The Awkward Silence - 2019-01-10

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1:46 AM

Morning!

@AJ evening! :)

El'endia Starman

@AJ Ah yes, 9pm is a great time for a cup of coffee. ;)

I have reached Thursday. Where are you guys? ;P

El'endia Starman

Oh man, you wouldn't believe how bad the lag is!

It's like it takes 9 hours for me to catch up to wherever you were!

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@El'endiaStarman Time doesn't matter for a cup of coffee! ;)

@El'endiaStarman haha

1:55 AM

If I drink coffee past about 3pm I can't fall asleep on time :P

one time I had green tea ice cream for dessert and then I was lying awake for hours before I realized >.<

El'endia Starman

Many years ago, I was on vacation with my parents and had a can of coke (Coca Cola) at like 6pm or something. I sleep-walked that night, and my parents later told me that I also frequently gnashed my teeth if I had caffeine close to bedtime. Hence, when I was going to stay at a residential high school and thus have roommates, I decided to stop consuming caffeine completely. That's persisted even to today. :)

That does make me the odd one out at work since I never have coffee. :P

heh, I'm sure your roommates appreciated that :P

El'endia Starman

Oh I'm sure. :P

2:15 AM

@AJ I think you destroyed the space-time continuum with that comment.

2:26 AM

Oh, hey. Nice to see it active in here. Playing stardew valley now and just chilling.

2:38 AM

yay chilling :) I'm looking at yarn for my next knitting project atm and trying to decide on a pattern

@EmC what's the project gonna be?

@ElizB a throw blanket, for my parents. I'm planning next year's christmas presents early (they're always so difficult to come up with gifts for)

@EmC ooh, very good idea.

if I start it early enough, maybe it'll actually get done in time :P

yeah, maybe. I think the same thing about my papers... ends up not going as expected

2:44 AM

heh, yeah.. the new year always gets me feeling optimistic though :D

Same! So much organizing and stuff happened this year and it's really helping me feel good. I appreciate what I have more.

nice :)

Alright, getting too sleepy to stay on the computer. Gonna go make my bedtime tea, read, and sleep. Have a good night and I'm curious about what pattern and colors you eventually pick :)

you too :) night!

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Extroverted Main Man

6:14 AM

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Q: How do I change my name in the age of social media?

My parents invented a name and I have rolled with it well into my 20s. Althought it's made me into a person who I'm happy to be, I believe it is still very detrimental to my success and confidence. I can think of two situations where it has done me more harm than help me: Resumes or dating app...

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7:09 AM

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7:37 AM

Morning!

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Extroverted Main Man

8:19 AM

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Q: They are cheated or what?

I had a friend, He is very good person. I never betray him, and cheat.Unfortunately, he goes to find cheating people for the friendship. I am very worried about him. How can I help him? Of course, those cheats do not want me to help him

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10:30 AM

I'm tired, which mean I'm more easily stressed. I have to work on something, but I can't because devs have to fix something before. So now I'm probably supposed to work on something else, but my brain can't fix on anything else. And now I'm basically stress eating because of that ^^'

@Noon I could use some comfort food

Conversation on Skype, between me and the 'fun' co-worker:

"Hey"

"Hi, are you there?"

Of course, my status says I'm online. I was just waiting for you to say what you needed me for.

"Oh. Well, are you going to do <story> this sprint?"

Perhaps, depends on who's got the time to take it up

"I'm working on something else, that can serve as an example there"

Yes, I know, you already told that to someone and they communicated that to this team

"So if someone starts it, they should ask me for the latest version"

Okay

"Will you tell the rest?"

Sure

You'd think the conversation is over then, wouldn't you?

But nooooo! He's now going to tell me what he's doing and why :/

I'm going a bit crazy with Skype pings here.

Haha, seems like someone who could use a "less talking, more acting!"

Well... I'm not getting any more productive/quicker if he keeps this up, and me being slow was one of his 'complaints'

"Sorry, I was too busy listening to your chatting so I didn't have enough time to do this story". Too bad you can't tell him that :p

10:55 AM

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@Tinkeringbell :( that person is too much

11:17 AM

Yeah, he really is.

IPS seems so slove these days :( Anyone have editing job to give me? I might be running out of ideas ^^

Take it slow too. Try to do some googling, perhaps come up with a good question on the subject matter ;) Try and see if there's stuff you feel could be reopened, make a meta about that.

Reopening stuff is much harder than closing things. It often require for the OP to add informations and they are often no longuer around and/or not interested in there question anymore :/

Also, I'm not sure I know how to "switch speed" :P

11:53 AM

@Noon Well, perhaps it really is time for you to do so... You've been working really hard, but you might get into trouble if you keep poking that many old answerers with comments ;) Take a break, relax, hang in this chat room... Start crocheting! :P

12:25 PM

@Tinkeringbell Yeah, my behavior doesn't make me friends, doesn't it? I guess I should be listening to you mod and stop annoying users

12:59 PM

@Noon Ehh. Didn't really mean it that harshly, but you're about the only one that's doing so. So I'm afraid people will start picking on you :/

You already mentioned getting not so happy replies ;)

So taking that easy for a while would do no harm I think

1:13 PM

@Tinkeringbell My lack of rest is turning me paranoid, sorry for that. (And that's another reason why I should take things slow, I guess)

1:51 PM

@Noon Take care of youself dear. Lots of love to you ♥

2:07 PM

@avazula Thanks dear, to you too <3

2:31 PM

Wait, if @Noon slows down then I won't have review tasks to do...cue existential crisis.

Also, @Noon if you are looking for IPS related things to do, there's a topic listed in the "what can I ask about here" page that I think we don't have enough questions on. You could take a stab at asking some questions in this topic: understanding social norms as they relate to interpersonal interactions - why do we interact the way we do?

@Rainbacon Ahah, I felt the samething when Arwen took a step back from SE and stop flagging NAA stuff XD

@Rainbacon Do you have an example question related to that on IPS, I'm not sure I ever saw on

I think I saw one once, let me go look

I found this question which is sort of in the vein that I was thinking, but it's closed as too broad. I can't find any that are exactly what I'm thinking of. I do have an example that I tried workshopping in chat several months ago

What I am thinking of is taking a social norm and asking about why it is the social norm

Several months ago I wanted to workshop a question like that

The question I had was "Why do people say they are sorry when they haven't done anything wrong". An example situation would be when I say that I had a bad day at work, my finacee might say "I'm sorry you had a bad day".

When I tried workshopping, we found that this question in particular wouldn't be a great fit for the site, but I don't remember exactly why

It was also explained to me that I was failing to understand sympathy

@Noon Does that all make sense or am I just crazy?

@Rainbacon That make sense, thanks for the reply :)

@Rainbacon Ouch, not something I would like someone to tell me

I was fine with it, because it helped answer the question that I had

@Rainbacon I'm glad then :)

2:46 PM

Why do people say sorry when they haven't done anything? Because they are sympathizing with you.

good morning :)

I wonder if the transcript goes back far enough to find that conversation

Hi @ElizB!

@ElizB Hello! :)

@Rainbacon Hi! :)

@Rainbacon It does, as far as I can tell, the transcript have all the chat history

2:49 PM

Yep, I just found the conversation. Once I find the start of it, I'll link that here in case you wanted to look through it

I have decided I am not going to step outside today. Way too blustery and cold for my taste. High of 29 F (-1.6 C) with wind gusting up to 20 mph

@Rainbacon I believe I already read it, your question ringed a bell in my memory

Low is 12 F tonight that's -11 C

noooo thank you I will sit inside with a cup of tea :P

@ElizB Ahah XD For me, cold is fine on its own, but with wind? That's far less so ^^

the 10 day forecast shows all of the days from here on out until thursday it doesn't go above freezing very much. Only two days but that's only a degree or two above freezing

@Noon yup. I woke up, opened the blinds, and saw snow blowing around and I said thanks but no thanks haha I don't want to go out. Mayyyybe I have to in order to get the mail and return netflix dvd but that's it...

2:54 PM

@ElizB Snow - Every years we had at least one big episode of snow per/winter. But this year, I'm in another city and I probably won't see the snow. Plus, I won't be able to go to the montagne for this winter holiday, so no snow here either :'(

@Noon I don't know what the montagne is, lemme look it up :)

@Noon here's the link just in case you (or anyone else) wanted to revisit it

ah, mountain! :P meaning skiing or just visiting?

@ElizB It is way too cold, unfortunately, I've already been out in it

@ElizB Sorry, I used the French word x) And yeah, I go there to ski with my family :)

3:02 PM

Is there any way to create a new tag other than using it on a question?

@Rainbacon No, but why would you want a tag if not to use it?

I suppose that makes sense. When I was looking for questions the first thing I did was to check social-norms, but that doesn't exist. I suppose if I could find a question that would fit I could re-tag it

If the tagging isn't redundant, then you could definitively do so :)

Yeah, but I haven't found any good questions yet.

@Noon that's really cool. I started skiing at age 5 and always have known how so far. I haven't skiied in more than 3 years because my relationship with dad dive bombed and the tickets are expensive and I can't afford it

I also just took a look at my calendar and saw I need to taxi my little brother to the doctor because my mom is working, and I already committed to it. I have a habit of forgetting if it's not written down on my calendar

3:12 PM

@ElizB A calendar isn't enought for me. I have to use alarm if I want to remember to do things

@ElizB Ski does cost a lot indeed. Even when you don't pay the flat and don't have to rent equipment

That's what Google calendar does, it reminded me 30 minutes before I need to leave

@Noon i only have to pay for gas to drive there then get lift tickets. My dad he bought everything we need. Unfortunately I think my skis are still with him. I have boots, helmet, pants, coat, gloves, gator (scarf thing)

@ElizB Skis are one of the things that coast the most :/

Okay, i have 10 minutes to spare :) I rushed into getting dressed so i have time to spare haha

@Noon Indeed. I miss my skis. I tried to find them at my mom's but I think that they're at my dad's house, he owns two, one here in town and one next to the mountain where he skis

@ElizB That's too bad :/ I hope someone will be able to get them for you

@Noon yeah, it's complicated with my dad... if i message his girlfriend that would be weird

but then if i message him that would be just adding more drama

and i have had enough of that drama. Okay, I'm gonna head out, talk to y'all later! :)

3:25 PM

@ElizB That's really don't seem like a good situation to be in :/

See you!!!

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Extroverted Main Man

4:39 PM

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Q: Etiquette about signing card when coworker leaves

Let's assume that you are working somewhere, a co-worker of you leave and someone takes the initiative to buy a "good continuation" card for people to sign. Is there a specific etiquette regarding who has to sign the "good continuation" card? What should people take into account when deciding if...

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5:46 PM

@Noon Yeah, that's the issue of dealing with a narcissist parent. Going Low Contact with him at the present time until probably May

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