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Captain Bohemian

2:53 AM

wow! I never understood people with ADHD can't read long articles

I thought it's just the problem of interest of energy.

I thought it's just the problem of interest or energy. I can't easily concentrate when reading an article which is not my interest, so it's not easy for me to finish it if it's too long.

but if the article interests me greatly, I could usually finish reading it even it's long unless I am sleepy or hungry.

Extroverted Main Man

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Q: Who pays for a birthday party?

I've never really had friends, so I've never really celebrated my birthday. This year, though, I wanted to invite my friends out somewhere, perhaps Topgolf [1] (not an advertisement, trying to give impression of price/scale). Do I pay for everyone? Does each pay for him/herself? If it matters, ...

united-states friends parties birthdays

Introverted Meta Man.

3:13 AM

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Q: Can this question be salvaged by editing it?

Communication while setting up an informational interview via email At a glance, this question seems to be asking about "how to phrase my email", which is off-topic here. However, I believe we can edit this to fit the scope of IPS by changing the question to "what are the guidelines to write thi...

discussion specific-question reopen-request

3:57 AM

[ SmokeDetector | MS ] Link at end of answer: How to respond to questions that feel like I have to defend the relationship I'm in? by trong tai han on interpersonal.SE (@Tinkeringbell @dhein)

Introverted Meta Man.

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Q: Is "how to write" off-topic on IPS?

First, you may want to re-read this meta about phrasing request. We have agreed that phrasing request is off-topic. However, I believe that questions that asking "how to write" can be made on-topic by specifically making them asking about the guidelines of writing. These are the recent question...

discussion scope

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Q: Make [off-topic] on-topic

Here in Meta IPS, we have off-topic and scope off-topic has only 10 questions, while scope has 40 questions. Thus, it makes sense to merge off-topic to scope. What do you say?

discussion tag-synonym-request

5 hours later…

8:58 AM

@ExtrovertedMainMan Is paying for a birthday party an Interpersonal skill? Or should I look at it from the etiquette point of view?

Jarko Dubbeldam

kiss her. Maybe that is more clear. Obviously, if she does not want this, stop it. — Tom 6 mins ago

case and point why answers in comments is a horrible idea

@Tinkeringbell I guess it might fall under etiquette, but as it is phrased rn it is POB

@JarkoDubbeldam Yeah, I vtc-ed as well.... I'm not really seeing the Interpersonal Skills aspect there, and do I pay or not is one of those 'make my decision for me' type of questions..

I'm trying to write a good comment to both of those questions

Extroverted Main Man

Recent Questions - Interpersonal Skills Stack E…: how to get out of friend zone and have a gf?

posted on December 04, 2017 by My name is jeff

me and a girl at my work are so close like so close we get out with each other eat with each other we always do things together, but she always say this word "I LOVE YOU BROOOO" and i hate it,so i tried tips like tell her i like you and i love you it never works she always replied i love you too brudda so yeah i hate that word too ,i was wondering if i can get some t…

Jarko Dubbeldam

That's a different format :S

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Q: How to encourage askers to tell the end of the story?

English Student makes a very good point in this answer: Less than 5% of OP's even post an update, I think. It would be nice to know how their problem turned out. On the main stackoverflow, or the electronics one, the asker will usually try proposed solutions and experiment, then post feedba...

feature-request accepted-answer

9:06 AM

@ExtrovertedMainMan I think that may be because it was deleted before picked up?

@NogShine Hi :)

I don't understand how it is an FR. Shouldn't there be a discussion to it ^^

@NogShine Nah, we don't discuss things. We just think 'nice to have, make a FR' :P

I think just the tag is wrong ;-)

Hello @Tinkeringbell !

@NogShine Welcome to my hang-out :P

Jarko Dubbeldam

Lair*

9:12 AM

yesterday, by Tinkeringbell

user image

Thanks for the warm welcome owner!

It can use some more gold :D

@NogShine You're welcome :) But remember: You can checkout any time you like, but you can never leave!

Noted

@NogShine So, any reason you decided to come here? Any good questions you can ask?

in The Screening Room, 22 mins ago, by Tinkeringbell

@AJ You might wanna take a look at all those metas there ;)

@Tinkeringbell This brought me here.

I have a bad history on IPS. :P

I'm a reader here.

9:18 AM

@NogShine Ah :D well, feel very free to take a look and leave a vote :D

@NogShine Why?

@Tinkeringbell I only asked one question here and other one was too broad and closed. Didn't know how I could improve it.

@NogShine Do you still have a link? Or did we delete it during spring clean-up?

(I did that, and didn't leave a comment? Bad me! :P)

It's still there.

You left a comment'

I saw it.

Jarko Dubbeldam

Welp, it's been a while, but time to get back to flagging comments

@NogShine Wow... that's one of my better ones :P So, you can't really answer all the questions there, or part of em at least?

@JarkoDubbeldam Oh yeah, I might have forgotten about that too :P

Jarko Dubbeldam

9:25 AM

I find it surprising that there are some users that are diamondmods elsewhere abusing comments like this :/

@JarkoDubbeldam Well... look at the comments on Movies... very different culture than ours..

@JarkoDubbeldam umm.. are the comments deleted now?

Jarko Dubbeldam

@NogShine I've flagged a bunch

But like Tink said, IPS is pretty strict on answering in comments

whereas places like TWP generally have 5-10 answers in comments under popular questions

Yes, answering in comments is a very bad thing. They won't help the site.

@NogShine Not just answers, I think we delete any chatter not asking for clarification or suggesting improvements...

9:32 AM

as no longer needed? I ~~like~~ love this site comment moderation..

Jarko Dubbeldam

Yeah, I think we might be going a bit too hard on that

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Q: How to turn down 'stay in touch' proposal from manipulative ex-coworker when leaving job/moving?

I recently quit my job, after a three months notice, and I've changed my region of residence (it's like moving to another state in the USA, but the regions are smaller). The last day, when everyone was saying goodbye all along the day, one of them (I thought we were close, but we stopped talking...

friends saying-no socializing france

that question thread is a good example of that would be nuked completely

@NogShine Exactly :D

Just for reference

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A: When should I post an answer and when should I post a comment?

Note: Its important to understand why users post answers as comments and why it's a problem. So I'm including this answer to provide a bit of background and context to this discussion. Some users don't understand the difference between an answer and a comment. The comment text box is the first...

You people might be fully aware of this one ^

Jarko Dubbeldam

didn't see that specific one before

although the why has been reiterated a couple of times already

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Q: Please don't write answers in comments

I've been noticing a trend lately of people writing answers in the comment section. What does this mean? When you write an attempt to solve the OPs question - whether it's a fully fleshed out idea or not - and dump it in the comment box. This is not good. Answers is comments are detrimental to ...

discussion comments

@AnneDaunted: as we already established, the OP added it. But it's irrelevant, hence should be removed. And moreover the question the OP eventually stated (via comments) mutates the original question into something different, like I pointed out above. If the goal is to belatedly some find some repartee for some toxic pattern of behavior that happened 9-12 mths earlier, it doesn't matter much if this is in France, Tahiti or on Mars. — smci Dec 1 at 8:46

Funnny... We have a ton of metas asking people to give their location/culture whenever possible...

Jarko Dubbeldam

9:37 AM

shrug

it's a comment coming from a 107 rep user

Now I don't want to downplay that entirely, but you should take that with a grain of salt

@JarkoDubbeldam 10k on SO ;)

I always stalk a profile a little :P

If the location helps, it is okay to ask.

Jarko Dubbeldam

SO != IPS

@JarkoDubbeldam Yeah I know :)....

Jarko Dubbeldam

It's pretty much comparable to the language tag on SO

although if you don't have one there, your question just gets nuked

9:39 AM

@JarkoDubbeldam True :)... That's why I found it sorta funny in the first place.

Jarko Dubbeldam

If anything, the comments are not the place to fight about that

@JarkoDubbeldam Yes, Robert Cartaino is specific with answering in comments. He deletes answers in comments

10:19 AM

And who is that moderator who is a fan of Robert Downey Jr.?

Jarko Dubbeldam

@NogShine who?

as in, what moderator?

Who put Robert Downey Jr.'s pic for the bots?

only a moderator can put pics and names for the bots

Jarko Dubbeldam

Oh, I didn't even notice

@NogShine I found this meta.... but looks like they were called that by default interpersonal.meta.stackexchange.com/questions/1329/…

So, it's a big mystery ;)

It's gerrit or Zizouz212

10:44 AM

Hey

@Magisch Hello :D

How's life?

Pretty good

done with the coc exam as of last week, got holidays coming up

got a pretty decent savings for presents so that shouldn't be an issue necessarily

Nice :D

I just finished the Sinterklaassuprise yesterday... Did all the shopping. Have money left to spare, so thinking what I'm gonna buy as a treat to myself besides 4 books, new mouse/keyboard/controller and a desk chair :P

Maybe I'll save it all up for fireworks next month..

That will give me an excuse to stay outside and not have to have drinks with the neighbours on new years eve

That reminds me, I still have that question to ask :D brb, writing a question :)

Jarko Dubbeldam

@Tinkeringbell Enjoy it while you can ;)

@JarkoDubbeldam Exactly :D

11:34 AM

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someone is prolific :p

Wait

that is

a spammer

[ SmokeDetector | MS ] Manually reported answer (batch report: post 1 out of 3): How can I convince my 'cousin sister' that the man she loves is of 'bad character?' by Maxwell on interpersonal.SE (@Tinkeringbell @dhein)

[ SmokeDetector | MS ] Manually reported answer (batch report: post 2 out of 3): How to communicate to someone that I want to keep a relationship casual? by Maxwell on interpersonal.SE (@Tinkeringbell @dhein)

[ SmokeDetector | MS ] Manually reported answer (batch report: post 3 out of 3): Is it possible for my friend to resume communication with his unofficial sister without earning her husband's mistrust? by Maxwell on interpersonal.SE (@Tinkeringbell @dhein)

[ SmokeDetector | MS ] Manually reported answer (batch report: post 1 out of 3): Love Confession by Personally Handing Over Handwritten Letter by Maxwell on interpersonal.SE (@Tinkeringbell @dhein)

[ SmokeDetector | MS ] Manually reported answer (batch report: post 2 out of 3): Who pays for a birthday party? by Maxwell on interpersonal.SE (@Tinkeringbell @dhein)

[ SmokeDetector | MS ] Manually reported answer (batch report: post 3 out of 3): How to apologize for sexual harassment in the past? by Maxwell on interpersonal.SE (@Tinkeringbell @dhein)

I flagged them all :)

Jarko Dubbeldam

all but one are nuked by now

all*

I reported all of them to smokey and Glorfindel already blacklisted one website due to it

Jarko Dubbeldam

@Magisch I think you can report users as well

11:39 AM

Oh wait... I missed one

Jarko Dubbeldam

instead of what you did :D

@JarkoDubbeldam Yeah but !!/allspam doesn't autoreport posts iirc

interpersonal.stackexchange.com/a/7569/1599 isn't nuked yet

Jarko Dubbeldam

youre right

Oh I missed that one too

its gone

yay free flags

@JarkoDubbeldam Hahaha :) I got 5, did you get all 6?

Jarko Dubbeldam

11:41 AM

yes

plus another 15 pending lol

I wonder how all of these survived so long

They were like 20+ minutes old when I reported them that is pretty bad for an active site

Jarko Dubbeldam

IPS has been quieter last week

@Magisch it does now, I think

@Magisch I'm always on the newest tab, not the active one. I am also not constantly monitoring the first post queue

Jarko Dubbeldam

@Mithrandir wiki says it doesn't

11:42 AM

wiki is either outdated or we reverted stuff

Jarko Dubbeldam

@Magisch I'm surprised that charcoal didn't catch it

see chat.stackexchange.com/transcript/65945?m=41510458#41510458

How did the furry question conclucde?

I'm at work so can't look atm

@Magisch I think I saw I chat link from Catija to another chatroom, where Shog banned it from HNQ?

yesterday, by Catija

in Tavern on the Meta on Meta Stack Exchange Chat, 21 hours ago, by Shog9

I haven't watched Disney's animated "Robin Hood" since I was a kid, but apparently there's a lot more going on in it than I recall.

in Tavern on the Meta on Meta Stack Exchange Chat, 2 days ago, by 6' white male

This is apparently prompted by that IPS post.

If you click that link, you'll see a mention of it being banned from HNQ

Jarko Dubbeldam

Oh boy oh boy oh boy

we are 1 answer away from 5k!

11:56 AM

@JarkoDubbeldam Hmmm...

Jarko Dubbeldam

Happy we managed to stop that spammer right in his tracks

Oct 5 at 10:21, by SQB

Great. It's our 5000th post. Our 5000th post is a suggestion to get someone laid.

That was an answer to a question of mine ;-)

Jarko Dubbeldam

5k answers though

@JarkoDubbeldam Ah.... :D You had me confused ;)

If only there were good questions to answer ;)

Jarko Dubbeldam

I've been looking for something to answer that I can actually answer for a week now

12:04 PM

*laughs* I'm still finding it funny that my GCI mentor is also a SE mod

@Mithrandir When did you find out? And what site are they moderating? :)

Jarko Dubbeldam

GCI?

Found out... yesterday? When I realized I had seen the name before and Googled them to try to find out ;P

Jarko Dubbeldam

Greater clusterfuck initiation?

Nicolas Raoul ♦

9.8k 6 32 97

gratis open-source android web-apps linux windows library

@JarkoDubbeldam Google Code-In

Jarko Dubbeldam

12:12 PM

Maybe I should double the amount of questions we have with the snoring tag

@JarkoDubbeldam Hahaha ;) What are you thinking of?

What misschief are you up to?

Jarko Dubbeldam

Would it be cultural appropriation if I snore during....

nevermind, can't think of anything witty

but yeah, I have a legitimate question

lol

Is it really offensive to snore in church? :P

Jarko Dubbeldam

Was thinking about that lol

(People fall asleep every time. I can't fall asleep without snoring. Somehow, people keep taking offense :P )

Jarko Dubbeldam

12:14 PM

but no

@JarkoDubbeldam What's the legitimate question then?

(I just can't figure out how to write down my New Year's Eve questions :/)

@Mithrandir Heh. You have something in common to discuss

Maybe you've even seen him in that room nobody talks about :p

@Tinkeringbell That usually indicates airway problems

well, I pinged him in there to say hello ;)

Jarko Dubbeldam

You're at a campsite. Rooms have 4 beds. Your room has two free beds and someone whom you know snores asks whether one bed is still available. How to respond?

Basically to the point of, the last time you shared a room, you couldn't sleep because of the noise

But yeah, falling asleep at a church is offensive. It's a place of reverence, and religious people think of the service as one of the most important things in the world. So yeah they'll be miffed when you can't even summon the attention to stay awake

12:17 PM

@JarkoDubbeldam Hmmm... Well, I've seen one girl get away with a 'Where are you sleeping tonight, then I'll be making sure I'm in the other building' once...

Jarko Dubbeldam

@Magisch that was a joke :p

@Magisch Hmm, when I fell asleep at synagogue the other day nobody got annoyed :P

@Mithrandir You're a kid, you have special consideration in matters of boredom

Jarko Dubbeldam

@Mithrandir different religion, shorter toes? maybe...

When you're an adult, people expect that you stay awake

12:18 PM

I wasn't even bored ;P

I had just stayed up all night, and I was just really tired

@Magisch Huh? The grey ones in our parish were always sleeping during sermons/praying... And yeah, there was one that snored...

(that's what sparked the joke btw ;) )

@Tinkeringbell try to empathize with religious people in that

@Magisch I'm still a Christian, although I'm not currently actively visiting a church on Sundays... But okay, if it's not a good joke, we can trash it...:/

nah

I only now got the entire thing was a joke

awh

So maybe we should trash it so no troll finds it? :D

Because it's not a very obvious joke?

Jarko Dubbeldam

12:21 PM

:shrugs:

(side note: nuuuu Wikimedia Commons app, why is your category search taking so long)

Extroverted Main Man

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Q: What to do when your boss is ambiguous about when to take a ping-pong break?

I am in a relaxed work environment consisting of 4 employers and the boss. We have a ping-pong table and a table-top soccer table, where we can go for 10 minutes with a co-worker to clear our heads. (We work in website development) A while back he scolded me and the co-worker I played with for p...

work-environment denmark

@Tinkeringbell I'm gonna go with I'm dense instead

@Magisch Well, your choice ;)

Jarko Dubbeldam

> So every few months I go away for a weekend with a large group (100 people give or take). We generally sleep in a camphouse, which has dorm-like accomodation with a few bunkbeds per room.

There are a few notorious snorers in the group. Previous experiences have made it so that I would prefer not to sleep in the same room again.

Last time, we arrived early, so we (me and my gf) were the first to claim a room. There were two beds left. Then someone, who is a known snorer, came and asked whether the beds were still available.

thoughts?

12:32 PM

Good to go :D.... you might want to add a 'polite' or 'without causing offense' into the last sentence though, to prevent people saying 'shoot em and hide the body' and that being a valid answer ;)

Jarko Dubbeldam

would shooting someone and hiding their body be offensive to that person?

@JarkoDubbeldam It's definitely not a polite thing to do :P

@JarkoDubbeldam It would be an offensive action, not sure if that's the meaning of offensive you're looking for, though.

Jarko Dubbeldam

:P

I think the answer is 'no, not really, but maybe, it's not all that nice...'

Extroverted Main Man

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Q: How to avoid having a snorer share your dormroom?

So every few months I go away for a weekend with a large group (100 people give or take). We generally sleep in a camphouse, which has dorm-like accomodation with a few bunkbeds per room. There are a few notorious snorers in the group. Previous experiences have made it so that I would prefer not...

politeness netherlands snore

Jarko Dubbeldam

12:40 PM

hey that's me

@JarkoDubbeldam I answered that :D

I think @Magisch had been writing an answer before you even posted the question on main :P Otherwise, you can't reasonably write such a long answer :P

Jarko Dubbeldam

thanks for the edit

I talk in my sleep so I've been on the recieving end of this a couple times

Telling me that you can't sleep in the same room as me is fine and appreciated (as your friend I'm not out to cause you discomfort) but lying to my face is pretty insulting and belittling imo.

@Magisch Very true :)

Jarko Dubbeldam

12:46 PM

hmm

too bad the other one deleted their answer

could've waited till -3 and gotten a badge out of it

@JarkoDubbeldam Yeah, but then you'll have to lose 6 rep for a badge... :P

Jarko Dubbeldam

when you delete you get the rep back though

;)

@Tinkeringbell You get lost rep back when deleting

Oh duh...

Maybe they already have the badge :P

I got mine pretty quick after joining IPS....

Jarko Dubbeldam

I actually left a -1 answer around because I didn't get any further downvotes

12:49 PM

interpersonal.stackexchange.com/questions/3213/…

For those that can see deleted thingies

Apparently, "I'm not a teacher" wasn't nice enough ... :P

Jarko Dubbeldam

-1

A: How to tell a sensitive friend that they apologize too much?

Why do you think they apologize too much? Is it affecting them in any way? If it is, why not point out to them why apologizing that much is bad for them. Explain it to them. If you just say they shouldn't do it, you come across as dominating, forcing your will on to them. However, if you explain...

Jarko Dubbeldam

1:24 PM

Ah, my question is going perfectly: no comments <3

@Tinkeringbell I enjoy explaining things but I have no talent for it

Yeah... well, I don't enjoy explaining things that much... if you don't get it after a few times, I give up.

I think the problem here was that I asked in the comments whether they could cite a practical application as an explanation/comparison. OP said not. So, then this is my go-to. But in the comments people were very convinced that this was rude, so...

The Snark Knight

2:14 PM

@Tinkeringbell that's a problem we faced in TWP. We'd get people calling answers rude, that weren't or doing something else that twisted the intent of the answer to something negative, then the answer gets downvoted into oblivion.

Why must mornings happen so darn early in the day? D:

The Snark Knight

@TheTinyMan because daylight savings time makes us all suffer.

@TheSnarkKnight Meh... I can agree with the 'I'm not a teacher' being ouchy... like the first comment there. The second was out of line I think, but well, I got a badge :P

@TheSnarkKnight Probably has something to do with me staying up too late, too. :-)

The Snark Knight

@TheTinyMan what kills me is when I wake up at 4 AM. Then it's "Do I try to go back to sleep, or just stay up

2:18 PM

@TheSnarkKnight Oof. What time do you normally get up?

The Snark Knight

@TheTinyMan 6:00, but 4 is just in that range where you might or might not be in the middle of a cycle if you get back to sleep. Sometimes if I force myself, I end up feeling more tired for the rest of the day than if I just get up and start going

Jarko Dubbeldam

hmm, this answer is borderline NAA: interpersonal.stackexchange.com/questions/7574/…

it is a NAA

The Snark Knight

@Tinkeringbell RE: the "birthday" question. I think this is one where the etiquette is a necessary part of the Q/A, but the question as phrased should be off topic. I don't know how to edit it to be OT though.

@TheSnarkKnight That's what I was struggling with as well, and I don't want to start a comment war with Robert :P I think the question as it is now just doesn't invite the etiquette focused type answers (Agreed, there is 1 now, but I don't really think everybody might read the comments)

Weird, apparently it was closed and reopened? Or close-votes expired?

Weirder even: It doesn't show up in the reopen queu3e

I was very certain that question was at 4 close votes sometime today.

2:30 PM

link?

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Q: Who pays for a birthday party?

I've never really had friends, so I've never really celebrated my birthday. This year, though, I wanted to invite my friends out somewhere, perhaps Topgolf [1] (not an advertisement, trying to give impression of price/scale). Do I pay for everyone? Does each pay for him/herself? If it matters, ...

united-states friends parties birthdays

Robert reopened it

@Mithrandir That's strange, it wasn't on-hold when he made his comments :/

So, apparently, he really wants this one around.... then maybe I'll take a stab at editing it..

Can I rant at Robert? :/

ranting in general seems like kinda a bad idea

@Tinkeringbell not recommended

robert is the director of community management, iirc

The Snark Knight

2:33 PM

@Mithrandir I hope that doesn't happen often. Unilateral action by mods tends to irk the community.

@Magisch *development, I think

yup

@TheSnarkKnight Dunno about the community, but it irks me...

> I am the Director of Community Development for the Stack Exchange Network.

I explained why I wasn't happy with the question, because it could be interpreted both ways and I wanted confirmation of the OP before editing...

Well, if robert thinks it's on topic, it has to be

CMs are kind of the authority for that

So we'll have to make the best of it

The Snark Knight

2:35 PM

@Tinkeringbell there was a huge row over at TWP over a one.

@Magisch Well, if Robert thinks this is written down correctly, I will be editing and close-voting a lot less...

The Snark Knight

^^^^^THIS is what happens.

@Magisch no, actually. CMs can be wrong/overruled

i proved shog wrong a few days ago ;p

The Snark Knight

@Mithrandir and you're still standing?

wow

natural die roll 20, eh?

And the votes on Meta.SE have sometimes made CMs reconsider their position.

2:36 PM

@Mithrandir Well CMs make mistakes, but when you're talking about a question that fundamental (is / isn't this on topic) then I think the CMs are somewhat the authority

Jarko Dubbeldam

@Mithrandir and sometimes not

and you can always raise it on Interpersonal Skills Meta

The Snark Knight

I strongly disagree with any question that is a simple question of etiquette as being on topic. @Mithrandir I believe that I may do so later.

@Mithrandir I might.... But right now I'm pissed and in a ranty mood. So, I'll be taking a break first...

The Snark Knight

@Tinkeringbell never post drunk or angry, and if you're an angry drunk, this applies doubly

annnnnd...

To lighten the mood. Here's a programmer's joke

2:39 PM

in The Screening Room, 2 hours ago, by Tinkeringbell

First thing I do when there's alcohol is lock all electronic devices away...

The Snark Knight

!FALSE

It's funny because it's true

Jarko Dubbeldam

you mean not False

how unpythonic

I made an edit to the birthday question

The Snark Knight

@JarkoDubbeldam try to C the difference ;)

In hopes of bringing the social aspect more to the forefront then a simple yes/no decision

The Snark Knight

2:41 PM

@Magisch brilliant edit. I think that's enough to make it on topic.

Jarko Dubbeldam

Could you emphasize in the question that the location is the US

I know it has the tag, but it could be a bit more explicit

The tag does that I think

IMO, the tag is enough.

Jarko Dubbeldam

okido

The Snark Knight

@JarkoDubbeldam FWIW, and many people not in the US may not realize this, WHERE in the US can make a difference as well.

Jarko Dubbeldam

2:44 PM

US are big

similarly how for someone in russia, either europe or east-asia may apply

The Snark Knight

@JarkoDubbeldam yeah, if you're in the Midwest, and etiquette question will have an entirely different answer, as will "what is polite".

in germany in general it's expected that the person who hosts pays for the party

Jarko Dubbeldam

same for netherlands

I think it needs an etiquette tag?

So if you were hosting your own you'd pay and if someone was hosting like a surprise party for you they'd pay

2:48 PM

And I'm still gonna call Robert out on this in a meta.

here, all the guests pay for the wedding...

Jarko Dubbeldam

@Tinkeringbell no it doesn't

@JarkoDubbeldam Why not?

It's about etiquette...

Jarko Dubbeldam

because it already has the tag

^.^

@JarkoDubbeldam Wijsneus :P

Jarko Dubbeldam

2:49 PM

and don't look at me for the existence of eunited-states

Since when? Wasn't there when I looked 2 minutes or so ago ;)

Jarko Dubbeldam

that might've been a typo

@Tinkeringbell 2 minutes or so ago + epsilon

@JarkoDubbeldam Hahaha you're gonna do the whole alphabet? :P

Jarko Dubbeldam

nah, remembered epsilon is generally used for a small error, not delta

what on earth: interpersonal.stackexchange.com/questions/7542/…

Well, at least we've got that voting culture going...

Now, let's delete that before things get out of hand ;)

The Snark Knight

2:54 PM

@Magisch it's the same for German Americans. We kept the custom, and America has a huge German influence.

@Tinkeringbell It is deleted

For me, it really differs per group of friends... I have friends that can easily pay for all of us, and I have friends that I treat when they are celebrating...

I'm finally at 4000 rep btw so now I can help delete answers and my LQP reviews are actually impactful \o/

@Tinkeringbell I do too and for those friends we usually organize a party for them

the host still pays but we're the host then and not them

Someone think this could need some backing up? interpersonal.stackexchange.com/a/7582/1599

Jarko Dubbeldam

Yeah, it's not like you can't discuss and decide to split the costs, but the default definitely is that the inviter pays

2:56 PM

> F1Krazy That's really something the mod should worry about, don't you think? Why don't you mind your own business, huh pal?

That is literally not how stack works. You have to defend everything you write and your whole conduct against any scrutiny by the community

Could you expand your answer with explainations on how you think this will be helpful and why? — Magisch 8 secs ago

This answer is basically a duplicate of interpersonal.stackexchange.com/a/7566/1599 ... which was written a full 3 hours earlier. Maybe you can make your answer better than that one, instead of further summarizing that answer? — Tinkeringbell 14 secs ago

You beat me to it by 6 seconds :P

@Tinkeringbell great minds think alike but fools rarely differ

3:27 PM

NAA interpersonal.stackexchange.com/a/7232/2347 ?

Seems to me suggesting a non-IPS solution (going to HR)

3:41 PM

You folks have been awfully chatty this morning...

@apaul Hey :) How's the cold? (Yeah, we like being chatty, you don't?)

@Tinkeringbell Still coughing, but the worst has passed.

@apaul Good :)

So what's new and exciting?

@apaul Not much ;)

3:43 PM

Looks like the smoke detector had a fit..

Extroverted Main Man

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Q: How to deal with an attention-seeking female roommate?

I am a male living in the U.S. with a female and another male. We all get along just fine, but as time has passed she has made me more and more uncomfortable; she shows signs of romantic interest in me and asking questions that I feel is stalker-ish and instrusive. Now it has gotten to the poin...

united-states roommates

Although I bought 4 books, a mouse/keyboard, a drawing tablet, a new desk chair, a controller for my pc :P And it's not even Sinterklaas yet :P

@apaul Blame @Magisch :P

@Tinkeringbell Looks like it all got taken care of.

@apaul Yeah, although I only scored 5/6 :(

@Tinkeringbell scored?

3:52 PM

@apaul Jup :P I only got to flag 5 before they were all deleted. So I only scored 5 helpful flags ;)

@Tinkeringbell Not the fastest flag in the west?

So many questions about boys/men having problems with girls/women.

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