The Awkward Silence

user15026

00:25

@ElizB home now, it went well - put my foot down a bit, and we all had a decent time. It helped that my 9 month old nephew charmed the heck out of all of us

ElizB

@Ash Good! I think that counted, doing that in front of others.

I'm glad you had a good time. Babies always charm everyone....

user15026

They do!

ElizB

i have a new neice, my sister gave birth to a girl, named her Juliet Dynai M. She is so fricking adorable. just about almost 3 months old, september 11th. born June 11

Supposed to be born on my birthday

just a few days before the 11th

@ash i loved holding my new niece and just watching her attempt to control her body, so funny. she has loads and loads of dark hair just like her mom did when she was born

Journeyman Geek

01:29

\o/

Yay for small humans

A J

01:39

@ElizB Say congratulations to her. :)

user15026

@ElizB watching babies try to figure out the world is quite fun.

ElizB

01:57

@AJ Thanks, i wish she was closer. I live in NY and she lives in Michigan. Quite a distance apart. Her lifestyle choice isn't the easiest either. Her boyfriend/fiance (don't quite know for sure) works on a farm out there, and it's financially hard for her

@Ash oh yes. their eyes darting everywhere and staring at you, and figuring out how to make sounds are funny

Juliet is just about successful in laughing and cooing so far, and she's got the crying down pat of course

SmokeDetector

05:51

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Magisch

06:17

morning

Tinkeringbell

06:32

Morning!

Magisch

20 minutes late to the office and sick

great start into monday morning

Tinkeringbell

:(

I'm on my last 'slow' day for a while.

Can't wait till the next sprint starts tomorrow.

@ElizB Probably, it looks pretty straightforward.

allaboutami.com/jijiblackcat here's the tutorial ;)

Jasper Loy

06:51

Hiii, it is nice to have a cactus and a parrot in this room.

Tinkeringbell

Ehhh,,, and a clear blue sky? :P

JAD

don't forget some space nebulae

Magisch

07:18

@JourneymanGeek You can threaten to elope when it comes to that

Respond to social pressure with ... social pressure :p

This entire process sounds so unusual to a westener

Here you'd just go on dates with people you think you might like until you find someone

Journeyman Geek

@Magisch lol. I can't think of anyone I can threaten to do that with lol

I basically told them I'd die alone at this rate lol

Mom's upset but I don't really see her making any more of an effort lol

Magisch

I don't know. The whole thing sounds unusual. You're like 30 now right?

At this point your parents would be well out of the picture

You could make a credible threat. The more they delay and harangue you, the less likely they'll ever have grandchildren

Journeyman Geek

heh, in a sense I'm 'stuck' taking care of them

Its very hard to move out as a single person in singapore

Magisch

I cherish living alone tbh

Tinkeringbell

I kinda like living at home. Mealtimes are so much more fun

But I'll be glad if I can move out and no longer have two brothers to clean up after

Magisch

07:25

I was cleaning less when I still lived with my parents then I am now

But it feels easier now because it's on my terms and my routine (eg. every Saturday I mop and vacuum the floor, do the laundry and clean the kitchen/bath), so now it feels like no effort at all.

Tinkeringbell

Yeah. I don't mind cleaning all that, but I do get mad if it takes longer than usual because someone else has made a mess

E.g. we use to dry off the faucet in the shower after showering, or the drying water will leave marks. If people (brothers!) don't do that, I'll be spending more time cleaning that stuff on Saturdays :(

Magisch

@Tinkeringbell I don't do that either. Instead I'll soak-deep clean the shower once every couple of months

White water marks don't bother me at all

Tinkeringbell

@Magisch Yeah well, stuff isn't 'clean' with those marks. :)

And I'm not living with just my brothers, but also parents and my mom wants those marks gone :(

Ah well... Just a little while longer and I'll be gone.

Magisch

@Tinkeringbell Thats another thing I like about living alone. I can have my own standard of cleanliness

Tinkeringbell

True. I loved that too, although mine was about the same as moms, so I don't need to move out just so I can go live like a pig :P

Magisch

07:34

You would probably dislike my apartment on fridays

I only vacuum once a week

Tinkeringbell

I did that too, but I had one of those things to swipe the floor with, I did that daily

I hate having crumbs of whatever stuck underneath my socks.

Magisch

at least without kids you'll never have the unenviable "small children disrupting any attempt to maintain a clean space" thing

Tinkeringbell

True. That'll make life a lot easier :)

Extroverted Main Man

11:31

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Q: How to explain a friend I don't feel comfortable with him stop talking to me due jealous friends?

Background I have a friend for almost three years now, we are both 24 y.o, we have been always so close and even if we live far away from each other (+9000km) we have been talking every single day since we part ways. I have been to his country (in South America) to visit him in 2017 and he has ...

Belle-Sophie

11:46

Hey all. I got a bit of an account issue. Does anyone know where to go to resolve that?

Tinkeringbell

@Belle-Sophie Usually, that's a contact us thing (bottom of the page) or if you think it's a bug, you could search/ask on main meta: meta.stackexchange.com

Depends on what the issue is about?

Belle-Sophie

I tried making a separate account on WP to ask a sensitive question for hubby that could potentially get him fired if not sued if the company finds out it is him that asked the question. But it seems that it just split my logins or something, so my WP account now has a separate login, but still has my old questions on, while I wanted a completely new account.

Magisch

@Belle-Sophie Incognito Mode, different e-mail address

Belle-Sophie

@Magisch Did that, but made the mistake to click the email confirmation on phone

:(

Magisch

rip

If you're just worried for posterity, you can ask the question as normal and then request deassociation from your account.

Belle-Sophie

11:53

I'll try that :) it may cause issues only if they start digging into my account.

ElizB

@Tinkeringbell ooh, thanks! If I manage to get my hands on some yarn and felt, that would be pretty cool.

Extroverted Main Man

12:19

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Q: My roomate is making me pay too much for rent. How should I confront him?

I just moved to a new city for my master studies. I met a man via a social website who is already living here and he offered to rent me his two room appartment for a year while he was studying abroad, then there would be a possibility to extent my stay until the end of my studies but we would sha...

money roommates negotiation

Belle-Sophie

12:36

I'm almost done with a knitting project that's been taking me... long. Don't even remember for sure when I started.

Magisch

Do knot lose your patience now then

Belle-Sophie

I'll try knot to, thanks

Magisch

I yarn for bad puns this time of day

Belle-Sophie

You're butter, because you're on a roll

According to my Ravelry account, I started May 29, 2017.

JAD

12:57

must have been a really long-winded project then

Belle-Sophie

@JAD I'm on 800 meters at the moment

Tinkeringbell

13:28

@Belle-Sophie Just 800? :P

Belle-Sophie

@Tinkeringbell In lace. Both pattern and weight.

Tinkeringbell

@Belle-Sophie Okay, that's more impressive :)

Belle-Sophie

My main WP account is missing now...

Managed to ask my question using an alternative account now. You should be able to find it if you want to have a read.

Looks like JAD found it :P

TheTinyMan

13:44

Good morning, world! :-)

Belle-Sophie

Good morning!

Tinkeringbell

@TheTinyMan Hey you :)

TheTinyMan

How are you guys? :-)

Tinkeringbell

Okay-ish :)

Slow day at work, and I drove my mom somewhere but she drove back, so I think my driving is still a bit sub-par

TheTinyMan

@Tinkeringbell Driving-wise, practice makes perfect, as they say! Good on ya for getting out and doing it at all though!

Also, parents are never happy with their kids' driving.

Heck, I'm not happy with most of my friends' driving, and they're not happy with mine, either. :-p

Tinkeringbell

13:49

Hahaha I guess so ;)

I did get a new box for my crochet supplies though, some ribbons, and some other loose ends ;)

Now I need the time to use all of it :)

TheTinyMan

@Tinkeringbell That's always the kicker, huh? Got a project you're currently working on?

Tinkeringbell

Sewing in ends :(

TheTinyMan

Eh? Are you making a yarn ball?

Tinkeringbell

@TheTinyMan Hehehe. I may or may not use those loose ends somehow.

JAD

@TheTinyMan uh, my mom used me as taxi

Tinkeringbell

13:54

Right now though, I'm just weaving in, and then cutting off, all ends

TheTinyMan

@JAD Shush, I'm making a point and trying to make her feel better! :-P

Belle-Sophie

Weaving in ends is the worst

Woo, downvotes. Love them.

Maybe it's the employer who gets it's about them :P

The company from my question tried to get me to work for them in an office position. Nope, no way, not with how they treat their warehouse employees. The friend from the question has no choice and is accepting the job. He loses his unemployment benefits if he doesn't.

JAD

14:12

@Belle-Sophie you expect them to frequent TWP looking for accusatory questions?

Tinkeringbell

I'd like to remind you that there's people that frequent both TWP and IPS ;) And the chatroom nor the transcript are really private :)

Belle-Sophie

@JAD It was a joke. But they have enough developers who frequent SE.

I know :) thanks Tink. I'm taking care not to link the question here.

Extroverted Main Man

15:15

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Q: How to politely tell someone the post they shared is wrong/dangerous/bad advice?

There are many posts on social media that are a load of rubbish and just plain factually incorrect. They often end in “if you don’t share a fairy will die” or some such nonsense having bad luck. I usually just ignore them because it’s not worth the effort of entering a discussion with the person ...

conflict-aversion politeness social-media

Tinkeringbell

16:07

@Mith feedback is bogus again...

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apaul

17:28

Umm... Someone may need to tweak the comment bot

Tinkeringbell

@apaul Seems to have gone of on : - q: ^.*respond((?!(meta|\?)).)*$

I don't have enough knowledge to tweak that, though.

@IPSCommentBot fp

(and feedback still seems broken)

Extroverted Main Man

20:19

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Q: How to tell a new guy I misunderstood my open relationship rules

I know there are a lot of "how to tell a guy I am not interested" posts but this is slightly different due to: I am interested I want to keep going to the cafe he works at I am in an open relationship Background: My boyfriend and I (we are both guys) decided to be in an open relationship la...

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NotThatGuy

21:14

Someone hasn't replied to my last message on a dating site for a few days (gasp! What a rare occurrence!). I wonder if it would make sense to apologise for the possibly inappropriate joke I made, or whether there's something else to say that's more likely to be successful.

Extroverted Main Man

0

Q: Neighbor is responsible for additional costs to construction of our house; how to convince them to pay?

Situation My girlfriend and I are in the process of building a house to start a family. We have hired a contractor that will arrange everything from start to finish to deliver a habitable house. The lot we are building our house on is meant for two semi-detached homes. Our neighbors finished bu...

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Jalapeno Nachos

@NotThatGuy maybe not assume too much

they might just be busy

go with your gut though, if apologizing makes you feel better then it's up to you :)

personally, I've apologized for things in the past, due to some silence in between (a few days), and when the person responded, they were surprised that I even apologized, because they were simply just busy

NotThatGuy

Maybe, but so far they've always replied within a day and it's been 10 days now, so it seems pretty likely that a reply won't be come. I guess that may just not have seen the message or not be replying for a different reason, but, if it was the joke, apologising seems like the most likely to work

Extroverted Main Man

21:39

0

Q: How do I avoid academically 'shaming' a fellow student/friend?

At school, my friend (let's call him Ivan) is quite intelligent. He's in enrichment classes, gets A to A+ grades and is very conscientious. At the risk of sounding narcissistic, I am objectively one of the best performing students at my school/country (through national test results, etc.) and as...

conversations friends school high-school

Jalapeno Nachos

@NotThatGuy yeah

good luck - I hope it works out :)

NotThatGuy

I'm sort of indifferent at this stage. Talking to people is too much effort.

NotThatGuy

22:15

Oh, never mind, she just replied. Timing, am I right?

Jalapeno Nachos

yes!

woohoo good to know :)

NotThatGuy

Procrastination for the win!

Jalapeno Nachos

yeah :)

gonna get some cereal milk soft serve with cornflake crunchy topping - be back later!

NotThatGuy

>So you go and you stand on your own
And you leave on your own
And you go home and you cry
And you want to die

Cheerful song...

NotThatGuy

22:44

I think the lesson here is that doing nothing is the best way to solve your problems.

ElizB

@NotThatGuy sometimes the best way to solve your problems.

NotThatGuy

@ElizB Agree to disagree...

El'endia Starman

@NotThatGuy I will remember your great words of wisdom when my house is on fire.

ElizB

23:04

^^^ that.

NotThatGuy

A house is a lot of responsibility and effort. The fire will take care of that for you.

El'endia Starman

Oh man, that is a very good point.

ElizB

then people would become homeless at a much higher rate....

El'endia Starman

Following the principle of doing nothing, these homeless people then die and the rate of homelessness goes down!

ElizB

That's another really, really good point.

Em C

23:58

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ElizB

Thanks :) Comment bot's been a bit crazy

Em C

np :) lots of chattiness lately

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