@Rainbacon There's a meta about it, so I'd like to refer them to that... :) My go-to comment in such cases is something like ' <some short form of nicety>. Answers on this site are expected to [address Interpersonal Skills](meta-link). Right now, this reads more like a life-hack to me. If you think all Interpersonal approaches will fail, could you please explain why and how? Preferably, [such answers are backed up with experience](meta-link).
I didn't get a notification. I had 28 rep go missing over night. (I'm assuming that it's 3 upvotes and one downvote from a user that was deleted, though I couldn't be sure)
You can go to your answers, and at the bottom of the page you can see recently deleted answers... is there anything there? (I'm not sure if it only shows self-deleted stuff though)
The caveat is that you probably want to focus on the really obvious ones and the ones in here that others are likely flagging (since enough flags deletes it automatically), because the mods are overloaded.
^ I was typing that with more words. Also, rude/abusive is used for the comments that are rude or abusive, since if people post 3 or more of those (and have them deleted as such) they're automatically flagged for moderator attention
@Stacey Yes. And it posts only a subset of all the comments posted daily on IPS in here, those that match regexes like '+1'.
If you look on your profile there's a section called impact, that shows you some statistics about your impact on the site. One of them shows you how many helpful flags you have made.
You can click on that to see a breakdown of all the flags you have raised by type, and see the status of a particular flag, and whether it has been found to be helpful or not.
@Stacey, this is the general information from SE on comment voting and flagging: https://meta.stackexchange.com/questions/17364/how-does-comment-voting-and-flagging-work
And this is a meta I recently answered about the kinds of comments this site tends to get, and why they can be flagged: https://interpersonal.meta.stackexchange.com/a/2759/1599
@EmC Yeah, I was actually excited when I saw the question because I thought it could be a good example question. It seems unlikely to get salvaged by the OP since it was closed a month ago and never edited.
First off, I know that I cannot change others. I am not asking for that. I can only change myself, but how?
My family seems to have many of the qualities I don't enjoy. I will go through all of them specifically, and the environment it creates, and then the environment I would like to see.
My...
I've been emailing with a government department's employee who continually supplies wrong information. How do I tell his superior this decisively but tactfully, without making him look bad?
I can't simply quote the wrong information to hint to his mistakes without saying so, as this:
will be t...
@HDE226868 That's hard, because I don't know what a mod can or is willing to do...
@Ash I've been told a few times to just raise a custom moderator flag if I see repeated behavior that's detrimental to the site. Flag the behavior, not the person
@Tinkeringbell I can't find a duplicate to their most recent question, not even using their meta questions to point towards potentially deleted questions.
I wouldn't be surprised if this was them stuck in the same bureaucratic mire though.
Also . . . keep in mind that if a user has exhibited what you believe to be problematic behavior over a long period of time, we might be aware of it already. Inaction prior to a point doesn't equate with unawareness.
First off I would like to say that I am aware that the stack exchange site has an official policy on posts that are suicidal or seeking professional help but I feel this may be slightly different.
My question is what should we(especially lower rep users) do if we find a post where we suspect th...
I've a girlfriend, we've been together for more than 3 years but not in a continuous manner. On general terms, it's very nice to be with her, except for the fact that she sometimes gets too unstable in my opinion, not enough to want to run from her, but enough to have serious doubts about having ...
In the question Politely refusing to validate veiled bigotry, I asked (after, admittedly, having a somewhat lengthy discussion in the comments with the OP, which the mods duely deleted, and which I want to apololgize for) the OP for clarification about his question and suggested that he clear up ...
Many SEs are happy to leave chatty comments around provided there's not too many of them and then go and move all of them to chat/delete them all when they start getting out of hand. Is there really a need to moderate comments so much stricter here?
also many other SEs are pretty strict about chatty comments, answers in comments, and so on. It's funny, I've seen users on several sites (including one I moderate) say that all those sites are way stricter than normal, and I'm not sure how abnormal it actually is.
@Cascabel I was not complaining honestly, and I really just asked my meta question out of curiosity. But it seems like mods are overwhelmed by comment flags already, so I thought it might be practical or even necessary to have a laxer policy.
I'm mainly coming from Academia, and they have tons of comments everywhere.
@ArtOfCode Do you have a slightly longer version of that?
@sgf As a mod on this site, I'd rather people help us get rid of all of the unnecessary, chatty comments than leave them sitting around, and if that means I have to ask for more help, I'll ask (and have). This site has a comment problem and the solution isn't "ignore them". The solution is "find a way to reduce the number of comments posted in the first place".
@Catija But doesn't the odd chatty comment help establish a sense of belonging that will lead to more comitted users to help you? If you take out all the human interest from a site, and people feel like they can't express themselves at all besides asking and answering, won't they be much more likely to leave and never come back?
@Catija I'm not talking about that particular question. Sorry if I gave that impression. I'm very much in favor of sending whole discussions to chat or deleting them outright.
Most of the questions here do have "the odd" comment on them. We're not draconian and we don't have the time to police them all. When it gets out of hand or if the comments tend towards answers-in-comments, they get culled. Mods get auto-flags at 20 comments on a post. Sometimes, that's the first notice we get.
Yep. Good comments that cause the post to be edited get removed when they've served their purpose, otherwise they may signal to others that the post is still lacking some detail that's already in it.
@sgf If you want to be helpful, don't contribute to the problem by posting unnecessary comments, and remove your comments once they have served their purpose.
First off, I know that I cannot change others. I am not asking for that. I can only change myself, but how?
My family seems to have many of the qualities I don't enjoy. I will go through all of them specifically, and the environment it creates, and then the environment I would like to see.
My...
I've been emailing with a government department's employee who continually supplies wrong information. How do I tell his superior this decisively but tactfully, without making him look bad?
I can't simply quote the wrong information to hint to his mistakes without saying so, as this:
will be t...
First off I would like to say that I am aware that the stack exchange site has an official policy on posts that are suicidal or seeking professional help but I feel this may be slightly different.
My question is what should we(especially lower rep users) do if we find a post where we suspect th...
