@apaul yeah, sorry about that -- I realize, from a chat with Cascabel, that trying to fight to balance the IPS site with angry men isn't a good idea ...
My doctor keeps reminding me that she's supposed to tell me to quit. She also says she cannot find any medical evidence in my case to prove it. All she can medically tell me to do is lose weight and eat more red meat to raise my cholesterol.
@apaul That's your comment? Your value to an answer was acknowledging the misuse of "love" instead of "sexual interest" for the easiness of it and being used to it? Most people on this planet would use this term. On top of that, a down-vote (most likely)? Oh, darn, guess I met my first "reputation overlord". Sure, your comment is quirky, smart and would get the ladies down, but comments from high-reputation users influence other users into changing their opinions. I'd say next time use all that reputation for more constructive stuff. You're capable of it, as per your history. — Jonathan Guerin7 mins ago
There is a limit on them. 5 pending at one time. Add in that most users can only review edits at 20/day, and you get a bottleneck that usually "stops" massive editing.
When it's a team effort, however, the coordination can be accomplished.
In group conversations, certain co-workers would make offensive remarks to suggest I may gay. I am a male gay and am not out of the closet. Examples of such remarks: "Would you prefer an introduction to a male lover instead?", "I'm sure you will be comfortable at the new location. There are plent...
I have a question about my Interpersonal Skills Stack Exchange post: How to ask cashier out for date
See my answer. As per OP's question, he looks like he's not going back. We've all been there. Our friends say no, but love takes away all rational thought.
While, yes, in a perfect world we...
As someone who worked in the past in coffee shops because I was in a shitty office/because the weather was fine/or just because I could/because the Internet is better, ...but still had deadlines to meet.... I can tell this is not the brightest recommendation. Better leave a note or if talking be very short. — Rui F Ribeiro1 min ago
I have a question about using genderneutral pronouns here. I want to refer to the OP of a question, whose username is "Alex Keyes". Is it okay to say "he" or should I use they?
@Tinkeringbell ok thanks. So even if the username wasnt gender-ambiguous i.e. "Marco ManlyMan" you would use 'they' unless they specifically mentioned their gender somewhere?
@Magisch yeah I feel ya, the idea is a bit strange for german speakers. The fact that I have never seen the usage of singular they outside of IPS.SE doesn't help either
from duolingo: We use de for singular masculine or feminine nouns and het with singular neuter nouns. We tend to refer to these nouns as either de words or het words. For plural nouns, we always use de.
that's more interesting that I would want to admint
German regularly uses generisches Maskulinum for gender-neutral expressions; however, some wannabe political-correct people don't want to understand this grammar rule anymore.
i think swiss german is nearer to dutch than german is to dutch. I have no problem understanding most of dutch even though I don't know it that much :)
French has something similar with collections. If you're talking about a group of things or people, the group is masculine when there is at least one masculine member
So only when all are feminine, the group is as well
You might say: "Those are the rules of the language, deal with it"
But it's also interesting to wonder how those rules came to be
@Tinkeringbell I just realized you have masculine and feminine nouns but only the pronoun 'de' to use with both of them. Are there other grammatical differences between masculine and feminine nouns or does it actually never make any difference what genus the noun has?
@Tinkeringbell "die" is the feminine pronoun for singular. "der" is the singular pronoun for masculine, "das" is singular pronoun for neutrum. "die" is also for plural.
Last time I was in germany (last year) it was pretty awkward.
We were in a hotel in Bayern, when some people campaigning for CSU entered. One started a conversation with my mother about immigration and stuff. I followed it enough to know what was being said, but couldn't really chime in :/
Alright i'm not sure is this the right place to ask but still, i'm 16 years old man/boy (mediocre in school though..)and i need some help. Almost month ago my desktop pc's PSU popped and smelled like burned plastic, it's about 4 years old prebuilt crap, probably from Fujitsu if i remember right. ...
I think it's to encourage people like me to flag a comment thread of more than 2 comments with a special mod flag, so that they don't see 1000000000 flags each day :P
@Magisch looks interesting, though i dont read books. I do remember watching scifi movies when i was a kid though, hoping to get as much "science" out of it as possible :P (since my education-resources were limited) Did you by any chance read it when you were young too?
@Tinkeringbell they are often like puppies, ready to steal your sandwich when you aren't looking :D humans that is
Maybe you should start another question here like: How can I confess to my friends that I didn't always tell them the truth - but check first if someone else asked already ;) — Edgar1 min ago
@Tinkeringbell yeah. They are nearly always oblivious to their rationalizations and they are extremely predictable! Which indeed makes them sometimes boring. Though sometimes its fun to play with them.. we are both social animals after all :P (i mean us humans and them puppies) Anyway.. was nice chatting with you. bb
@LinuxBlanket If the 'speaking up' part relates to 'not knowing what to say' that's an interpersonal thing you might get help with... Back to that site I linked, there's some info on what you can say in such situations and how to say it....
@LinuxBlanket Like I said, if you want to make a good IPS question, you ask about executing 1 of the points ;) But looking after yourself might be better for one of the lifestyle SE's :P
Mine aren't perfect either ;) I was still thinking about a question on either getting feedback/improving my 'do not disturb' body language, but after all that's recently happened I'll put that in the fridge for a good long while.
@Mithrandir still stretched? If not, does the comment bot already pick up +1/-1 comments?
Hello @Tinkeringbell! Thanks for the invite. My lurking on chat is mainly forgetting to log out when I go offline. Did I tell you that our internet connection is still unreliable so I am online and offline by turns on a regular basis.
hey @Tinkeringbell regarding your answer to asking out the lady cashier, I think I was off the mark there, in trying to push for an IPS site that allows for more balance with angry men -- sorry about that ...
(a chat with shog and cascabel and some reflection afterwards made me realize that ...)
If I were your dad, I would tell you are old enough to pay it yourself working in a part time job, maybe a coffee shop. I would double any money you earned for the computer. In the meantime a raspberry pi can well fit your needs for learning. Forget games. — Rui F Ribeiro1 min ago
so, about my issue, I'm going to try to write a proper question
it will be my first one, uhuhu
but I think that the core of the problem is that when somebody is aggressive to me I'm like one of those goats that paralyze and fall on one side when scared
and "how can I stop being the genetically impaired goat" is not about IPS...
@LinuxBlanket don't ask how to improve your goatiness. Ask how to communicate your problems (your = yours and those of your gf) so you can work together to improve it. You can and should probably mention your relation with goats (haha), but don't make it as the core of the Q
IMHO Interpersonal Stack Exchange is a horrible place to ask this question. What your talking about is called "cold approach" and, in my experience, people hate it in principal (a lot, hence the downvotes), but respond positively in practice. Go get your answers from a community that has decided "cold approach" is okay, try it out a bit, then you can make your own informed moral judgement. — Nathan Cooper36 secs ago
@Cashbee I like the word "goatiness" a lot. The way I'm going to formulate the question is more or less "how can I stand by my girlfriend when she stresses out and acts aggressively, being the scaredy goat I am?"
@LinuxBlanket How to properly response to my girlfriend when she is stressed? I prefer to stand by with my girlfriend however I'm unsure on how to do this.
I have a question about my Interpersonal Skills Stack Exchange post: How to ask cashier out for date
See my answer. As per OP's question, he looks like he's not going back. We've all been there. Our friends say no, but love takes away all rational thought.
While, yes, in a perfect world we...
