I think this is a horrible answer. OP is Dutch with Indian heritage. You are telling a Dutch person to make fun of a stereotype on India's public transportation system and to mock their accent. An accent OP's parents might have. This is perpetuating the issue. — LVDV 1 min ago

A few things: 21 is not too old to live with your parents for economic reasons. He's fighting with them, sure, he's only 21, that's the way it goes. He's living rent-free, which usually is not worth it, but he's finding that out now. In fact, he needs to step up and fix the situation. 21 is not too old to live with his parents, but it is too old to be fighting with them every night, just because he wanted to save money on rent, and food. Plan it out, have compromise positions, make a lil presentation. Solve the problem. That's always the gig. — chiggsy 52 secs ago

"Racist in the hard sense" vs. "racist in the soft sense" is a distinction only relevant to racists. There's no reason OP should put up with this nonsense just because his "friend" doesn't want to literally lynch him. — ubadub 50 secs ago

Of course, if you're feeling aggressive and offended, the highest-voted answer would immediately shut down the crap, but that's certainly not how I would interact with friends. — LLlAMnYP 20 secs ago

Just to confirm; you and the restaurant are in your home country, and the employee is probably from elsewhere? — Kozaky 13 secs ago

Asking "are you sure there's just one in there?" sounds like it could be simply more rude than culturally insensitive. Have the others made that joke too, or do they just ask about the pregnancy? — Kozaky 1 min ago

This is an excellent answer, and I would like to add one small addition: the project itself. Talk about it, the technology being used, additional ways to use the project, future additions, etc. — Thunk 43 secs ago

@Hans1984 I don't believe in it either. Thinking "I can change him if I just love him enough" literally gets women killed. (Not saying that it will necessarily happen in this particular case, but it is a real thing that happens to real people who remain in abusive relationships.) — Mason Wheeler 1 min ago

I then rang the school myself, and a guy answered and said he tried to call me (no mention of him not using the school phone). I told him that I was making a 4 hour booking and that I was owed 2 hours, the guy asked why - I explained and said that I rang the government agency who agreed that lunch / breaks aren't included in the course. He instantly agreed with me and charged me for 2 hours. It would seem the instructor and his colleague were trying charge me without there being any record of it on the schools phone. — user21741 42 secs ago

This is all good advice... for avoiding the problem. I already know how to do that, and if that’s the best that can be done, so be it—but if your answer is that this is the best that can be done, you need to own that, say it explicitly and back it up. Otherwise, this isn’t really all that useful to me. — KRyan 1 min ago

Your bit about dealing with long distance relationship problems deserves to be accepted to a different question. It's really good. — Philbo 1 min ago

This person is not your friend, they're a racist. Dump them. — The Forest And The Trees 22 secs ago

OP isn't asking for advice, but asking specifically on how to get feedback from people who have rejected him. — John Gowers 35 secs ago

-1 because "golf" is noun, not a verb :-) — Matt 23 secs ago

@Astralbee I feel like you are unaware of modern boardgaming. There are a huge variety of games. Having elements of chance does not make a game based on chance. Being able to estimate and manipulate probabilities is often a part of the game. There are card games that allow you to build your own decks over the course of the game, or control what cards are available to other players. There are board games that use dice, but allow you to choose which dice to use. Its not just monopoly and chess. I think you have a good answer, but the first paragraph just seems ignorant of the hobby. — Tal 1 min ago

@DeNovo (2/2) The issue is not him not talking per se. It is him not talking even though he seems very talkative with other people. To be clear he does talk, but he uses minimum word responses that stop conversations. My judgement is definitely not completely accurate, but I can only base it on his actions including his body language and my experience. Also I'm not responsible for the fact that he doesn't own a car. So with the benefits removed, I don't see a good enough reason to continue the carpool group which at the end of the day only makes me feel bad and costs extra time. — John Brown 1 min ago

@JohnBrown sorry, just trying to clarify in these comments. It sounds like your response (you expect mutual respect) suggests there is a way he could change his behavior that would make you happy with the arrangement. Is there? What would it be? Maybe this comment exchange would be better in response to your question, but it was in response to your statement in a comment here. I'm trying to clarify your problem to help improve this and other answers. — De Novo 1 min ago

This works if you have the personality for it. There's some people who can pull this off, and some who can't. I agree with Ontamu, if OP wishes to handle the situation delicately, making the joke stupid will put the guy off. I've used this tactic in many different situations, and usually after we have a silly laugh, the jokes stop. (Of course, there's always that -one- friend you have to tell directly...) — NOP 1 min ago

I get the gist of your answer but I dont completely agree. But I will definitely try to just stop playing if she continues to say this. But I dont understand the last bit about being a deal breaker? — Hakaishin 1 min ago

The last paragraph is a good technique and one I used with my kids. "I won't put monitoring software on your computer, but I can look at your computer at any time I choose." — baldPrussian 33 secs ago

Jerome, "everybody's an abuser" kneejerking is not helpful. Abuse is a real thing and it shouldn't be trivialized by reducing it to the IPS version of calling everyone you disagree with a Nazi. — Harper 1 min ago

Is your question "how to win an argument"? In my experience it is rude to point out peoples' childlessness, in particular because you rarely know the circumstances behind other people having or not having children. It is also not very persuasive to start out by presuming someone else couldn't know. You would be better off starting from yourself, and sharing sympathy for those who may have made tragic mistakes rather than contempt for those who can't see themselves making the same ones. — Bryan Krause 1 min ago

Have you considered simply staying on iOS 11? — Sean 46 secs ago

For a parent to view Screen Time reports and set parental controls, your Apple ID must be set up as a child account within one of your parents' accounts, which must be enabled for Family Sharing. It sounds like this is what you assume they will do. If not, no worries. — pseudon 1 min ago