Because we're in such close proximity and we share a kitchen, he'll see that I do things a little differently to him. (one example would be that I drink almond milk instead of cow's milk).
Which it seems is a trigger for questions, which then moves onto debate, within these debates, he seems to...
I see your point, but on the up-side, we are anonymous. As long as the user can get beyond his own cultural binding, he can potentially get some great answers.
Like to ask and answer here you end up divulging an awful lot of personal info. Wouldn't be hard for someone who actually knew you IRL to pick you out.
I don't use social media. Faceplace, flutter, you name it, I really hate it, and I avoid it.
Unfortunately social media seems to be expected these days. Like it's a given that everybody uses it and loves it and posts on it habitually.
I don't and I'm tired of being harassed about it.
What are...
Let's say a time traveler from the year 2100 comes back to the year 2015. He has a very important message: [horrible thing] is about to happen soon, and he wants to warn us so we can avoid/prevent it. (Yes, this assumes a model in which "paradoxical causality" is not an issue.) The problem is ...
A week ago, I had a very very bad night with a friend who decided out of the blue to tell me he was going to kill himself by a messaging service.
The conversation didn't begin with that of course, we talked about his personal problems, and I immediately knew something was off with him. He was sp...
@NVZ when editing, I would respect the person's use of English. I've noticed you've changed some words from the UK English to American English, We had the same issue on Politics. The answer to my meta post may help, politics.meta.stackexchange.com/questions/2955/…
@NVZ No need to apologise, I just know some people on Politics didn't particularly like it. Not sure, I normally switch between the two depending on what the user has written in (if it's both, I go with whichever has more words).
We're 50 days old! It's kind of surprising, at least to me; I didn't know we'd get so far. We've seen both good content and bad content, as anyone who's checked out meta knows. We're trying to keep quality high. We've certainly seen plenty of highly-upvoted posts, but it's easy for really good po...
@NVZ I've applied for roles in The Netherlands and Norway before I got my new role in the UK. But, as I've only graduated in the last couple of years, I'd need more experience to make the move. But in the long term, Netherlands would be ideal for me.
@NVZ I have a couple of pen pals there, I go to visit them when I head over. It's a great country all round. What about you? Is there anywhere in particular you'd like to live that you haven't lived in yet?
@BradleyWilson I think the chances are low, because more than anything I wish to actually settle in my own country India some day. I grew up and currently work in the middle east.
My co-worker that has often asked me personal questions is annoying as hell, professionally he is incompetent and I do all I can to avoid, evade, and deflect him, his questions and any kind of interaction with him. I wear my headphones and mind my own business, beyond answering work related quest...
I often find myself having issues having "smalltalk" or talks which are not directly aiming for some kind of solution or end, but are rather for amusement and as a pastime.
When talking with people, especially people at my own age (~18), I would often get tired of the conversation unless it was ...
I live in quite a small area outside of a city centre, so it can be a hotbed for door-to-door sales (maybe twice a week some weeks). But, mostly because I live near a place of worship for Jehovah Witness's our street is normally the first port of call for them to stop by (twice a week also). Norm...
@GypsySpellweaver I'm trying to help - I'm based in Scotland, but have lived and worked in a number of countries, and at one time was managing a team across 18 countries - with a number of inter-cultural challenges...
I've noticed an oddly confusing greeting mismatch in the US that I wanted to understand. Unless men are very close friends or family, they tend to shake hands in greeting. When greeting a woman - even one they don't know well or just met - they often hug instead... or try to, which can lead to aw...
"How to politely turn away door to door canvassers" - I just wouldn't do it politely. Especially if they turn up early on a Sunday morning and disturb time with my family...
I wish to see a change in the type of questions here. That is, let's have some questions "why X is done at Y situations?" instead of simply "is it rude to X?"
@Catija I was adding about men to men greetings in Arab world. Hugs and a quick cheek kiss is the royal standard. Women, I think do so to other women. Men to women, zero physical contact. Maybe a handshake itself won't be appreciated, strictly speaking.
@RoryAlsop "If you consider the question to be a harmless joke, reply back with another harmless joke - "Never - we're just going to live in sin!" ..."
I made a comment on this question and it's been deleted from existence ... why?
The words from this comment have now appeared in an answer to the question which has received a number of up-votes.
Other comments on the question which seem similar in 'flavor' to my deleted one still stand.
I've always felt that asking
"are you alright?"
even when someone just fell down 8 meters or got stabbed to be pretty ironic. Of course that person is not alright, that's obvious.
Yet, I've never found a better way of asking "how someone is doing", and although it seems the problem is fi...
I am in the early 30's, married, and have multiple young children. I have a lot of co-workers in the same age bracket that don't have children, but are on the path (newly married, or engaged, kids in the future in the next 5-10 years).
Often topics of discourse in the office revolve around chil...
Reading this question i was surprised that it seems to be common sense that people do not want to share this information and might even get upset, if someone asks them how much they earn.
Is this related to culture?
(I am a young german student/intern, maybe that is related to the fact that I do ...
My boyfriend made plans for us to have dinner with two of his friends, another couple. Since I have some dietary restrictions, they've decided to cook at home rather than go out (despite me saying I'm sure there were suitable restaurants around). If it's relevant, my boyfriend will be helping wit...
A week ago, I had a very very bad night with a friend who decided out of the blue to tell me he was going to kill himself by a messaging service.
The conversation didn't begin with that of course, we talked about his personal problems, and I immediately knew something was off with him. He was sp...
I have bipolar disorder. It is under control, but I read that my children might inherit it and my medicines might affect unborn children. But, I'd like to get married and have children.
After starting the treatment, I stopped dating. Now, I'd like to start again, but I'm terrified of bringing up...
I'm frequently in a situation where the person I'm talking to stands so close to me that I feel their breath on my face when they are talking. For me, this is uncomfortable and I consider too close. I have tried many ways of getting around this by trying various techniques to increase my distance...
First, I can't believe this question has not been posted on this board. I am genuinely interested to see what response boils up.
Here is the situation:
You are at a family gathering (holiday, birthday, etc.) and everyone
in the family is discussing their political views. You are asked
...
You are in the cubicle farm and you have that co-worker that is just a little too loud for you to concentrate. How do you avoid the awkward conversation of "hey you are too loud I can't work?"
What are comments under a question for?
Use comments to ask for more information or suggest improvements. Avoid answering questions in comments.
That's the help text that appears when you expand the comment box.
What if you post an answer or partial answer in the comments?
The comments m...
@EnglishStudent Please reach me in chat for anything like that.
I don't know for sure. Maybe people didn't like the existing answers.
Hello @Zizouz212! Maybe you can clarify what I asked NVZ: why do answers to the 'social media' question by apaul have such a low net score? Highest voted answer scores 2 upvotes after 12 hours; next comes NVZ with 1 upvote in 12 hours, and I posted an answer 2 hours back: 7 answers posted over 10 hours including mine have scored zero! Now that's what i call an awkward silence. Is it the time zone thing or is the revenge of the introverts unpopular at Interpersonal.SE?
I don't use social media. Faceplace, flutter, you name it, I really hate it, and I avoid it.
Unfortunately social media seems to be expected these days. Like it's a given that everybody uses it and loves it and posts on it habitually.
I don't and I'm tired of being harassed about it.
What are...
I did not find the question all that impressive. I didn't vote up anything there. I am very lavish with my votes, yet I didn't vote on these. That tells something.
But in any case, lack of votes isn't too much cause for concern. It has a lower number of votes than usual, but still doesn't look like too much of a big deal.
I have seen people collect 20 upvotes in an hour, @Zizouz -- no downvotes reflects users found no reason to agree or disagree -- maybe not using social media (most answers say they don't) is not well-perceived by most users at an interpersonal skills site, is what I wonder?
@EnglishStudent Yes, but the 20 upvotes is likely due to the question appearing on the Hot Network Questions list, meaning that everyone from the entire network swarms in and offers up votes.
I don't see any evidence that the social media question has appeared on that list
I'm not sure it's the topic of the question that is an issue, but more a lack of attention (and of the attention that it has received, not too many people were impressed)
What's weird is that a Q that attracted so many answers 9 in just 12 hours also attracted so few views and so few votes for q and a! That's rare. So this looks like the answerers were more eager to answer than the people were to read it and vote?
HNQ allows a thousand "association bonus" users to upvote anything and everything. Plus, the "bandwagon effect" makes sure that people upvote what already has some upvotes.
It however does not allow downvotes. Which means, even though a ton of people disagree with an answer, they are unable to express it.
See this comment for example. It has as much upvotes to prove that the answer score should net to zero
I disagree. The OP states numerous times that he thinks the question is inappropriate regardless of what's going on in the relationship. So it's not really a question of communicating with his partner, but addressing the need for the question to be asked in the first place. — sudowoodo20 hours ago
@NVZ I actually disagree with you there. The site can attract many users through different ways. HNQ offers false illusions of the site to members. I would much rather have the site grow slowly while maintaining accountability over the site.
Site building shouldn't be a rushed event, which is unfortunately the impression I get from many users on this site.
In that case, for the sake of clarity SE could decide to mark HNQ votes separately, as in +44(of which HNQ 34) so we know that when we later read the answer.
I had suggested having a new queue (sort of like the Triage) in each community whereby users can improve posts before they hit HNQ, or collectively deny entry to a bad post.
@Zizouz212 moratorium, but how long?
Moratorium, is just a fancy word for "temporary ban"
Regarding users joining a new site, @Zizouz212, NVZ is right that exposure catches the attention of users from other sites. I even heard of Interpersonal.SE only because NVZ happened to mention your upcoming moderator elections a month ago in a comment at English.SE chat, I think -- NVZ had 135 points at the time and I joined the dite. Now NVZ has 3000+ and I am still very much here, and many more users from English.SE are joining actively each day! This is another way site building works.
I hate answering questions. I either don't know how to answer them, or I don't feel comfortable answering them (since it would tell people much about who I am)
I am pointing out that one of your most productive users NVZ joined this site through HNQ, so will others! In that case maybe we can take dome drawbacks, @Zizouz212?
@NVZ Same. I love the subject, but I feel a bit drained trying to deal with it. So I've just kept to meta, and well... votes :P
@EnglishStudent It's not like they will never have another opportunity to join the site. We do have community ads that run across the network, google searches (which is where I believe a good chunk of our traffic actually comes from), and the HNQ will still pop up in the future. I just wanted to point out that early in the site, it brings a few drawbacks, that I personally have felt trouble in dealing with.
Thanks, @Zizouz212, my last Q is a complex problem for my friend and I only got 1 answer in 2 days, though an excellent answer. I have now set a bounty but nobody is touching the question becsuse they are not familiar with the Indian context.
I really do think it's a good question, because it's specific and to the point. I'd answer it, but then answering would reveal more about me than I may be comfortable with :/
The question reads really good because it is a dire real life situation that I happen to know a fair bit about, @Zizouz212 -- you are right that our answers can reveal ourselves to some extent. It seems thiz site has very few Indian members and all others don't want to risk it -- I mean risk making a cultural mistake.
Oh, that -- @NVZ -- I can respect that. Why they wouln't want to reveal origin? Rather funnily I wrote straight up in my profile that I am Indian, when I joined ELU
I have only briefly worked in New Delhi, Mumbai and Bangalore, but have also worked in Germany, Dubai, Denmark, the UK and the South Atlantic. And managed individuals from a huge number of countries, so the culture aspects have always intrigued me
What if I don't get any more answers because there are 'not enough people culturally qualified to write one?' The only answer was very good but exactly echoed my friend's fears (which means he could have written the same answer as anongoodnurse do kindly did) and there is nothing else to compare it with!