I am a 25-year-old grad-level student, good looking, and introverted, but like socializing. Due to various studying opportunities, I had to change my cities and my country several times during the past 7 years. I can tell I have zero friends, With no best friend and even boyfriend. Concerning bo...
@ExtrovertedMainMan Hmmm, without having looked into the post yet, Zero friend situation sounds already from the title like not being about interpersonal skills '^.^
JAD, Nog, glad that chat devs didn't give much attention to ping sounds on macOS, I am happy with the small banner that slides in and is clickable, and disappears if not interacted with
but @JAD are you talking about the small speaker icon in top right?
I've got a folder filled with with cat pictures on my work computer. All our clients have their own database and we also have a test database for development. I like to change the login picture to cat pictures. I'm very professional like that.
@Tinkeringbell No. And that company where I gave interview last week is asking me to join within 15 days while I have to serve 60 days notice period at current. <angry emoji>
(Also I don't want to play that trick to my colleagues)
I am in a great confusion, where my heart says to leave but my moral says that today whatever I am because of the present company.
Gist: I wanted to switch to a product based company, for that I prepared well, gave 1 hour every day to the data structure, Algorithms and competitive programming al...
My home is just about 3 KMs from my work. A few days back, I offered my colleague a ride home (that is about 21KMs) because I was heading a place (Manly) near her home (maybe about 2-3 kms before her home).
Her response was "I am ok to come with you, but I have to take a bus from Manly. So I pre...
I interviewed with 4 companies, but I ended up only liking one company. Luckily that was mutual.
During one of the interviews I found out that the CEO and I had very different ideologies about some things I find very important. That wasn't a place I wanted to work for.
@Ælis heh maybe I'll sneak it into a future pull request :p
Oh great meta search guru @Tink. Do you know where the post that says something about how language used on the site should be semi-formal, matching how you'd talk to colleagues in a work environment? I've been poking links for the better part of 15 minutes and I'm about ready to give up :(
I just feel helpless and pushed out. He keeps repeating the behavior and nothing happens. I don't feel like I can speak out and I don't feel like I can keep quiet. And I feel like if I walk away I have to just be done and I'm not ready to just walk away from TWP for good.
@user58 Oh come on! I've been saving that one up since forever! ;) But yeah, please ignore it, I don't hang out there and I don't know his sense of humour that well :)
@EmC I must say, I didn't read the answers and I didn't even read the full question x) I'm a bit tired right now and I mostly drop that in chat so other people would deal with it ^^
This answer to this question has an edit in peer review where the "he or she" wording has been replaced with "he" since the pronouns in the question for the boss are he/him.
Given the new CoC is trying to be inclusive, especially with pronouns, what are best practices for questions/answers like ...
As the question asker, I can confirm that my boss is male and I used male pronouns for that reason. But I'm not sure it was a necessary edit. especially since answers are meant to be useful to anyone in the same situation. So now someone with a female boss can read that answer with gender-neutral language and more easily relate.
@AlexRobinson Oh, didn't notice the post was switching between the two. That would have been useful information to put in your edit description. It would have change my review entirely
he/she and he or she are considered acceptable. Im not sure they would be a good edit either. Although as I write this I wonder if they should be acceptable alternatives as they seem to enforce a gender binary that is exclusive to enbys
@AlexRobinson I think a change to singular they would've been fine. But switching from ambiguous pronouns to a specific pronoun feels like conflicting with author's intent. Like if they wanted to write it to be general, then leave it general? But at the same time your edit is factually correct? It's all confusing and feels like a small thing (to me in this situation). I'm sure without the nuclear fallout on MSE, this wouldn't have even been brought up.
he or she should be discontinued. i feel strongly about this. its not inclusive to those who use they/them but it attempts to
@Ælis @scohe001 honestly the key motivation for me to put "he" was that its simply respecting CoC about using correct pronoun's when known. i 100% agree that there is nothing about the question that specifically should be gendered, however it is so whilst the boss is unlikely to see it, it still feels like the most respectful way to handle it
its honestly pretty wack and i'll probably edit my post when i'm home to put in some more info that is currently sitting in this chat room. I'd say there's a reasonable case to use either "he" or "they"
@scohe001 I asked a question about that and it seems the answer is: it's fine to use "they" everywhere even if you do know what pronouns someone usually uses. However, if someone requests that something else should be used for them, follow that request.
@scohe001 This was never officially answered, but I see it as a sign of being ok (since other answers have been answered later): meta.stackexchange.com/a/334955/400547
> If you use they/them by default, that's fine. If someone requests that you use other pronouns and you immediately continue to use they/them for that person, we may point it out to you. "Penalized" in most cases is generally going to be as minor as a comment being removed or adjusted to meet the request of the person being spoken about. Only in extreme cases of repeated requests to change, will it lead to a mod message or suspension.
@brug I made the same mistake this morning ^^ Thankfully, I know to only look at new question (and not read comments or answers unless the question is safe)
What does it mean when a guy says "I hope the butterfly emoji won't give me butterfly effects" with a winky face, and how can I respond to it cleverly?
@Ælis Hmm. We could. Or we should just keep the talk out of here too. I know it's not really okay to post e.g. pictures of injuries, but I thought the ridiculously big bandage would be okay ;)
Just taking the conversation another direction after that would've been better?
@Ælis Ah, sorry! It's kinda hard to realize that people may find it really nasty if you don't mind it yourself. I've edited in a bit of a CW, hope that helps anyone that still comes along it.
@Tinkeringbell Yeah, I can understand that. It's usually better when you are face to face with a person. If you see them turn white, it's probably time you stop talking :p
@brug I love gender swapping. I actually hope I could find the time to create a software that would gender swap everyone in a story \o/ (in French, which is wayyyy more complicated than in English). I also thought of doing anotherone who would "neutralize" (as in "make gender neutral") every think (object and people since French also give gender to objects...)
@brug You would probably need to speak French in order to being able to contribute ^^ Your gender neutral way of speaking is a mess (because we had to invent it and it's far from being perfect for now)
But yeah, I would love to be able to find some other people to help me do it open-source
I took time to learn the basics of esperanto. It's very interesting. Amazingly enough, it ships with unambiguous pronunciation based on spelling and gender neutrality by design
@ArthurHavlicek I ran across this Wikipedia article on that very topic recently en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gender_reform_in_Esperanto - I've been doing some Esperanto on Duolingo, don't know a ton yet but it's fun :)
Imagine I lended something to a friend for a while (several months) and I ask to get it back but I don't get it back. I ask again and again over the course of a couple of months, but the friend does not give me back my property with various excuses (e.g. "I just have to find where I put it, but I...