I know an elderly guy through a volunteering program that helps charities. He seems rather kind but I don’t talk to him often.
I know when he was younger, he served on the American forces and helped fight the Second World War. Though, he doesn’t really bring it up much beyond that.
Given some ...
For reference, I am a 17 y/o male in my Junior year of HS. So there's a kid in my class, not sure the age but I know he's a Junior (looks like a Freshman though), let's call him Andrew. Andrew usually never talks, and tends to listen in on others conversations, then laugh while looking in their...
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I went on a short walk after getting home from work today and there was a small dog left unattended on a grassy area. The dog started barking at me and ran up to me. I stomped my foot to scare the dog away as I was unsure of the dog's intentions.
The dog's owner came running out and ...
Hello people, any trick to avoid thinking in loop about the same thing that depress you? I'm tring to think about other stuff but it always bring me back where I started (with the not nice thought)
@Ælis Talk about it with someone, take time to think about it as long as you need to process the whole thing, or find something to do that requires a lot of your attention as well and focus on that.
@avazula No, I just said that it still doesn't work. But the issue seem to be with my specific device so I move the ticket to "to be dealt with later". Still, I don't like how I always assume that I'm wrong (and stupid)...
:49479253 Hi you :) well, what's tricky in that is that when we say "tp" or "fp", we mean that we want to keep or delete the comment, regardless of the regex with which it was closed.
Yeah, I always thought of it as 'this is the kind of stuff that needs flagging and deleting' = true positive vs. 'this is a legitimate comment' = false positive. More as a way to see what kind of stuff should be posted in here for attention and what should be left out.
@Philbo Okay. I'd say it's not necessary to dredge up dead cows from the ditch then... In response to your point on meta I can only say that I feel this is more a case of a single incident and not a symptomatic thing?
I mean, there hasn't been any activity like that from that user since then.
Nor have I seen any flags on other users doing stuff like this... so I don't really have any paper trail that says this is systematic and constantly happening :/
@Tinkeringbell Fair enough, tbh I only brought it up then because I read through the Meta about going back on HNQ, which meant reading the older linked meta posts and one was mentioned by Upper_Case about "other problems". Obviously as well, you won't have this happen more often until you go back on HNQ. It's maybe something to watch for. New and more casual users like myself aren't going to have the experience you guys have, we will probably wind you up at times by accident
@Philbo I see the comment exchange you're talking about in The Closet and I remember taking the other user's side on this one when it happened. I agree the comment that user made in chat was unwarranted, but I don't think there was anything inherently wrong in the comments
I think that I speak for everyone in this room when I say that we want more users. More users = more content = more fake internet points for all of us. We're trying to have discussions about ways we can be better. If you have ideas about how we can do that, please feel free to join the discussions here and here or even write a new meta question if you have another topic
@Philbo Well, if you see anything like that happen again, I have one word of advice: Please just silently raise a moderator flag. That way, we also have a paper trail, and we can more easily see problematic behaviour :)
That awkward moment when you go to wipe some smudge off your screen, forgetting that it's a touch screen, and start rifling through your browser's back button
@scohe001 Yeah I can't recall too much about it, but I remember reflecting that I was in the wrong. I think I was being insensitive. It was how I was called out in chat that surprised me. No worries though. I just make sure to avoid getting involved in any answer that they've arrived at first.
@Philbo from the transcript it looks like they were responding pretty level-headedly while you were starting to get snarky. The message here in chat was probably them letting off some steam where they thought you couldn't see it since they were trying to keep things cordial in the comments. I can give you a link to read it if you'd like
@scohe001 Sure. I'm happy to reflect again. Again it was also the suggestion that I was chasing them around the site to downvote and argue with them, where as far as I could tell, I'd given just as many upvotes (as I don't usually look at the user when I read an answer). Nowadays, I always make sure to check who has written the post before I comment.
my parents are forcing me to do bs in computer science while I want to do bs in management. but they are saying that computer science scope is more than management.
@Rainbacon Sometimes when it can easily be rephrased to avoid being closed I prefer to directly edit and warn them so they can express their disagreement and we can find something together
That seems like a good path. I really should be thinking more in that vein. I've been trying to go badge hunting, and strunk & white is next on my list
That's good. I've seen some pretty awful ones. Had one client where a DBA had managed to climb his way to application architect and was forcing everyone to put all business logic into SQL stored procedures
One of my stories on that project involved editing a sql query that was computing flags that the UI used to show and hide certain elements
@TheTinyMan Sorry to scare you so early, but at least I didn't do it right before you went to bed and give you nightmares about performing file I/O in a sql statement
@Rainbacon I've worked at places that were almost that bad ... but they were trying to get the presentation logic OUT of the database, not put it INto it. O . O
@TheTinyMan We had a little extra time on that project, so we built a small application to edit some app config that previously needed to be edited via data update scripts. Instead of thanking us for giving more than they'd paid for, he complained because our application used an ORM
Auto-adjusting sound is weird. My laptop mutes my sound when I've got it connected to the monitor at my desk (unless I connect my headphones), and it unmutes when I'm not connected (because that usually means I'm in a conference room on skype). The weird thing is, if I lock my screen, it "disconnects" from the monitor and turns the sound back on. So when I come back to my desk and wake my computer it beeps really loudly at me
@Anilla It's probably a good sign, I know an old person who fought in the French-Algeria war and he never even mentioned it because he is too ashame of what we did back there.
@Ælis My foster father was a child during the Algerian independence war. He had to set up bombs and stab his brother's attackers. We talked about it twice in his life. He burst into tears both times.
I learned that he was a soldier in this war because his wife was complaining that he didn't want to tell the "tax manager" that he was an ex-soldier (which would have given him less tax). He didn't wanted any money for what he did back then
@avazula :/ War is ugly and the Algerian one was a very ugly one...
Let's say that I have an answer to a question. There's another answer that gives the same advice that I would give, but has no backup. The main difference between my potential answer and an existing one is that I have personal experience to draw on, is it worth posting a new answer? The existing answer already has a comment asking for backup
@avazula Are you following the Brexit news? I can't believe that it will definitively happen very soon and they still have no deal. The UK leaving the EU still feel so weird to me.
@avazula I enjoy reading the Brexit news. It pleases me to see in how much trouble they put themselves :p
@avazula There is a lot of different things can do here and I have honestly no idea which one would be best. I think I'm missing too much data and certainty to have a clear mind on the question
@Ælis well, what strikes me most is that we always say: "we're getting tougher and more unfair work rules because of Europe", "we have lots of dangerous immigrants because of Europe", "we keep using Roundup because of Europe", but ... The people who decide of this "in the name of Europe" are political people from countries constituting Europe, so ... whose fault is it really? I feel it's kinda easy to blame a big, impersonal thing for our potential issues
But maybe I'm wrong and maybe there's an independent counsel deciding of the directives and guidelines for Europe...
@avazula True and not true, most English people wanted the Brexit (but not the bad consequence they didn't see coming because politicians were lying to them). I guess I don't mind Brexit news so much because the bad consequences are also for people who voted Brexit. (If we look at Trump on the other hand, the bad consequence are more for people who didn't voted for him)
@Ælis I may not be the most legit person to talk about this but wasn't this vote biased? Take a look at the referendum we got for deciding whether we wanted that new airport in France. 55% of people voted yes. Their main reason? "it'll create jobs" <- which was a major point used by the people in favor of the airport. But the reports were crystal clear: no jobs would be created in the long run, it'd only be about transposing jobs from the older airport.
@avazula True that. Also, we have similar bad things happening just "because of France" ( "we're getting tougher and more unfair work rules", ""we keep using badProductXXX", etc..). So saying we will be better without Europe is a bit hypocrite.
Brexit is kinda the same, they told people Europe made the pound rate collapse, but what they didn't say was that it's too late to leave the European Union without drastic consequences on the British economy
@Ælis I think that's what is unfair towards the people. You find a scapegoat to blame to reach your goals but voluntarily hide the fact that for most people it won't get better by voting that way, it's even gonna get worse. That's dishonest.
@avazula Politicians lied and now they are paying the price (because Brexit is also bad for them). I know I'm completely forgetting people that did nothing wrong and are also paying the price for that. I know this is unfair for them. But I can't help to be pleased when I look at the people (politicians) who played with the fire and burn themselves.
@Ælis I understand your POV but I'm really sad for the people who did nothing to get into this. This is exactly what we're facing rn in France with the ISI, which made donations to charities drop from 53% in just a year, or our dear president who dares to call the yellow jackets "terrorists and enemies of the country". Seriously?
Marked this comment as caught correctly (tp). Currently marked 2tps/0fps. beep boop My human overlords won't let me flag that, so you'll have to do it yourself.
@avazula I think I will be sad the day I see the consequences for them (and my brain know they will be. But my heart doesn't yet). For now I'm just fascinated by this mess. It's like watching an accident, you see it's happening and you can't stop watching because you want to know how bad it will get.
@avazula To me this is completely different because no rich, privileged person is suffering. Even less suffering for their own bad action
A friend of mine is finishing her last year of undergrad. Like many Americans, she attends a private university, and like with most Americans, it's very expensive. She took out around $100k in student loans to cover tuition and the bare minimum of required expenses, and works a part-time job to p...
when you having a party with your close friends and suddenly some of two friends argue with each other and getting hyper and divert attention of all other people to them and even don't listen to anybody else and ruin all over the party and destroy the whole environment. All other friends also str...
For real though, bettering yourself and your life is almost never easy. Good on you for taking this big step. It may be rough now, but future Anilla will be happy you did this!!
@Anilla this x1000. Also I've heard tubs of ice cream help :P
@scohe001 Very true! Although it hurt really bad, it's so empowering to be like "wow, I actually managed to overcome an emotional situation I felt I was locked in". Ice cream sounds good too :) chocolate is my favorite!
You know... this is why I just totally stay out of relationships ;) Sorry to hear this Anilla, and I vote ice cream and friend too. Perhaps add some baileys to the ice cream as well?
@Tinkeringbell Oh damn, that sounds good XD. See, since I want kids in the future I'm trying to find someone I can stay committed to haha. Otherwise I probably wouldn't mind doing without so much
I can't take baths unless I'm in an unusually large tub, and I don't currently own such a thing. :-( I'm too tall AND too broad to comfortably lay in a normal-sized one. But one of these days, I'm gonna sneak into my dad's house and steal his. :-D
@Anilla Yep :-) Apparently most people can't see over standard shower doors? I put my cell phone on top of my shower door track and turn on Netflix when I'm in the shower sometimes. :-P And I had a partner once who came to use the bathroom while I was showering and just started cracking up when she noticed that my head was poking over my shower rail.
@Mithrandir Oh, yeah, I forgot that dimension, too
I know an elderly guy through a volunteering program that helps charities. He seems rather kind but I don’t talk to him often.
I know when he was younger, he served on the American forces and helped fight the Second World War. Though, he doesn’t really bring it up much beyond that.
Given some ...
For reference, I am a 17 y/o male in my Junior year of HS. So there's a kid in my class, not sure the age but I know he's a Junior (looks like a Freshman though), let's call him Andrew. Andrew usually never talks, and tends to listen in on others conversations, then laugh while looking in their...
Back story
I went on a short walk after getting home from work today and there was a small dog left unattended on a grassy area. The dog started barking at me and ran up to me. I stomped my foot to scare the dog away as I was unsure of the dog's intentions.
The dog's owner came running out and ...
my parents are forcing me to do bs in computer science while I want to do bs in management. but they are saying that computer science scope is more than management.
