I'm basically going to point out $people_they_don't_like has a daughter in my age group (who's cute) and they not making an effort to matchmake me isn't any different from them.
this... will hurt
but hopefully dislodge things.
or I should ask her directly lol. At worst... ;p
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@apaul Unless y'all can help me untangle immigration (you can't) there's not a whole lot in my head atm
Not sayin that picking your own is any better, I mean my picker has been known to be faulty, but I shudder to think about who my parents would have picked.
LETS JUST SAY I AM MORE OPEN MINDED THAN I LET ON OK? (though vaguely straight for most part. But I'm chill with my alphabetsoup friends. Other than that one guy I'd probably punch if we met again, but not for alphabetsoupyness)
My conservativeness and traditionalism is personal
I'm vegetarian - but do not expect other people to be
Our faith actually respects that folks may be different. So if someone is trans or gay or some other flavour of something else I don't understand...
Its how "god" or in a sense, the universe meant them to be.
its not for me to judge.
Other religions are simply the path they found for themselves. They may be as right as we are, or as wrong.
so, we follow many (though admittedly not all! I'm terrible at doing morning prayers) but not all of the traditions, but we're orthodox about the important ones.
but if someone else feels the path is not for them
its not for me to judge.
So my liberalism, in a sense of people, actually goes back to the proper fundamentals of who we are as a religion
My cousin fell in love and married a guy outside the community
... we like him more than we like her ;p
so we arn't judgey or anything
but say if my parents tried to matchmake me and we found she's an egg eating tarian or likes wine? Its a no go. On the other hand, if someone's veggie, we hit it off and she's not a tamil bramin? meh I'd go for it
Similar things could be said about the faith tradition I grew up with... when you look at the actual teachings they tell you to love folks. On the other hand, the orthodoxy/dogma makes things less clear?
Vegetarianism is actually a relatively recent thing - folklorewise
In our mythic age, they would sacrifice animals, eat the offerings and bring it back to life
and there were two opposing sides. Asuras and Devas.
before Devas were immortal, another folk tale for another time, Asuras were winning the war cause they had a spell that could bring the dead back to life.
The Deva "Prajapathi" - kind of their teacher in chief sent his son to the Asura "Prajapathi" to try to learn this spell...
The son's a good student, the Asura Prajapathi likes him... as does his daughter.
The Asuras on the other hand figure that - well, this kid is up to no good. So they kill him and mix his ashes with his teacher's food... His teacher dosen't notice cause he's drunk and eats it.
(they might have cooked him and fed him to his teacher, I forget)
when he realises what happens, he basically goes "ugh, I did this cause I was intoxicated. Bramins shouldn't drink"
I actually also take it as a cautionary tale against intoxication in general
but that's one of those "eh, its rules for me"
if you're my friend and puking your guts out, I will certainly give you a hand, rather than being preachy ;)
@apaul I think caste is a prerequisite for many of the other things. Its hard to understand our culture from outside. Sometimes even from the inside ;p
Parents + brother with an failed arranged marriage + motivation + culture ;p
quite literally if you can answer the question, you might actually go "Hey geek! I have an uncle's sister's brother in law's dog's former owner's nephew's grandmother's grandaughter your age!"
This is gonna be a boring day for me... for the work of my team we need a tool which had been forbidden to use a few days before I joined the company. I pointed out multiple times that I will need that tool aswell and I dont like just downloading a tool thats not allowed within my first days.
I got told multiple times "Well but you don't need it yet" last friday I came to the point where it became mandatory for me to continue work. This monday after I said "Hey guys, I can't do my job without a tool doing that now" it got escelated, so now the manager finally is looking for another tool we can use.... And on top of all that everyone except me is in homeoffice today....
Feels bad just having to sit here at my desk and genuinely not being able to work without breaking company polices >.<
An organization I'm in offered a "test drive" event of a car manufacturer to its members. Since I have an interest in cars, I opted to go.
The purpose of this event is obviously to promote the cars. However this is a high-end car manufacturer, and I do not foresee I would be able to afford their...
I've been trying to look it up but is anyone around to try explain US student debt to me? In Aus, 99% of uni students have tons of student debt, but there is no significant interest or reason it would impact you in a big way financially. US seems different given the recent question. Is student debt more rare? Are you expected to pay it back quickly? I don't really get the culture difference. Trying to look up how much interest you get but it seems very varied
related to recent question
The Question says person in relationship is worried about revealing they have student debt and the negative reaction it might cause.
Doesn't really make sense to me since every one of my peers that went to uni have that same amount of debt. Isn't it expected? How would this be a surprise?
2. Over here we dont pay interest. just like 0.3% as money value increases. You pay it back with slightly larger than normal tax automatically. If you don't earn enough to exceed the bracket you might never have to pay it off, or if you move countries the debt doesn't (or at least didn't) follow you. It is not such a deal breaker as this is making out
@Jesse For what I know (I'm not from the US, I'm French) US student debts are very common and can be hard to repay (needing ten years to pay them back is common enough). The amount of debt varies depending on the school you choose to go and you are definitively expected to pay them back.
@Jesse In the US student loans are variable (there's a cap on how much you can take out per year but otherwise you get to choose how much) and depending on the living situation someone who lives on campus because their parents are far away will have more loans then someone who doesn't. Also different majors / classes cost different amounts
