The Awkward Silence

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

00:04

@El'endiaStarman Smokey had an ignore command but no one uses it anymore.

Still has it, I think.

@El'endiaStarman Wait, does it ignore your message, or that comment in the future?

El'endia Starman

00:29

@M.A.R.ಠ_ಠ Just the one message.

Imagine if you did i tp.

avazula

06:08

Morning everyone!

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A J

06:41

Afternoon!

Imus

07:11

o/

Pseudohuman

\o

ankiiiiiii

07:37

@ExtrovertedMainMan This seems like a personal attack. I don't point out something people are missing or cannot have but the existing issues around. title is misleading a little bit. I think I could answer it.

Is there a way I could see my deleted comment? Trash maybe.. On SO

Ælis

@ankiiiiiii If the comment was posted on IPS main or meta, you might be able to find it here: chat.stackexchange.com/rooms/63296/the-closet

ankiiiiiii

@Ælis Stackoverflow was SO 😅

Ælis

@ankiiiiiii Ah sorry, I thought it was a deleted comment under that ExtrovertedMainMan question ^^'

Also, here is my future work avatar, I can't wait * - * (the drawing is not from me, my company pay someone to draw them for us). The drawing represents Stevonnie from "Steven Universe" :

ankiiiiiii

@M.A.R.ಠ_ಠ the question got reopened. posting an edit too!

@Ælis Oh yeah! that is cool

Ælis

@ankiiiiiii It's just a rough draft for now, but it already looks amazing IMO * - *

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

07:52

@ankiiiiiii \o/

@avazula Same old? Shouldn't you start your days by nuking some sock-puppets first?

ankiiiiiii

I think I should too complete this one,, and then make a male version for myself

eyebrows are the funniest

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

I would have changed my avatar. If I could see it

2

A: Comment explaining a downvote deleted

I was the one who deleted that comment, for the reasons Scohe provided their answer. I'm downvoting this answer mainly because of the last paragraph : it seems your understanding of this disease is pretty basic (psychology 101), too basic to provide for an issue this complex. I do agree with...

@Ava I get what you're saying, but personally, explanations for votes sound somehow like votes to me. If they're not explicitly abusive, the author would have some rights to express them

Complaining about comment removals is very rarely constructive and valid.

I guess the best course of action in why-my-comment-is-deleted meta posts is closing the case ASAP anyway.

All my tabs are borked from yesterday's SOpocalypse

ankiiiiiii

08:08

apaul in scohe's reference goes like Alan Thrall: Do not move the barbell. write your own answer

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

Pfft.

I think it's a meta.SO thing that leaks elsewhere sometimes

I don't have a beef with it, but I never practiced it

Then again, my participation on these hotly discussed metas is usually minimal.

It feels already like a defeat when you have to argue with someone about some tangential political agenda.

IPS Comment Bot

Since this is a sensitive issue, I think the experience stated here (Psychology 101) is a bit light to provide a good answer. Do you have anymore experience with this kind of issue ? — MlleMei 52 secs ago

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Tinkeringbell

08:26

Hi @MlleMei! Welcome to the chatroom. Have you been here before? :)

(Btw, your last comment seems a lot better!)

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

But still a bit French

Ælis

@M.A.R.ಠ_ಠ It's because French people know that leaving a space between the last word and an important punctuation mark is way better :p

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

@Ælis I think the correct smiley would be : p

Oh, that reminds me of Finn from Adventure Time

Ælis

@M.A.R.ಠ_ಠ True xD (no space here because those aren't punctuation mark : p)

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

flickr.com/photos/93905638@N05/14670736223

Imus

08:52

@IPSCommentBot fp

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avazula

@IPSCommentBot fp.great comment!

IPS Comment Bot

Invalid feedback type. Valid feedback types are tp, fp, rude, and wrongo

avazula

ugh

@IPSCommentBot fp. great comment!

IPS Comment Bot

Invalid feedback type. Valid feedback types are tp, fp, rude, and wrongo

avazula

08:54

seriously?

@IPSCommentBot fp

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Imus

urgh, avazula such a failure as a mod. Can't even provide valid feedback on a bot the first 2 times :p

I'm assuming the bot parses it as "find first string of characters up to a whitespace" and then decides if it matches with one of those 4 things. Since your first attempts contained a "." they were invalid :)

makes me curious if I'm right and that "fp great comment!" would have worked

Ælis

@IPSCommentBot fp great comment!

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Ælis

@avazula See, this is how you talk to the bot! :p

Imus

08:59

must be a french bot, can't handle punctuation right after words :p

avazula

@Imus :'(

Imus

@avazula Let's just say you're still getting used to the immense pressure of all those new responsibilities and assume you'll get it right next time ;)

how's it going by the way? Do you feel any different now?

Oh no, I pushed one too many buttons and now broke @avazula! Can some of the other mods press her restart button please?

Ælis

09:18

@Imus *her restart button (or their restart button) ;)

Imus

@Ælis Point taken. My sincerest apologies ava :(

still getting used to the their thingy in english. Thanks for reminding me :)

Ælis

No problem ^^

Imus

@Ælis Also lies! Girls on the internet don't exist :p

Ælis

@Imus Maybe don't joke about that, that's not very funny :/

Imus

hmm, :(

Guess my attempt to keep the subject light with a silly joke failed. Trying to remember it for next time. Please do remind me again if I forget it. My mind is rather stubborn in that regard

Ælis

09:26

@Imus It's alright, I don't expect you to know everything from day 1 and to not forget stuff sometimes :)

Tinkeringbell

Oh, that's a cute one! @Ælis

NVZ

Has anyone had to work from 8 AM to around 10 PM for 4 days straight? Today is the day I finally get to rest. :)

Ælis

"Image not found" What don't you want to display my cute pictures of animals :'(

Ahah, That worked this time!

Tinkeringbell

@Ælis Oh, it works, if you click on it ;)

The bunny is really nice too, I don't particularly like small dogs even when fluffy, sorry! :P

Journeyman Geek

hm, woof

Ælis

09:30

@Tinkeringbell Yes, but I want the cuteness to be available at first sight!

Tinkeringbell

That's the cutest parrot picture I have :P

Ælis

@NVZ I believe @ava did this for a mount recently

Tinkeringbell

@JourneymanGeek Sorry ;-)

I really, really am not a small dog person :P

But Ash is an exeption, I can manage to not dislike Ash but be neutral :P

Ælis

@Tinkeringbell Seems like it, it's not the first time you post this very parrot ^^

Tinkeringbell

@Ælis I have to admit it is bookmarked :P @Magisch is very fond of posting it too :P

IPS Comment Bot

09:32

Excellent answer. There's just one more thing that I think should be considered: You may break up perhaps even in the near future - be it because of this or other reasons. (Obviously this is likely to put some stress on your relationship!) I think the last thing you want to happen is that she moves out to live with you, the two of you break up and she's forced to move back to her parents! — Thomas 1 min ago

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Tinkeringbell

Cuter? :P

Ælis

@Tinkeringbell Different but cute. I'm a bit disappointed that I can't find a parrot that is very cute on their own (those two are cute because they are a couple, but I like to see animals that are just cute by themself ^^)

Tinkeringbell

@Ælis Yeah, I guess parrots are particularly hard to get cute pictures of, as they have a very awkward baby phase ;)

And what people find cute is often baby sized, because that's how babies trick you into caring for them! :P

Ælis

@Tinkeringbell What, you don't find this cute? :o

Tinkeringbell

@Ælis I'm sorry, no ;)

Ælis

09:36

x)

Mithrandir

Looks like a dinosaur.

Tinkeringbell

That looks like it needs a few herbs and spices and a sauce pan :P

Ælis

@Tinkeringbell Cannibalism!

Tinkeringbell

@Ælis Oh. I thought it was a baby other kind of bird, I couldn't tell :P

I promise I may be a parrot and not so cute, but I'm not a cannibal ;)

Ælis

You would still eat baby, you monster :'(

:p

avazula

09:40

@Ælis @NVZ Kinda still on it. 7:30AM to 6:30PM for the last three weeks, and before that it was 7AM->8PM for a month and a half.

Tinkeringbell

@Ælis Ooooh. Are we going to play it that way? :P Guys! I found the vegan :P

avazula

@Imus that is not a mod thing :p and I discovered about 2 days ago that you may type other things from "tp/fp/..." in your message feedback so, this is still quite new for me :)

Ælis

@avazula You should probably work less, I'm worried for your health :/

avazula

@Ælis yeah, I'm beginning to be quite tired. I'll slow down :)

if I can haha

Ælis

@Tinkeringbell /Run to hide behind @ava

Tinkeringbell

09:41

@Ælis Lol XD

@avazula Would the project/team/workload allow slowing down (soonish?)

Ælis

@avazula Please, take care of you my dear, remember that your health (and well being) is important, alright?

avazula

@Tinkeringbell We're launching the product in September and we're far from being ready so, ... I doubt it :p

I mean, the mood is good.

I'm just more tired (and anxious) than usual

@Ælis <3

Tinkeringbell

@avazula That makes sense. 11 hour days are very long days to make!

Ælis

@avazula <3

avazula

@Imus well, there's a lot of new features now :p and the additional anxiety that the speech should be as clear, kind and short as possible (and the answer quick to come too!)

@Tinkeringbell My personal life sure has been shrunken a lot lately haha

Imus

09:50

@avazula Good thing you're usually not the only mod online then, so you don't have to feel like you NEED to respond to all tiny issues

Tinkeringbell

@avazula I can imagine ;) I spent two years being 12 hours from home each day (including commute) and it sucked. There was almost no energy to do anything on the weekend except sleep.. One late night going out with friends would mean I was so tired on Mondays!

Imus

uh oh, @Catija is here to check up on us. Quick, hide the evidence! Ava is doing great here Catija, can confirm. :)

@Tinkeringbell it does seem surprisingly difficult to find a cute parrot by itself. At least real ones

Tinkeringbell

Oh, that's knitted. I don't find that cute :P

Imus

-.-

Mithrandir

Sheesh, you're hard to please.

Tinkeringbell

09:57

4

^ Looking for some refreshment, last Tuesday ;)

Mithrandir

That's sinister, not cute!

Imus

should've put them around the celebrations box next to them :p

Tinkeringbell

Better?

Imus

"I have slain the dragon! fear me!"

Mithrandir

^

Tinkeringbell

09:59

Y'all are hard to please. But I guess that proves there really aren't any cute parrot pictures on the Internet ;)

Mithrandir

It's either killed or enslaved the dragon. Neither of which makes it cute :P

Imus

Tinkeringbell

That's not a 'real' parrot though. Maybe same family, but we're technically looking for a cute macaw picture ( I think :P )

Imus

macaws really don't lend themselves for cute pictures

Tinkeringbell

True :)

Mithrandir

10:03

Well, think about it. Would you ever see Tink being "cute"?

avazula

@Tinkeringbell oof :( it ain't cool

Tinkeringbell

@Mithrandir Trick question. anyone that says yes gets a suspension ;)

Imus

@Mithrandir It's a trap!

Journeyman Geek

TECHNICALLY...

She can't suspend me....

Tinkeringbell

@JourneymanGeek I can suspend you on main IPS :P

Just chat is going to be tad more difficult ;)

avazula

10:25

@Mithrandir it may be a coop. Dragon flys parrot, parrot eats lice.

avazula

11:13

@ankiiiiiii this is so cool!

Imus

11:32

Interesting comment on random question on worldbuilding.SE

"being a man and having a penis (or vice versa) are not equivalent" - Vice versa made me think here... "Being a Penis and having a Man".... Is it just me understanding it that way? '^.^ – Zaibis

:50834128 This kind of self moderation always makes me curious what you wanted to say in the first place :)

avazula

11:58

@Imus it's annoying, right? :p

I hate it too haha

Imus

@avazula please, oh great one, share with us what you had to say so that I can continue my day in peace

IPS Comment Bot

This is a great advice, and is on similar note of the previous answer. I am just accepting the other one because it keeps the distance instead of the physical interaction. If I still lived with my mother, I would surely do this. Thank you. — Moacir 1 min ago

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avazula

@Imus it said that I think you're an amazing person! o/

Imus

@avazula Lol! Can't possibly be true but I'll let you have this nice out XD Thanks for the compliment ^^,

avazula

:)

Imus

12:14

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avazula

May i ask you a question @Rainbacon? Could you explain the naming conventions of your playlists? I found them again recently while browsing the chat and now I'm curious

(If you don't mind me asking of course)

Ælis

I'm too tired to do it myself, but someone recently flagged a lot of answers however here and they all need commenting (needs back up/ not an interpersonal answer)

user15026

12:37

Today I get to pick my husband up from the airport and I get to keep him forever! (he's claiming his Canadian permanent residence today)

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Ælis

@Ash \o/ You must be really happy!

Rainbacon

@Ash congrats!

@avazula sure. Just let me get settled in at work

user15026

I am so happy. I had so much trouble sleeping last night!

Ælis

@Ash That's very understandable ^^

avazula

12:56

@Ash yaaaay!

Tinkeringbell

@Ash So good to hear! Hopefully he doesn't arrive at 1 minute to midnight? :P

user15026

Haha nope, 3pm!

Rainbacon

Ok, sorry it took so long to get to this @avazula (had to restart my computer and then went for coffee), but here goes:

All of my playlists have 3 character names where each character is one of + - 0

avazula

@Rainbacon no worries :) sadly I can't check the chat very often either, it seems that it's not really in my company's culture to slack from time to time

Rainbacon

Each symbol represents a vector on one of 3 axes in a 3 dimensional space. + is in the positive direction, - in the negative direction, and 0 is a vector of no magnitude

So then each playlist has an x, y, and z component to it.

There are 27, one for every possible 3 digit combination of +, -, and 0

Each playlist is a representation of my emotions. Being autistic, I don't do extremely well with emotions. I found a few years ago that they were much easier to understand if I came up with a mathematical system to describe them

I started in 2 dimensions, but quickly found out that there were more than 8 emotions that I understood

I don't have all 27 mapped out, and I don't know if they all actually have a mapping, but I do know that now, when I feel my emotions getting the better of me, I have a quick way to identify and correct

avazula

13:09

@Rainbacon by listening to the corresponding playlist?

Rainbacon

Not quite, I do it by listening to a playlist in the direction that I would like my emotions to move. So if I'm feeling too much +++ then I might listen to ---

Tinkeringbell

@Ash Well, that's only slightly better, to wait that long if you're excited!

Rainbacon

I default to using 000 because then it brings me back to the center

avazula

@Rainbacon ooh. Interesting

Rainbacon

I would love to one day automate the whole process, but I keep procrastinating on writing the code for that

avazula

13:15

thank you for explaining your thought process

I love discussing music :p

Imus

@Rainbacon interesting take on classifying emotions. Do you also know corresponding words for certain combinations or of the axis in your grid? Curious if it could be made more understandable for the rest or if it's something entirely internal for you :)

Rainbacon

Nope, it's mostly internal for me

Imus

ah, well, at least it works for you :)

Ælis

13:34

I know I already posted pictures today, but I'm not feeling well, so here is another one:

Tinkeringbell

Ælis

Oh, that's cute! Did you take it yourself?

Tinkeringbell

@Ælis My parents are walking today and encountered this gnome cheering them on ;)

Ælis

That's really nice to this cover this kind of art "in situ" without expecting it. I believe that art "in situ" is my favorite kind of art

IPS Comment Bot

hey @atypicalguy! if you ever want to try a digital friendship sort of thing say hi! :) — essay 1 min ago

Ælis

13:44

@IPSCommentBot tp

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Ælis

I didn't know that were a dating site :p

Rainbacon

@Ælis I mean, Ash met their husband on SE

avazula

I think getting to genuinely know people online is much easier than IRL

Ælis

@Rainbacon Did Ash or the husband decided to chat under a question to get to learn each other better? :p "Hey Ash! if you ever want to try a digital romance sort of thing say hi! :)"

@avazula (My comment was about the comment the bot reported ^^)

avazula

13:52

I know it sounds paradoxal because one only shows what they want to ... what I meant is that it's easier to talk to people, be it about random banter or intimate stories

@Ælis I know :)

Ælis

Okay, just wanted to make sure :)

@avazula That might depend on people but there is indeed some truth in what you are saying

avazula

@Ælis oh, that's just my opinion indeed :)

scohe001

14:23

Hey @Ava, what was the story behind your close and reopen here? (don't mean to critique, just curious)

Ælis

Duplicate answer? interpersonal.stackexchange.com/a/22210/21067

Sorry, wrong link: interpersonal.stackexchange.com/a/22219/21067

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

14:48

@Imus Eh, I dunno. After a while that stuff becomes obsolete.

But yeah, fp for now

Rainbacon

@Ælis Not a duplicate, but also not a good answer. I've got it open in the review queue, but I'm struggling to write a good comment for it

avazula

@scohe001 we realized after a while that we first thought to be the way to handle it was not SE's general practice

scohe001

Ahh gotcha

That's my bad on the custom flag then

avazula

@scohe001 you didn't do anything wrong :p

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

. . . Teehee

You guy's would be favorites on Chem

. . . OMG

I knew something was wrong.

I'm not gonna forgive myself for putting an apostrophe there

I've noticed — this is pretty weird — that I tend to make more typos and brainfarts in The Awkward Silence.

ankiiiiiii

15:28

@avazula Ah nice of you to say!

also have anyone cared for rat babies ever?

We have 3 and want to save them.

scohe001

@ankiiiiiii probably important to make sure your roommates don't rat you out to the landlord. But other than that I've got nothing

ankiiiiiii

The rats are with a Phd student who lives alone in the room.

yes better nobody around him knows either

@scohe001 Pun is heavy

scohe001

:P

ankiiiiiii

Oh I forgot about pets.SE

I should check there once

IPS Comment Bot

15:52

@KidACrimson, this isn't just a "it's their problem" kind of thing (they rarely are), it's a problem that you need to face as a couple. If one blames the other for something, it's either because they can't see their own role in the situation or it's such a one sided situation that there really is only one person to blame. When it comes to depression and it's cousins, there is no one to blame, no one is at fault, and no one person can "fix" the situation on their own. Good luck and I hope you figure things out! — computercarguy 52 secs ago

#22214 computercarguy (361 rep) | Q: My wife has now decided she doesn't want have children, but I fear it's just because of mental illness (depression) (score: 0) | posted 16 hours ago by KidACrimson (28 rep) | edited 16 hours ago by KidACrimson (28 rep) | Toxicity 0.

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I would go with this, as anytime I've had roommates we've never shared the cost of property. We normally brought some in like TV, couch etc... If one roommate wanted a new bigger TV they would buy it and we could all use it. — AbraCadaver 1 min ago

#22188 AbraCadaver (101 rep) | A: Different budgets within roommate group (score: 38) | posted 2 days ago by Monica Cellio (16169 rep) | Toxicity 0.113640904 | tps/fps: 0/0

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Mithrandir

16:02

@IPSCommentBot tp

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Mithrandir

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Mithrandir

eyeballs-requested | Disputed / No Backup | A: How to reply to small talk/random facts in a non-offensive way?

ElizB

Hmm, yeah. This guy seems to not have edited in his experience

IPS Comment Bot

16:22

How long has it been going on for? If it's just a week or month it may well calm down. — Smock 1 min ago

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Rainbacon

16:36

@Mithrandir I'm trying to decide how I should flag that

Hey, @Ælis you're pretty good at tagging questions. I could use some help tagging a question I'm writing

Ælis

@Rainbacon I would be happy to help :)

Rainbacon

The tl;dr of the question is that a friend and I met a stranger while at a bar. We were having a good conversation with him, but then he became a bit rude and was trying to get us to help him hit on some women. The question I'm asking is how to disassociate from such a person, but I can't think of how to best tag it.

Ælis

Strangers, public-issue, conflict-aversion

Maybe politness too (depending if you want to stay polite or just avoid the conflict)

Hope this help :)

Rainbacon

16:59

Yep, those are great suggestions. Thanks!

Extroverted Main Man

17:13

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Q: How can I end interactions with a stranger after a conversation has turned bad?

The situation Last night I went to a bar after work to meet a friend to have a beer and catch up. There was a man "James" sitting next to us at the bar who had clearly taken an interest in our conversation, and after a few minutes, he jumped into it. I've met some very interesting people through...

IPS Comment Bot

17:39

Did you say anything to him to indicate that you weren't interested in being his "wingmen" other than that you were in relationships? Sometimes just saying that you are in a relationship isn't enough, although you would think it would be obvious. — DaveG 19 secs ago

#22221 DaveG (5457 rep) | Q: How can I end interactions with a stranger after a conversation has turned bad? (score: 1) | posted 39 minutes ago by Rainbacon (5531 rep) | Toxicity 0.28908175 | tps/fps: 0/0

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Rainbacon

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ankiiiiiii

17:59

How do I find the top user for a particular tag?

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