The Awkward Silence

avazula

2:06 PM

Wooh. That's a slow day for me...

ElizB

@avazula I've read that plus several other blogs

avazula

@ElizB oh? Haven't found others on Medium (I really like Medium :D)

ElizB

I have an entire window open on my desktop for SE- the chat, the main page, and the meta for the comments, how to write a good question and answer, and then the Main Meta, then a slew of tabs that have questions that i found were evidence of the "pile" of requests that have gone unanswered, and some people have come back to it and made a bounty to remind the SE staff to answer something.

@avazula I'm on my tablet-with-a-bluetooth-keyboard now

so it's behaving like a computer

but it's not...

i'm here and I'm only one of two people in the school computer lab... :P

avazula

@ElizB wow. I'm not the only one having a slow day then :p

do you feel better btw?

ElizB

My stuffy nose seems to want to linger. (shrugs) otherwise I'm alright

I might take cold meds to help reduce the sinus pressure which isn't as bad now

I'm doing khan academy for my math now

My brain can't run as well on only 6.5 hours of sleep... and the night before I only got 5.25 hours of sleep

avazula

2:20 PM

@ElizB wooch. Some people may handle that few but it's really not much

ElizB

@avazula Yeah, it really is not. Its a noticeable slow down in my speed

El'endia Starman

<- Less than 3 hours here. :(

My sleep schedule is really wack sometimes.

ElizB

Yeah, i was gonna mention that. Still, it seems like he handles it better than I do...

Mithrandir

...I sometimes get around 4 and can function, but last night I got 7+ and was still exhausted in the morning.

avazula

@Mithrandir I actually function better with 6 than with 8 ._.

Noon

2:27 PM

I usually need 9 hours...

Mithrandir

@avazula that makes sense though, actually

ElizB

@Mithrandir I usually get on average 7 ish hours. it really depends on where in my sleep cycle the alarm gets me up

@Noon 9 hours is amazing for me

Mithrandir

If you get interrupted in the middle of a sleep cycle, then you'll be tired. If you're near an end, you'll be less tired..

ElizB

@El'endiaStarman has seen how chipper and hyper I can get on the weekend if I had a great amount of sleep

@Mithrandir yup

I believe I was interrupted this morning

both by my alarm and el'endia's.

avazula

@ElizB I have a watch that wakes me up at the optimum time from a predefined time range. For instance, I configure it so as to wake me up before 7:00AM with a slot of 45min, and therefore it'll wake me from 6:15 to 7:00 at the time I'm most likely to feel energized all day

Noon

2:30 PM

This sound like a what should I do question, should we do anything about it? (@Mithrandir )

El'endia Starman

@avazula That's a feature I'm hoping to implement in my new alarm clock at some point.

avazula

@Noon hahaha

@Noon It's an old question, the site's requirements weren't that well-defined back then :)

Noon

@avazula Don't laugh, it's not nice for Arwen :P

avazula

Mith should edit their question, though (and I'm pretty sure they will :) )

Mithrandir

@Noon always fun to VTC my own stuff

Cashbee

2:32 PM

there exist several such apps for smartphones. What I like the most (brother uses it and swears on it) is the alarm clock with integrated lamp (or vice versa?). It continuously lightens up the room, starting about 20 minutes before the alarm

Noon

@avazula Yeah, I know, I have been looking at old question all day :)

Mithrandir

(but yeah gimme a few hours until I have a working computer l

El'endia Starman

@Cashbee A feature I'm hoping to implement soon!

Noon

@Mithrandir If you edit, tell me so I can retract my VTC :)

ElizB

@avazula That's really, really nice.

@El'endiaStarman got a raspberry Pi and is playing with it and got his hardware for giving power to the shaker and he got a power thing so he can plug in the lamp.... (sorry el'endia I'm not as verbose in this stuff as you are)

El'endia Starman

2:35 PM

hehe

avazula

@El'endiaStarman Which language are you programming in? Lua?

El'endia Starman

I use a relay to allow 5V from the RPi to switch on/off a 12V shaker, and I recently got a 120V relay that I can use to switch on/off a lamp plugged into it.

scohe001

@avazula I think Pi loves Python, no?

avazula

Embedded systems is my specialty yet I never did anything with Raspberries, so ...

El'endia Starman

@avazula Python. github.com/elendiastarman/raspy_alarm

scohe001

2:37 PM

Also is it weird to anyone else that Raspberry has a P? Whenever I see it written it always gets me

avazula

@El'endiaStarman Interesting. I had no idea one could program Pis in Python!

@scohe001 Well, to me it seems as weird as psychologist, knife(/knight), ...

ElizB

Yeah, i had to learn that while practicing my speech when I was younger

I kept pronouncing everything like I read it

but my mom and speech therapist kept correcting me

scohe001

@avazula yea but silent letters at the beginning are a more usual thing. Like knack, knapsack, knee, gnat, wrap, wrong, etc... But a random P, smack in the middle of a word? It always throws me off

Cashbee

@ElizB wow that must be tough, especially in english language, the one where you can never know the pronounciation by looking at the word

avazula

@scohe001 Yeah, I see what you mean

ElizB

2:41 PM

Yeah, it was tricky. I still stumble over several words. For example, me and @El'endiaStarman laughed over his tripping over "I appreciate it"

avazula

Okaaaay, so this is supposed to be my 2nd meeting of the day yet the person hasn't showed up yet. Again. It's been 20 minutes (had the same this morning, except that I waited for 40')

scohe001

@avazula my little sister will always pronounce it "Rasp-berry" so that she can remember for her spelling tests :p

El'endia Starman

@ElizB Actually, it was "I appreciated it", with the 'd' on the end, because that's two near-identical sounds in a row.

avazula

@scohe001 aaaaw cute :p how old is she?

(Sister #5 and #6 tend to do that too, and they're 11)

scohe001

@avazula haha she just turned 13, so she's turning more bratty than cute now, but she still has a couple cute things going for her

@avazula dang, how many sisters do you have?!

El'endia Starman

2:45 PM

@scohe001 I used to (and sometimes still do) think of "Wednesday" as "Wed-nes-day" for spelling purposes even though that's not how its pronounced at all.

user15026

@El'endiaStarman this is a thing I still do.

ElizB

I used to say "ba-thing suit" instead of "Bay-thing suit" and "Suit-e-case" instead of "suit -case"

Yeah my point exactly!

avazula

@scohe001 Errr ... Let's say I have an adoptive family, that I know, and a biological family, that I never met. Adoptively speaking, we're 9 (6 gals, 3 boyz). By blood I have 1 brother and 2 sisters but my relationship with them is chaotic.

scohe001

@El'endiaStarman haha same! It's just not a word you have to spell often, but when you do...

Cashbee

Let me just say: B-E-A-utiful!

scohe001

2:46 PM

@avazula holy moly. What a house that must've been growing up. What number are you?

Cashbee

who knows that quote?

El'endia Starman

@Cashbee Oh, that's another great example.

scohe001

@Cashbee that's Jim Carrey isn't it? I just don't remember which movie....

Cashbee

@scohe001 yessss

ElizB

from... Jim carrey?

haha

El'endia Starman

2:47 PM

@scohe001 Bruce Almighty, IIRC.

Cashbee

i think its bruce almighty yes

El'endia Starman

Probably my favorite of Jim Carrey's movies.

ElizB

Yeah!! that movie was SO funny.

scohe001

@El'endiaStarman Ahh that was gonna be my guess too

Cashbee

omg havent seen that one in ages..

ElizB

2:48 PM

wellll..... my favorite is the Mask

Cashbee

i loved the truman show

ElizB

That one is a classic and won't leave #1 on the list of his movies

Cashbee

I don't think I actually saw that one

O.O

ElizB

You gotta

I've seen it at least a dozen times and can't get tired of it

Cashbee

WILL DO

ups

ElizB

2:49 PM

lol

Jim Carrey: The Mask Hilarious Moments

►

favorite line at the end... "That's a spicy meat-a-ball!" hahaha

Noon

"Why" question aren't on topic, right? (I'm speaking about this: interpersonal.stackexchange.com/questions/499 )

ElizB

It's kinda funny and sobering at the same time watching the meta post "revisiting the HNQ..." gain so many upvotes and now is gaining almost as many downvotes. yikes.

@Noon just looked at it and it seems off topic because it's primarily opinion based

Noon

That what I thought too, thanks :)

Cashbee

you can't generalize that to all why-questions though

Noon

I have been here for two month and I never saw a "why" question that was on-topic

Cashbee

3:02 PM

I think in rare cases you can ask that. "Why do we [insert any ips etiquette] ?"

Sid

Can anyone link me to the origin of the "new contributor" thing?

scohe001

88

Q: Come Take a Look at our New Contributor Indicator!

This feature is now live across the network. We've been doing quite a bit of research into ways that we could help new users have better experiences that ultimately lead them to becoming increasingly valuable, long-term contributors to our sites. While this is still ongoing, it's starting to...

Cashbee

@Noon Why do we mirror our vis-à-vis' posture automatically when we try to impress them?

avazula

@scohe001 Sorry my meeting began. I'm sister #1, and second child. It's like: Jake is 25, I Ava am almost 23, Bruce is 22, John is 19, Nina and Maven are 18, June is 15, and Camila and Sun are 11.

scohe001

Ooh Camila is a beautiful name!

Sid

3:08 PM

@scohe001 How long will the "New Contributor" indicator last for a user?

scohe001

That's pretty funny though, you're up there all alone with the boys :p

Noon

@Cashbee I'm not sure to understand how that's on-topic :/

avazula

@scohe001 Ahah, sorry but that's not our real names :p

Noon

@Sid One week

avazula

Camila is pretty close though

Tinkeringbell

3:09 PM

@Sid One week after a first post, unless you delete your 'first post' then it's one week from the next post....

scohe001

18

Q: What are the exact criteria for the "new contributor" indicator to be shown?

According to Come Take a Look at our New Contributor Indicator!: The new indicator works by the age of a user's first visible post. This could be a question or answer, and the association bonus won't influence the behavior. While you might not be new to our engine, everyone is new when t...

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@avazula ahh oops. Well her name is probably still beautiful then! :p

Cashbee

@Sid 7 days after first (undeleted) post

Sid

Yes, yes yes. I understand. I didn't need 4 pings for that. :P

avazula

@scohe001 It is. She's my goddaughter and I love her so much :)

Well, as much as the others, but we have a special connection

scohe001

@Sid btw it's 1 week in case you missed it

Cashbee

3:11 PM

:D

ElizB

haha

scohe001

@avazula awww that's super cute. I can just imagine you guys drawing together

Noon

@Sid We are desperate to help (new) users since there isn't much "action" on the site anymore :P

avazula

@scohe001 I was 12 when they were born. It was the first time I ever cried from joy

How many siblings do you have?

Sid

@Noon I am not a new user. I just have been absent for a few months because university is tough.

avazula

3:16 PM

@Sid Erh. Hold on, pal. Wish you best of luck :)

scohe001

@avazula I have a brother 3 years younger and a sister 10 years younger.

ElizB

@sid I'm in graduate school... it is tough indeed

Noon

@Sid That why the "new" is between "()". We will help any kind of user, really ^^

ElizB

midterms this week

scohe001

It's super cute to hear your younger reaction when they brought your sister back. My parents always remind me that when my brother was a week old (and I was 3), I asked "So....when are we going to take him back?" :P

ElizB

3:18 PM

hahaha

Noon

@scohe001 XD Yeah, you were definitively less cute than ava :P

Sid

@ElizB Luckily, mine ended a fornight back. I am still in undergraduate though.

So, you have far more burden, than I do, I guess.

avazula

@scohe001 hahaha

ElizB

it depends on what major you are in and what classes and how many classes. the one class I am seriously struggling in now is statistics

Noon

Personally, I remember that, when my little sister was born, I just thought that she was so ugly and red (but I was still very proud to be a big sister)

avazula

3:20 PM

@Noon Newborns are sooo red!

ElizB

I looked like a frog when I was newborn, apparently...

not green, though, just my arms and legs and body were just really small. I was born 5 lb 2 oz

Sid

@ElizB What's your major, if I may ask?

ElizB

my neice was born 8ish lbs i think

Noon

@avazula Exactly! Me and my big sister thought that she looked like Dobby :P

ElizB

@Sid I'm going for my masters in public health with a concentration in Environmental health, but I am also interested in health communications regarding health literacy in people with disabilites, and I am also deaf. Special place in my heart for my deaf and hard of hearing community

Noon

3:22 PM

I have seen a number of newborn now and I don't think I will ever find them beautiful XD

avazula

@Noon "Master has given fresh air to Dobby. Dobby is freeee" :p

ElizB

hahaha

avazula

@Noon Speaking of which, I'd like to ask everyone in here: do you guys want to have children (later) in your life?

Noon

@avazula OMG, that's gross XD

ElizB

@avazula at some point, yes. I think me and @El'endiaStarman could handle 2, maybe 3.

first, though. school!

avazula

3:24 PM

@Noon hahaha

Sid

@ElizB That went completely over my head. What's health communications?

ElizB

@Sid y'know how some doctors offices have posters that let you know if you need a flu shot, or some kind of preventive health information? That's what I want to help increase accessibility for the deaf and hard of hearing community

Noon

@avazula Well, I don't think I will ever be able to take care of one :/ I have trouble taking care of myself already so children would be too much :( But I would love to be an auntie or something

ElizB

plus people with disabilities, such as cognitive or physical

Noon

@avazula What about you?

scohe001

3:27 PM

@avazula probably, but idk if I'd be the best dad. The things I'm excited for are the mayhem I could cause with a mini-me minion.

ElizB

@scohe001 oh god no... don't give @El'endiaStarman any ideas.....

avazula

@ElizB hahaha. My SO feels the same way xD

El'endia Starman

@ElizB You know it's already too late.

Sid

@ElizB Ah. That sounds interesting.

@avazula Since, I am only 19, children are probably way down the priority ladder for me. :P

avazula

@Sid which is why I said "later on" :p haha

ElizB

3:29 PM

@Sid Research has shown that people with disabilities have a much harder time accessing preventive health simply because their communication medium is unstable, and medical professionals have basically little to no training for actually applying cultural competency.

@El'endiaStarman nooooooooo :P

Mithrandir

@avazula ...I'll pass on answering that for the next few years

scohe001

@ElizB haha I'm just saying that if I raise another human being and they're not a total goofball weirdo that makes puns all the time and laughs at my jokes, I've clearly done something wrong

avazula

@Noon Oh :/ I don't know what to say, except ... I feel you. Interestingly, I learnt that I'm way better at taking care of others than myself

El'endia Starman

@El'endiaStarman I wish I knew enough Japanese to tweak "omae wa mou shindeiru" to fit the occasion.

Noon

@Mithrandir By the way, before I read one of your questions, I had no idea you were so young!

ElizB

3:30 PM

@scohe001 hahaha yeah.... Me and @El'endiaStarman were talking about science and engineering baby books

Cashbee

@El'endiaStarman im a hanzo main <3

scohe001

@El'endiaStarman NANI?!

2

Cashbee

d'oh i suck

wrong meme

El'endia Starman

@Cashbee Huh, I dunno what meme you were referencing.

Cashbee

nevermind >.<

scohe001

3:31 PM

@ElizB haha me and my SO were just arguing the other day over whether we'd want an engineer baby or a sciences/doctor baby :P

El'endia Starman

@Noon Youngest mod too, IIRC.

ElizB

@scohe001 The strangest things to argue about....

avazula

@Noon Well, I didn't want to for a very long time (i.e. from like 14 to 21). Now I'm considering the idea.

Cashbee

@avazula I could do with or without. Both options are ok :)

avazula

@scohe001 I'm pretty sure that's exactly what my father in law did with his three sons

scohe001

3:34 PM

@avazula and? How'd it turn out?? I'm taking notes here

El'endia Starman

(I might be as well.)

avazula

@scohe001 Well, exactly as you described ...

scohe001

@avazula sounds like overwhelming success to me then

avazula

@scohe001 It's both a blessing for the father and a curse for the mother

She basically has four children: her three sons and her husband

Mithrandir

@El'endiaStarman not even close

Riker (Veg*ism) and heather (Quantum) are both younger than me

scohe001

3:38 PM

@avazula hahahahaha I love it

El'endia Starman

@Mithrandir Oh hey, I know Riker. But they both became mods after you did. Weren't you the youngest at the time you became a mod?

Mithrandir

@El'endiaStarman probably

I was 14 at the time

Cashbee

how old were you then if i may ask?

oh wow

avazula

→ 4 messages moved to Trash

Noon

@Mithrandir That sure is impressive!

El'endia Starman

3:40 PM

Yeah. I remember being surprised at learning her age a few years ago because her online behavior was so different from most others in the same age group.

Still is, for that matter.

avazula

@El'endiaStarman SE users' behavior is inherently different from other people of the same age if I must say

El'endia Starman

@avazula Well yeah, that's true. But not usually like someone 7 years older.

avazula

@El'endiaStarman True

Noon

That's an intrapersonal question, right? This meta post is making me doubt ><

Cashbee

don't go comparing my comments on IPS with my comments on reddit. You would think I'm 40 years younger

@Noon on said question there is a comment from cat:

> I think that "controlling the volume of your speaking voice" is well within the skillset one needs to master for interpersonal interaction. Speaking too loudly (or softly) affects your ability to communicate with others. As such, learning how to control this would be an interpersonal skills issue.

While I see her point, I am unsure just as you are

avazula

3:46 PM

@Noon Well yes, that's an intra to me too. But note that the question and meta post are both very old and the site policy wasn't pretty established back then. So yes, VTC (IMHO)

Cashbee

IMO no close

I think it's more inter than intra

while yes it's your own voice you need to control, you do it to influence the conversation in different ways

avazula

@Cashbee I agree that's a tough one :)

Noon

Well, since it's an old question, I think I will just let it rest then

Cashbee

I think robert hits the nail on the head in his meta answer

Noon

@Cashbee This expression "hits the nail on the head" is sooo weird ><

Cashbee

3:49 PM

@Noon it rustles my jimmies whenever i hear it

no, why?

El'endia Starman

What's weird about it?

avazula

Well, I still think that it should be closed because we closed similar questions for the exact same reason so, for the sake of consistency I would VTC.

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avazula

@El'endiaStarman the meaning isn't that obvious for French people (i struggle with it too :p )

Cashbee

We should start a meta, where the line is drawn more concretely and in plenum

Noon

3:51 PM

Yeah, plus the fact that I didn't knew this expression a week ago

El'endia Starman

@avazula Huh. What do you guys call the top of a nail that you hit with a hammer ("the head of a nail" in English)?

Cashbee

@avazula ah. 😀 well, that expression exists in german 1:1

avazula

Isn't that an exact duplicate of a recently asked question?

@El'endiaStarman There's no name for that, so it's like the literal translation

I think the expression would be "enfoncer le clou" in French, which would mean "definitely make a point'

Noon

@El'endiaStarman I think it's the head too but, still weird (every time I see this expression I think of someone being kill by someone else hammering a nail in there head)

El'endia Starman

@avazula Hmm, interesting. That's not quite what the English idiom means; "you hit the nail on the head" basically means "you got that exactly right".

ElizB

3:55 PM

Okee, gonna go to a study session with classmates for stats! :P

bye for now :)

Noon

Bye :)

avazula

@Noon same for me haha

Noon

XD

Cashbee

don't hit the nail on my head

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I'm living in my parent's house and for more than one year we have new neighbors. Their daughter is beautiful and I want to get in touch with her. I actually know her name from the name of his parents, Facebook did the rest of the job. I'm wondering how I can start the conversation. In fact I c...

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Q: How to overcome shyness at the gym and start seeing results?

I was told to ask this in Interpersonal Skills, so here I go. I've been on a diet for around 3 months now (since July) and I joined a gym around the same time. Since then, I've been having a lot of salads and in-taking more protein. I'm starting to see progress in my biceps and triceps but that's...

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El'endia Starman

3:59 PM

@Noon Oooh, because of ambiguity with regards to whether "the head" means the nail's head?

avazula

@El'endiaStarman yup

@ExtrovertedMainMan Wooooow man! One question at a time! There's too much info here

"Their daughter is beautiful and I want to get in touch with her" why does this sentence makes me laugh so much haha

Mithrandir

@El'endiaStarman :D

Noon

@avazula And yet, we are all jumping on them to leave comment and help improve their question :P

Noon

5:31 PM

I wanted to earn the badge when for when you vote 40 times in a day (the daily limit) but now there is new answers/questions and I can't upvote/downvote anything which is very frustrating ><

IPS Comment Bot

Tom is laying out the conditions under which he is willing to stay friends. That's not blackmail. The OP has no claim on Tom's friendship. I agree that OP should stand firm and accept not remaining friends with Tom. — David Thornley 22 secs ago

Matched regex(es) ["chatty"]

ElizB

Okee i'm back but only for 15 minutes.

El'endia Starman

Tick. Tock. Tick. Tock.

ElizB

-_- Not helping! :P

IPS Comment Bot

5:52 PM

@foggybottom I get the feeling that you don't understand Tom's reactions. You dumped him, and what feels like the most tactful way to one person won't necessarily feel like that to the other person. I also have the feeling that he's going as far as he can right now in extending friendship. I hope you gave him your decision and then just let him alone. — David Thornley 45 secs ago

avazula

6:07 PM

@Noon oh no :(

Noon

6:56 PM

@avazula Well, I just have to wait until tomorrow morning, then I will be able to downvote all I want *Mouahahah*

apaul

7:10 PM

Mutiny?

Mithrandir

Sounds good. Wait, what are we mutinying about?

apaul

Mutiny for more access to mutiny.

Sanctioned mutiny isn't really mutiny, now is it?

starts fires

leaves them unattended

scohe001

@apaul now this I can get behind

walks at a slightly faster than moderate pace with scissors

El'endia Starman

hacks SE and puts IPS back on HNQ

Noon

@El'endiaStarman 😭

El'endia Starman

7:24 PM

Not sure how to do the hacking though. Maybe I should ask a question on SO.

Mithrandir

@El'endiaStarman please no

El'endia Starman

@Mithrandir Oh, okay. Time machine shenanigans instead?

Mithrandir

That's better. I'd prefer to keep IPS off the HNQ, though, at least until we've done some fall cleaning :D

Doing some shenanigans involving transferring hard drives now so hopefully I'll have a working laptop soon

(been on mobile all day)

ElizB

In class now talking about environmental health... basically a repeat of all the info I know lol

apaul

In addition to "fall cleaning" we probably ought to take a look at our Q's per day. Seems like we've been slipping considerably.

ElizB

7:33 PM

That's what I've noticed too...

scohe001

@apaul is there a way we can really affect that without each of us asking a question a day ourselves?

Noon

@apaul If you want some data, I writted this today: data.stackexchange.com/stackoverflow/query/914705/…

apaul

@scohe001 Eh, doubt that there's a good way to encourage others to ask. Probably best to be the change you want to see.

scohe001

@Noon note that that data is all available in a more interactive format here: interpersonal.stackexchange.com/site-analytics

apaul

Anyone have a question they've been hesitant to ask?

El'endia Starman

7:36 PM

@Noon I was surprised at the figure of 7k+ questions per day then I saw the site was SO, not IPS.

@scohe001 That's only for high-rep users (and mods) though (5000+ rep).

scohe001

@apaul "How can I actively encourage more people to ask IPS questions?"

ElizB

I was thinking the same.

scohe001

@El'endiaStarman ahh true, I thought Noon had 5k. My bad @Noon

apaul

@scohe001 To meta with you, bah!

Noon

@El'endiaStarman Yeah, I don't know why it was put on SO by default

apaul

7:39 PM

How about some... Incentive...

Someone come up with a question, before I decide to. (We all know how that usually goes ;)

scohe001

@apaul I know we had "best answer of the quarter/last 50 days/etc..." bounties back in the day: interpersonal.meta.stackexchange.com/questions/1435/…

Maybe we could start something like that again for questions?

Oh or that haha I like your incentive more :p

apaul

@scohe001 Those kinda died due to lack of interest.

scohe001

@apaul ahh I was wondering. That was all before my time. That's too bad tho, seemed like a fun idea

apaul

@scohe001 We need a more active community to make those work. Need an active community to encourage an active community. It's a vicious cycle.

Noon

@scohe001 "Before my time", I must be tired but I found it funny x)

scohe001

7:44 PM

@Noon haha I'm too young for this! :p

apaul

In the before time. In the long long ago.

So... Who's got a question they've been sitting on?

scohe001

LOL that's South Park, isn't it??

apaul

@scohe001 lolol it's South Park spoofing Mad Max

Hmm

I might have to ask a question...

scohe001

@apaul ahh I'm uncultured. I only know because my brother loves quoting it

@apaul stick it in the sand first if you're worried it'll be too "apaul" of a question? :p

ElizB

I already asked a question about my narc dad.. and I am actually really, really pleased with the results

Noon

7:50 PM

@apaul I read this with the same voice my mom used to take when she was threatening me "I count to three... 1..." XD

apaul

@scohe001 Not sure if either of those qualify as "culture"

ElizB

it's the best answers i've ever gotten for conversations with him

apaul

@Noon That's exactly the way it was intended ;)

El'endia Starman

@apaul Call it "culture" like that on a petri dish?

Magisch

@apaul I have one, but it's not very good

apaul

7:51 PM

@El'endiaStarman This.

@Magisch whatcha got?

Magisch

One of my bosses is really full of himself and does not take criticism lightly

Noon

@ElizB You might put that on a comment under the answer you used (or write a self-answer)

Magisch

I've so far managed this by managing my communication with him in such a way as to not upset him. Now that I'm DPO, I'll have to take him down a couple pegs on some practices regarding personal data

I want to know how I can do that while bruising his ego as little as possible

apaul

@Magisch Sounds like a common enough problem to be widely applicable.

ElizB

@Noon Thing is, I would rather try it then I'll see how effective it is

apaul

7:53 PM

Why wouldn't it be very good?

ElizB

that way I know it would be good

Magisch

@apaul the boss is a bit of a handful

Noon

@ElizB Oh, I thought you had already tried it out

Magisch

he refers to all the attractive women in the office as "his girlfriends" jokingly, except, not very jokingly

ElizB

@Noon No, not yet.

Probably won't get to do that in a while

Noon

7:55 PM

@Magisch Wow...

apaul

@scohe001 I haven't forgotten about you... Makes watching you hand gestures

@Magisch Ohhh... That's classy

Noon

@ElizB Well, whenever you try it out, I hope it will work well :)

Magisch

rest of the place runs kind of around him

rather then with him

scohe001

@apaul haha I'm curious! I feel like your view on the world is very different from mine. It's what makes all of your content so interesting to read. I'd be happy with another apaul question

apaul

@Magisch Could always sandbox it so it doesn't end up being too much of an "apaul question" lol

ElizB

7:57 PM

@Noon I've decided that I don't want another meeting with him because he made me feel all happy and stuff then later on when I was thinking about what he said, it was all basically pointing to me as the "bad person" and my dad as "the victim"

Magisch

If the boss knew I was a left leaning feminist he'd try to throw me out of the window

everyone is a bit tiptoeing around him

ElizB

so i was very discouraged afterwards

Noon

@ElizB Well, if you feel worst afterward, it's probably a good decision to avoid him

@Magisch XD

Mithrandir

@apaul Yes, but I still can't post it... :P

scohe001

@Mithrandir can't??