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6:00 PM
No better than it
 
First find an actual example
 
@Cerberus If you were female, how would you feel if you were identified as being a "woman doctor" while your male colleague simply a "doctor"? And if you were a "woman bus driver" instead of a "bus driver", wouldn't the fact that your gender had to be mentioned be regarded as being patronising, offensive, objectionable etc.? A pilot is a profession, an architect and a lawyer likewise, as is an actor. I don't see why there has to be a distinction. — Mari-Lou A 7 hours ago
@badass What are your thoughts on words like "actress"?
 
never really thought much about them
 
OK.
 
I want to my topic is best and unique and special
 
6:05 PM
I'm sorry, I don't have any inspiration right now.
 
Ok
 
think of a best and unique and special example
 
I don't know how to respond to Mari-Lou.
I am incredibly offended by her accusation of sexism.
I'm very angry, but that is probably not a good basis for a reply.
 
gender distinction is apart of all languages, no?
 
Thank you badass. If I know that I never ask
 
6:09 PM
@badass Yes.
 
I think some of you are very proud
 
Of what?
 
and some are humble
 
everything except Cerberus
 
are you calling me proud?
 
6:12 PM
YES
Not so much
 
ok ok, have you thought of any examples?
have you broken up with friends before?
 
Yes I thought but I didn't find any special topic
No
 
make up a good story
something you would like to write about
 
What? I don't understand
 
what is the assignment?
Title please
 
6:20 PM
I should write essay about break up
 
"break up" in what way?
 
And I choose to write about breakup friendships
 
you should choose a
break up
you have experience in
 
@Robusto I guess you haven't seen old people fuck.
 
I wrote my essay for the causes about break up friendship
 
6:27 PM
@MετάEd I guess you haven't encountered figurative language before.
 
@Robusto I would expect a figurative expression to resemble what it refers to in some way.
So if you mean that Barrie writes like a horny bunny, I'm with you.
 
@MετάEd Perhaps then you could point out where the analogy fails.
@MετάEd You play your games, I play mine.
 
Or maybe you mean that Barrie's fingers suck prose out of his keyboard like an octopus on a shark.
 
@IceGirl so you want causes?
 
I refer you to the transcript.
 
6:30 PM
Yes
 
money, jealously
family
 
@Robusto Yes, you seem to want to say that Barrie's prose style puts you to sleep. Unless you mean post-coital exhaustion, I think your analogy with old people fucking is completely wrong.
I think you may be laboring under a misconception about old people sex.
 
You are entitled to your opinion.
 
Sorry, I need topic for causes of break up friendship
 
each of those is a topic
 
6:33 PM
@IceGirl How about having sex like an old person.
Surely that would break up a friendship.
 
sex breaks up friendships
 
No I don't think a good topic
 
@badass I would say sex breaks up some friendships.
@IceGirl how about distance.
 
or age
 
General topic and UNIQUE topic
 
6:36 PM
so you want a UNIQUE cause for a friendship to break up?
 
NO NO I need a unique TOPIC for my essay
 
define what you mean by "TOPIC"?
 
@JohanLarsson highly malleable (can be spread very thin, good for electronic contacts).
 
Sorry I'm Very sorry I need TITLE about my essay
I'm really sorry
 
@Mitch yes but not sure it is a desired property often. Soft and heavy.
 
6:43 PM
My point is simply that it is not -totally- useless.
 
@Cerberus What part of what Mari-Lou wrote was objectionable? It seems pretty reasonable to me that some people might be offended by the "male is default" nature of our society.
 
@IceGirl don't be sorry, you can write it first, and then the title can be chosen that best describes the main topic of the essay.
 
I wrote it
 
ok
 
@badass grammatically, no not part of all languages. I'm sure there are vocabulary items in all languages something about female, something about male. But grammatical gender is nowhere near universal.
We may be talking about different things though.
 
6:46 PM
Another essay is about modern art can you help me what I write about it
 
@Cerberus too scary a rollercoaster for me. But it -does- look like a bubble, doesn't it?
@IceGirl money (borrowing), business (expectations of the other), love triangle (jealousy).
 
Love triangle is related to Modern Art?
Are you sad badass?
 
@Cerberus she's not chiding you for being sexist. Your comment is only saying that you like the differentiated forms because of their...history. She's giving a straightforward view of how the words make her (and other women) feel (which is the reason for the change in words).
@IceGirl oops, I was referring to your question about a topic for why friends might break up.
 
Ah thanks
 
@Cerberus Good luck!
 
7:07 PM
@Mr.ShinyandNew安宇 1. Why is that reasonable at all? It's just words, not meaning. 2. This was bout using words like actress and queen, instead of actor and king for women.
@Mitch Could be? But now no more or less than elsewhen.
 
@Cerberus The word choice is a symptom of the problem.
 
@Mr.ShinyandNew安宇 I agree.
 
The problem is that male is the default gender in our society and the word choice reinforces that.
 
But, would Mari-Lou also object to 'he' and 'she'?
 
@Transmissionfrom When used for unknown people, perhaps. I do.
 
7:09 PM
@Mr.ShinyandNew安宇 For pilots, not doctors or bus drivers.
@Mr.ShinyandNew安宇 No, not unknown: known.
 
@Mitch It's all bullshit. There is nothing objective or invariable about how people feel, nor is it a criterion for how other people are allowed to use their language.
@Mr.ShinyandNew安宇 Or it could be just words and unrelated. Before you accuse people of sexism and forbid words, the burden of proof is on you.
@Transmissionfrom Thanks! ...with what?
@Mr.ShinyandNew安宇 Words are not a problem.
 
@Cerberus I don't think you were accused. Literally.
 
Not literally, but the implication was very clear and deliberate.
 
@Cerberus I don't have time to teach you women's studies 101. If you don't believe me that straight, white, and male are the defaults in our society, then there isn't much I can explain here.
@Cerberus Words are part of the problem.
 
Don't read her as you think she thought read you. Necessarily.
 
7:11 PM
@Mr.ShinyandNew安宇 They are, but that is not about words.
Words are not a part of a problem. Again, the burden of proof is on the accuser and the word-policeman.
 
@Cerberus The problem is that male is the default and female is "marked".
So when people need to refer to a random person-who-acts-in-movies, they use the word "actor".
 
If one speaks of a 'woman pilot', one stresses her gender, for some reason. I think.
 
Then when they need to be specific that this is a woman they are talking about, they mark it with the word "actress".
@Transmissionfrom oh, especially when the term is already neutral. Then by saying "woman pilot" you are calling out the fact that "pilot" defaults to male and that this particular pilot is different
 
@Mr.ShinyandNew安宇 That is not a problem.
@Transmissionfrom Yeah, nobody would say that, it's just a silly straw man.
 
@Cerberus It IS a problem.
 
7:14 PM
But not with actress. I don't see an issue there. For now.
 
@Mr.ShinyandNew安宇 No, the words are not a problem.
 
@Transmissionfrom Sure it's a problem even for actress.
It's called the Screen Actors Guild.
 
Obviously a woman would have a different point of view about this than a man.
 
Not the Screen Actresses Guild.
Because Actors is the default word, used for male and non-specified genders.
 
@Mr.ShinyandNew安宇 OK, granted. But less of a problem.
 
7:15 PM
@badass I rather think North-Americans have a different point of view about this than people in the rest of the world. My female friends agree with me 100 %.
 
@Transmissionfrom It's not a life-and-death problem. But it is a pervasive issue in our society.
Kinda like "gay marriage".
Why is it called "gay marriage" instead of just "marriage".
Because straight is the default.
 
@Mr.ShinyandNew安宇 You are linking things that are not the same thing.
 
@Cerberus Ok then accept that.
 
@Mr.ShinyandNew安宇 So who cares? Why should that offend me? It's bullshit. I call it gay marriage, everyone does.
@badass No?
I refuse to accept bigotry and intolerance.
Not to mention falsehood.
 
@Cerberus So it is just a tiny piece of the larger puzzle that singles out gayness or femaleness as being somehow different. It reinforces the notion that the default, best idea is straight or male.
 
7:17 PM
@Mr.ShinyandNew安宇 No, that's not true. When speaking of a married couple, one says they are married, not gay-married. They have a marriage, not a gay-marriage. (The distinction is mostly law/church/whatever).
 
@Cerberus Americans do.
 
@Mr.ShinyandNew安宇 It does not reinforce, it is just a word.
@badass Well, I have nothing to do with that.
 
@Cerberus women's studies. Go read about it. I don't have time to teach you all this stuff.
Suffice to say, lots of people think you're wrong about this.
 
@Mr.ShinyandNew安宇 No, it's bullshit.
 
@Cerberus I'm glad you think so.
 
7:18 PM
Lots of people burn witches.
 
To each their own
 
And worship the Pope.
 
It's always nice when you're so open-minded about things.
 
It's not nice when people throw around accusations and insult people based on nothing.
 
The world is not a nice place
 
7:19 PM
It's not an insult to point out that we live in a sexist society.
 
It is an insult to accuse me of sexism.
 
But you ARE sexist. Everyone is.
 
@Mr.ShinyandNew安宇 But you cannot equate differentiating with sexist. Can you?
 
But apparently the word police can insult people.
 
@Transmissionfrom I'm not. But in this case, it is. And even when it's not, it's part of the bigger problem.
 
7:20 PM
Those who claim moral righteousness are often the furthest removed from it.
 
well chosen^
 
thanks
 
@Cerberus What I find ironic is that you are most offended by the notion that someone might ask you to use a different word, because the word you are using offends them, when they are facing a systematic oppression that is both subtle and widespread.
 
@Mr.ShinyandNew安宇 Words are just words.
 
7:22 PM
really?
interesting
 
And, yes, I am offended by intolerance and narrow-minded prohibitions.
 
@Cerberus No, they're not. Otherwise they are useless.
@Cerberus See, you're accusing Mari-Lou of being narrow-minded, but here I am accusing YOU of being narrow-minded. Funny how that works out.
 
@Mr.ShinyandNew安宇 No, they are a means of communication.
 
Are there any autistic feminists?
 
Help me about modern art essay
 
7:24 PM
@Mr.ShinyandNew安宇 At least I'm not oppressing people and telling them what to do.
 
Who names their kid "Mari-Lou"?
 
who names their kid "badass"?
 
@Cerberus You're doing the exact same thing you accuse Mari-Lou of doing. You're getting all offended about something someone wrote and you wish they would stop doing something.
 
I'm a kind of feminist. I love women. I think equal rights are very important. And to be patronised and judged by someone based on nothing, no proof or anything. It's so unfair.
 
Mari-Lou didn't say anything offensive: she pointed out how SHE finds it offensive when people mark the female gender.
 
7:25 PM
@Mr.ShinyandNew安宇 Being offended by a personal accusation makes sense. Being offended by random words does not.
 
random to you
 
@Cerberus The words are not random. They are a systemic problem. You refuse to consider that that might be the case. Fine, but I call that being narrow-minded.
 
Gender difference isn't nothing. Its not like Hutu's and Tutsi's.
 
They aren't random. They're a systematic indicator of privilege someone else has
 
@Mr.ShinyandNew安宇 Okay, I have nothing more to say. You're just superstitious and believe things without any scientific proof.
 
7:26 PM
Unicorns to the rescue!
 
disappears
 
@Cerberus You're easily offended by other people being offended.
Luckily, I don't find THAT offensive. :)
 
Stop talking to me, I'm no longer here.
Go oppress someone else.
 
lol
\o/
let's dance!
 
7:27 PM
¦o¦
 
badass???????
 
@Mr.ShinyandNew安宇 OK, let's get back to my earlier point. Would the point of view you are promoting like to see the difference between 'he' and 'she' removed, even if we know the gender?
 
Yees icy girl
 
@Transmissionfrom hm, if I could have that, and a pony too, yeah, I think it'd be a net benefit.
But baby steps.
 
Help me for Modern Art essay give me some topics about it
 
7:29 PM
@Mr.ShinyandNew安宇 Why baby steps, why not drive the point home?
 
@IceGirl Modern Art: is it really art, or is the emperor wearing no clothes?
 
@Transmissionfrom That was exactly the point I was going to make to M-L before I got too angry. Another thing: she and Mr Shiny are accusing other languages than English of being more sexist, just because they have more genders. So silly and narrow minded and hostile.
No, no, I wasn't here.
poof
 
@Transmissionfrom Because it's hard enough to get people to even discuss this sort of thing calmly and rationally. Breaking the "male is default" notion will take generations, and getting rid of gendered titles is one part of doing that.
 
@Mr.ShinyandNew安宇 neighs softly
 
No wiki isn't good
 
7:31 PM
@Cerberus If you don't think that people have already documented the sexist problems in other languages at length, then you're mistaken. It's well-known and widely discussed.
English accidentally has less in-built sexism than some other languages. That doesn't mean those other languages aren't sexist. Also please don't conflate sexism with evil. They are not the same thing.
 
@Mr.ShinyandNew安宇 In law, I believe, even the corporation is a person. So, how difficult is it?
 
@Mr.ShinyandNew安宇 It is all unproven.
 
@IceGirl It is a good place to start learning about it.
 
@Cerberus what about the ''N' word? People refrain from using it in certain circumstances because it makes people feel bad. What's wrong with that?
 
And German has lost of genders, and they are a lot less sexist than almost any other country in the world. Scandianvia, the same.
 
7:32 PM
@Transmissionfrom That's a separate problem. Law can use whatever linguistic contortions it wants to achieve its goals.
@Cerberus No, it's not at all unproven. It's plainly clear. Lots of other languages have writers who struggle with writing gender-neutral stuff because their language is deficient in that regard.
@Cerberus You are confusing two different ideas.
You are equating sexist people with a sexist language.
 
@Mitch I say nigger. Another exaggerated superstition. But that word has had negative connotation for a very long time, so I wouldn't say it in public.
 
@Mitch The "N" word is the most racist of all words
 
@Mr.ShinyandNew安宇 Because they are fools.
@Mr.ShinyandNew安宇 No, you are.
 
@Cerberus NO U
 
But this was my last line. I do not want to continue this absurd discussion.
 
7:34 PM
seriously. I never said Germans were sexist because German is sexist.
Where did I say that.
 
@Mitch you're such a nagger
 
Your anger is clouding your thinking on this topic.
 
@Mr.ShinyandNew安宇 Where you talked about them rolling around in all the LEGO on the floor.
Er, maybe that was a dream I had.
 
@Mr.ShinyandNew安宇 If I'm sexist because I use the word "queen", then all Dutchmen are sexist because they use the word "he" more often than in English. But I'm not here, so you can't hear me. Shoo, go away from this empty corner of the room!
 
7:37 PM
@Mr.ShinyandNew安宇 but surely if you could control for everything else, what you suggest is that a language with X genders should produce more sexist behaviour than a language with < X genders
 
@Mr.ShinyandNew安宇 I know. Start with the pony.
 
@Cerberus You're oversimplifying things and also making logical fallacies. All Dutchmen might be more sexist than all Englishmen if they stubbornly insist on using "he" more often rather than a more inclusive "they".
 
@Cerberus Actually the legal title of the (previous) queen was 'king'.
 
@Mitch Turns out we have a unicorn here, so, yay! next step? Gender Equality!
@MattЭллен Yes, that's what I'm saying, but I'm also saying it's way more complicated than that.
 
@Transmissionfrom I find that more sexist than the other way around. Are you talking about Holland or England btw?
 
7:41 PM
NL
 
So, sure, in a hypothetical world where all the initial conditions were the same, except that one language had 2 genders and one had 1, then the people with the 2 genders would be more sexist, probably. But how could such worlds exist? it's too intertwined.
 
Are you sure? I know some legal texts have "the King", but we also had "Commissaris van de Koningin" and such?
 
@Cerberus Quite sure.
90%
 
Hmm.
Well, they should have changed that...but perhaps it was too much work.
A law is the first place where I would write "he or she" and "the Monarch" or "the King or the Queen" instead of "the King".
 
Well, we now have a queen, but I doubt we would have had a king next to the 'real' queen.
 
7:43 PM
Anyway, King and Queen are not in the same category of word as Actor and Actress or Pilot and Woman Pilot.
 
No, Claus was a Prince.
 
@MattЭллен Thank you! You're a ginger!
 
@Mr.ShinyandNew安宇 Yes, they are.
 
@Cerberus No they are not. King never means "Man or woman", it always means man.
 
Analyse 'author' vs 'actor', gender-wise.
 
7:44 PM
Just like father always means man and mother always means woman.
 
@Mr.ShinyandNew安宇 Or maybe this kind of superstition is a sign of a sexist society: in a less sexist society, people no longer care about such trifles?
@Mr.ShinyandNew安宇 Not in Dutch law, as Transmission told you.
 
@Cerberus I already explained earlier that Law is a different beast.
And actually, the law might be written in a sexist way on purpose, on account of other laws that are also sexist.
 
@Mr.ShinyandNew安宇 That's sexist. You should banish the word "mother", it is offensive. Always use "parent" and "child", never the highly offensive word "daughter". (Mother second on my list of words to throw at M-L's absurdities after "queen".)
 
@Mitch I think you'll find I'm green and bald
 
What's the deal with the oppression of gingers? Why does anybody care (enough to oppress gingers)?
 
7:46 PM
example: if a law refers to the King, it means the monarch who is in charge. If it refers to the Queen, it might mean the monarch in charge, or the King's wife. Therefore the laws might always use "King" when they mean "monarch in charge".
 
@MattЭллен you act like one.
 
@Cerberus Look, I thought you were done discussing this topic you don't understand and don't care to learn about.
 
@Mitch a green and bald?
 
@MattЭллен A ginger.
 
@Mitch how does one "act like a ginger"?
 
7:47 PM
which happens to be the same way I expect green bald avatars act.
 
@Mitch I see :D
 
LIke everyone else.
THat's how you know they're a ginger.
 
Also, in Chinese? The word for King is "王“ and the word for queen is "女王" which is "female king".
 
CApitalizing the first two letters is not a sign of being a ginger.
How do you pronounce it?
wang?
 
7:48 PM
yes, wang
 
or nu wang?
 
@Mitch how do you know if the sign of being a ginger is being like everyone else?
 
Is the king of France a woman?
 
I can just tell/
@Transmissionfrom and bald? And green?
Congratulations @MattЭллен!!!
 
7:49 PM
You didn't invite us to the coronation. I'm only a little hurt. I would have been busy that night though.
 
..if I had known about it ahead of time.
 
@Mitch I thought as much
 
@Mr.ShinyandNew安宇 way way way too much eyeliner. Who does he think he is? Eddie Izzard?
 
@Mitch are you telling me you don't know Tim Minchin?!
 
7:51 PM
He can't cry with that make up. Really, one should be prepared for contingencies.
 
@Mitch who do you think you are? Someone who says things?
 
@Mr.ShinyandNew安宇 Are you telling me you don't know that I know who Tim Minchin is?
 
@Mitch I guess so. I was about to post this playlist: youtube.com/playlist?list=PLE5E01E666491E1CF
 
@MattЭллен gasps, suppresses choking sounds, apoplects
I never.
Don't ask me what. but whatever it was you imagine, I never whatever it was.
 
@Mr.ShinyandNew安宇 Silence! You fool, I am on the phone and have no time to deal with your silly things.
 
7:53 PM
 
@Mr.ShinyandNew安宇 So, I guess that you seek a future in which all speak of a person devoid of any properties/characteristics unless relevant. Even last names could be an issue. Or first names. I guess we would number people?
2
 
@Transmissionfrom No, I wouldn't say that.
 
@Mr.ShinyandNew安宇 Why not?
 
Last names are already problematic for some people: like if your name is Woodcock, some people think of erect penises and giggle. But that isn't a sexism issue.
 
And, animal rights radicals might object to the difference between 'persons' and 'animals' in language.
@Mr.ShinyandNew安宇 LOL, I know a Woodcock.
 
7:58 PM
First names are chosen by your parents and not by society, but society does dictate that certain names are only for people with penises or without penises. However, there is lots of leeway and rebellion and adults can change their names.
 
Yay, slippery slope sledding time!
 
@Mr.ShinyandNew安宇 I was thinking cultural backgrounds, not sexist.
 
I call the block of ice!
 

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