The Awkward Silence

Anne Daunted

16:00

How do I tell someone to not sneeze in a public chatroom?

TheTinyMan

@AnneDaunted I'd jump straight to vulgarity probably

"**** YOU AND YOUR GO***MN INVOLUNTARY REACTIONS" is probably my go-to line :-)

Anne Daunted

Shall I try out if it works?

TheTinyMan

Totes!

Tinkeringbell

@AnneDaunted By passive-aggressively asking in the same room how to ask someone not to sneeze? :P

If they don't get the hint, they're not smart enough to be on a Q&A site :P

Anne Daunted

@Tinkeringbell +1 and answer accepted

@TheTinyMan You just want to see me get kicked

TheTinyMan

16:03

@AnneDaunted If only I could kick you myself... ;-)

Tinkeringbell

@AnneDaunted I could kick Tiny? They said it first :P

If he's making you feel uncomfortable, just let me know :)

TheTinyMan

@Tinkeringbell Ahhh, that's how to begin my day, a nice kick! :-P

Tinkeringbell

@TheTinyMan Most people call it a caffeine-boost though...

TheTinyMan

@Tinkeringbell That's true :-p

Anne Daunted

@Tinkeringbell You would do that just for me?

@TheTinyMan That's pretty mean

Tinkeringbell

16:05

@AnneDaunted Who said it would be just for you? :P It has some benefits for me too, I get to try that kick button for the first time ever and take revenge :P

TheTinyMan

@AnneDaunted Aww, I'm sorry, I didn't mean it! D:

Anne Daunted

@Tinkeringbell You really got a kick button?

TheTinyMan

@Tinkeringbell She's mad with power!

Tinkeringbell

@AnneDaunted technically it's called kick-mute... but yeah, as a room owner I have such a button at my command :)

@TheTinyMan That's why Catija staged a mutiny and got AJ and Magisch to help me be RO's :P

Anne Daunted

@Tinkeringbell Are you a room owner due to +10k rep?

Tinkeringbell

16:07

Once upon a very good time, this chatroom was mine! evil smirk

TheTinyMan

@Tinkeringbell You need a system of checks and balances...like the American government but one that works. :-P

Tinkeringbell

@AnneDaunted No... due to spending excessive amounts of time in here :P

Anne Daunted

I'm not convinced that you have such a button at hand

Tinkeringbell

Originally, the room got appointed YvetteColomb as a room owner. When she wasn't online for a certain amount of time, I magically got appointed room owner because I was the most online

TheTinyMan

Ulp ^.^,

Anne Daunted

16:08

@Tinkeringbell prove it to me by kicking TheTinyMan evil grin

TheTinyMan

pouts, lower lip trembling

Anne Daunted

;-)

Tinkeringbell

@AnneDaunted Oh? I was thinking of kicking you now, so you'll have immediate evidence :P

Anne Daunted

My worst fears just came true

TheTinyMan

Nay! I shall fall on this sword!

@Tinkeringbell, for science!

Anne Daunted

16:10

@Tinkeringbell Am I still allowed to reconsider your gracious offer?

See, TheTinyMan is begging for it

Tinkeringbell

@TheTinyMan I don't think that's wise ;) I believe kicking involves some moderator attention as well...

And I might very well be relieved from my office if I abuse my power... I shall be a benevolent Goddess ;)

TheTinyMan

You're gonna do it, I know you are!

Tinkeringbell

@TheTinyMan No

Anne Daunted

#FunFreeZone

Tinkeringbell

@AnneDaunted Don't worry, he just left on his own :P

Anne Daunted

16:13

did you ... or didn't you ..

ok

Tinkeringbell

See, that's the kind of things I want to take revenge for ;)

Anne Daunted

for leaving voluntarily before you can kick him?

Mithrandir

Yeah, don't kick unless it's a real problem.

Tinkeringbell

@AnneDaunted (we're on hangouts... in case it ever looks like we know stuff that you don't ;) )

TheTinyMan

haha

Tinkeringbell

16:14

@AnneDaunted Exactly, and for confusing people!

TheTinyMan

The worst part about leaving the room is that I can't tell if people are talking about me

I'm like, "did they even notice...? I'll bet they didn't..."

Mithrandir

Enough kicks will cause the person being kicked to lose some privileges in chat after a while.

@TheTinyMan chat.stackexchange.com/transcript/61165

Tinkeringbell

@Mithrandir So one kick doesn't hurt? :P

(I won't, don't worry. I think we were all just joking? )

TheTinyMan

@Mithrandir ohhhh yeah

Mithrandir

A single kick will cause every person with a diamond who has been in the room historically and is currently online to get a banner notification.

Anne Daunted

16:16

Yes, for sure. just joking

evil glance at TheTinyMan while no one's looking

TheTinyMan

@AnneDaunted glares foam daggers

Tinkeringbell

Oh, we can do evil glances in here... that's not an offense from what I know..

@apaul I can see you lurking in there! Wanna join in, there was some fun being had :)

TheTinyMan

@Tinkeringbell Help! I'm being oppressed! :o

@Tinkeringbell Just don't tell the fun police! :o

apaul

Meh, kicking people is way more satisfying in real life.

Anne Daunted

@TheTinyMan You are not being oppressed in here

TheTinyMan

16:18

@AnneDaunted tries to look pitiful I'm always being oppressed...

Anne Daunted

@TheTinyMan You are not allowed to say or do anything that could create the impression of you being oppressed, capiche?

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Tinkeringbell

@apaul Agreed... but that doesn't mean doing so online can't be fun, especially if it's allowed :D

TheTinyMan

@AnneDaunted Y...yes ma'am!

kicks @apaul

Yeah, that was pretty satisfying

Mithrandir

WHO DARETH TO HAVE FUN

apaul

@TheTinyMan Umm... me thinks you like this "oppression" a bit much...

Anne Daunted

16:19

expecting a fight between TheTinyMan and apaul in a mosh pit

TheTinyMan

SHE DID IT! points a terrified finger at @AnneDaunted

Tinkeringbell

@TheTinyMan Careful, he kicks back! :P

TheTinyMan

@apaul Shhh...my secrets should be my own!

apaul

@TheTinyMan Bein a little obvious, just sayin ;)

TheTinyMan

@apaul I've never been accused of subtlety.

Tinkeringbell

16:20

@AnneDaunted Please hold them until after I return with the popcorn?

Anne Daunted

@TheTinyMan so you don't want to be in control?

@Tinkeringbell I'll try my best

TheTinyMan

@AnneDaunted Control is fun, too! xD

Anne Daunted

@TheTinyMan so you enjoy everything?

Tinkeringbell

@Mithrandir Well, apparently we all do ;)

TheTinyMan

@AnneDaunted That has more or less been said about me by multiple people. xD

Anne Daunted

16:21

@Mithrandir Are you the fun police?

apaul

@TheTinyMan Ever been accused of sub-tlety?

Anne Daunted

@TheTinyMan So nobody can be mean to you?

TheTinyMan

She said "fun police" and then @MetaEd showed up...is @MetaEd the fun police?? :o

Anne Daunted

that's frustrating

TheTinyMan

@apaul Sure have xD

Mithrandir

16:22

The Hobbit: The Desolation of Smaug - I Am Fire, I Am Death Scene (10/10) | Movieclips

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TheTinyMan

@AnneDaunted Someone in high school figured out the secret once. It was...very sad for me. :-P

apaul

@TheTinyMan Mhmm ;)

TheTinyMan

She figured out too many secrets...

MetaEd

@TheTinyMan Morning. Yes. Fun Is Mandatory. Trust The Fun Police.

Anne Daunted

@TheTinyMan I like her

TheTinyMan

16:23

@AnneDaunted Most people do xD

Anne Daunted

but what is/was the secret?

TheTinyMan

@AnneDaunted I'll never tell! Or at least not for a long time!

Anne Daunted

I mean, what could go wrong when sharing your vulnerabilities with potentially malevolent strangers?

apaul

waits for the s to hit the fan

TheTinyMan

@AnneDaunted At least one clearly malevolent stranger. xD

apaul

16:25

@TheTinyMan Aww glad to know my efforts are appreciated.

Anne Daunted

:-)

Tinkeringbell

@apaul If you think we're going too far, just say so directly. That's a better sign for me to shut things down if necessary ;)

"Stop" is a nice safe-word :P

Anne Daunted

Am I misbehaving again?

TheTinyMan

@Tinkeringbell He was going as far as anyone back there :-P

@AnneDaunted You strike me as someone who aims to misbehave!

Tinkeringbell

@AnneDaunted Not for me, but well... Just to be sure ;)

apaul

16:25

@Tinkeringbell Nah, I'm playing along in my own cynical way. Just my warped sense of humor.

Tinkeringbell

@apaul Just checking ;) I sometimes get it and sometimes not ;)

So, @AnneDaunted feel free to continue your mischief :P

Anne Daunted

Taxi Driver - You Talkin' me?

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TheTinyMan

So, @AnneDaunted, do you enjoy everything? :-p

Anne Daunted

@TheTinyMan No, definitely not

@Tinkeringbell Thanks, benevolent Goddess!

TheTinyMan

@AnneDaunted You seem to enjoy being in control here, is that what you like?

@AnneDaunted All hail our benefactor, the divine @Tinkeringbell!

apaul

16:28

@AnneDaunted You misspelled "defiantly"

Tinkeringbell

@AnneDaunted I think I might just change my username... I like people calling me that! :P

Anne Daunted

@TheTinyMan No!

Well..

Maybe a bit

a tiny little bit

TheTinyMan

@AnneDaunted Haha, do you like not being in control better? xD

Anne Daunted

@apaul ;-)

apaul

@AnneDaunted It usually starts that way... Welcome to the dark side, we have more fun ;)

Anne Daunted

16:30

@TheTinyMan You mean if I enjoy being submissive?

Tinkeringbell

@AnneDaunted Oh sure, spell it out... this is the awkward room :P

TheTinyMan

@AnneDaunted Yeah ^.^,

Anne Daunted

I think I have to hit the brakes

TheTinyMan

@Tinkeringbell I want to star that but feel like I shouldn't xD

@AnneDaunted Sorry, sorry...I thought that's what you were talking about earlier.

apaul

@Tinkeringbell Ohhh, well, now it's awkward...

lolol priceless

Tinkeringbell

16:31

@TheTinyMan Hahaha don't... it won't look good in the sidebar... this is one of those conversations that we will have to have a bunch of weather reports afterwards :P

@AnneDaunted Okay... we've stopped!

TheTinyMan

Back to that mischief. I have a spoonful of soup that's dying to be thrown at someone :-)

Anne Daunted

Feel free to go on

TheTinyMan

Who should I throw it at?

Tinkeringbell

@TheTinyMan We shall need a bot for that... a bit like the !!/blame command at Charcoal :P

Anne Daunted

@TheTinyMan Is there a mirror in your vicinity?

TheTinyMan

16:32

@AnneDaunted Nope :-)

Tinkeringbell

@AnneDaunted See @TheTinyMan, that's one that's worthy of a star :P

apaul

@TheTinyMan @Tinkeringbell No gods! No masters! Viva la revolution!

TheTinyMan

@apaul That sounds...heretical...and our magnanimous goddess has an itchy kick button...

Tinkeringbell

@apaul So, goddesses and mistresses are okay? Then I'm still good... :P And remember, no mutinies... I still have that kick-mute button! :P

apaul

@TheTinyMan we all have our talents.

Mithrandir

16:34

Tinkeringbell

Be switching trains, be nice and have fun! :)

TheTinyMan

throws a spoonful of soup at @apaul

@Mithrandir You're welcome! :-D

@Tinkeringbell Quick, while her back is turned! Now's the time for mutiny!

apaul

Mmm soup

Dead Kennedys: Soup Is Good Food

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TheTinyMan

@apaul You're bad at mutiny.

It involves more pitchforks I think. Or is that rebellion?

apaul

@TheTinyMan Whaaaat?

TheTinyMan

16:36

@apaul MUTINY HARDER

apaul

starts filling molotov cocktails

Jesse Barnett

pitchforks means angry mob, riot or witch hunt/crucifiction

TheTinyMan

@apaul Whoa, man. Mutiny a little softer than that.

Maybe let's have a ship left after the mutiny.

apaul

Meh, meh, meh mutiny harder meh

Against Me! - Baby I'm An Anarchist

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Jesse Barnett

you need your cutlas and black powder pistol for a classic mutiny ;)

TheTinyMan

16:39

@JesseBarnett Nah. Just these guns! bounces the flab on his underarm

Jesse Barnett

you are right, those guns would get me running from a position of command with extreme haste :D

Extroverted Main Man

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Q: Responding to my mom's remarks about my love life when she refuses to accept/acknowledge it

Background I'm the only child in a religious, conservative family. We do not see eye to eye on many current events, as they often only watch a single (biased) news source, and stand their ground on somewhat narrow/unfounded/unexposed views of the world. For the most part I try to be understandi...

Jesse Barnett

have we had any other coming out/parent issues and disagreements questions before?

TheTinyMan

@ExtrovertedMainMan Urf. I wish I had good advice on that one, but I suspect that Jess has tried the direct approach already...

Jesse Barnett

it seems like a topic that would get a bit of attention, if not a dup it might still be worthwhile pointing to a relevant post

Tinkeringbell

16:43

@JesseBarnett Not one with parent issues, but I remembering one about a person disclosing they're a drag queen

@AnneDaunted we've stopped, the room is safe now ;)

@apaul and @TheTinyMan I'm pretty sure mutinies are a violation of the be nice policy! :P

TheTinyMan

@Tinkeringbell Aw shooooooot

Loong

@Tinkeringbell Now I expect some bounty joke.

Anne Daunted

@Tinkeringbell Thanks. Don't worry about me

Tinkeringbell

@Loong Then make it, don't hold back! :P

Mithrandir

he can't make bounty jokes. Not when he's got a bounty on his head

Tinkeringbell

16:51

@AnneDaunted But I do! I want everyone to be happy :)

So, now that you said I should stop, only then can I stop worrying ;)

@Mithrandir Oooh.... I'm going to cash that... I need the rep so I can post another bounty :P

Anne Daunted

@Tinkeringbell You worried all the time now?

Tinkeringbell

@AnneDaunted Nah, you just went silent a little too sudden a little too long for my liking :P

I only worried for like 2 minutes before pinging you :P

Anne Daunted

@Tinkeringbell It was unrelated

Tinkeringbell

@AnneDaunted Glad to hear :)

Make sure you're back in time for the next round of fun...

We should schedule those... makes them more fun :P

Anne Daunted

I'm a tough cookie

TheTinyMan

16:54

@AnneDaunted Thanks for the clarification. xD I was stressing myself, haha.

Tinkeringbell

@AnneDaunted Good :) Never got to know you that well, so I didn't know ;)

Anne Daunted

@TheTinyMan My sarcasm detector just exploded

thanks for that

Tinkeringbell

@AnneDaunted Knowing tiny, he wasn't being sarcastic ;)

TheTinyMan

@AnneDaunted There was zero sarcasm in that, I was messaging @Tinkeringbell on Hangouts like, "crap, I think I've upset her, I'll bet that my apology was misread as insincere, I'm bad at peopleing" ^.^,

Tinkeringbell

He's a little unfiltered at times, and he genuinely worries about stuff ;)

Anne Daunted

16:56

Oh, don't worry

If I had been offended, I would've told you and not just gone silent

Mithrandir

@TheTinyMan try heading to Interpersonal Skills, they should be able to he... oh wait

Anne Daunted

@Mithrandir Sometimes all help comes too late

TheTinyMan

@Mithrandir Hmm, my rep is too high these days... "IPS: What should I do, I think I'm an offensive jerk"

Nah, there's gotta be a way I can make that question more downvote-able

Tinkeringbell

@AnneDaunted I think we have 'needs professional help' :P

Jesse Barnett

ahahah

Sid

16:58

@TheTinyMan What is "peopleing"?

Anne Daunted

@TheTinyMan Your username is fully sufficient

TheTinyMan

@Sid It's when I people. Duh. xD

@AnneDaunted That's true. My real rep and the number there are not the same thing. xD

Anne Daunted

I knew it.

TheTinyMan

@AnneDaunted Hmm?

apaul

@AnneDaunted Reasons I dropped off there :P

Anne Daunted

17:02

When i read the question, that apaul would probably already be writing an answer

TheTinyMan

@AnneDaunted Ahhh. @apaul is on this! :-)

apaul

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@Tinkeringbell What if we mutiny really politely?

Tinkeringbell

@apaul Hmm.. I wonder if that's possible?

apaul

@Tinkeringbell Excuse me ma'am, if it's not too much trouble, we'll be taking control of the ship now. You've been a truly magnanimous and benevolent captain, but we've come to the conclusion that it's time for a change in management. Please accept these shiny metal bracelets and your new accommodations with the same grace that you once employed as captain.

Tinkeringbell

@apaul Hmmm.... I didn't get a warning first... so definitely not assuming good intentions! :P

Sid

17:13

@apaul I think, metal anklets may be better?

Mithrandir

That has got to be the politest mutiny I've ever seen.

Loong

@apaul We would court-martial you really politely.

Sid

True that ^^

apaul

Well that didn't work... goes back to filling molotov cocktails

Tinkeringbell

@apaul As long as you don't light them, I can't stop you, you're doing nothing illegal

but remember, this is a no smoking zone! :P

Sid

17:16

@Tinkeringbell what?

Tinkeringbell

Feb 2 at 16:55, by Catija

THIS IS A NO SMOKING AREA Please smoke somewhere else. :P

Anne Daunted

puts out that joint

Sid

@Tinkeringbell Oops. Closes tab to light a cigarette

Tinkeringbell

Lots of unhealthy habits here opens a bar of chocolate

TheTinyMan

And a no-sneezing zone D:

Anne Daunted

17:19

@Tinkeringbell is that a codeword?

apaul

@Tinkeringbell lights cigarette with molotov What was that? I wasn't paying attention.

Tinkeringbell

@AnneDaunted If you want it to be :P Then it's code for ... lemme see... what else do I like to eat... sauerkraut with raisins?

apaul

avoids obvious jokes

Anne Daunted

@Tinkeringbell I.shoudn't.have.asked

Tinkeringbell

@AnneDaunted You shouldn't :P Ah well.. it could be worse :P

TheTinyMan

17:22

@Tinkeringbell is so innocent xD

Tinkeringbell

@TheTinyMan Sure, why not? I've got literally zero experience ...

TheTinyMan

@Tinkeringbell With...like, anything?? :o

Anne Daunted

@Tinkeringbell I'm sure you were banned for life over at seasoned

Tinkeringbell

@AnneDaunted Nah, I haven't tried to ask about sauerkraut and raisins there ;) But if I do, I'll be sure to throw in pineapple as well :)

apaul

Why is it that the "innocent" ones are usually the worst ones?

Tinkeringbell

17:24

@apaul Dunno... probably because they have to imagine everything?

Anne Daunted

@apaul They start out just as bad, but pretending to be innocent has a detrimental effect

apaul

I'm thinking that the lack of practical experience leads them to do/say things that more seasoned evil folks have already been burnt by... Just a theory ;)

Still just joking folks, don't get all awkward and silent over it :P

TheTinyMan

@apaul Are you, though? :o

apaul

@TheTinyMan Mostly lol

Tinkeringbell

@apaul I just needed a lot of time to come up with a come-back on that one...

But: The only thing I've ever been burned by is my tea, which is too hot ;)

Oh, and the oven at the bakery shop where I worked

That thing was evil

Anne Daunted

17:30

@apaul The problem is: It's true

I know, I have been innocent, too

a long time ago

apaul

@Tinkeringbell It's always nice when people make your point for you ;)

Sid

@Tinkeringbell Drink Coffee then

Tinkeringbell

@apaul See... no witty comebacks possible :P

@Sid No thanks... that leaves me bouncing all over.

apaul

@AnneDaunted True != Not funny

Tinkeringbell

and it's disgusting too

apaul

17:31

@Tinkeringbell Heresy!!!

TheTinyMan

@Tinkeringbell I'm with ya on this one! Coffee! Yech! xD

Tinkeringbell

@apaul Huh, how can that be, if I'm the goddess?

TheTinyMan

@Tinkeringbell @apaul is an infidel! :o

Sid

@TheTinyMan ...what? How can people not like coffee? That's the only thing that helps students like me to stay awake during some of my classes...

apaul

@Tinkeringbell Only a false goddess would deny the sacrament.

Anne Daunted

17:33

i don't like it either

TheTinyMan

@Sid 'cause it has an opposite effect on me :-P

Tinkeringbell

@apaul unless the sacrament is wrong? :P

I think the 'no coffee' people are winning here :P

@EmC before you find out we've been making policies in chat again... do you agree that coffee is yuk? Or should we make a meta to decide? :P

(and hello ;) )

apaul

"A sane person to an insane society must appear insane"

Tinkeringbell

@apaul I've been reading Foucault's madness and civilization lately :) It's interesting to see how the definition of madness evolved :D

Em C

@Tinkeringbell aw :(

I drink both tea and coffee ;)

mostly tea right now because it's easier to make, haha

Tinkeringbell

17:38

@EmC Oh, you'll be able to survive then :D

Welcome to the club! You fit in, you can stay ;P

Em C

haha, hooray

Sid

@apaul The sane person, in the company of the insane society, then begins to doubt their own sanity

Em C

I didn't drink coffee until after college.. my first job had a free coffee machine so I learned to like it

Tinkeringbell

I only drink it laced with sugar (which doesn't help with the bouncing)... So only when I'm dead tired ;)

Then I drink it like a medicine, just gulp it down and try not to taste it

apaul

@Sid Psh, speak for yourself :P

Em C

17:41

the first time I made my own coffee I had no idea how much to put in, so it was WAY too strong

didn't realize until half an hour later and I noticed my hands shaking, lol

never had that problem with tea though :P

Tinkeringbell

@EmC Hahaha :) I've made coffee for my parents a few times, so I hope they don't take theirs too strong :P

I can drink my tea almost black too... I like very strong tea

apaul

@EmC That's how you know it's working.

TheTinyMan

@Tinkeringbell I very rarely add anything to my tea...although I drink tea with infused fruit some of the time. :-)

Em C

@apaul hahah, it did make it a bit difficult to draw straight lines though

Extroverted Main Man

18:19

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Q: How to talk to someone about being chronically late - not to fix it, just to get more accurate ETAs?

I've been friends with "Susan" for about 8 years now. She's part of my inner circle of best friends and the four of us meet up at my house every couple of weekends to play games and hang out. We all met in grade school and we're now in our early 20's. Because of the location of my house usually...

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Anne Daunted

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Q: Responding to my mom's remarks about my love life when she refuses to accept/acknowledge it

Background I'm the only child in a religious, conservative family. We do not see eye to eye on many current events, as they often only watch a single (biased) news source, and stand their ground on somewhat narrow/unfounded/unexposed views of the world. For the most part I try to be understandi...

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Received a close vote as unclear what you're asking

but no comment

Is it really that unclear?

I don't think so

TheTinyMan

@AnneDaunted I think it's clear, I suspect that's someone who doesn't approve of the prospect of girls liking girls. Topics like that get a lot of unreasonable close votes and downvotes.

Tinkeringbell

@AnneDaunted I suspect it's related to the upvote on Jesse's comment

I am not going to close it either

Anne Daunted

18:36

and it just got a downvote, too

apaul

19:07

People are still pretty awful, it stops being surprising after a while...

Em C

yeah, I think it's a really good q (&a!) :) hopefully CV will just age out and not accumulate more.. if not, reopen votes ;)

Tinkeringbell

We could flag the comments as no longer needed. The OP already addressed that point in their question ;)

IPS Comment Bot

19:45

Hey there! As it stands, your post is a little broad, and all of your questions you've posted are opinion-based ("What should I do?"). We can't decide what you should do, but we can help you find a way to do whatever it is that you want to do! Could you narrow down what it is you want us to help you do? For example, a better fit for this site would be (if you decide to pursue contacting him) "How can I pursue getting some kind of response/closure from this person I thought I had a genuine connection with?" — Jess K. 1 min ago

#10200 Jess K. (7771 rep) | Q: He hasn't texted me in 4 days after a date. What should i do? (score: 0) | posted 7 minutes ago by Big Don't Know (1 rep)

Matched regex(es) ["you\\W(really)?(need\\Wto|should)"]

Em C

haha, IPS bot is faster than Main Man

I am really resisting the urge to AiC on that one... darn these quality rules :P

Extroverted Main Man

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Q: He hasn't texted me in 4 days after a date. What should i do?

So let me start by telling you the full story cause I think it's necessary to understand what's going on here. I'm an 18 yr old gay. Yay! I'm extremely introverted and I've spent most of the time of my life alone. AND I was totally okay with that. You could say that I was lacking some real mood u...

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