The Awkward Silence

Ælis

3:00 PM

(even if it can still be a bit weird, it's better than no reaction at all)

Em C

@Sid this especially is very relatable :(

Rainb

@Sid I feel guilty of not overthinking, when I am caught in an awkward situation, tbh.

Rainbacon

I found more lemon tea!

avazula

@Rainbacon yay!

Ælis

Lemon Tree - Fools Garden

►

Sid

3:08 PM

@noob Wrong chat, my friend.

Please go to a chatroom of stack overflow for this question

Rainbacon

I've decided that Wednesday is my most productive day of the week, because it's the day where I have the lowest average participation here in chat

Ælis

@Rainbacon Ahah XD I guess those HNQ return days are terrible for your productivity then ^^

Rainbacon

@Ælis Not yet, I was in meetings most of yesterday, so work was killing my productivity ;)

Ælis

@Rainbacon You should have been there this European morning then. Tink had to write a comment under almost all the answers I got ^^

Rainbacon

Sorry, I was asleep :p

Ælis

3:23 PM

How dare you sleep when the world needs you!

:p

Rainbacon

Plus I was moderating well past my bedtime last night

Ælis

@Rainbacon Well then, I guess IPS indirectly kill your productivity for today after all \o/

:p

Ælis

3:40 PM

If anyone want to do some mod work: interpersonal.stackexchange.com/a/21834/21067 ^^

Rainbacon

Done, I also protected your question since it's getting a lot of poor answers

Ælis

@Rainbacon Oh, I had completely forgotten about that functionality. I guess that's what 8 month out of HNQ does to you ^^

Rainbacon

3:58 PM

It's the first time I've ever gotten to use it

Extroverted Main Man

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Q: How can I make an argument that my time is valuable?

I'm a software engineer, but before that, I attempted to run my own mobile computer repair business. That business never got off the ground, so I went into a career in software development. Fairly frequently, I have people still contact me for computer repairs. Sometimes it's several times a mon...

scohe001

Ooh @Ava I love your new picture. But you're not a German Pub Girl anymore! What will I call you??

Rainbacon

@scohe001 still looks like a german pub girl to me

scohe001

German pub girls carry swords and look majestically into the distance? Germany must've changed since the last time I was there...

Ælis

@Rainbacon I never used it myself ^^

@scohe001 XD

Rainbacon

4:01 PM

@scohe001 I mean, that's my aesthetic for german pub girls

scohe001

@Rainbacon haha I think we need to take an Awkward Silence trip to Germany for research purposes then

Rainbacon

ooh, that sounds fun

scohe001

I have always wanted to see the Beech Tree Forest...

Rainbacon

4:18 PM

that looks nice

Mithrandir

4:34 PM

@scohe001 Y'all can visit the cactus.

Rainbacon

@Ælis you might want to stop by here to clarify to the answerer what you want

Em C

@Rainbacon beat me to it.. I have too many tabs open :P

Rainbacon

@EmC Well, you beat me to the comment, so now we're even

Em C

:D

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

4:52 PM

Don't beat each other. I'm sure we can find a compromise without violence.

Em C

@M.A.R.ಠ_ಠ (ง'̀-'́)ง

boops

Extroverted Main Man

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Q: How do I deal with a friend group that I fear is making its more successful member upset?

I'm one of a close group of friends, we'll call them ABCDE and F. All of us are middle aged. Of those, A (which is not me) is quite successful; he has his own home and family, a property portfolio, and has retired in late middle age. The others have not done so well. Some have lost jobs. None ha...

united-kingdom friend-groups

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

@EmC (ง ͠ ͠° ل͜ °)ง

Syke, I got a sword

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TheTinyMan

💣

Em C

@M.A.R.ಠ_ಠ D: touché

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

5:00 PM

That's a fake bomb. How can a tiny man carry a real bomb?

Rainbacon

@M.A.R.ಠ_ಠ Maybe the tiny man is the bomb...

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

Well, it IS some sort of a peaceful compromise

TheTinyMan

The tiny man feels like a bomb right now, primed to explode!

If everyone's dead there'll be no one left to fight! :D :D

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

I just propelled that Skeptics thing into HNQ. I'm altruistic like that.

Conditions and charges may apply.

Rainbacon

Ooh, just got my 400th LQP review task

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

5:06 PM

That's boring. There are no badges for that.

Wait, is there a badge for posting in chat about your 400th review?

Well-played.

Now I feel like reviewing

Rainbacon

haha, no I already have all the chat badges

There are only 2

Wish there was a gold one for chat

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

'Post 10 messages that are neither PSAs nor dad jokes that get starred.'

Rainbacon

Post 5000 messages in chat with 500 total stars

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

Tempting. Tempting

I have 150k, but I dunno how many are starred

Rainbacon

Wow that's a lot

There should be a 4th level of badge: Platinum. It should be awarded only once per year. Something like, "give out more points in bounties than any other user on the site this year"

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

5:15 PM

Suggested around 10 times in meta.SO and 20 in meta.SE

Wait till Eeps graduates and privilege reps get a buff

Rainbacon

It could be the follow up to investor and we could call it "hedge fund manager"

also, I don't think we're going to graduate for quite a while

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

Well, making it back to HNQ seems to have reinvigorated the site a bit

Or it could be because of the time of the year

Everyone becomes more of an introvert in May.

Mithrandir

5:29 PM

@M.A.R.ಠ_ಠ I have a lot of catching up to do then...

Rainbacon

@Mithrandir You think you've got catching up to do...

El'endia Starman

I have 2141 stars in The Nineteenth Byte.

Rainbacon

How do you see that?

user15026

I am curious how many I have in the Bridge, how did you figure that out?

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El'endia Starman

5:42 PM

My secret weapon: TNBDE.

Rainbacon

@IPSCommentBot tp

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user15026

@El'endiaStarman Awww, not useful other places :(

El'endia Starman

Unfortunately, figuring that out for other chat rooms would require scraping their whole transcripts into a database and that's a lot of work.

Rainbacon

@El'endiaStarman So I'm assuming you have a process that scrapes new data from that room once a day or so?

El'endia Starman

5:52 PM

@Rainbacon Yup. One moment...

I use cronjobs to run this function: github.com/elendiastarman/tnbde/blob/master/…

I think it's one every hour plus one every day.

Rainbacon

ah, nice

and now I can go creep on your github...

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

@Mithrandir You're in so many rooms it breaks chat and yet you can't catch up.

@Rainbacon No good can come of this

scohe001

6:13 PM

@Mithrandir the cactus? Is there only one?

Mithrandir

@scohe001 Of course. He's named @Magisch.

scohe001

Oh! Didn't realize Magisch was in Germany

I thought "The Cactus" was some kind of monument there or something lol

Rainbacon

What makes you think Magisch isn't a monument?

Magisch

near frankfurt

scohe001

@Rainbacon valid

Tinkeringbell

6:42 PM

@ExtrovertedMainMan It doesn't look like OP will be around soon to clarify their goal, but I also don't feel it should be singlehandedly modhammered closed? Any ideas?

Rainbacon

@Tinkeringbell I just cast the first close vote, now you can hammer it without it being singlehanded ;)

Tinkeringbell

@Rainbacon I'll wait until there's a few more, just to be sure it really should be closed ;)

It's... one of those where I'm thinking that we don't close all questions where people ask for more details, so why would I close this one? :/

Rainbacon

Just saw a promotional video for a former client. They had one of their people talking about how great the company is. About how they use all kinds of "brand new" technologies such as hadoop, AWS, Scala, and microsoft sql server

One of these things is not like the others

Ælis

@Tinkeringbell It sounds a bit like a "what should I do" question to me. So it's not about just asking for more details

Tinkeringbell

@Rainbacon Hahaha

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

6:56 PM

@Rainbacon Ow ow ow! I know this one! I KNOW THIS ONE

El'endia Starman

@Rainbacon I don't think any of these can really be considered new.

Rainbacon

@El'endiaStarman Well no, but one of them is extremely not new in comparison to the others

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

Maybe it's 'Brand knew' technologies. Russell Brand, maybe.

Or Brandon Flynn.

One thing Germans do right, BTW, is pronunciation.

scohe001

Totally read that wrong lmao

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

Well, they do kindergarten right too probably. I'm not young enough to be a good judge of that

scohe001

7:08 PM

For some reason I thought you'd said the one thing they pronounce right is pronunciation. So I came in with the only German-English word I knew

Tinkeringbell

interpersonal.stackexchange.com/q/21838/1599 < now it's awkward :/

Rainbacon

@Tinkeringbell HAHAHAHAHAHA

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

BUUUUURN

This chat is very supportive.

Rainbacon

Proof that being an IPS mod doesn't preclude you from awkward social interactions

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

@Rainbacon The situation in that question is like them bumping into each other on the doorway of a subway train, and they move in the same direction seven times until the door closes.

Enjoy getting off a full two blocks later, Tink

Tinkeringbell

7:12 PM

@M.A.R.ಠ_ಠ Verily.

IPS Comment Bot

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M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

@IPSCommentBot Forum? FORUM?

IPS Comment Bot

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M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

Sacrilege!

Tinkeringbell

7:36 PM

interpersonal.stackexchange.com/q/21838/1599 < edited. Better?

(hurry, I want to shower and go to bed :P )

Rainbacon

@Tinkeringbell I edited it to change "should" to "can" just in case the should trips people up

Tinkeringbell

@Rainbacon Good. Mod-reopen? :)

Ælis

@Tinkeringbell You put to "know" next to each other, but otherwise it's good ^^

@Tinkeringbell We are the same number as before and the same people, so I'll say yes :)

Tinkeringbell

@Ælis Ah! I was wondering what your edit was about. (K)now I see it :) Thank you too ;)

Rainbacon

@Tinkeringbell Ok, enjoy your shower :)

Tinkeringbell

7:40 PM

@Rainbacon Will do :) See y'all tomorrow ;)

Rainbacon

You can see me? -retreats nervously

Ælis

See you :)

scohe001

Ooh that post was closed and reopened by the same people in the same order

Perfectly balanced, as all things should be

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Rainbacon

This answer was edited to include all of the info from the comments, shall we clean them up?

scohe001

Ooh nice touchup @Ælis!

Ælis

7:52 PM

@Rainbacon Go clean up, go!

Thanks :) I don't like a lack of line breaker, it makes text very hard for me to read ^^

Rainbacon

@Ælis and @scohe001 if you both flag them as nln, all the comments without votes will go away...

scohe001

Free helpful flags? Don't mind if I do

Rainbacon

This could use some NAA flags if you want more helpful flags

What happened to having the comment button text be "suggest improvments"?

Tinkeringbell

@Rainbacon That experiment ended looong ago and no-one has ever heard from it since ;)

Rainbacon

I thought that the results were positive

Tinkeringbell

8:05 PM

@Rainbacon Yeah, a bit, also over on Workplace. But I guess they're just busy with other stuff :) Like getting us back on HNQ ;)

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M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

@IPSCommentBot -1 not botty enough

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Tinkeringbell

@IPSCommentBot @Mithrandir Can you get Rainbacon on the Closet-to-Awkward-Silence blacklist? They don't write chatty comments and they do write a lot of comments so it's a lot of useless noise.

IPS Comment Bot

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M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

8:07 PM

@Tinkeringbell Invalid feedback type. Valid feedback types are tp, fp, rude, and wrongo

ninja'd

@Mithrandir Danke :)

@Tinkeringbell done

as in, scohe recently got a katana

scohe001

Also it's technically a whitelist ;)

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

8:07 PM

I don't think that's called ninjaing. Unless you literally assassinated him

Tinkeringbell

@scohe001 technically ... I don't care about technically ;)

Well, seems like y'all have this under control. Night! :D

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

@Mithrandir Now that's ninjaing

scohe001

@Tinkeringbell hmm but if you're willing to tell me technically about what you care about...then doesn't that mean you do technically care about the technical? Hmmm

Night!

@Mithrandir somehow shohe ("show-hay") sounds a lot more hebrew lol

Em C

@Rainbacon \o/ glad that answer has a happy ending

Mithrandir

add a c and a t and you're slaughtering, so... a ninja

Rainbacon

9:02 PM

I'm curious what everyone else thinks about this answer. I don't think it actually answers the question, but there's at least one user other than the author who thinks it does

ElizB

11:15 PM

@Rainbacon The last sentence answers it, sorta but it needs to be expanded on. the answer should include how

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