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12:27 AM

What about you? Do you feel guilty when you do this? Avoiding, I can understand. Lying boldly, that's something else. Personally, I would feel more anxiety about lying to old classmates. And for me at least, that second scenario is the one where I would suffer more, but that's just me. — Stephan Branczyk 8 secs ago

#22326 Stephan Branczyk (2310 rep) | Q: Managing my stress levels by avoiding social events and ghosting people I run into? is it mean? consequences? (score: -2) | posted 3 days ago by Jacob Jacob (1 rep) | Toxicity 0.22348197 | tps/fps: 0/0

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5:22 AM

Ahm, incorrect Aelis. This site does not REQUIRE what you say. Rather, if you look at the link you provided, it states that--when answering a question--one should AIM to provide expertise and not simply an opinion. I personally think it's entirely unreasonable for you to try to police this site in such a way and to ask a respondent to edit an answer written nearly two years ago based on your misunderstanding of the terms of service here. — Jazimov 27 secs ago

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5:54 AM

"I'm seeking to understand why in order to figure out how." This site is about "how" questions, not "why" questions. It's the opinion of some that asking "why" doesn't lead to solutions. — Stephan Branczyk 1 min ago

#22307 Stephan Branczyk (2310 rep) | Q: Understand stingy, cheap behavior in a social context (score: 1) | posted 5 days ago by Konrad Viltersten (151 rep) | Toxicity 0.10555869 | tps/fps: 0/0

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6:55 AM

I believe we are good to edit that in our faq now. Some people seem to think that the back up policy is still a nice thing to have and not a requirement. See here: chat.stackexchange.com/transcript/message/50983034#50983034 — Ælis 11 secs ago

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7:31 AM

Did you consider that details of her work might be company confidential and that you might put her in an uncomfortable position with your question for details? — Arsak 55 secs ago

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7:56 AM

Allerleirauh - Pardon me dewing on your parade, but I beg to differ regarding your point of view that "You can not change your girlfriend". Virolino's answer is an example of how it's done. Perhaps you mean "may not" or "should not", but the face of the planet is littered with people who are radically changed by mechanisms beyond their control or when manipulated. General examples would be soldiers changed by war or total populations by dictators; not to even expand on people wrecked by religion and children irrevocably destroyed by abusers, as would women/children being raped or trafficked. — Tim 39 secs ago

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8:07 AM

@Tim I intensely hope the OP would not plan to expose his girlfriend to such experiences... I can point out the manipulation part more than I have done already. — Allerleirauh 1 min ago

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8:22 AM

Hi Allerleirauh! Could you tell us how you've been in a similar situation yourself, and how did the person react when you helped them try to find their boundaries? We expect answers to provide either personal experience or literature citation as a back up, so OP has is assured that your proposal is likely to work in their situation. Could you please edit your answer to provide this information? Thanks in advance! — avazula ♦ 1 min ago

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8:35 AM

This belongs on MoneySE — JAD 28 secs ago

#22370 JAD (6593 rep) | Q: What are the consequences of giving (not lending) money to a family member? (score: 0) | posted 33 minutes ago by PuffAnfPant (1 rep) | Toxicity 0.117590494 | tps/fps: 0/0

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8:48 AM

@JuanCarlosOropeza "they" refer to the "someone" in question. I used singular they to refer to this person. Essentially, it's used when you don't know the person's gender/preferred pronouns or do not wish to disclose this information about them. — avazula ♦ 51 secs ago

#22330 avazula (9405 rep) | Q: How to tell someone I'd like to become friends without causing them to think I'm romantically interested in them? (score: 39) | posted 2 days ago by avazula (9405 rep) | edited 2 hours ago by Ælis (7999 rep) | Toxicity 0.19522408 | tps/fps:

@avazula I have edited my answer and hope it is ok now? — Allerleirauh 1 min ago

Hello PuffAnfPant ! I voted to close the question because it comes dangerously close to a "what should I do ?" question. It doesn't seem like you're sure of what you want to do. The goal of this site is to help you attain a specific outcome. For example, a question that would be in scope could be "I want to give my sister money, but I'm afraid of X and Y. How could I give her help without falling into these pitfalls". But we cannot help you decide whether or not you should give your sister money, or lend it, or do nothing at all. — MlleMei 1 min ago

#22370 MlleMei (2372 rep) | Q: What are the consequences of giving (not lending) money to a family member? (score: 0) | posted 54 minutes ago by PuffAnfPant (1 rep) | Toxicity 0.20522647 | tps/fps: 0/0

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9:07 AM

It is! Thank you for editing :) — avazula ♦ just now

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9:24 AM

Hi Linux! I know it's an old answer but our site requirements evolved since you posted that answer, you may have a look at them here. Basically, we'd like answerers to explain how they've been in a similar situation themselves (or witnessed it), so that OP knows that what's suggested was tried before and what to expect. Could you edit your answer to add this info? Thanks in advance :) — avazula ♦ 21 secs ago

#8093 avazula (9405 rep) | A: How to invite a coworker I'm romantically interested in to a dinner party without sounding like I have an agenda? (score: 8) | posted 573 days ago by LinuxBlanket (9328 rep) | Toxicity 0.03815096 | Comment on inactive post | tps/fps: 0/0

Hi Magisch! I stumbled upon this old answer, and I know it's bothersome, but it'd be great if you could edit it to include personal experience backing up your proposal, either yours or a relative's so that OP knows what you're suggesting could likely help them. Do you think you could edit your answer to include this information? Thank you :) — avazula ♦ 15 secs ago

#8097 avazula (9405 rep) | A: How to invite a coworker I'm romantically interested in to a dinner party without sounding like I have an agenda? (score: 21) | posted 573 days ago by Magisch (9532 rep) | Toxicity 0.11662559 | Comment on inactive post | tps/fps: 0/0

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9:40 AM

I don't really know. It's clear, and maybe the best way to avoid misunderstandings if that is the dominant goal, but it also feels very heavy-handed. Dave and Blueriver's suggestions appear a lot more natural to me. — xLeitix 41 secs ago

#22337 xLeitix (1921 rep) | A: How to tell someone I'd like to become friends without causing them to think I'm romantically interested in them? (score: 25) | posted 50 hours ago by LordHieros (523 rep) | edited 50 hours ago by LordHieros (523 rep) | Toxicity 0.061938725 | tp

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10:23 AM

I would not recommend using tumblr any more. Most of its userbase left a year or two ago after its owners made some very stupid decisions to please investors, so all that's left is an echo chamber of extremists. Somewhere like reddit is better. — Pyritie 24 secs ago

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You are a Man. You may, at any point in time, be accused of something you do not understand by a woman. This is how life is, particularily if one of those women choose you as their husband. — Stian Yttervik 17 secs ago

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12:46 PM

@tinkeringbell. Okay I get it. You would rather mysteriously hate and ignore me rather than let me know what the reason is and give me an opportunity to correct my actions. To be really honest, the answer to your question about my absence. I had to quit IPS due to one user only, and that was your mysterious hatred of me. I'm sorry for whatever I have done that upset you. Just please for god's sake, talk to me. My last message on this. Sorry. — NVZ 20 secs ago

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1:03 PM

@Pyritie Thanks! I've edited the answer. — Lux Claridge 1 min ago

Hi there! Welcome to IPS. Unfortunately, we can't help you with how to cope, as this is rather an intrapersonal issue. I'm not sure how we could make this on-topic, what I could advise is to seek professional help to talk about how to cope should you feel you need further help with handling the pain. Would it be possible (and interesting) for you if we tried to help you with how to talk to your mother about her departure and that it hurt you and your dad? — avazula ♦ 1 min ago

#22372 avazula (9408 rep) | Q: How do me and my dad cope with my mom doing a disappearing act and stating she isn't coming back? (score: 0) | posted 16 minutes ago by kaytegalssgti (1 rep) | edited 12 minutes ago by A J (6920 rep) | Toxicity 0.17345801 | tps/fps: 0/0

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1:55 PM

"...I'm of the notion that the world needs more gay people..." — Ash 10 secs ago

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2:10 PM

Starting at rev d19bb04 on branch master (Fixed 'huh?' for toxicity)

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Starting at rev d19bb04 on branch master (Fixed 'huh?' for toxicity)

thesecretmaster

@Mithrandir Fixed

I always forget to poke iptables...

Mithrandir

Any idea why the SSH sometimes doesn't work?

thesecretmaster

The connection refused thing is cuz I reboot the box and then basically forget to load my settings into the firewall, so it blocks everything trying to get it.

Mithrandir

Ah.

So PICNIC. ;)

Anyway, thanks!

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2:18 PM

Possible duplicate of How can I decline a hug without offending? — Crosscounter 1 min ago

@Ash pretty sure it's meant as a light-hearted joke, and Lux isn't known as a mean person ;) If you explain and ask nicely, they'll likely won't mind editing it out... Lux, see the comment above, apparently some people find that sentence troublesome, would you mind? — Tinkeringbell ♦ 33 secs ago

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3:07 PM

I looked whether they weren't synonyms already, but sadly no. — avazula ♦ 32 secs ago

#3757 avazula (9408 rep) | Q: Tags roommates vs flatmates vs housemates (score: 1) | posted 1 minutes ago by Ælis (7999 rep) | Toxicity 0.27950493 | tps/fps: 0/0

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I'm amazed that this is the top answer. What if you're single? And I'm pretty sure there's a problem only if you are. If not, you can just mention once that you're with someone and if they're not an asshat they won't try anything and won't interpret your behaviour as flirting. — Teleporting Goat 22 secs ago

#22331 Teleporting Goat (101 rep) | A: How to tell someone I'd like to become friends without causing them to think I'm romantically interested in them? (score: 85) | posted 3 days ago by DaveG (6076 rep) | edited 25 hours ago by DaveG (6076 rep) | Toxicity 0.6188424 |

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I made a pretty significant edit to give a little more info on where we are now and what's required. Feel free to revert! — scohe001 45 secs ago

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3:23 PM

To add to the "Before Coming Out" section, it can also be good to talk about how she would want things handled if a family member takes things poorly. Does she still want to try and educate them? To never see them again? There's lots of responses here, and it can be good to think about that before you actually run into problems. — Tylerelyt 1 min ago

@LordHieros perhaps "romantic or sexual" to cover both? — Blueriver 23 secs ago

#22337 Blueriver (111 rep) | A: How to tell someone I'd like to become friends without causing them to think I'm romantically interested in them? (score: 26) | posted 56 hours ago by LordHieros (533 rep) | edited 56 hours ago by LordHieros (533 rep) | Toxicity 0.1171363 |

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4:22 PM

If you're SO doesn't share the same common interests, or can't participate, a technique I've employed in similar situations is, during your beginning interactions with your new potential friend, frequently mention your SO in a positive light. "Oh yeah, my SO loves that too!", "Oh, that reminds me of when my SO did this", "Yeah, my SO & I tried that restaurant a few months ago and it was great!". Of course, doing this constantly can get really annoying; but once you get across that (a) You are in a relationship, and (b) you are happy, then you can lay off. — John T 28 secs ago

#22331 John T (337 rep) | A: How to tell someone I'd like to become friends without causing them to think I'm romantically interested in them? (score: 86) | posted 3 days ago by DaveG (6086 rep) | edited 26 hours ago by DaveG (6086 rep) | Toxicity 0.30088943 | tps/fps: 0/0

@Blueriver wouldn't that be going even further in the "too harsh" direction? — LordHieros 1 min ago

#22337 LordHieros (533 rep) | A: How to tell someone I'd like to become friends without causing them to think I'm romantically interested in them? (score: 26) | posted 57 hours ago by LordHieros (533 rep) | edited 56 hours ago by LordHieros (533 rep) | Toxicity 0.11877584

@JohnT that sounds like the start of a strong answer ;) — scohe001 42 secs ago

#22331 scohe001 (11805 rep) | A: How to tell someone I'd like to become friends without causing them to think I'm romantically interested in them? (score: 86) | posted 3 days ago by DaveG (6086 rep) | edited 26 hours ago by DaveG (6086 rep) | Toxicity 0.12322781 | tps/fps: 0/

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4:39 PM

@scohe001 Fiiiiiine! :) I had a feeling that comment was coming. I went ahead & posted a full answer. Feel free to improve! — John T 56 secs ago

#22331 John T (337 rep) | A: How to tell someone I'd like to become friends without causing them to think I'm romantically interested in them? (score: 86) | posted 3 days ago by DaveG (6086 rep) | edited 26 hours ago by DaveG (6086 rep) | Toxicity 0.12526707 | tps/fps: 0/0

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4:52 PM

@LordHieros, try this: "...I have a partner and only have interest in a platonic relationship." — Reubens4Dinner 1 min ago

#22337 Reubens4Dinner (907 rep) | A: How to tell someone I'd like to become friends without causing them to think I'm romantically interested in them? (score: 26) | posted 57 hours ago by LordHieros (533 rep) | edited 57 hours ago by LordHieros (533 rep) | Toxicity 0.

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I think [flatmates] should be "burninated," but I could see it becoming a nuisance again mostly due to regional language (and new questions might try to re-create it as a new tag). — Crosscounter 31 secs ago

@Crosscounter If it's made a synonym, it'll automatically get replaced with the "roommates" tag whenever somebody tries to add it, so we wouldn't need to burninate :) — Em C ♦ 53 secs ago

I just read a meta post on tag-synonyms and merged tags because I was unsure. Thanks for the clarification. — Crosscounter 1 min ago

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5:19 PM

Yeah, that's a bit unfortunate. Thanks for letting me know. — Marc.2377 37 secs ago

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what kind of pet is it? — BKlassen 1 min ago

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5:57 PM

@IPSCommentBot fp

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Marked this comment as caught incorrectly (fp). Currently marked 0tps/1fps

black party hat? — tuskiomi 1 min ago

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@IPSCommentBot tp

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Marked this comment as caught correctly (tp). Currently marked 1tps/0fps. beep boop My human overlords won't let me flag that, so you'll have to do it yourself.

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!!/regex ips

!!/regexes ips

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possible-aic:
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6:02 PM

!!/howgood ips a ^This\W?[.:!-]

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!!/howgood ips a ^This\W?(\.|\!|\-)

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!!/howgood ips a ^This\W?\.

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Mithrandir

6:03 PM

....pffffffffffffff

!!/howgood ips a ^this\W?[.:!-]

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!!/del ips a ^This\W?[.:!-]

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Destroyed ^This\W?[.:!-] (post_type a)!

Destroyed reason: "experimental-chatty(@emc)"

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!!/add ips a ^this\W?[.:!-] experimental-chatty(@EmC)

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Added regex ^this\W?[.:!-] for post_type a with reason 'experimental-chatty(@EmC)'

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6:05 PM

(Sorry for all the pings, Em)

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6:27 PM

@scohe001 [meta-tag:feature-request] - convert all regexes to lowercase except when a letter is preceded by a backslash

Em C

@Mithrandir np, I forgot about that one and how I never actually got it to work :P thanks for fixing it :D

Mithrandir

heh

scohe001

@Mithrandir are you sure that every other appearance of an alpha character in a regex is treated as a character literal unless it's escaped?

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6:44 PM

If you disagree with this proposal, can you please explain why, so I can edit it to address concerns? — gparyani 37 secs ago

#3758 gparyani (866 rep) | A: Tags roommates vs flatmates vs housemates (score: -1) | posted 10 minutes ago by gparyani (866 rep) | Toxicity 0.06550076 | tps/fps: 0/0

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@BKlassen will that information change how I should approach my neighbors? — scohe001 1 min ago

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NMDV, but there are only 4 questions tagged flatmates and 15 tagged housemates that aren't also tagged roommates (compared to almost 100 tagged roommates). The OED also defines "roommate" as "A person occupying the same room, flat, or house as another." I agree there may be some dissonance for our British friends, but given the way that synonyms function, I believe the proposed solution is the correct one. — scohe001 1 min ago

#3758 scohe001 (11805 rep) | A: Tags roommates vs flatmates vs housemates (score: -1) | posted 23 minutes ago by gparyani (866 rep) | Toxicity 0.1257414 | tps/fps: 0/0

@scohe001 The question is not about the term used and language, but about the categorization. In my opinion, the questions about interacting with someone who one's sharing a bedroom with are different from those about interacting with someone who one's not sharing a bedroom with, but only common household areas, so the different types of questions deserve different tags. (FYI I'm American.) — gparyani 1 min ago

#3758 gparyani (866 rep) | A: Tags roommates vs flatmates vs housemates (score: -1) | posted 26 minutes ago by gparyani (866 rep) | Toxicity 0.18373555 | tps/fps: 0/0

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7:00 PM

@TeleportingGoat I would say that taking a significant other along does not always indicate you are not flirting. It is probably a very good indication in most places most of the time. — DRF 1 min ago

#22331 DRF (103 rep) | A: How to tell someone I'd like to become friends without causing them to think I'm romantically interested in them? (score: 87) | posted 3 days ago by DaveG (6106 rep) | edited 28 hours ago by DaveG (6106 rep) | Toxicity 0.076824605 | tps/fps: 0/0

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I understand, but when I lived with 3 other people (in 4 separate rooms), I would've still called them roommates (and I believe several of the roommates tagged questions are actually about what you categorize as "housemates"). I think leaving them separate only leads to more confusion. But I respect that you disagree. — scohe001 31 secs ago

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@TeleportingGoat In that case, I think the question arises if it is just between the OP and the person of interest going out. Blueriver's answer: Safer option is to include more people if OP is clear s/he does not want to date. It could be another friend/family etc. Don't ask them if they want to go for a dinner/coffee which maybe misinterpreted as a date. Rather say something like, "My friends and I are going to dinner at X, would you like to go too?". And during this meet, make sure you are not focused only about that person you invited. Distribute your time among the group. — KNP 5 secs ago

#22331 KNP (159 rep) | A: How to tell someone I'd like to become friends without causing them to think I'm romantically interested in them? (score: 87) | posted 3 days ago by DaveG (6106 rep) | edited 28 hours ago by DaveG (6106 rep) | Toxicity 0.116263576 | tps/fps: 0/0

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I don't really see the distinction being all that meaningful in an interpersonal skills context.. whatever shared property is the issue and how much the room/housemates interact will need to be described in the question body anyhow, and like scohe mentions, there's a lot of overlap already. Maybe "housemates" should be the master instead (with both flatmates and roommates as synonyms) but, either way, if we have "roommates" as the master then it'll be obvious to people who look for house/flatmates tags that it's being used in the AmE fashion. — Em C ♦ 1 min ago

@EmC I see a big difference in the types of questions asked. For instance, when asking about someone with whom I'm sharing a room, I'd ask about things like their sleeping patterns, their light emitted from their device screen overnight, etc. Whereas, when I'm asking about someone I'm only sharing common areas with, I'd ask questions about the kitchen, the living room, etc. I think this distinction is high enough to warrant separate categorization. — gparyani 1 min ago

@gparyani don't see the issue here: Those are things you put in the question (sleeping, light, kitchen, living room)... If you want to distinguish between that, I hope you use the question body and not a word that can mean different things in different languages. Your question would likely be closed as unclear without those details anyways. — Tinkeringbell ♦ 1 min ago

Eh, I feel like whether the problems are happening in your bedroom or a different room in the house is more of a detail, and we should be forming categories based on the overarching themes that these questions are likely to have (respecting common property, dealing with clashing lifestyles / habits, etc.) — Em C ♦ 45 secs ago

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7:26 PM

@apaul We talked about it and the biggest message I got was that it should be done before the holidays. We didn't openly discuss who would do it, so you're right, I must ask. It's just that I would never ask one of my children to tell Grandma something potentially upsetting. I'll feel that responsibility until the day she dies. Despite her narrow-mindedness, we do love Grandma and want her support. — SnappingShrimp just now

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Also, this meta says we should be making tags in AmE (with synonyms for other versions), so the proposed scheme ("roommates" as master) would keep in line with that. — Em C ♦ 35 secs ago

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Your protective instinct is admirable, but you probably ought to have a more in depth conversation with your daughter before you consider approaching the subject with the rest of the family. — apaul 1 min ago

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7:41 PM

household is also worth looking into. (synonymous to family?) Only 3 questions. This may be a case of burnination... — Crosscounter 1 min ago

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8:56 PM

Also, if you do have an SO and don't want to/can't do the group thing, make sure the SO is really ok with you seeing this other person on your own. Some people are not OK with that, and if they are, they might not be OK with it if you see this friend more and more. Just keep tabs on your SO's feelings. — JPhi1618 52 secs ago

#22373 JPhi1618 (141 rep) | A: How to tell someone I'd like to become friends without causing them to think I'm romantically interested in them? (score: 3) | posted 4 hours ago by John T (367 rep) | Toxicity 0.07144546 | tps/fps: 0/0

This often comes off as annoying and rude. There are many times when Im just trying to just be nice or befriend someone of my preferred sex and they keep mentioning their SO in such an unnatural way, similar to how you've posted above. It's not normal to keep bringing up your SO unless their the focus of some story! Ultimately it comes off as confusing, borderline rude, because I am NOT hitting on this person and yet they're coming off as if they need to keep reminding me that they're not interested/in a relationship. — 8protons 30 secs ago

#22373 8protons (381 rep) | A: How to tell someone I'd like to become friends without causing them to think I'm romantically interested in them? (score: 2) | posted 4 hours ago by John T (365 rep) | Toxicity 0.53163594 | tps/fps: 0/0

This often comes off as annoying and rude in cases where the other party has made no romantic gesture. If someone makes a move, then some time after said move is the response above okay. But when Im clearly just being friendly or a decent human being, only to find that the party feels the need to awkwardly inject the SO name drop as a clear sign of "Im not romantically interested", it makes me feel uncomfortable as if A) I came on too strong somehow, or B) they're a narcissist that assumes everyone is into them and cant manage a non-flirtatious friendship/acquaintance. — 8protons 1 min ago

#22373 8protons (381 rep) | A: How to tell someone I'd like to become friends without causing them to think I'm romantically interested in them? (score: 2) | posted 4 hours ago by John T (365 rep) | Toxicity 0.3101101 | tps/fps: 0/0

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9:41 PM

I'm voting to close this question as off-topic because question asks for an intrapersonal solution — BKlassen 44 secs ago

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10:42 PM

@Crosscounter IMO just burninate that and replace the three instances with either family or roommates as needed. — gparyani 36 secs ago

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