The Awkward Silence - 2020-01-06

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avazula

06:14

Hey @Rain! Sorry, TAS opens automatically when I launch my computer but I wasn't really around at that time. I did have a good holiday although I was sick for half of it (it's the curse of vacation, you have to be sick at Christmas :p) How was yours?

avazula

06:27

And morning everyone :) Happy new year to all.

A J

Afternoon! And happy new year to you too!

avazula

06:47

@AJ did you manage to get many hats this year?

A J

@avazula 23! Ended up at 11th place networkwide.

avazula

darn. Congrats :)

A J

07:28

@avazula Thanks! To be honest, I wasn't really trying to win, but to stay in top 10 in network.

JAD

so close :O

Tinkeringbell

Morning!

JAD

good morning

Tinkeringbell

Back to work :) almost ... Just half an hour of commuting to go ;)

CaldeiraG

08:01

Morning :)

CaldeiraG

08:19

Happy birthday to me also :D 🎉

avazula

@CaldeiraG Happy birthday you 20-year-old TAS friend! Lots of good things for you in 2020.

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CaldeiraG

@avazula Thank you, I appreciate it! I hope so :)

A J

user image

CaldeiraG

@AJ Can you upload it to i.stack.imgur? (regular imgur won't do either) That link is blocked for me

But I'll thank you too :)

A J

There you go! ;D

CaldeiraG

08:25

Yay I can see now :)

Belle

08:40

Morning

A J

Afternoon!

Tinkeringbell

08:56

@CaldeiraG I told you I'd forget it :P Happy Birthday!

Did you get presents?

Belle

09:07

@CaldeiraG Happy Birthday!

M.A.R.

09:18

@AJ Why didn't I get a birthday cake (╯°□°）╯︵ ┻━┻

Happy birthday @Cal

CaldeiraG

@Tink, @Belle, @M.A.R. thank you :D

Tinkeringbell

@M.A.R. Because it's not your birthday today? :)

CaldeiraG

Even my bank send me a birthday email :p

M.A.R.

It was on Dec 26th

Isn't it sweet. Thank you Google, for invading my privacy and knowing everything about me!

CaldeiraG

:p

Tinkeringbell

09:28

@CaldeiraG Aww, that's cute... What was it, invest your birthday money in stocks? :P

@M.A.R. You're almost a Christmas baby!

M.A.R.

in The Periodic Table, Dec 18 '18 at 13:10, by M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

Basically a version of Jesus that's compatible with Win 10

Tinkeringbell

Hahaha

A J

09:46

@M.A.R. Where am I supposed to put the cake when you've been throwing tables all the times? ;P

on your face? :P

M.A.R.

On the floor

Tinkeringbell

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Q: For how long after New Year's Day is it appropriate to wish people all the best for the new year?

Today is my first day back at the office after a two-week vacation, and so there's a lot of handshakes and well-wishing ('happy new year', 'best wishes') going on. Which raised a fun discussion between me and my co-workers: Some of them completely forget or generally just stop wishing people we...

etiquette netherlands holidays

For the quick Googlers here ;)

M.A.R.

@AJ face works too.

@Tinkeringbell I allow for a 3-month margin of error

But that's just me

Tinkeringbell

@M.A.R. 3 months!?

You're definitely on the annoying side of the argument then :P

Belle

@Tinkeringbell my personal etiquette says up to the first workday of the first whole week after the new year (so for most people today)

Mithical

09:50

@Tinkeringbell Until July 7th.

After July 7th, you're definitely in the second half of the year and so it's really time to stop.

Rory Alsop

@Tinkeringbell If you have a good memory, I'd say you can wish anyone a happy new year if it is the first time you have met them this year. Any time this year. So no cutoff. Of course, by the time it's June or July, it's more of a joke, but still allowed

Belle

@RoryAlsop but only people you've met before (last year or earlier), not strangers

Rory Alsop

@Belle yes, absolutely

M.A.R.

@Mithical See, we understand each other

As horrifying as that sounds

Belle

So I could send my family members I haven't seen for years a happy new year card in July? I'm in.

M.A.R.

10:01

Burn and stain it a bit so it looks like the wisdom of the ancients, forgotten through time, now sent to them in the form of a message from the universe

When men and dragons fought

Wait, I know why dragons went extinct 65 million years ago. The universe told me

Also, is that 66 yet. It's been 65 for such a long time.

Belle

@M.A.R. I think it will be 66 in 2021

M.A.R.

Nice. Wait.

You were there? YOU WERE THERE?

Belle

I've been discovered! -hides-

M.A.R.

Nah you're doing it wrong

You're supposed to say something dramatic. Like

Extroverted Main Man

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Q: For how long after New Year's Day is it appropriate to wish people all the best for the new year?

Today is my first day back at the office after a two-week vacation, and so there's a lot of handshakes and well-wishing ('happy new year', 'best wishes') going on. Which raised a fun discussion between me and my co-workers: Some of them completely forget or generally just stop wishing people we...

etiquette netherlands holidays

M.A.R.

10:05

"SO WE'VE BEEN DISCOVERED? WE SHOULD ACCELERATE OUR PLANS"

Belle

Oh, no, that would make it obvious we have plans. Those plans are a secret.

M.A.R.

"WE CAN NO LONGER KEEP IT A SEEKRIT. TIME TO SHOW THE WORLD WHO WE ARE"

"SEND WORD TO HELA I MEAN LADY GALADRIEL THAT WE HAVE A NEW ROLE FOR HER TO PLAY"

@Belle Wow. You're bad at secrets.

Tinkeringbell

@Mithical @Rory I've heard two dates floating around: January 6th and January 15th... Seems @Belle is closest ;)

M.A.R.

Makes me wonder how you kept it a secret for such a long time.

Tinkeringbell

Of course jokes are always appropriate :P

M.A.R.

10:07

Unless everybody knew looks around in suspicion

JAD

@ExtrovertedMainMan until Driekoningen

Tinkeringbell

@JAD Find source, write answer? :P

Because that's one of the dates that was mentioned here too (January 6th ;) )

JAD

jefdejager.nl/driekoningen.php

> Een gezamenlijke etiquetteregel was bovendien dat nieuwjaarswensen slechts tot en met Driekoningen hoefden te worden uitgesproken.

does that count?

Tinkeringbell

Does for me ;)

CaldeiraG

@Tinkeringbell I don't understand the stock market at all :P

JAD

10:18

can't write an answer right now

Tinkeringbell

@JAD Don't worry, I already have two :)

Your source does seem to mention the 1700's as the time era being discussed though... that rule may be outdated ;)

CaldeiraG

10:31

It's kinda of odd that probably more than 15 people have already wished me a happy birthday over the Internet and only 3 IRL persons

avazula

@CaldeiraG have you told them it's your birthday? :p

M.A.R.

@CaldeiraG It's saying something

Now I don't wanna get too dank

CaldeiraG

@avazula atleast my closest group of friends should know this, we're friends for about 6 years roughly :p

avazula

@CaldeiraG I've learned over the years that remembering birthdays is overrated. My relatives can't understand why I would remember theirs. I'm not sure any of my sisters know mine. Some of them think I'm 20, others think I'm 30 ... :p

M.A.R.

Oh that reminds me

Happy new year!

Phew. I made it to the deadline.

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A: For how long after New Year's Day is it appropriate to wish people all the best for the new year?

This answer is based upon the etiquette I've been taught and always heard since childhood. Its rule have been followed for decades by people I know/met, and I've seen it used in Western Europe countries (Belgium, France, Germany1). The Netherlands being so close to those countries, it might apply...

> 1. when in England,

Do as the Brits do. Exit.

Rory Alsop

10:38

@M.A.R. lol

CaldeiraG

@avazula :p well, people just don't have a good memory either, i have my facebook birthdays synced with Google just in case

I can remember people when they truly forget about it and somewhat close to me

JAD

@Tinkeringbell I can tell you at least that it's not appropriate any more to wish others a happy 1700.

Mithical

"I always forget what century it is! They change too quickly!"

JAD

10:53

time flies when you're having fun

Tinkeringbell

11:22

interpersonal.stackexchange.com/q/23863/1599 < Could probably use a few eyes?

Mithical

I eye, aye

Tinkeringbell

12:02

:)

CaldeiraG

12:15

"Lidl on the price" - i see what you did there germans :P

UK ads are fun ads are not fun though

Tinkeringbell

Hahaha lidl!

They got a bunch of critique over here because their advertisements talked about 'feestdagen' (holidays) instead of kerstdagen (christmas days) ...

Sometimes people really do not realize that's it's easier to make stuff for the whole of December (Sinterklaas, christmas, new year's) as holidays instead of different labels for each period :)

Journeyman Geek

lol

Tinkeringbell

We have such serious problems in the Netherlands... srsly

Belle

12:37

@Tinkeringbell These issues are all very serious. Like the maximum speed reduction. It's an assault on our national identity! /s

Tinkeringbell

@Belle And what about the name of our Eurovision Song Contest participant? Apparently it starts with a J!

CaldeiraG

13:06

reddit.com/r/funny/comments/eklrp3/…

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Tinkeringbell

13:20

XD

Rainbacon

13:51

@avazula It was good, but lots of long travel. I'm glad to be back to a normal routine now

Tinkeringbell

14:02

On a second thought, we might also turn this one into a 'global' question, like mentioned here for example... but then every answer should include some geographic/cultural context. If any people actually prefer that, feel free to let me know either here or in Interpersonal Skills Chat. — Tinkeringbell ♦ 2 mins ago

Thoughts?

Might as well start the discussion myself :P

scohe001

14:49

QotD: If you could choose one piece of entertainment--a movie/video game/tv show/book/etc--to completely erase from your mind (make it as if you never experienced it), what'd it be and why?

Tinkeringbell

@scohe001 Bible. I'm curious to see what I'd be like had I not been raised religious ;)

But only if I do keep my memories of who I was before I forgot the book, otherwise it makes no sense. Then I'd pick some kind of movie I really liked when I first saw it (night at the museum perhaps, or the librarian), just so I can experience discovering it again.

Rainbacon

@scohe001 Possibly Cats, though I also like Tink's answer

scohe001

@Tinkeringbell dang, I really like this answer. That's deep.

Although classifying the bible as "a piece of entertainment" might ruffle some feathers :p

Tinkeringbell

XD

You were the one that said books were entertainment :P

And it's not that deep, it's a thought that crossed my mind quite regularly lately, so it's on the surface :P

scohe001

@Rainbacon oof I've heard bad things about that movie. It was bad enough to use your one wish to erase from your mind forever?

Belle

14:55

The avatar movie. I'd like to forget that exists entirely please.

scohe001

@Tinkeringbell I was expecting to learn about your favorite book series that you'd love to be able to re-experience for the first time again. Instead I got some insight into your internal struggle with religion. Definitely deeper than expected at least :p

Rainbacon

@scohe001 It was really bad, but let me think about whether or not I can find a better one

scohe001

Plot? Acting? CGI? Or just the premise in general?

Rainbacon

@scohe001 All of the above

Tinkeringbell

@scohe001 Well you got that too ;)

Rainbacon

15:00

The things that stick out most to me are: the fact that the cats all had human hands/feet. They tried to CGI away the rest of the human anatomy but then went out of their way to give Taylor Swift human breasts. There's basically no plot and at the end Judi Dench breaks the 4th wall to explain that cats are not like dogs

Ælis

@Belle Which avatar movie? The one were people are blue or the one with the "master of air"?

@scohe001 Probably a movie that I liked at the time but where I later learned that the person who made it/one of the main actor is a terrible person (a rapist or something like that)

For now, I think I would just erase "Pirates of the Caribbean" because of Johnny Depp

Tinkeringbell

@Rainbacon That's about everything from what I've seen from the reviews ;)

CaldeiraG

@Rainbacon Why is everyone talking about CATS? On Portugal it only was released a week later and it has a terrible imdb score

@Belle +1, probably one of the masterpieces of '10 :p

Belle

@Ælis The latter. The series is amazing. It's probably my favourite tv show of all time, but the movie is the worst thing I've ever seen.

Rainbacon

@CaldeiraG The easiest way I can explain it is to quote my wife: "I feel like it's going to be a trainwreck, but I also feel like it's one of those things that I have to go see just so that in 20 years I can say that I was there for that"

Ælis

15:14

@Belle I never saw the movie, so I can't judge, but I know a lot of people share your feelings (I did see a trailer though, that was enough for me :p )

CaldeiraG

@Rainbacon So it's bad :p

Rainbacon

@CaldeiraG Very

Journeyman Geek

Everyone loves a good trainwreck :D

CaldeiraG

@Rainbacon Well you just saved me 7€ to see a trainwreck :p

Not that i was going to see it but i was curious

Journeyman Geek

@CaldeiraG its on my "I'm probably going to download it and watch it one day, when I am super bored" :D

scohe001

15:18

@Rainbacon yeesh. That unfortunately sounds like exactly what I'd expect from seeing the trailers :/

@Ælis dang does that happen that often?? O_O

Tinkeringbell

@scohe001 Did you miss metoo?

scohe001

Oh I guess that's a good point. That part of my brain is still in shock trying to process it all

Geez I didn't expect this to get so deep and dark. I though y'all would want to re-experience your favorites, not forget all the stuff you hated lol

JAD

@Rainbacon hmm, the 4th wall gets broken in the first song. At least in the musical

CaldeiraG

@JourneymanGeek :D

Belle

Is Cats like so bad it's good or bad bad?

JAD

15:24

@Belle so you have good movies, then you have bad movies. At some point movies get so bad they become good again. This is beyond that and way in the bad part again

Journeyman Geek

@Belle yes

@Belle it's so bad they had to hotpatch it

JAD

relevant XKCD:

You think it's so legendarily bad that you'll torrent it and sit through it just for the kitschy nerd cred. I, too, once thought as you did.

Rainbacon

@JAD I don't mind a good breaking of the 4th wall, but the ending of the movie was not a good breaking of the 4th wall

JAD

¯\_(ツ)_/¯

Rainbacon

@scohe001 I've decided that I'll let cats stand and instead choose to forget Miranda Sings which is easily the "entertainment" that I find the most obnoxious

Belle

15:26

Cats has a higher score on IMDB than the Star Wars Holiday Special, though

Journeyman Geek

@Rainbacon in which case the cat is likely to sit

scohe001

@Rainbacon oof yea that one makes sense.

Belle

16:06

A similar but different question: what's the weirdest (SFW please) thing that woke you up?

Mithical

Uuhhhh does an air raid siren count?

Belle

That's not something that has ever woken me up before, so I guess so. Probably terrifying.

Em C

this morning I got woken up because the cat sneezed on me ._.

Mithical

Not as terrifying as learning that you've slept through one.

ankii

@Belle me thinking(?) that I am falling

Em C

16:10

0.o

Belle

For me it was my brother shouting at 3 am when I still lived with my parents. He had come home from a night out and found a homeless person in our shed, stealing our empty bottles

Tinkeringbell

@Belle pidgeon crashing through a bedroom window

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ankii

@CaldeiraG it's Monday here! Happy Birthday!

brug

@Belle Nothing. I sleep through everything. I slept through an earthquake.

Em C

@Tinkeringbell did it actually get in the room?

ankii

16:13

@brug I slept through someone hitting me with a pillow to wake me up

brug

@Mithical But I doubt I could sleep through one of those.

@ankii That's every morning. Ask my wife.

Belle

I've also woken up because there was a cat on my face in my own house. I did not have a cat.

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Mithical

O_O

brug

@Belle okay that is weird...

Rainbacon

@Mithical Ooh, yeah. I slept through gunfire once. My parents said it sounded like there were bullets hitting our house.

ankii

16:15

those are some really cute one liners lying around.. let me pin one of them on the wall

@Mithical ask @M.A.R. if he had any similar ones

Mithical

@Rainbacon I mean apparently I slept through someone putting a BB pellet through our window as well

ankii

@Rainbacon where was the gunfire happening ?

Rainbacon

@ankii In rural united states

ankii

Ducks ? or like real life fight

CaldeiraG

@ankii Monday here too and thanks :D

Tinkeringbell

16:25

@EmC yep

Em C

@Tinkeringbell yikes :o

brug

@Tinkeringbell mumble mumble... can't think of a good joke about avian solidarity or some such... mumble mumble mumble.

2 hours later…

Ælis

18:32

@Belle Me falling from the highest bed of my bunk bed. It was very painful. It took me several weeks to recover fully (I had a very "nice" bruise in a kind of uncomfortable place but I could still sit on my other buttock, so that wasn't as bad as it could have been :p )

M.A.R.

18:51

@ankii Uh, what do people is going on here?

Christ, Iran is not Afghanistan.

My awesomest waking up was because of an earthquake.

Although I have slept through countless others

Alex Robinson

19:14

good morning everyone

@chumpbot tp

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Alex Robinson

thank you chump

Tinkeringbell

Evening!

Alex Robinson

good evening! how are people? i know i haven't been here recently

Tinkeringbell

I think so far we're good...

Can't really speak for everyone though

Mithical

19:20

*running around in circles screaming AHHHHHH* All good.

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@M.A.R. People hear anything involving the ME and assume it's a warzone

M.A.R.

Eh. I dropped the verb

Mithical

*picks up brain* you dropped this think

M.A.R.

Is this what you look like when you get philosophical

Mithical

*steeples fingers*

Rainbacon

19:34

My code is making super bad queries that are slowing down production, so I'm just peachy

scohe001

Ooh @M.A.R. I just noticed your new avatar. I love it. Where'd you find it?

@Rainbacon you should tell your code that there's no such thing as a bad query, just bad code :p

Em C

I thought my old manager had just forgot to cancel our 1:1 calendar entry, so I stayed at my desk coding, but no... now I feel rude >.<

scohe001

@EmC sounds like the perfect kind of thing to discuss in a 1:1 :p

Em C

@scohe001 so meta :p

Tinkeringbell

19:51

Can't you get away with the old 'sorry, I was in the flow/zone'?

Em C

yup ;) he didn't seem actually offended fortunately

closed as intrapersonal :p

Tinkeringbell

Hahaha

M.A.R.

@scohe001 I dunno

scohe001

20:07

Deep

Ælis

20:19

I find it hard to have relationship with people, so I decided to use this technique instead:

ankii

@Ælis that adds another complaint against those super cool compact workplace cum bed cum chillax furniture pieces.

Ælis

user image

ankii

Oops I interrupted

Ælis

:p

ankii

Again.

Ælis

20:19

Please, stop talking ><

:p

ankii

Haha I can’t add null char by editing on phone.

scohe001

Wow I think it's been years since I've seen a trollface. That is truly a Dank Meme. (also pretty great lol :p)

ankii

Please do the cleanup dear RO

Ælis

@ankii Nah, that's fine, I think it can stay like this :p

ankii

So you got which item I am taking about ?

It’s like a bunk bed with workspace below

And stairs beside it.

Extroverted Main Man

20:23

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Q: He says He doesn't want me but it feels He loves me when with me

Hope my question isn't off-topic in this forum. I have a problem being in a kind of relationship with someone who told me he didn't want me and that I should have a new year's resolution about letting him go. It is most of the time me who arranges to meet up, so it seems he isn't missing me. But...

friends relationships

Ælis

Well, they aren't the safest, but they are really convenient when you need more room.

Em C

@ankii sounds like my freshman dorm room setup in college

Ælis

@ExtrovertedMainMan Oh, now you are interrupting too, aren't you?

Em C

although it had a ladder, not stairs

interruptions for everrrryone :D

ankii

@EmC at least you had a single room for yourself

Ælis

20:24

@EmC Yay \o/

:p

Em C

@ankii nah, that year I had a roommate :)

the other years it was a "suite" setup, so 5-6 of us shared a living room / kitchen / bathroom but had separate bedrooms

ankii

We have 3-2-1-1 roomie count setup here

4 bathrooms 4 toilets for 30 people

Then for 20, then for 10

M.A.R.

@ExtrovertedMainMan Title sounds like some generic song lyrics

Ælis

@EmC It kind of makes me sad when I hear that total strangers have to share the same bedroom for a year (or more). I believe that anyone deserves to have a private room for themself

M.A.R.

Well, they're only strangers in the beginning

Ælis

20:27

@ankii Ouch, for 4 bathrooms for 30 people is really few. Some might not have showered a lot.

M.A.R.

But there's also quite a lot of ways a good relationship with a random guy won't work

Ælis

@M.A.R. Still, they never get to choose with whom they are sharing their room with

Em C

yeah, I don't miss the dorm room experience.. but, I was lucky to have a very nice roommate (we ended up living in the same suite all the rest of college)

ankii

@Ælis some used showers after returning from classes, midday. Although classes were divided such that only half had to wake up early

Em C

my university had a forum where people looking for roommates could post their preferences and such, so it wasn't totally random. of course, there's only so much you can tell from just online posting ;)

M.A.R.

20:29

y u no liek me roommie

Oh, you can learn a lot!

ankii

Also, random distribution of students in hostels made sure that the class shift arrangement works for everyone.

M.A.R.

If people are being themselves

Ælis

@EmC Well, that's indeed better than nothing. In any case, I'm glad to hear that you got along well with your roommate :)

Em C

:)

M.A.R.

(:

Tinkeringbell

20:31

Ooh, a Russian emoji ;)

ankii

q:

Em C

@M.A.R. my freshman year of college was very educational.. "why does the floor above us smell like skunk". haha

M.A.R.

No, Russian emojis are like)))))))))))))))

ankii

@EmC people living above us just make a lot of noise

So do the ones beside me. Idk why tap on the wall with a pen when you can chew it

Or is it MARs code ?

Tinkeringbell

20:47

Anyone in here following AGDQ?

2 hours later…

Em C

22:35

→ 13 messages moved to Trash

scohe001

Nooooo my babies!!

Em C

it's ok, they're in a better place now :p

scohe001

You took them to a nice comment farm to live with all the other happy comments? :D

Em C

hahah, that'd make a fun room description for The Closet

although slightly less informative :p

scohe001

LOL "The Comment Farm?"

I guess that'd make @Ælis a Comment Farmer, since they spend most of their day on the farm :p

Extroverted Main Man

22:43

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Q: How to politely ask a parent to not say something about me in public?

On three occasions now my father has blurted out a phrase along the lines of "my son works as an X. he makes really good money. Tell him/her how much you make", then he looks at me. The first time this happened my jaw almost hit the floor because I know my father doesn't have the most social awar...

conversations family money

Em C

22:53

@scohe001 that's a pleasant mental image :) much better than the usual comparison to being a janitor

scohe001

Lol true. And as is shown by Tink's new question, as a good farmer you can reap what you sow :)

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