The Awkward Silence

but theres this whisper in the back of my head of an old partner pointing out that with this kind of haircut I look like I could be an officer on the losing end of WWII

lol, thanks chat, I can say things here that I'm not sure I want to put into the head of anybody I know in real life

ElizB

my little brother has a similar haircut, it looks good on him

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Extroverted Main Man

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Q: How do you ask your sister to stop sucking her thumb all the time?

Suppose you have a sister who keeps sucking her thumb at age of 14, and you really get pissed off every time you caught her doing this disguising thing. And you can’t even sleep with her because you can’t rely on her that she doesn’t suck anymore her thumb. Question: How you’d so that you can st...

scohe001

7:23 PM

@avazula is this from some of your comics? I love your style!

avazula

@scohe001 nah, it's part of a drawing I did where I represented myself according to how people saw me

This is the "what I'd look like according to my music tastes" me

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this is the "at work" part

when at home

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Mithrandir

those are... rather awesome

avazula

and pretty much what I look like IRL

scohe001

@avazula daaaaaang I love it! Drawing avazula is a total cutie!!

I love the dress design in that first one

ElizB

@avazula That's something similar to what I am wearing right now- just fleece sweatshirt and sweatpants, sinuses full, working on a take home midterm

avazula

7:26 PM

blushes ... thanks guys :D

Noon

@avazula Yeap, those drawing are really cool!

ElizB

They all look really good!

avazula

@ElizB oh no, your cold got worse :(

ElizB

@avazula it's mostly the same-ish.

avazula

:o compliments overload

Mithrandir

7:26 PM

commissions @avazula to draw representations of everyone in the room :P

scohe001

@Mithrandir but like actually tho^^

Noon

@Mithrandir +100!

avazula

@Mithrandir I'd love to!

even according to descriptions :p

Mithrandir

I'd prefer to just see what you think we look like based on the way we chat... :D

ElizB

I think my care routine has helped it not make my cold any worse, basically kicking the virus out of my throat and up into my sinuses, which i can handle better. I would rather have sinuses filled than a painful sore throat

avazula

7:28 PM

@Mithrandir Erh, I actually know how some look like IRL :p

scohe001

@avazula haha it'd be super interesting to see what you imagine us as...and how many genders you get wrong :P

ElizB

@Mithrandir I'd be interested in that haha

Mithrandir

@avazula that works too... :P

avazula

BRB my mom is calling me

Noon

@Mithrandir I would more go for the "drawing us the way your avatar looks like" :D

I would love to see scohe represented as a yellow square :P

Mithrandir

7:29 PM

plot twist: that's what scohe looks like IRL

ElizB

hahaha

scohe001

Shhh @mith don't tell them all my secrets!!

Little do you all know, I'm a square IRL. That's why I need IPS

Loong

@Mithrandir What do you mean?

Noon

@Loong :O

avazula

@scohe001 I actually have no idea what's your gender

Noon

7:34 PM

@avazula That's because square don't have gender :P

avazula

@Noon hahaha

@Mithrandir but people won't get offended if I assume wrong?

scohe001

@avazula haha I've tried to keep it ambiguous here when I can--gotta keep up the square appearances and all :p

Mithrandir

@avazula I personally wouldn't

avazula

@scohe001 hahaha, okay. I don't really understand but I respect that :p

@Mithrandir okay, great then :) but assumed from your avatars, I'd surely draw you like a girl. But with Mith's beard.

Mithrandir

sounds good

avazula

7:38 PM

:D

scohe001

@avazula I find it interesting to see what other ppl assume from how I act and talk. If you're really curious, I could tell you lol

Mithrandir

@scohe001 I assume because of the noise, being next to someone making a noise like that could be disturbing

Noon

@avazula Note that you don't have to make it obvious one way or another

Mithrandir

but that question will definitely need some fleshing out

avazula

@Noon Theoretically, that's true. Practically, I'm not good at drawing masculine traits :p I'm mostly used to draw female-like characters, so ...

@scohe001 I'm not :) but if you are, I could tell you what gender I think you are ^^

Mithrandir

7:42 PM

so if you draw a masculine figure it'll come out ambiguous! xD

scohe001

@Mithrandir ahh I read it as "I can't sleeping knowing that she may be doing that" but I can see how your interpretation probably makes more sense

avazula

@Mithrandir "so ... masculine figure is like... a feminine figure with a beard? Got it, chief!" xD

scohe001

@avazula haha I'd love to hear your guess!

Noon

@avazula Well then, let's make everyone female \o/ (or avatar-like, I really like my avatar-like suggestion :P )

Mithrandir

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avazula

7:43 PM

I actually assumed for a very long time that I was a lesbian because I would only look at women and only draw women-alike figures

ElizB

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scohe001

@avazula when you can draw them that well^^ I don't blame you for not drawing any men :P

avazula

@scohe001 Well, based on our conversations I actually think you're a non-binary man (I hope non-binary isn't a offensive way of saying?)

@Noon And then I'd draw you as a tree? :D

Noon

@avazula Exactly!

avazula

Haha. Be warned, though: I tend to dye everyone's hair!

scohe001

7:47 PM

@avazula pshh I asked a stranger on the internet what they thought of me, how could I be offended? :P You've got the "man" part right, just not the non-binary. Good guess!

avazula

Noon

@avazula Well, I really like dye hair, so that's fine by me :D

avazula

@scohe001 Please don't take it personally for the non binary part. I don't know any non-binary person expect for my mom, so it's kinda "new" for me :)

Noon

@avazula Nice drawing! Is it suppose to be someone?

avazula

@Noon Yay! :D I'm soooo jealous, my sisters both dyed their hair when entering college last month, and I'm the only stupid one not daring to dye mine because I'm afraid of my bosses' opinions. That sucks!

Mithrandir

7:49 PM

@avazula aha, this seems like a good time to introduce you to @Ash :D

scohe001

@avazula not offended at all! Though I'm a little curious why you thought so if you don't mind me asking. (I'm also not too knowledgeable on non-binary genders so this is interesting for me)

avazula

@Mithrandir I think I follow them on Twitter :)

Noon

@avazula In the past, I had my hair dye with red highlights :D (I did it twice put it cost a lot)

avazula

@scohe001 That's ok, I don't think I'm binary either :p well, nothing specifically, I'd say that my intuition suggested you were a male. Then for the binary part, I relied on the fact that 1) to my knowledge, statistics are that more people claim to be binary, and 2) you never mentioned non-binarity, and I think that people who are sensitive to those topics generally talk about it. But as you said, you'd like to keep a bit of anonymity over here and I totally get that :D

@Noon Wooh!

I'd like to dye my hair blue (or pink) so badly

@Mithrandir I admire Ash. They seem like a great person and I love their contributions to SE sites.

scohe001

@avazula haha the anonymity is more of a type of social experiment than a need to hide personal info. But that's interesting. I'll have to read more into non-binary stuff!

Mithrandir

7:55 PM

@avazula *emphatic nod*

Noon

@avazula I get that, I would love for it to be easy to change hair color, I would have a lot of fun doing it (I would also love if semi-permanent tatoo existed, being able to draw things on yourself and remove them when you don't want them anymore would be really cool!)

avazula

@scohe001 Oh, my bad, I said I thought you were non binary yet I'd have said you are, sorry! Now it makes more sense regarding to what I said after haha

@Noon Heh, some dye brands sell synthetic strands of different, funky colors :D

@Noon That's funny, all my tattoos were "mistakes" haha

Noon

@avazula Ouch, do you regret them a lot?

avazula

@Noon not at all! :D The latest I got, I asked the artist "I'd like something along those lines", "Okay" he said, then one week before the tatoo he sends the drawing, it was completely different, I was surprised then I said, "heh. Nevermind" and got it anyway. Never. Regretted. It. :p

scohe001

@avazula ehhh? You've got me all confused now lol

avazula

8:00 PM

@scohe001 I always thought you were a binary man :p

@Noon do you wanna see it?

Mithrandir

@avazula So... non-non-binary?

Noon

@avazula I would love to!

avazula

@Mithrandir @scohe001 Is cis-man the right way to say it?

@Noon Here it goes:

Mithrandir

yes

user15026

@Mithrandir curious headtilt

avazula

8:01 PM

@Mithrandir Then that's what I thought, scohe :)

user15026

Oh, the enby thing, gotcha

scohe001

@avazula ahh then you hit the nail on the head!

avazula

@Noon: i.stack.imgur.com/4JyGh.jpg

@scohe001 what does that mean you american person? :p

Mithrandir

@avazula "you got it right 100%"

scohe001

@avazula haha means you're exactly right!

avazula

8:03 PM

Haha, ok guys :p

Noon

@avazula Wahoo, that's beautiful!

avazula

I thought it meant something like "aaaand then you confused me even more" haha

@Noon Heh, see? That's why I didn't regret :D

Noon

@avazula I totaly understand that!

avazula

Ugh, you guys, now I wanna draw you :(

's gonna be a lot of work :p

Mithrandir

;D

scohe001

8:09 PM

@avazula I'm down to send you a picture! I've always loved caricatures

avazula

@scohe001 Erh, don't bother, I'm terrible at it :/

But I could do with a description :D

Mithrandir

"16 years old, thick curly hair, glasses"

"might use picture as avatar"

scohe001

"Not a square"

"Most of the time"

Mithrandir

"which means totally is a square sometimes"

Loong

@Noon NHQ? NQH?

Mithrandir

8:14 PM

@Loong Not High Quality

:P

scohe001

@Mithrandir I thought they were just botching Hot Network Question

Noon

@Loong It's late, I'm tired >< (thanks for the edit Tink :) )

ElizB

@avazula mine might be easier if you look at my picture, that is pretty accurate :P

Tinkeringbell

@Noon French right? Where new goes before hot? :P

avazula

@ElizB The more accurate the harder for me :)

ElizB

8:17 PM

@avazula oh. :P didn't know that...

avazula

@Tinkeringbell noun always comes first in French indeed :)

@ElizB Heh, you couldn't :D I never told you before.

Noon

@avazula And noon too (sorry, I'm out, don't mind me :P )

ElizB

yeah, thinking about it now it makes sense

avazula

@Noon HAHAHA

@Noon Uggggggh I wanted to draw you with a writing feather but I can't cause it's against your values :p

Noon

@avazula Well, if you found the feather in the nature and didn't still it from an animal, I might be okay with that :P

Introverted Meta Man.

8:25 PM

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Q: Should users be harassed about improving old answers?

I understand the desire/need for moderation and to have a certain standard, but I think going through old posts and asking users to improve answers that are over a year old based on rules implemented months after the answer was posted is ridiculous. Deleting comments replying to said requests ...

discussion

Mithrandir

@IntrovertedMetaMan. dupe of interpersonal.meta.stackexchange.com/questions/2336/…

JAD

I'm not sure if it's asking the same thing tbh

dupe target is about deleting bad old answers

this is about 'harassing'

doppelspooker

that's true

or rather, requesting old answers improve

I think it ought to be edited to remove the "harassment" charge and just ask if users should be requesting revisions to old answers

JAD

@doppelspooker done

I think it was mostly the title

avazula

@Noon are you gonna sleep soon?

Noon

8:36 PM

@avazula Probably, yeah

Why?

avazula

@Noon D: I'm done drawing but I think it'd be better when colored but I really wanna show you haha

Noon

@avazula Well, either you spoil me and show me the coloring after or you wait and I will be exited to see it tomorrow :D

Sandman

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A: Sandbox for Proposed Questions

How to imrpove this question I have this problem with my fiance mother. Most of the time my fiance and her mom fights and scream. They yell and argue and they say bad things. Everyone of them they blame each other, my fiance problem with her mother shes asks lot of questions and she nagsz and so...

Noon

I must admit, now I want to see it NOW :p

avazula

@Noon But it's not readyyyyy :p

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Noon

8:39 PM

@avazula OMG, I love it!

avazula

@Noon Now I need to add some colors :D

scohe001

@avazula damn that's amazing!

avazula

And since Idk your skin color I think you're gonna end up blue

Noon

@avazula Ahah, that's good with me :D

scohe001

I love the little angry smiley that is her clavicles :P

avazula

8:41 PM

@Noon :p

@scohe001 yeah haha

@Noon nah nevermind, I made you pink

blue didn't suit the red hair :D

Noon

@avazula Ahah :P Maybe I will try to computer-colorise that to see how "I" look like in different color, I'm curious now :D

avazula

@Noon that'd be very interesting :)

Noon

@avazula That won't be for today anyway, I was suppose to be asleep a while ago ^^

avazula

@Noon Haha, sorry if I kept you awake :( have a good night! :)

Noon

@avazula I was happy to stay awake for that :D Good night to you too (and to you all, since I'm going now :) )

ElizB

8:49 PM

g'night :)

Extroverted Main Man

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Q: Developer job responsibilities

I am a new developer to the Enterprise world(not anymore now, I've worked with it for about 3 years). There were two people in my spot before I was promoted, one person became my supervisor automatically (he didn't try for it or anything and didn't want it, he says he was just got promoted to...