The Awkward Silence

1:43 AM

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Q: How to get over sadness and reconnect with people

TL;DR I had a rough experience, which caused me to cut off a lot of people. If I want to reconnect with some people what should I do? To start, I was never a really social person, but I had a few people in my life that I was close to. However I had a really rough time over the summer, with one p...

apaul

2:03 AM

Echo

i can't hear it...

Buh dum tiss

:D \o/

@spiralsucculent didn't mean to come across as abrasive... the new version of the question just felt like shoehorning.

@ElizB o/

ElizB

(looks up shoehorning) .... @apaul can you explain a little more, so I understand better?

"Description: The process of force-fitting some current affair into one's personal, political, or religious agenda. Many people aren't aware of how easy it is to make something look like confirmation of a claim after the fact, especially if the source of the confirmation is something in which they already believe, like Biblical prophecies, psychic predictions, astrological horoscopes, fortune cookies, and more."
source: https://www.logicallyfallacious.com/tools/lp/Bo/LogicalFallacies/161/Shoehorning)

apaul

2:10 AM

@ElizB shoehorning, as in forcing something to fit. Like using a shoehorn to squeeze into a shoe that's a size too small.

As in... This question didn't really fit well on this stack, but we'll radically edit to make it fit.

Make sense?

ElizB

Ahhhh gotcha

thank you. I took a logics class back in high school and I only remember red herring :P

apaul

@ElizB Don't feel bad, I was kicked out of 3 high schools.

;)

ElizB

@apaul ah, jeez. I was homeschooled so even if I wanted to leave I couldn't :P

was there a joke in there I missed? I'm not sure what the wink is implying....

apaul

Poor thing lol

@ElizB Mostly just a self deprecating acknowledgement of my lack of formal education.

ElizB

@apaul ah, gotcha :)

wasn't sure how to respond :P

apaul

2:19 AM

I'm not to be taken all that seriously.

ElizB

I was figuring out how seriously to take you.

apaul

And on a scale of 1 to 10... how seriously should I be taken?

ElizB

depends on your mood, it seems like.

apaul

Ya, like most folks.

ElizB

Fair enough :)

apaul

2:23 AM

How's @EmC doing today?

Em C

@apaul doing ok :) just figured out I can't move comment bot messages on mobile lol

apaul

Fun times

Em C

also just had whiskey and ice cream for dessert :P

apaul

Oooo

Scotch or?

ElizB

Watching this youtube video of the 30th anniversary thing that Phantom did with the Empire State Building in New York City, they lit up the top of the tower to sync up with Phantom music playing from inside another building :D so cool to watch, and great quality too!

Em C

2:29 AM

it's Evan Williams Honey, "a Kentucky straight bourbon whiskey"

apaul

Honey bourbon is sometimes acceptable lol

Em C

I usually pick at random haha, it's decent imo

apaul

Random? What heresy is this?

Journeyman Geek

Poor Random

(he's one of the long ~~suffering~~ serving SU mods)

apaul

@JourneymanGeek Has interesting edit summaries iirc

Journeyman Geek

2:33 AM

That he does

They tend to be a bit... random...

Em C

@apaul I don't actually know anything about types of alcohol :P the store nearest my new place has different brands so I've been trying new ones

apaul

Remember him from the old meta, in the before time.

Journeyman Geek

(And this folks, is when people started wondering if they could vote me off the channel)

@apaul ya, he's been around forever.

apaul

@EmC Airport bottles are great for that.

Em C

@ElizB oh neat! I never knew they did something like that

apaul

2:38 AM

Scored some black berry schnapps last night. Was delicious, but powerful.

Em C

ooh, that sounds good

ElizB

@EmC They filmed Seirra Boggess and Ramin Karimloo and others for the 25th anniversary, and then for the 30th anniversary they had more people come up for it... Ali Ewoldt played christine and I forget who played phantom.

Em C

@ElizB aw

ElizB

@EmC it's going on 31 or 32 years and it doesn't seem to be stopping.

Em C

are you into Wicked at all? I saw a video lately of their anniversary with a bunch of the lead pairs, it was awesome

Kristin Chenoweth and Idina Menzel: "For Good" - NBC’s A Very Wicked Halloween (Performance)

►

ElizB

2:44 AM

@EmC my mom and siblings went to see it while I was stuck in college.... :( I like it but not seen it on stage yet.

Em C

Only 15 years though ;)

ElizB

@EmC 15 years running?

Em C

maybe..? or since it debuted? I'm not sure >.>

ElizB

i'm not sure either

one more video, then gonna go to sleep....

ElizB

3:02 AM

'night all. :)

Extroverted Main Man

5:45 AM

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Q: Tell social acquaintaces I prefer messaging apps/email over LinkedIn

I have social acquaintances (distant family, old school or college classmates) who routinely send me LinkedIn invites. Usually I accept them if they work in a similar industry to mine and it's possible we might work together in future, even if we haven't spoken in a while. How can politely I te...

acquaintances social-media

Cashbee

8:03 AM

Good morning IPS

dhein

Morning

Cashbee

hey @dhein o/ sorry again for last week :S

can you forgive me?

dhein

Sure, I already did ^^

As said, unfortunate but its fine.

dhein

8:29 AM

@Cashbee: Also I got a very helpfull chat on the topic of my post, which helped me to view my situation from a different point. Hence the resentment I was experiencing when posting that question faded already ;)

Cashbee

9:03 AM

oh, yeah that chat looks nice. we really have the nicest users heree

A J

9:20 AM

@Cashbee afternoon

Cashbee

@AJ o/

A J

wassup?

Cashbee

not much, working

you?

A J

same here, working, but too much

see y'all later.

apaul

9:49 AM

Ugh... insomnia

Journeyman Geek

I try not to let it keep me up and night...

Magisch

Ugh middle of the workday

Try harder

... timezones :D

You people...

9:51 AM

(well I just assumed everyone was out, grabbed the router after shutting it down, and installed a hard drive... only to realise my dad was in)

I AM THE BEST NINJA ADMIN.

apaul

Worked the 6pm to 6am when I was a kid, it ruined any sense of circadian rhythm.

Journeyman Geek

@apaul my current job has me switching shifts between day and night...

I am looking forward to my 2 weeks of reservist so I have normal sleep cycles ;)

apaul

@JourneymanGeek Been there done that. It's hateful.

Journeyman Geek

It is

its a job, however ;)

and should tide me over till I find something with more sensible hours

Magisch

@apaul I like my work life balance

apaul

9:53 AM

Whatever helps you sleep at night ;)

Or morning... as the case may be

The weird sense of duty really good sysadmins have can border on the sociopathic, but it's nice to know that it stands between the forces of darkness and your cat blog's servers.

Noon

10:06 AM

My parent forgot to sign some of the papers for my apartment and now I might not be able to move in tomorrow :(

(also, Hi everyone)

dhein

11:18 AM

@Noon ouh no.... that sucks. Is it now gonna be contracted to some one else?:o

and hey

Noon

11:35 AM

@dhein No, I will still have it but there is some setback and things aren't going according to plan anymore and now I'm stress and will be until everything is back on track

dhein

@Noon: Trust me, I know how you feel :x But as far as I can judge from outside of your box: They should be interested in getting you back on your track as soon as possible, as they want money, and an empty appartment brings them none. So don't stress your self too much :)

A J

11:58 AM

Please note: When you flag or vote on a post, please try to leave a comment explaining what the problem is with the post and make a suggestion about how to fix it if you think it can be improved. Thank you. :)

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doppelgreener

There are times I downvote a post for the reason "I disagree with this" or "I think this is not a workable solution", and there is nothing they can say or do to reverse my vote short of just completely changing their minds and rewriting their post entirely to suggest something completely different. I don't leave comments in that situation. Is that fine?

Noon

@AJ Is this about my flagging of old NAA post where I don't comment? Or about something else?

A J

@doppelgreener Uhm... yeah it's fine. If you see there is something you can think about the post that needs to be improved, feel free to do so.

@Noon Nah. It's just a common message for all. :)

Noon

Hum, okay

doppelgreener

12:26 PM

@AJ ok :D good good

Sandman

12:55 PM

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A: Sandbox for Proposed Questions

How many time should you try to call someone if the other person is not answering? tag: etiquette, phone-call Last Monday, I wanted to ask a question to my cousin and decided to phone her. I called her once and she didn't answer so I decided to try a second time right after my first attempt. ...

Magisch

@AJ "What you have just answered is the worst advice I have ever heard. Everyone that saw it is now worse off for reading it. I award you no upvotes, and may you never actually take your own advice"

(It's a wordplay on a famous movie clip and a joke)

Extroverted Main Man

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Q: How exactly to tell someone to not touch me

I know this theme has already been discussed, but I would like to ask for exact advice for my exact situation. Outline I am an Eastern-European lady living in Germany and working as a software consultant. My client is a Chinese man, let's call him Chen. We have been working for half a year toge...

work-environment coworkers europe professionalism

avazula

2:04 PM

Hi everyone!

Journeyman Geek

Hi @avazula

avazula

Long time no see! How r u doing pal? :)

A J

2:33 PM

@avazula jello!

avazula

Hi there! :)

A J

@avazula how is the preparations going?

avazula

@AJ Oh, it's already done. We signed this morning, we're back home.

It's really not that romantic ^^

A J

@avazula good!

Cashbee

congratulations nevertheless :)

avazula

2:35 PM

Thanks guys :)

We actually encountered some issues: my SO's last name includes special characters that weren't correctly reported on his birth certificate, so now we'll have to demand that it is modified, otherwise his kids will have a different name should he has some someday

Cashbee

is he called Robert'); DROP TABLE students;-- by any chance?

avazula

@Cashbee Hahaha! I wish...

For those who don't know that joke:

Cashbee

i dont think such people exist

no offense if im wrong, but i think its the truth

avazula

@Cashbee don't break my heart like that Cash

Too late, I saw haha

Cashbee

:)

good

avazula

2:43 PM

^^

How you're doings guys?

Extroverted Main Man

3:03 PM

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Q: How can I help a friend deal with a cancelled weekend break she was really looking forward to?

I have a friend who had a weekend break planned months in advance with several of her friends, and a little while ago, it was cancelled. She was really looking forward to this break, and there's nothing anyone can do to restore those arrangements. That break would have been this weekend. I kno...

friends united-kingdom

ElizB

3:17 PM

in my second class (of two) today, I have the whole afternoon to do stuff inside. It's pretty nasty outside- cold (~34 F) plus rainy/sleet-ish in some areas. I know I have a ton of work to do in my current class, there's a presentation and term paper to do....

avazula

@ElizB lots of hugs and prep talks <3

ElizB

It's all about the prep :)

i have to start early enough in order not to be overwhelmed after thanksgiving.

avazula

@ElizB oh right, you guys have this thing to think about

ElizB

also just found that the presentation plus the paper is 45% of my grade. weeeelp. :P

30% paper 15% presentation

Magisch

@ElizB best of luck :p

ElizB

3:25 PM

thanks

Cashbee

you can do it 💪

Extroverted Main Man

4:03 PM

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Q: My sister refuses to throw away old, unused things. Our shared room is becoming extremely cluttered. How can I get her to help out?

I share a bedroom with my younger sister, she is currently 15 and I am 20. Recently I have been becoming very stressed out with the clutter in the room. I begun cleaning out my own belongings, following the KonMari method of disposing of things that no longer spark joy. This is going really well ...

family united-kingdom difficult-people siblings chores

ElizB

5:39 PM

pretty quiet it seems...

user15026

@ElizB You've got this <3

ElizB

0.0 Phantom of the Opera ON ICE? strangee.......

user15026

@ElizB iiiiinteresting

ElizB

featuring russian figure skaters

i skipped through most of it and read the comments.... meh

they used the ending that Erik dies of a broken heart

Extroverted Main Man

6:19 PM

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Q: How To Reveal Debt To Longtime Bf?

My bf and I have been together for several years. We have never lived together in the same place, but have spent time together at each others places. We're pretty serious now and I have student debt I've never told him about. I've never talked about money to him because I felt we weren't serio...

money

Extroverted Main Man

7:19 PM

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Q: How to improve english communication skill

I am here to share one of my personal problem with you. I am not a native English speaker. I learn to read how to read or write in English. I am not very fluent in english. Sometime people ask me questions and I think and think how to answer them. This is very embarrassing. People laugh at my bac...

conversations united-states awkward-situations etiquette greetings

ElizB

9:16 PM

just took an hour nap.... wow it's hard to wake up when the bed is so good....

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