So today we've had a flag because someone joked that the big bang theory still being on air is proof that there's no god, and because someone else compared over-zealous flagging to ISIS.
@Cerberus That's great... but what of the people who come here to ask a question about ELU? Is that really something you think is appropriate for them to see as their first interaction with the chat space?
@Mr.ShinyandNew安宇 Phew, I'm glad you added that bit about sarcasm, or you'd have been suspended on the spot! People are too lazy to bother about the context these days.
@Catija Well, if they bother to read the context a little bit, they will understand. For example, when there is no animosity between two chatters, and one suddenly calls the other gay or whatever, it would be clear enough that it was an innocent joke between friends.
@terdon Even without any context whatsovever, those messages were not offensive that I can see. Unless someone thinks atheists are by definition offensive, in which case, eff that.
@Cerberus If I were a normal, reasonable person and I saw someone say (paraphrasing) "At least I'm not (offensive word for people with intellectual disabilities) and don't talk like I'm a (offensive word for a homosexual)" I find that offensive.
@AnkitSharma I'm not calling anyone a troll. But I think many people enjoy punishing others and are fairly lazy, and the current flagging system encourages all that. So it is partly SE's fault.
@Catija To give you some context, the person who posted that knew perfectly well that at least one chat regular and one of the most respected users here are a) gay and b) would know not to take offense at that. It is basically silly banter between friends.
I can certainly understand why that message was flagged, but I also happen to know that it doesn't represent the position of the person who posted it. It was a joke.
@terdon Meh, if you or Reg suddenly says "you're so gay" out of nowhere, when there is no animosity between the interlocutors, neither bore the line nor after, then anyone could figure out it was an innocent joke.
@Cerberus Yes, but the word in question was fag which is a good deal more offensive. Out of context, I'm sure you can see why it could be considered offensive.
Basically, this room is a haven of open minded, very liberal people. The vast majority of the regulars are very much non racist, homophobic or any of the other things their messages might suggest they are.
@Cerberus Flags are shown network wide, as you know, and people are very twitchy at the moment.
@AnkitSharma Offensive is in the eye of the beholder. None of this is offensive to the room's regulars. I can understand the reaction but you really need to take the room's culture into account. This is a relatively close-knit group and most of us already know that Reg isn't in any way homophobic.
I understand that you guys are just being heterosexual life partners ("bros") and understand all that about each other. My question is why a validated flag automatically results in suspension.
So I have a crazy idea. So crazy it just might work. We can restore Reg's message, only replace the word fag with the word flag, as flags are way more insulting and offensive.
@Cerberus How should I know it's a joke? Is there a joke tag added to it that I didn't see? ELU is a very high-volume site, which is great... but do you not think that this sort of vernacular might turn someone off from participating in here?
OK. Everyone: What is and is not flagged depends on each chatroom. There are no global rules for what is allowed. Apart from the classic "be nice", that is. Some chat rooms don't accept any profanity at all, for example, while this one has absolutely no issue with it.
That someone was flagged in another room for something that wouldn't be considered flaggable here is no reason to start applying the standard of the other room to this one.
@Catija As to people who might be turned off, that message was probably only on the first screen for a minute or so. It soon disappears into the invisible archives.
@Catija Not at all. I'm saying that what is considered being a jerk depends on who you're talking to. For example, I can call a friend of mine a fag, safe in the knowledge that he won't take offense at it. I would certainly never consider calling a stranger that. It all depends on context.
The Be nice policy is great but, perforce, a little vague.
@AnkitSharma Shog made a good point the other day when he called chat rooms "a third place" and compared them to bars. This is our local bar where we all sort of know each other and know what is and is not offensive to each other.
If I'm at my favorite bar with a couple of my friends and you hear me saying something you consider offensive to one of them, I assume you wouldn't intervene if you could clearly see that the person it was directed at wasn't taking offense.
So where's the line of separation there? Why is be nice working differently across exchanges, while they all have the same mods (in terms of the power to moderate)?
Let me dig it up, but the main draw point was that language is a shared experience, which in turn in something like chat, is actually kind of a fluid existence.
So, yes, some people overreacted based on the code of conduct which they are familiar with from other rooms. There was no malice here though, just people unfamiliar with this room's particular brand of facetiousness thinking they were doing the right thing.
Here's the thread. Worth a read. Main takeaway that's relevant here - yes, a chatroom can have its own culture, where certain language standards become lax because in-house, that language has lost its offensive meaning.
But it's important to realize that it's still a very public room, and the population of a room can shift. And language should probably accommodate that.
When you've got a score of people of a different culture present, throwing stuff they don't accept is not going to work out well. At the same time, that score of people attempting to overthrow the existing culture is also unproductive.
@Cerberus This is a key point. One that can sometimes be difficult, though, because it's a very real thing that people who try to speak up about certain things have had backlash for doing so. So it causes the more common reaction to dealing with it, to be the silent-but-actionable form.
@GraceNote I understand, but then, is that really worth it, for a line that is only in view for a minute or two, thereafter to disappear into the bottomless chat archives where none shall see it?
@Cerberus That's one of the main drawbacks of the flag system. On the one hand, we need to have chat flags visible to users who are not in a chat room since that can be the only way to stop abuse. On the other hand, this can lead to situations like this one where well-meaning people who are unfamiliar with a room end up making things worse rather than better.
@Mr.ShinyandNew安宇 Technically I came in here slightly before it was on fire. And up until Catja got kicked it wasn't entirely necessary for me to step in and say anything.
But now we have 20 people who are uncomfortable, for much longer than a few minutes. And I would say most of them are more than uncomfortable. Does that really compare to seeing the word "fag" somewhere, out of context?
@Cerberus I don't think someone solely flagging something that made them uncomfortable, is a problem, because that's what flagging is, y'know, kinda designed for?
But explosions because flagging happened, over-defensive defense of the flagger, over-defensive defense of the flagged.
@terdon I understand the reasoning behind it. But I think SE greatly overestimates the importance of "cleansing" chat: any line will be up for a few minutes only, in a busy room. Is it really necessary to have everything 100% clean?
@GraceNote Maybe, but people are people, and I've seen this happen countless times in various rooms after flag suspension. It escalates things very much.
Regulars? We know that one of them is pretty rowdy and brings up some crazy things. Sometimes he says stuff that's out of line in a public sense. If it's only regulars around, though, it flies by. If it's not? It gets flagged and deleted. And everyone moves on.
@Cerberus We're all people. We're all capable of adjusting our reactions. If the community is able to be one that changes how they react to things that are offensive to certain groups, they can work on something that's far, far simpler like flag incidents.
My position is that flagging action when people actively are uncomfortable is a legitimate action - the overreactions of those defending the flagger is not, but that's independent of the flagger's action at the start.
The fault lies squarely in the people's reaction to the flags, but the flag itself was a tool that was designed for a proper use, and was used for that.
If people want this conversation to end, I'll oblige that.
@GraceNote At that point, I wasn't even arguing about legitimacy (although I see most of the problematic flags as illegitimate): my point is that you can't change people, and, the way it is now, you 10 get people coming to this room to defend the flag who get upset, and 10 regulars who defend the flaggee who get upset. So the flag has created a new problem that wasn't there before, in order to solve another problem.
If you wondering (and I suspect you are) I am currently listening to a well reasoned and insightful discussion of the israeli-Palestinian problem involving slightly raised voices and level headed questions about historical facts.
> peace and quiet → a line gets flagged which regulars feel is unjust → lots of people from outside the room enter it and get upset; lots of regulars get upset
@GraceNote So anyway, I think we've milked the subject for what it's worth. But give it some thought: now we have several newcomers to this room who were at least mildly upset because of the discussion. Is that really worth deleting a line that was only up for a minute before vanishing into the transcript? Or should the system be reformed somewhat?