I agree. What i observe best are facial expressions, and when he did Skyrim with Lindsey Stirling, they really did a good job with the facial expressions- they had fun, while being "serious fighter mode" and "adventure mode" with their music and body language
"How would you let someone from a different culture (Asian, likely Japanese) know that they are doing something rude without putting them on the spot?"
context would be, I'm in Canada, ordering take-out at a small authentic restaurant and pretty darned pregnant. The clerk kept going on and on about "are you sure there is just one in there?" I could tell she wasn't ill-intentioned but a bit clueless
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How would you let someone from a different culture (Asian, likely Japanese) know that they are doing something rude without putting them on the spot in their workplace?
I'm a client paying for my take-out at a small authentic restaurant and quite pregnant. The female asian clerk is laying it on ...
Well, there it is! :P @Emilie I mentioned one thing, but am gonna be going to bed in a minute or two, so have a good night, and I will give more feedback tomorrow afternoon. Have a good night!
I know! Different culture. I could reframe my question to "How do you let new users know they're being rude without putting them on the spot on SE" though my understanding is that would be off-topic haha :)
The sandbox reminds me of a study I read on special Help Rooms that were setup for SO at some point
supposedly the score for questions increased by 50% or something along those lines, I'd have to fetch the paper but it was a similar concept, a bit like mentoring
And of course, it's not worth developer time to make sure you can't ping yourself (meaning not playing the sound or showing the (1) notification) because if you manage it, you did it on purpose, and not many people will do that.
That's one thing I've noticed, there seems to be a huge culture gap between what we expect of new users and to what extent new users are provided with the tools to understand all the intricacies of the system
I live in a three bedroom apartment with three of my former colleagues. Two of us have a room of their own, while I share my room with P(his initial name). P is also the most outspoken and social amongst us and we usually have a good chat now and then. But most of the time his behaviour is really...
@OttoAbnormalverbraucher So, your one brother is dead to you, your other one is doing ok, if he's bourgeois, and you are scornful of this, ( why? ) and you are happy that you have very little contact with your parents. Huh. Well, staying angry will make it better for sure. — chiggsy1 min ago
I recently accepted receipt of some flowers for a neighbour who wasn’t home. We don’t know the neighbour at all (even to say hi on the street). The flowers are clearly for a death in their family.
The delivery person said they had put a card through their door explaining that we have the flowers...
Background: My siblings are used to spending money without a care in the world and it has leaked into the games we play. When we play games they always want to bet. When I ask them if we can just play for fun I am met with a lot of peer pressure and criticism. I just want to have fun and not make...
I have a job where I frequently meet new clients. Sometimes this is good, but often, it can be quite difficult.
I'll meet people who I have nothing in common with. So we'll explore a few topics - sports, weather, family life or whatever - basically just small talk.
Basically, if I find no inter...
I'm on board with the idea of reminding people to be considerate to those who are new to the site, but I think there's a piece missing. The new UI element encourages established users to help the new user understand site norms, but I don't see where the system tries to help the new users underst...
I sent in my proposal and then showed up at some defense where my mentors were so they could see my huge pregnant belly and understand that my feedback needed to come in quick lol
Thanks @JAD! Definitely interested! I did a quick search as I read your comment this morning but there are so many little posts about it. I'm pretty sure I read this one before but it helps to read stuff again with hindsight
Yeah, that helps... I'm waiting on a baby until me and hubby are earning enough money after I graduate. He's already working as a software engineer under a company under Warner Brothers
Yeah, absolutely. I'm not following my younger sister (21 years old) who already has a daughter, just turned 3 months old. She's adorable and all but they have basically very little money and theyre gonna have to work their butt off to provide
I was working towards becoming a full-time teacher here but it takes forever and we had a dip in registrations so no work was coming my way and we had some fertility issues and everything was on standby so I decided to start the MA... Then we got preggo, and I got my full time AND I'm not quite finished so I've been juggling for a while lol
You predicted someone would say you are "pandering to an abuser or the like" and then did just that. Just commenting to say why I downvoted. — Jerome Viveiros1 min ago
@ElizB one of my cousins did that. Had a kid at 19 (I think?). The father left her when they discovered she was pregnant. Currently living off my aunt.
I can see it from the other side though, I sort of wish I had my kids a bit younger. Less risk, more energy and they eventually go to school so it does leave some time to go to school yourself
I can imagine, and I did my own sort of marathon back in march, I set the date for me and hubby to get married in march, right smack dab in the middle of the school year.... So i was planning my wedding plus passing my advanced science classes. :P
I know there is a similiar question but this one is not answering mine. So sorry for that.
I'm 27. And here is few words for introduction...
This insecurity isn't in my confidence at all. Quite the contrary I'd never had a problem to get the girl (in perfunctory(?) way). It's really hard for me ...
@JAD I agree. I guess it depends to what extent though, like kids don't need a tablet or a bunch of toys to have fun (but you do need to be able to afford the basics and maybe daycare which is not cheap typically)
Just being in a good place overall physically-mentally is important I think
If you're juggling kids with both parents working full time, you're basically setting them up for failure in comparison to other kids who have more advantages
It's actually pretty scary how dependent later success is on early parental care
If I wanted to write a comment that mentions a book which would make good supplementary material for an answer, is it ok to post a link to said book on amazon or would it be better to link to a synopsis of the book, for example a wikipedia page?
@JAD oh it's not! I've been blessed with really good work conditions and just a lot of support from government here. I've used everything I could feasible
and I don't know how I would be pulling this off right now if I still had courses
at least writing the thesis can be done on your own schedule
@Rainbacon I could be wrong (correct me anyone if i am wrong) you could write your own answer and provide the synopsis of the book in support to whoever answered. For example, you can answer with "I want to add a point to @thisperson 's answer, with this book, the synopsis is blah blah and the point I would like to emphasise is blah blah."
writing the answer would be great, yes :) from the mod side, I've seen some comments like "You should read this book XYZ" and they got flagged NLN.. so they won't necessarily stick around
amazon links I think are ok because SE sticks in their own affiliate code if you do that :P so I guess it is up to you what you think is a better reference for the material.. Wikipedia is probably more stable to link to though ;)
Background: To get a technical diploma I started to attend school last week again and will be there till may next year. I'm currently 22 yo and I'm generally a very agreeable person. The school is about 35 minutes of driving time away from me and has very few parking slots.
I knew beforehand tha...
I posted my question on the main site since it seemed ready
do I flag to delete from meta?
or simply delete?
and two things feedback wise my title was waaaay too long so I tweaked it (never realized there was a limit in chars for titles) and as a new user, I was sort of clueless re: tags to apply so maybe it could be nice to suggest tags in the sandbox :)
oh, we actually typically delete all the content too and link to the main site post (or say "Not Posted: Title"), so it's easier for people who can see deleted posts to scroll thru the sandbox page
@Emilie we also have a feed so new answers get posted in here, for visibility, but otherwise it's just a normal question post
I'm a client paying for my take-out at a small authentic restaurant and quite pregnant. The female asian clerk is laying it on thick with "Are you sure there is just one in there?", "When are you due?" (hint: not that soon!), and more. I'm assuming she may not be native to the culture because she...
when he love-bombs like narcissists do when they're insecure and afraid of losing someone, that's what makes me shaky, on the fence about just cutting him off or just finding a better time.
@emc Thanks. the conversation's done, so it was short and sweet. he's not bombing my phone which is good.
@Magisch i hate it too. I thought he would leave me alone like my mom does when I got married but because my 16 year old sister already told him she wants to live with mom, and is living with mom and visiting him on weekends (when she's ready) he's having issues all over again
I went through the same exact thing when I was 16. My parents are divorced
Thanks for the support. He thinks that our common ground is "physical activity", which I agree that it is good and healthy but i'm not super passionate about it like he is
I really appreciate your support @EmC and @Magisch :)
I fended that off and i'm okay now. My counselor advised to not let him get in my head and i'm keeping that in my mind. Keep him out of my head
I think it's sad that my dad is so insecure that he's behaving this way. :/ I'm not pitying him but i'm empathising with him, to understand his perspective.
still, gonna stay strong on my end to make sure my choices are heard and respected and if they're not, he can go do something else on his own
i might meet with him once and during that meeting, have him hear me say that it's not my job to diagnose him so he should go get analyzed himself!
He's trying to stave off the label of "gaslighter" I put on him a while back. oh well. :P He needs to deal with it. Okay, rant over. Work. :P Thanks for listening, people somewhere in the world! :P
@ElizB thanks :) MIL has been hinting around that we need to decide and book tickets for holiday travel soon, so I've been thinking seeing my family, and... bleh
Me and hubby already decided we're having a small thanksgiving just by ourselves. If my mom insists on us seeing her we can have thanksgiving at her house IF she really really insists.
The problem is that my family is very, very loud. Because my grandma had treatment for breast cancer and my grandparents are getting on in age, I will probably go myself for the thanksgiving meal with the excuse I have to get back asap for school.
that seems to be a good excuse because they want me to do well. Christmas is doable at my moms house, she doesnt make a big deal out of it
Here's the link to the question:
How to respond if your colleague is rude to you?
The moderator put the question on hold pretty quickly stating that it is not related to interpersonal skills. I feel that he has been over-strict with the rules and has killed this question from any discussion. Wh...
@ElizB we're definitely going to MIL's for Christmas, so we "should" go to my family for thanksgiving. I did that last year despite misgivings, to see if I could handle seeing my sister, and it was a pretty horrible time :/
@EmC aww. I won't ask you to go into detail if you don't want to, but that stinks. I guess it's the other way around, thanksgiving is the only time that i'm somewhat obligated to be there. I think i just might leave the hubby at home. (shrugs)
He's an introvert, so I can't imagine he wouldnt be fine with that. I would only stay one or two nights though.
now that I've moved we'll have to get plane tickets and rent a car to go to my parent's place, which complicates things a bit more as well, since we have to decide what we're doing well in advance
Don't worry about making a decision right this minute. I know you have to make it soonish but just focus on your priorities, then sleep on what you want to do, write it out, talk, take a walk, something like that.
I know the pressure of making decisions, that's what my dad was good at but now i've fended off stuff like that
I allow myself time to think it through- like making a yes/no decision, flipping a coin to decide, then see how you feel about it. if you agree, then do it, if you don't agree with the coin flip, do the oppoisite.
So, just yesterday iOS 12 came out for Apple devices. All of my family (including me) use Apple devices faithfully. My dad has used a Mac since they were first commercially available for the public.
iOS 12 has some serious parental control upgrades that will allow my parents to have complete co...
Okay, so here's the situation: I'm a 16 and / or male, and there's this girl I like in my physics class (11th grade, not sure if 16 or 17), she's new to the high school, moved from cali to wa over the summer and does not seem to have many friends yet. We sit in the same table groups, the only rea...
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I have an acquaintance whom has a PhD in Child Psychology. So on a regular basis, he is having to deal with mental disorders in children and the broken families they come from.
In a recent Facebook post, he said something to the effect that were he a parent, he would never forget about his chil...
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