll miss it once I have my own place :P Then, bedtime on New Year's Eve will be at 8! XD

brug

yeah whenever we finally manage to have a house of our own I would like to build a fire pit

Tinkeringbell

11:34 AM

Sounds good!

It'll happen someday. :)

brug

I also want a lot of other things

A garage

a library

a kitchen decked to the nines

a patio

a moat

okay maybe not a moat

Tinkeringbell

You're kidding right? A moat should be on top of the list! :P

brug

So the thing about a moat is. It sorta makes you an elitist a** h*le to have one.

Or otherwise I would

Tinkeringbell

I'm getting a small apartment: Bedroom, bathroom (with bathtub) and room for a washing/drying machine, living room/kitchen (not decked to the nines, but with all the basics) ... and a front and back garden + bike shed :D

It's small, but it'll be all mine :D

brug

That's nice

Tinkeringbell

11:39 AM

@brug Who cares what people think? :D

As long as you know you're not the elitist a-hole, that should be fine :D

brug

My ideal kitchen is not something I could ever afford. I'm thinking something you would find in a commercial resaurant

meh. I would think of myself as an elitist a-hole if I had a moat

Tinkeringbell

Yeah, okay... your own opinion of yourself is kinda important ;)

@brug But you'd have to keep it clean, and also use it to not feel like you've wasted a bunch of money on just being fancy! That's why my kitchen block is going to be small, but functional ;)

I don't like cleaning :P

brug

I don't like cleaning either. But I have kids. I can just delegate the cleaning to them.

But yes it would be a massive waste of money

No one needs a 100,000$ kitchen designed to produce food for 300-500 people a day for their own home use.

And when I put it that way it sounds more elitist than a moat

Tinkeringbell

XD So switch the kitchen for a moat? :D

brug

Well I'm poor so I'm just gonna go with neither for now

Tinkeringbell

11:48 AM

:(

Though it's always better to focus on essentials first ;) I've known people that couldn't budget that way, never ends well...

brug

well one thing being poor has taught me is how to budget

Tinkeringbell

Yeah, it's the first thing you learn... I've seen my parents financial situation get better with the years (as us kids grew older). I've picked up way more budgeting skills from mom than my 10 year younger brother did, I'm also a lot more likely to go 'I don't really need this right now'.

brug

I should stop throwing the word poor around. I'm not that bad off. My wife is in grad school and I am an undergrad. So neither of us works full time and money is tight.

Tinkeringbell

Poor is good, easy word though :)

brug

I could also get a job as a kitchen manager pretty quickly if we got desperate and that would put us in a decent financial situation.

Tinkeringbell

11:53 AM

That's always nice, to know there's that fallback :)

But as long as you can live with tight, perhaps more time to study is nice too :)

brug

yes.

A CS degree will pay dividends in the long run

Tinkeringbell

I've heard they really do over there, yes!

brug

Also once I come out of the closet I won't want/be able to do food service much longer

Tinkeringbell

I can imagine that...

brug

I also got out of food because it took me away from the kids

working nights and weekends while they are in school during the day meant I never saw them

Tinkeringbell

11:57 AM

Yeah, that's why my mom stopped working as a nurse -but for a home with elderly people- when she got pregnant with me. She didn't want to have to work nights and weekends, and wanted to be home for the kids. I must say, now that I'm older I appreciate it sooo much! I always had someone to talk to if I had a really bad or great day :)

brug

yeah I love being home with the kids

Tinkeringbell

(They might not think the same way about it for a long time though :P)

brug

They might not

Tinkeringbell

I used to find it annoying that I couldn't just storm off to my room, could only take 1 piece of candy, only had 1 hour of PC time... That kinda stuff :P

There's no control on that if your parents aren't home ;)

brug

Well I do allow the just storm off to their room.

Tinkeringbell

12:01 PM

Without wiping their feet, taking off their shoes, hanging up their jackets, saying hi, and having something to drink first? :P

brug

I know for myself that sometimes I get too angry to engage productively and disengaging and reengaging later is the best approach.

ohh I see what you mean

I thought you meant storming off mid-argument

Tinkeringbell

Oh, sorry. No... though that often wasn't allowed over here either... you just sat out mom/dad's sermons then went upstairs quietly.

brug

ohh I have to take my daughter to school and then go to work.

Talk to you later.

Tinkeringbell

Have a good day!

See ya :)

Extroverted Main Man

12:19 PM

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Q: How can I respond to people that question my autism?

I've got autism. This means, in simple terms, that I have more brain-connections, which means I can easily get overstimulated. My brain uses more resources than for most people, which means I get tired faster. In very rare cases I can have an autistic meltdown, where some parts of my brain, like ...

approach netherlands autism-spectrum requests

dhein

@Tinkeringbell not the swimming house anymore? That would kinda include a moat :P

Tinkeringbell

@dhein Nope, I went for something I could actually pay :P

dhein

Something you can afford? And I thought you are of the wild sort :P

Tinkeringbell

Hahaha yeah, but read up a bit, like here :P Some habits die hard ;)

dhein

@ExtrovertedMainMan Any one able to give some suggestions to make it not so broad, without making it a dup of the related post? I can't really find it, despite the core of the OP looks so legit to me.

Tinkeringbell

12:30 PM

I think Ælis' comment is quite right: We can probably help better with the specific situation (e.g. a sensory issue not being taken seriously) than the whole broad 'you don't look autistic', as there's already a question on that. Or Belle should clarify in her question why the answers there don't help here (why their question is different)...

@Belle we're discussing your question here, if you find chatting easier than comments, please drop by :)

Ælis

@Tinkeringbell I forgot you could super-ping users ^^

Tinkeringbell

@Ælis Belle has been by this room before, if I remember correctly :) I wouldn't do this to random users ;)

Ælis

@Tinkeringbell Yeah, I know, I remember them too :)

Hum, I should have check their profile, they use "they" now ^^

Tinkeringbell

Fixed it for you ;)

Ælis

Nice, thanks! :D

CaldeiraG

12:38 PM

How can I improve this comment?

"Be in mind that frame challenges require higher standards. Here is a meta post on how to make a good frame challenge."

i need more on higher standards lol

seems unnatural to me

Tinkeringbell

Why not just skip the first part, and use the characters to point to the bits from 'meta post' that the answer seems to be lacking?

E.g. "You haven't explained/backed up why OPs original suggested approach won't work", "You haven't included an alternative that might reach the same goals in the end", that kind of stuff.

(Also, switch our 'you' for 'this answer', makes it less personal)

CaldeiraG

I can't make a position on why it won't work out (i'm not in the autism spectrum)

But the answer already lacks backup and it's on edge of Interpersonal skills

Belle

Hi :)

CaldeiraG

Hello @Belle :)

Belle

Talking about my question, ey? How is everyone?

CaldeiraG

12:48 PM

@Belle You're on the spotlight now :p, I'm good thanks, what about you?

Ælis

@Belle Hey there \o/ Nice to see you here!

Belle

And reading my profile! I feel watched :P

Ælis

Hehe :p

Did you saw my comment? I don't want it hanging around for too look, it set a bad example :p

Belle

Yeah I did :) gave it a cheeky upvote. You can delete it now if you wish.

CaldeiraG

@Belle Actually I only checked now, Typescript and ASP.NET, good stuff

Ælis

12:50 PM

@Belle Poof

Belle

Even better: I got a new job! I'm leaving this [ place that I do not have nice memories of ] at the end of next week! -does a little dance-

Ælis

@Belle Wohoooo! Congrats!!!

Belle

Imagine something more offensive between the brackets

Ælis

What is the new job about?

@Belle Something related to excrement, maybe? :p

Belle

Thanks :D Basically the same thing. Still Typescript and ASP.NET. It's a similar product in a different niche.

It just doesn't have that colleague who harassed me, it doesn't have that boss that turned a blind eye to the harassment, it has flexible working hours and it pays 30% more, so it's infinitely better.

CaldeiraG

12:55 PM

@Belle \o/

Ælis

@Belle I'm really glad to hear that. Harassment is... <%!@çù!!;<?

Ælis

1:24 PM

My presentation meeting was cancelled \o/ (I'm feeling a bit sick today, so if I don't have to do a presentation, it's all for the best)

Tinkeringbell

@Belle Looks much better!

Ælis

1:52 PM

@Rainbacon You were wrong, the comment is still here ^^' So, on behaf off @Tinkeringbell, could you all flag this as No Longuer Needed?

ankii

\o

unsigned char (*colors)[4]; what is being done here due to the brackets? c

What is the type of colors? What is the type of *colors?

stackoverflow.com/questions/3382951/int-p-4 Ah found it.. I should have searched it with standard variable names. a and p

cdecl.org and this is lovely!

Belle

I'm dumbstruck interpersonal.stackexchange.com/a/23174/12101

Ælis

2:08 PM

@Belle I may try to write a good answer later if those one keep piling on (especially since they are bad frame challenge with no back up)

Belle

@Ælis I'm going to steal your phrase

Ælis

Haha, feel free to do so :D

Belle

There :) I'm trying to be less of a doormat.

That's getting downvotes fast

Oh, it's gone now.

CaldeiraG

2:28 PM

Opinions on this?

@CaldeiraG It is different because it doesn't pre se invite a counter example or arguments to otherwise. I still might happen, and then you have to interrupt and repeat - "I am sorry, but it is not a headache" and repeat the assertion (not the argument) that the issue (the behaviour) is causing discomfort. Any attempt at tying it to a causal relationship is more likely to invoke argument than not. The assertion can be strengthened further, but that is borderline confrontational, which the OP seems to want to avoid. "I need you to stop wearing scents, it is causing me discomfort..." — Stian Yttervik 15 mins ago

Rainbacon

@avazula Not exactly. I live in Brooklyn, which happens to be the part of long island that is part of NYC

user58

now I'm going to read everything you write with a strong Brooklyn accent

Belle

Did they delete and undelete their question just to reply to me?

scohe001

2:45 PM

Oof sounds like things have not been fun here recently :/

In @AJ fashion: What do you call a cow who never learned how to jump?

Belle

@scohe001 Don't leave us hanging for the clue now!

scohe001

Ground beef :p

Belle

........................................... XD

scohe001

Lol

Theik

I was in the process of deleting the question and undeleted when I realized you had responded while I was doing so to reply.

avazula

2:53 PM

@Rainbacon erh... I have a friend who's in NYC for a 2 weeks conference. I'm so jealous! I want to discover your country so badly!

user58

Please. One @AJ is enough.

A J

@scohe001 lol

@scohe001 What do you call the person who is the first in OO program of MI7 and loves to crack lame jokes? ;P

scohe001

@AJ ???

A J

Scohe 001

scohe001

LOL that was perfect I'm dying

A J

3:01 PM

Have you watched James Bond movies? Any one?

scohe001

I've seen bits and pieces over the years, but I don't think I've seen one all the way through

(I'm not a big movie person, unfortunately)

A J

Ohh

scohe001

I'm familiar enough to get the 007 joke tho lol

A J

Good.

avazula

@scohe001 omg I'm not the only one... thanks!

user58

3:04 PM

@AJ not a one

A J

Hmm

I know you are not a movie person. :P

scohe001

@avazula you're welcome! All my lack of movie watching is for you<3

avazula

@scohe001 yay :D

I'm on my second day of Angular bootcamp ... I'm so tired and I don't like frontend ... ugh :p

CaldeiraG

@avazula Angular is not bad :p

it's frontend though :p

Belle

@avazula -sarcasm on- but but you’re a woman!

avazula

3:18 PM

@Belle why's that sarcastic? Like "I'm a woman so I can't code"? :p

Belle

@avazula all women coders do/love frontend

avazula

@Belle oh. In that case I'm not a woman :D

#assemblyFTW

#ILikeMyLanguagesFunctional

#OhGodSegmentationFault

Belle

I’m learning Blazor :)

avazula

I had to Google that

Tinkeringbell

@avazula "Woman" here means married, 6 kids, van, husband working, you spend your days cleaning your house until it looks like a showroom, including the mess from your kids, and the highlight of your week is the church woman only prayer group and the gossip exchanged when you drop your kids off at school or are grocery shopping. I'm female, but not a woman!

Belle

3:22 PM

It uses webassembly. Cool stuff.

avazula

@Tinkeringbell o_o

Tinkeringbell

Small rant in between :P

avazula

Nothing in this sounds attractive to me

Tinkeringbell

Oh, it sounds like a perfect life to me /s

avazula

I'm not blaming those for whom it may sound nice though :)

Theik

3:24 PM

In what part of the Netherlands is that the definition of woman? :P

avazula

@Tinkeringbell well, you bought a house, you're not far from this /s :D

Tinkeringbell

@Theik Bible belt.

Theik

Yeah fair enough, I figured as much. :P

Tinkeringbell

@avazula Note that the married comes before the kids :P

I prefer the house, but I'm not even thinking about starting point 1 there ;)

user58

You're actively not thinking about it, IIRC ;)

avazula

3:25 PM

@Tinkeringbell is there any other way? :O

Belle

I somehow ended up in a facebook group for housewives. I'm not entirely sure how that happened and I do not feel comfortable in there.

avazula

one of my friends said this this weekend: "My husband is becoming an engineer soon. Once he is, I'm gonna stop working and enjoy my time taking care of the house". I smiled, but I was mentally like ... "oh no ... I would go nuts"

And I'm an engineer! And so is Mr Ava!

~~I guess one never has too much money~~ ahem

Theik

Being home all day is fine as long as you have enough hobby projects to keep you sane. :P

Tinkeringbell

@avazula Ya know.. whispers you could have kids without being married first, or ever looks disgusted and horrified :P

avazula

:O

Belle

3:29 PM

@Tinkeringbell no one needs to know you're not married ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

Rainbacon

@avazula I hope you get to come sometime

Tinkeringbell

@avazula Don't get me wrong, I had a conversation with brug this morning where I stated my appreciation that mom never just dumped me at a daycare ;) So yeah, I do appreciate the 'raise the kids you put into this world yourself' attitude, and if there's one parent that wants to do all of that, fine! What I don't really like is that you're also supposed to keep your house spotless (with kids!) or have 6 of them to be taken seriously ;)

avazula

@Rainbacon I really hope so too. Maybe next summer. I'm thinking about it. :D

Tinkeringbell

@Belle Impossible! We're talking bible belt levels of gossip.

Theik

You could always move to any other part of the Netherlands where people are slightly more sane. :P

Tinkeringbell

3:33 PM

@Theik Ehhh... I just bought an apartment at the same village I grew up in ;) But it's a newly built area of the village, and we're on bible belt edge, so it'll be fine ;-)

Belle

I live in the bible belt. It's fine.

Tinkeringbell

@Belle It has it's charms, and I'm exaggerating a bit, yeah ;)

Theik

Eindhoven is where it's at. But I might be slightly biased. xD

Belle

Don't try driving in some of the villages on Sunday though! Zaamslag is pretty bad.

Fiancé just called me from work and asked me what we're having for dinner. "Nothing" was not an acceptable answer. Guess I'll have to go shopping.

avazula

:(

Takeout?

Tinkeringbell

3:39 PM

@Theik Eindhoven is very nice! I worked there for a year or two, very nice people and coworkers :)

Theik

3:50 PM

Your taste in cities is spot on. :D

Tinkeringbell

Thanks! :D

Talking about Eindhoven kinda killed the conversation though :P

CaldeiraG

3

Woah, that's a big picture xD

Tinkeringbell

CUTE!

It can stay big :)

Em C

less happy topic, does anyone know of a place I can ask people to r/a flag main meta posts that need it.. there's one I flagged/commented on and am concerned it's still up :/

scohe001

4:05 PM

@EmC on Meta.SE?

Em C

yeah

scohe001

Okay, cuz I was gonna say, if it's IPS...idk if you should be asking...

Em C

haha, if that were the case it wouldn't still be up ;)

Tinkeringbell

@EmC How long ago was this? :/ I think you'd need the Tavern, and do an 'eyeballs please' in there...

Em C

@Tinkeringbell it was posted 5 hrs ago, I flagged/commented ~45 mins ago :/

Tavern is scary though :P (ok, I'll check it out)

Ælis

4:07 PM

@EmC I usually just ask here ^^

Tinkeringbell

Oh... probably not a very worrying response time then, given current circumstances.

Tavern used to be good folk recently.

scohe001

@Tinkeringbell used to be? :O

Guh. I can't use that without thinking of the conversation yesterday

Em C

oh my comment is more about me being nervous to drop into unfamiliar chatrooms :P I'm sure they're nice ;)

Ælis

As far as I'm concerned, you could ask in any chatroom I'm in and I will be happy to flag r/a stuff. Also, I totally understand you for not wanting to post in The Tavern. I definitively don't feel very safe over there myself

ankii

somebody made a question about people asking others to flag comments in chats, and CMs responding to it etc.

Such targeting comments were edited out later

Em C

4:11 PM

I saw that one

Tinkeringbell

@scohe001 I've read transcripts, just to not completely lose touch with what's happening. Seen some stuff.

But Tavern is generally nice and well-moderated still.

scohe001

:/

Tinkeringbell

50/50 chance stuff will end up okay or not okay. :P

Em C

crosses fingers :P

scohe001

Ahh so it's like starting a conversation with someone on a subway in New York then

ankii

4:15 PM

@brug is so less confusing.. I used to read it brug-el-sco, not brug-le-sco. ;p

Tinkeringbell

@scohe001 Something like that :D

scohe001

bruglescohe001? The ultimate punner?

ankii

@scohe001 not specific to NY is it.. ? xd

Tinkeringbell

Though I've never been on a New York subway xd

Ælis

@scohe001 You people can actually talk in subway??? :O

scohe001

4:16 PM

@Tinkeringbell neither have I, but I've seen enough movies :p

@Ælis I learned recently that apparently it's a faux pas to do so in Japan! But not America :(

Tinkeringbell

@ankii Do be a bit careful with those kinds of messages. Usually people change their names for a reason, and don't like chat transcripts where their old name can easily be found. If I'm asked to delete this by brug, I will ;)

Em C

@scohe001 ... New York, maybe. my experience so far is that Bostonians keep to ourselves ;P

Ælis

@scohe001 Well, then Japan is a bit like France on that. Only people with a bad sense of etiquette do that however here. It's more ok in trains, though

@brug Funny, anytime I shorten your username in my mind, it was to use "bru" not "brug". (also, fun fact, "bru" mean "daughter-in-law" in old French :p )

brug

@ankii I'm planning to phase the name out entirely even though I like it and have had it for 15 years. Ending a name with an o is coded masculine in my culture (and many others)

@Ælis I like that <3

You totally made my day a little better

Ælis

blush Glad to hear :D <3

ankii

4:39 PM

@Tinkeringbell I commented on the trim (just as I received some on mine ^^).

oh she's on a break from chat.

Ælis

@ankii Probably(?) on her way to the train ^^

Belle

Back from the shop. With pizza! :D

ankii

@Belle I returned with espresso! far less enjoyable

Belle

I picked up a new hobby recently. Diamond painting. At first I hated it, because it's neither diamonds nor painting. Now I'm okay with it.

ankii

like colouring the diamonds?

or drawing them on paper?

Ælis

4:42 PM

@Belle Nice! I do love pizza :D (and pasta... I guess I love Italian food a little too much :p )

@Belle So, what is it, then? Oo

Belle

@Ælis sticking sparkly plastics on a sticky sheet. Doesn't sound as flashy though.

Em C

so the tavern resulted in a couple more downvotes but it's still up and they moved on to being snarky about the whole situation ._. this is the post I was talking about, if anyone else thinks it needs r/a flags

Ælis

@EmC Too bad I already flagged it this morning :/

Em C

@Belle oh that sounds interesting! do you have any pictures? :)

@Ælis welp :(

Ælis

@Belle There is way too much "s" in this sentence :p

ankii

4:54 PM

interpersonal.stackexchange.com/questions/23158/… [tag:reopen?]

smh for the tag

Belle