@Tinkeringbell Pff, lucky you! Today is "solidarity day" in France and so the day is not off for me (but half of France do still take some vacation on this day)
@Ælis Google translates calls today 'Whit Monday' and it's a day when a lot of people have a day off... Though most stores, restaurants, and other forms of entertainment are still open (shorter than usual, but open)
@Tinkeringbell Well, it is 'Whit Monday' here too (and it uses to be a day off for everyone), but now it is also "solidarity day" so the day off isn't off anymore and to make things easier to understand, we are more or less working for free today... (more money goes to the government to "pay the retirement" and less goes to us)
How does the French retirement system work? Ours works in a way that what I pay now is used to pay the people that are already retired... and with all the talk about reforming the system I might never see anything of that money again :/
(but the govnerment always say "we don't have enought money" while, in the same time they are removing taxes for rich people and adding taxes for the poor one...)
Monday morning you don't have too many people around, which is good, because I don't like going to the beach with people around :P There were a bit more than I'd've liked, but still fun
@Tinkeringbell Well, we're gonna get Caucus and Constituent badges. ;)
@Ælis You can nominate yourself any time during nomination period. As Tink said, it really won't affect votes you might receive. ;) (However, don't forget to put answers to your questionnaire as soon as you nominate yourself.)
@AJ You wouldn't have a link by any chance? (even if it's far less interesting to read nomination from people you don't know compare to people you already know and appreciate)
I just wanted to share with you all that I feel incredibly good today. That I have gained a lot of self-confidence during the last 9 months and it's partially because of you and this amazing site. So thank you, you are all wonderful <3
I'm a 25 years old male living in France. Last year I dated a 30 years old female in the US, and kept things really casual (I knew she wanted to be more than dating but it was not reciprocal). Now she is in Europe and wants to come visit me in France for few days. I said sure, because I would li...
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@IntrovertedMetaMan "your job is simple - post an answer to this question, citing each of the questions and then post your answer to each question given in that same answer." -> The job might, but this sentence definitively isn't! :p
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@IntrovertedMetaMan I already started to answer some of the questions, I definitively want to answer all of them right now but I'm also have to work ><
@ava IME, people don't "get" being pan. they tend to see it as just being bi, and people also think that choosing a person is choosing a "side". *eyeroll*
I work in start-up IT company and we are introducing new a technology which i am responsible for. I am technically very good in this technology and do my work very seriously but i am an introvert and reserved person and dont talk much. Its been 8 months and we are still finding some business usec...
Fun story, I just learned that the only test user for the dev/staging environments of one of our systems (and soon to be a second system that I'm in the process of deploying for the first time) has multi-factor authentication that is linked to one of the product owners' phones. So the second he goes on vacation, nobody on the team will be able to work in the lower environments for those systems.
On several of the sites I frequent, we occasionally get questions posted by people who are facing difficult situations, consisting mainly of them expressing how upset they are. In many cases, the post may not include a question at all, or it may be an afterthought ("...what should I do?"), or be...
@M.A.R.ಠ_ಠ @Tinkeringbell I don't know how to react to this sentence "offer some fake support". I'm silently laughing and feeling guilty at the same time ^^
@M.A.R.ಠ_ಠ Even on meta, things like 'Sorry to hear your experience on this site has been so frustrating, but this question isn't very constructive the way it is. What do you want to discuss/change/request? Hopefully we can turn this into something useful' can work ;)
@Tinkeringbell Agree here too. I guess I would reserve the "this is a rant come back when you have something useful to say" to people that keep and keep ranting and with whom the nice technic didn't work
Calling something a rant is never the best option, but sometimes it's very useful to avoid some shouting at the screen by dismissing a misguided effort at discussion quickly.
> Roles that have been identified as requiring emotional labor include those involved in public administration, espionage, law, caring for children, medical care, social work; most roles in a hospitality and food service; and jobs in the media.
Espionage? That makes sense.
Popeye ate some espionage and he got super powerful.
@El'endiaStarman :) beware though, I've seen it get misused a lot to mean, like, "I helped someone deal with their feelings" - it's really meant to be about when your job relies on you emoting in a particular way
@EmC Ooh, I like that term. My company has a specific expectation around regulating our emotions in interactions with co-workers and clients that we get evaluated on during the review process
@El'endiaStarman It can be. Especially if you follow me.
...the most recent thing I did on Twitter is have a meme battle in the DMs with an online friend that I had lost contact with and recently got back in touch with, though, so the platform does occasionally have its uses.
speaking of pet peeves, all these bug reports I am looking at that are basically: "Steps to reproduce: 1. opened app 2. did other things for a bit 3. your app is now broke"
@EmC I just realize that you put nine questions on this mod election post. That confused me when I was counting the number of question I already answered and the number of questions I still have to answer (I was expecting 10, then 8 but not 9!) :p
I've had a tumblr for a while, I like how they make it easy to set up topical side-blogs. doesn't really work that well with twitter afaict though, if anything people just seem to have public / private accounts
@Mithrandir That's how I understand it too. Funny is that most people can't seem to tell you what they look for in a person whereas they have strong opinions about the gender that this person should be. I never quite understood that, even though I respect people who feel that way
@avazula I can imagine, it can be very hard to be real about something so personal, especially when you are so used to those around you either not understanding, or actively deriding you for it.
@avazula from talking with friends, it feels like most relationships start because of physical attraction (or at least that sparks enough interest for the two to get to know each other). If I had full control over my libido I'd choose to be pan if I could. I feel like it would encourage more looking before leaping :p
@Rainbacon it was more like a fear for people to be offended, I didn't want them to believe that I feel they're being picky
@scohe001 that's an interesting point. I believe that genitalia interest is conditioned by the way we were raised (you're told it's normal to be attracted by the opposite sex, maybe if you're lucky, that it's also normal to be attracted by same-sex people, but most parents don't talk about bi, panssexuality and many of the other types that exist.
@avazula Prove that correlation doesn't imply causation, or that I didn't drop the world, or that I used to be like that when I was starting out, or that Mith is wrong all the time, or that I enjoy big fake hamburgers in commercials?
@Tinkeringbell what I meant is that we're often being told that you may either be gay or straight but that the other possibilities around exist too yet are not discussed a lot
@avazula I think there's definitely a lack of discussion of most forms of sexuality when growing up. Growing up I was taught that there was straight and gay and nothing else.
@avazula I think that this goes hand in hand with our emotional language. I can't remember exactly what it said, but there was a study I was reading about awhile ago that was discussing the impact of the words we use to describe emotion on the emotions themselves. If we don't know a word for a specific shade of emotion, it makes it difficult for us to remember feeling it. I wonder if knowing the concepts of different sexual preferences functions similarly
@Tinkeringbell oof yea I feel exactly the same about how I was brought up. It's crazy to think about what kind of person I might've become if I'd been raised in some of my friends' households
@scohe001 It's quite interesting to think about the effect that environment can have. My fiancee often tells me about how she thinks she would have turned out to be a very different person if her parents hadn't made her start going to church as a child
@Rainbacon yea that's a big one I've heard from my friends. It's a big winding rabbit hole to get lost in--thinking about your alternate lives if you'd been brought up differently. I never know what to say when people begin to "blame their parents"
@M.A.R.ಠ_ಠ I thought for sure you were going Tarzan or Mowgli with this. Is this an actual thing that happens?
I'd guess something about having a foundation for language at all. Like at least you'll have a concept of structure and verbs/adjectives/nouns etc...not to mention the emotional language stuff I brought up earlier. Plus you already know how to make the correct sounds...
Nah, it's just that it's 10PM over here already, I have chores to finish and sleep to catch (mister Ava is sick and I don't sleep much with all this snoring haha)
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Unrelated to the above, I noticed that both of the nominees so far consider improving the experience for new users to be one of the most important ways IPS needs to improve, which is interesting.