The Awkward Silence

avazula

04:58

@Rainbacon mostly dance and weight lifting and a bit of swimming and running

Jasper van Looij

05:25

@avazula Then you must be stronger than me. =)

@avazula What kind of singing do you do?

A J

06:04

@avazula I swam yesterday so much that now I have a sore throat.

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Morning!

Nog Shine

Haha Good morning

avazula

@JaspervanLooij I do have 50kg of muscle, but I also have a bit fat above it :p

@JaspervanLooij I'm in a rock band, but I'm done choir singing my whole teenagehood

JAD

I've started cycling for my commute this week

at the end of the week, I'm properly tired now

avazula

@JAD cycling is so cool! I can't do it anymore because I live too far away from my office but I loved biking to work

JAD

well, since the move, it's just 18kms anymore :)

avazula

06:14

yay :)

Jasper van Looij

I still can't cycle, even though I tried learning a few times. =(

But I prefer walking to cycling. Sometimes, I just walk and walk for a few hours.

Magisch

hello

avazula

hi there!

Jasper van Looij

Hiiii

Magisch

whats up

avazula

06:21

@JaspervanLooij Love walking! It took me a long time to learn how to cycle, but now I love it

Jasper van Looij

@avazula I sing opera and similar stuff. =)

avazula

sounds nice :) it's hard!

Magisch

@avazula depending on how you define taxes, it's about 52% of mine

between health insurance (13.x%) income tax, additional tax and mandatory state retirement contributions

avazula

@Magisch dear lord o_o

Magisch

I get a bit less then half of my pre-tax salary on my bank account at the end of every month

JAD

06:32

@avazula starting cold-turkey is proving a bit too much though

going from biking 1km to the station, to 18km twice a day was too big of a jump

avazula

yea, that must be hard :/ I guess it'll be better in a few weeks

Magisch

Thats 36km a day on the bike

that is a proper long workout each day

avazula

yup. You're going to have calves of steel!

JAD

06:47

@Magisch yep, I had cramps on day 3

decided to work from home yday

I'm looking into investing into an electric bike, so make things a bit speedier and less sweaty

Magisch

07:05

On the plus side, if you can get used to it, you'll have a 180km a week free workout every week

will probably do wonders for your health and well beeing

some people pay a gym membership and take extra time out every week and still don't get that kind of cardio

JAD

yep, that's the idea

plus, it's not the worst area to bike either

a bit of fields, a bit through a small village, past the/a royal palace, through a forest

Magisch

I would do that commute

probably get an electric bike for the days where you're not feeling it or in a hurry but that is some golden opportunity for free cardio that you can wean yourself into easily

JAD

and it's easy to actually go

with other sports like that, I really struggle finding the motivation

Magisch

Thats what I mean by easy to wean yourself into, you can form a habit of it very quickly

JAD

but since it's a commute, there's some point I simply just have to leave

yeah exactly

Magisch

07:11

I also bike to work, but it's only 6km a day

yet, when I have time off I feel myself missing it, not just for the workout, but for the view and nice field air too

CaldeiraG

Mornin'

@JAD You do want to have the electric bike charged though :p because a electrical bike without electrical assistance is pretty heavy

@Magisch I'm one of those persons :p, I go to work by bus and need to workout afterwards

My goal is not to get like big muscles and stuff, just maintaining a healthy lifestyle at most

avazula

@CaldeiraG everyone has different goals in working out :p that's what make it beautiful

CaldeiraG

that's true :)

avazula

I workout mostly to get out of my own head, and not to have back aches when I'm older (hopefully)

Extroverted Main Man

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Q: Mitigate and discuss conflict about inclusion of my son as step-son

My wife and I have two kids, I have a son from divorce (divorced years before the second marriage). What has happened more and more recently, she seems to somehow to disapprove his existence like "ok that's your business if you see him, ok that's your business if you bring him to our home". Now...

CaldeiraG

07:21

My dad had Lumbar Disc Herniation and needed to do a surgery on that

But after the surgery and recuperation, he is very good and without back pain :D

He also workout like me :p

JAD

@CaldeiraG that's the idea yeah :P

CaldeiraG

@JAD Yeah, if you're doing 36km a day, you don't wanna forget to charge it afterwards XD

most bikes i've seen has 40km of range in 100% electric and 80km with electrical assistance

Introverted Meta Man

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Q: Is this answer valid?

Upon review of this answer on "How to tell a friend I don't want his help with miniature painting", this answer got flagged for lacking citations of personal experience on similar matters: https://interpersonal.stackexchange.com/a/22646/4550 After a comment asking for citations was left, the an...

discussion scope specific-answer

JAD

07:36

yep, that's about what I've seen as well

Ælis

09:29

If someone wants to say something: interpersonal.stackexchange.com/questions/22717/…

avazula

09:54

@Ælis deleted. that is nothing else than rude.

Ælis

@avazula It sounded more like a rant than really rude but, in any case, it as nothing to do here

CaldeiraG

@IntrovertedMetaMan Actually interested to know this so badly XD

because in order to find a question that I can back-it-up is not that easy

Ælis

@CaldeiraG My answer is "this is not valid", but I have nothing to backup that claim :p (to be more precise, I don't care enought to try to elaborate more on why the answer isn't valid)

CaldeiraG

10:09

In all honesty, I think the answer is valid and the lego analogy makes it kinda backed up

Ælis

Yeah, but it doesn't sound back up enough for me and I'm afraid allowing it would setup a bad precedent :/

CaldeiraG

I think it's a quality answer but maybe needs further attention to "why would this work"

Not every answer is perfect :p

Ælis

@CaldeiraG Agree with that

ankiiiiiii

10:34

@CaldeiraG hahaha, pardon

are you mistaken about getting big so easily?

@avazula Do yOu dO tHe Dreaaadddfulll DEADlifts? \s

I want so badly to get back to the gym but I am again as I was when I first did it. Shy about it, prioritising other things over it etc.

Ælis

I am currently working with Katalan. This tool is sooo stupid, it drives me crazy >< AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!

Jasper van Looij

@Ælis LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOL

Ælis

@JaspervanLooij Don't laught when I'm miserable :'(

jk

Jasper van Looij

10:50

@Ælis Oh, I am sorry. I just thought your AAAH was meant to be funny. I hope you solve the problem soon!

Hello @CaldeiraG is that you in the picture? Hmm I think you look like Cristiano Ronaldo!

CaldeiraG

@ankiiiiiii not at all, i've been on my gym for almost 2 years and I didn't change much :p

Yeah, it is me xD.

Really? Nobody said me this ahah

Looking closely, I might have some common traces

ankiiiiiii

11:07

whoa!
anyone doing nSuns?

@Ælis simple, cross platform and robust. Hmmm quite correct \s

CaldeiraG

I took 15min to build this nice table superuser.com/questions/1474445/…

i was bored

Nog Shine

11:23

@CaldeiraG Congratulations for editing privileges on Super User!

ankiiiiiii

@CaldeiraG should have used alt select over the text field.

exam now,
later!

Rainbacon

11:46

@avazula oh fun. On an unrelated note, has anyone ever told you that your cat is Fedorable?

CaldeiraG

12:09

@NogShine Thanks :)

@ankiiiiiii Not sure if I understood :p, later

Extroverted Main Man

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Q: A inquiry about feelings and possessiveness

In context, I have been talking to this person for the past three months approx in a 'more than friends' way (we have known each other from a couple of years ago but we haven't seen in a while). and we kinda agreed that upon meeting (in a couple of days now) we would be FWB and nothing more. I ho...

friends online-relationships

Ælis

If anyone has nothing to do, here is a post who needs answering:

-1

A: Is this answer valid?

I'm the guy who gave that answer referenced by OP. I'm pretty new to the "Interpersonal Skills" site, but would like to respectfully ask some questions about the citations requirement. I can totally understand the need for citations on a hard science site. "I feel like..." would not be the s...

avazula

12:49

@ankiiiiiii what's that? When people yell because it's too heavy for them to be able to handle it?

@Rainbacon blushes no, but thanks :D Fedora's the sweetest

@Ælis I have a history with this user and this I'm the asker, I may not be the best person to answer it :)

ankiiiiiii

@CaldeiraG oh on the site, it doesn't work, in some editors, alt and selecting text selects a rectangle. like this coderwall.com/p/bo5nnq/xcode-tip-use-alt-key-for-selecting-code

@avazula people attribute deadlifts to back pains. So If you do so, you might be welcoming back pains than shooing them away. \s

Ælis

@avazula It feels like they aren't answering your question, though. More like they are asking something new that has already been discussed many times. In any case, I understand that you don't want to answer.

ankiiiiiii

Are you answering why your answer in concern is valid or questioning the policy while using "what-about-those-answers" method? Also, since you are attentive to votes, DVs on meta mean different, so please don't bother yourself about these 2 as of now. Since this couldn't be a long comment, as an answer, it feels fine to me. — ankiiiiiii 3 mins ago

bingo @Ælis

am I rude there? time is there to edit it.

Ælis

13:05

@ankiiiiiii It's a bit confrontational but I wouldn't say rude

Alright, I posted a load of comment under James' post ^^

CaldeiraG

@ankiiiiiii Oh i can see now :)

ankiiiiiii

@Ælis our* backup policies ^^'

rest all is great. I should have suggested asking another Q

Ælis

@ankiiiiiii Too late :( I always mismatch "your" and "our" ><

ankiiiiiii

what is it in French?

also, can mods edit comments?

ElizB

good morning :)

ankiiiiiii

13:18

evening statistician ;)

Ælis

@ankiiiiiii It's "votre" ("your") et "notre" ("our")

@ElizB Hello there :)

@ankiiiiiii They can indeed :)

ElizB

i actually have chill time this morning before going out on things to do

it feels awesome

scohe001

14:11

@Ælis I'm going to give the whole thing a read-through in a minute. I'll pitch in if I have a strong opinion one way or the other

Ælis

@scohe001 I think the comments who were given so far are good, but I still don't see any good answer to @ava question, so if you want to do that?

Extroverted Main Man

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Q: How to gently end involvement with an online community?

Since 2011 I'm member of an online community for Animal Crossign players. Sadly many things are changing in gaming world and many of these changes combined with new interests which I have found in the last years are making the majority of gaming communities no longer appealing for me and for this...

friends online-interaction friend-groups

scohe001

Yea that's what I was thinking

@ExtrovertedMainMan This also looks like a good question hidden behind several run-on sentences. It could use a good edit to remove some fluff

scohe001

14:26

There ya go @Ælis. I pitched in with my 2¢

Ælis

@scohe001 I like it, thanks!

scohe001

14:49

@Ælis do you have a link where I can read more on this? I don't remember that becoming part of our policy

Ælis

15:08

@scohe001 Note really aside for this faq about good answer and this faq post about citation expectation. You will notice that both say that personal experience (or external source) is required and none that explaining the thought process is enough. For a more "historical" insight, I have this but it doesn't say much

scohe001

Hmm I may write up a meta about this if I have time today. Thanks for taking the time to find those links!

Ælis

It's not much, but you're welcome ^^

Introverted Meta Man

19:23

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Q: Clarification on Subjective Answer Backup Requirements

We've now been formally enforcing "backup" for almost a year and a half (and discussing it for at least 2yrs). We've had some well written and well thought out answers on what's expected. However, one thing is still unclear to me... It's my understanding that the whole reason for having a "backu...

discussion answers policy

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Q: Can we ad and re-tag old meta q's with [back-up]?

The "backup," "back-up," or "back it up" policy has become a staple of our site. In addition, we've seen a lot of questions concerning it on our meta. That being said, there's no easy way to see discussion about this policy, as we have no tag for it and the policy tag isn't on all of them. I su...

discussion tags back-up

Extroverted Main Man

0

Q: Would a letter be an appropriate way to inform my family of my child's new gender identity?

As an extension to this question, my daughter was very relieved when I offered to talk to my family for her. My husband thought of having a brunch with our kids not in attendance. I thought of doing an online meeting (Zoom etc.). Now I've come around to the idea of simply sending out letters. T...

family lgbt+

ankiiiiiii

20:05

meta.stackexchange.com/questions/251575/… I could find only one Q about a user inserting a malicious link in their post. How are such cases filtered on a system level? Should I ask a new Q?

the point is the blind trust people show here while clicking on links which link to say images or code-bins. Should I be checking status bar for the same for dozens of links I click in a day?

Hi @Rainbacon!

Rainbacon

Hi!

Em C

20:22

@ankiiiiiii I believe the Charcoal project has a big list of known bad URLs that it'll auto-flag

at least for new posts? I don't know if anything is set up to catch URLs that are edited into a post later

ElizB

back home after driving around feeling like a taxi driver for my siblings haha

scohe001

21:23

@Ava I'm not sure I understand your comment here (I'm suggesting a meta-tag, not a main one, just to clarify)

Boo too late for me to delete this

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