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<the awkward silence gets its name>
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We have earned it several times over. I'm looking forward to the day it becomes ironic.
Or we have to change it to something equally awkward but less silent.
though, there is one good thing - it's more active here than many chatrooms, including graduated sites.
Who would have thought... people interested in interpersonal skills like to chat.
btw, do you have advice on phrasing/formation of my new question?
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Q: I'm a kid - how can I get people to take me seriously?

heatherI've been in multiple situations where I feel like my age didn't really serve me very well (or my height, one of the two =P) - whether in how the other person spoke with me (by which I mean attitude/tone), whether they followed up with me, or whether they actually listened to what I was saying. ...

@HDE226868 hello, and congrats on modship!
@heather Thanks! Good to see you.
Rather active on meta, I see.
Dang it, chat!
@HDE226868 yeah, i really like this site.
good for answering all my socially inept questions.
;)
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@HDE226868 Aah. Another social butterfly has arrived. I pray that you don't face too many hurricanes...
@heather Not my vote, but there currently is a "Too Broad" vote cast on it
There's only one, so not much reason to panic
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01:28
I'd like to congratulate @HDE226868 @Catija @John. I'm familiar with your work and I hope, though I am certain, that you'll be great mods and make this site success. I wish you all the best. And congrats again.
Hey @heather do you think you could add a specific example of a time this happened to your question? Also, where you are and about your age. We all assume anyone here is 13 or higher because that's required to have an account but "kid" isn't too descriptive. And, as usual, where you are would be helpful.
@AJ Thanks AJ! Maybe if the site stays popular we'll need more moderation... heck, if we stay busy we could even hit the necessary stats for graduation and you could run in an election.
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Sure
John is not pingable here.
@AJ Never been to chat
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Ohh
I think I saw him here a few times.
If he has come, then he's never posted a message
01:38
@John When you have a chance, consider coming to say hi!
@Catija Actually, I wouldn't be surprised if we get graduate quickly. We've got a lot of activity from new users which is exciting :)
@Zizouz212 ... So, what you're saying is that I shouldn't get comfortable in the mod seat? ;)
What? No, you should start making it extra comfy because you'll probably be elected once graduation comes by ;)
Elections and I don't get along very well. I've been in two of them and lost them both.
@Catija Well, you're a pro-tem, so that holds a little bit of weight.
You'll get it. I'm calling it.
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If I don't burn out and go rogue. :P
I have it on good authority that it's a concern.
I think you'll do a wonderful job here
One thing that I really like about you is that you're willing to speak up. You've got a spine.
Sometimes :P But I appreciate your confidence and your kind words. I do better when I feel like I have support. I think the other mods and users here are doing a great job.
You'll always have my support. You and the other mods will do a fine job. Hopefully I won't be too bothersome for you all :P
I'm sure you'll be of great help.
I think the most entertaining thing for me has been seeing a simple +1 appear in my inbox, and then wondering where it came from :P
Hello @John :D
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@Zizouz212 Hello hello hello
HA HA HA. There are a lot of deleted posts... and I may have pushed a few that way after getting the diamond... they were already in the queue.
@Catija You are right. I plan to be here a lot more (of course)
Howdy, @John! If you're still busy you don't have to hang out.
Actually, that reminds me of something
And I forget it once a new song starts playing -_-
Was it Shake it Off?
01:53
Haha no. I always have hindi songs playing. Once I finally realized what was playing, I started wondering about how happy and depressing the song is at the same time.
@Zizouz212 I always wanted to be a stormchaser. . .
Well here's your chance!
@AJ Thanks! I think the site's en route to being successful all on its own.
@Catija Which sites, out of curiosity?
@HDE226868 here's a little something ^^^ to make mod-ship a tiny bit easier.
@HDE226868 ELL and Cooking. I lost ELL's graduation election in fourth place and Cooking's most recent one in second.
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@GypsySpellweaver Thanks. :-)
Ouch. I fell fourth in Law's grad election. Always hurts when you're the front-runner :/
@John And one of your own ^^^ as well. :)
Catija got a personal version earlier. That's what happens when you're early to the party. =)
@GypsySpellweaver Wait, a personal mjolnir?
@Catija Shah Rukh Khan and Amrita Rao! Looks like a fun song, but I haven't watched the movie :)
02:03
@Catija One to each mod. Compare yours to the ones just handed out.
@Zizouz212 It's perfect. The song makes me happy every time I hear it and I don't even know what it means.
I'm sure you could find the translations somewhere.
I can understand a little bit, but I'm nowhere near fluent
Probably but it doesn't really matter. I saw it during my Bollywood class at school.
@GypsySpellweaver Mine's the blue one?
@Catija You had bollywood classes? I'm jealous
02:07
@Zizouz212 It was a media studies class. I have a degree in film. One class.
Wow cool :)
@Catija Yup. You all can share the fire equipment though. That's expendable. Mjolnir, on the other hand, will always return after being tossed, so each needs their own.
Well, thank you for my hammer. :D
@Catija Well, you know, what good is a mod without a hammer?
Though one can hope never to use it. Still, odds are it'll be needed some day.
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02:23
@HDE226868 I can't edit that message though, I meant we'll all together make this site success.
@Catija But keep in mind that you're Catija not Thor. ;P
@Zizouz212 It's a nice song
@AJ Oh, crap. I forgot.
@AJ It's a depressing song!
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:D
@Zizouz212 But a good song
Fine, it's a good song, but it keeps bringing me to tears when it pops up!
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Ohh
02:28
@AJ I think it reminds me of the wedding dance in Bride and Prejudice...
Though, it may just be because it's at a wedding.
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I didn't watch this movie. Wasn't Aishwarya Rai in this movie?
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Punjabi wedding dance it is.
@Catija Do you know this movie was titled as Balle Balle Amritsar to LA in Hindi?
@AJ I don't think I knew that! And that's the title of the song, ha.
 
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Got Enthusiast badge on main and meta site.
@AJ An enthusiast about interpersonal skills. Neat :P
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Lol
The time when the Fanatic badges come out will be interesting...
You're all fanatics about talking to people?? Quiet down all you blabbermouths! :P
43 days and counting. Ugh, that seemed like such a long time without mods.
Yeah. That did feel like a while
03:44
I'm going through badges. I currently have the only Pundit badge :P
You're also quite outspoken
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@Zizouz212 But I am not talkative. ;)
Are you sure about that?
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Q: When playing darts, how can I separate real players from random drunks?

apaul34208I know my dart playing habits are a little odd... I usually hit my local bar alone, on an off night, grab a pint and head straight back to the dartboard in the back corner where I'm least likely to be disturbed. Throwing darts tends to be something of a meditative thing for me. I zone out and ai...

 
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Hello there @YvetteColomb
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Interpersonal Skillsinterpersonal.stackexchange.com

Beta Q&A site for the life skills we use every day to communicate and interact with other people.

Currently in public beta.

Stats seem good. Need more work on asking questions.
@AJ Meh. They'll come. No need to worry about those
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Yep
It's just 41 days.
If people start artificially asking questions for the sake of raising the stats, then they'll end up destroying the site
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agreed
Artificial questions tend to be horrible questions, and they hide the stats to show if we are reaching out to the wider internet community
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05:38
Our, not your. :P
Shhhh
Oh, that reminds me
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@Zizouz212 Kya?
Just in case people think I'm disappearing, I'm not. The next 2-3 weeks are going to be quite busy for me, so I won't be as active. But I doubt anyone will notice :)
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oh
Yep
Hopefully you won't miss my excessively wordy meta posts :P
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05:44
lol
M&TV chatroom has been remained empty nowadays.
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how's life?
good thanks :) and you?
@HDE226868 @Catija @John congratulations on the modship! You'll make a great team and you 3 were my preferred choices :)
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@YvetteColomb nice :)
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I forget: should I vote to delete spam as well as flagging it? Or just flag it?
(Sorry for that random interjection).
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05:51
@SQB Just flag it as spam.
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Okay, did that.
Was on SF&F, by the way. scifi.stackexchange.com/a/166718/19561
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Even the username is a spam.
Flagging will set ip blocks, downvote automatically, and delete the post. By voting to delete, you're just wasting a vote ;)
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Of course, y'all are invited to flag it as spam as well.
Meh. I don't have an account there
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05:56
6 votes delete the post, but it is not deleted. Why?
Are you sure it has 6 flags?
Probably has 3 or 4
Many people place 2 down votes when they flag. I do it too just because it's fun
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@AJ Like the blind stag said to his wife, "I've no idea".
I'm debating closing this post. Thoughts? Reasoning is based on my ramblings on meta
@SQB you flag is as spam
6 spam flags and it will be deleted
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@Zizouz212 Leave it open as our canonical dupe target.
06:01
@SQB it's dead
@SQB Dupe target for what?
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@YvetteColomb Great.
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5th helpful flag on SFF.
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@Zizouz212 Dupe target for all other questions similar that may follow.
(SQB, I'm challenging you here a bit)
So target for questions that mention suicide?
06:03

Charcoal HQ

Where smoke is detected, diamonds are made, and we break thing...
@SQB ^^^ have you seen this room
Its dedicated to deleting spam across the network
I have the marshal badge on quite a few sites from flagging spam blowing my own trumpet
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@YvetteColomb I have marshal on two sites and one is on SO.
yep - I have it on superuser askunbuntu SO drupal askdifferent I think that's it
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Only recently got Marshall on Science Fiction & Fantasy.
@YvetteColomb I know of it.
Have been there once or twice.
@SQB if you ever need spam nuked - post the link in there :)
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We had SmokeDetector running on SF&F; I wonder why it didn't pick up on this one.
@YvetteColomb I'll take note of that, thanks.
Room favourited.
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06:29
Hm. Not sure, but going by your answer on meta, I'd say for users at acute risk, follow standard SE protocol: flag for moderator, vote to delete, optional "seek professional help now! here's a relevant hotline" message.
But for the "not acute, but shouldn't be handled by non-professionals", yeah. Perhaps we need to tweak the answer a bit.
@Zizouz212 did that ^^^ ping you?
Yes... It did somehow o_O
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Because it had the link to your comment, but not your name. I know it does that for replying with something that gets auto-formatted / one-boxed (link to post. link to comment, image, link to WikiPedia, xkcd and so on).
But this just was a multi-line comment.
Which I know screws up formatting, but this particular bit of formatting-screw-upping was new to me.
lol
Not a big deal :)
I mean, the way I'm looking at it is that you've got 3 cases: 1) Acute case; 2) Personal self-improvement case; 3) Casual no-issue case. I feel that since it's trying to provide advice, it's essentially hijacked the question into a Case 1 - I can speak from experience that some of the information is misleading, and that providing any advice is very dangerous. This is just the kind of stuff that needs to be case-by-case.
The "non-acute, shouldn't be handled by non-professionals" though wouldn't point to that answer, since it's addressing an acute (suicide risk) case. The answer in those cases would always be see a professional, which can easily be said in a comment.
Meh, I'll quit ranting
I kind of singled you off the block. Sorry about that :(
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07:03
No problem.
So perhaps this question isn't the right one, or maybe we need to adjust the answer. But I think it's valuable to have a canonical question and answer set for non-acute but severe issues requiring professional help.
For one thing, anyone searching for those terms will likely encounter it and be (hopefully) helped by it.
And we can close other "I think my {relative|friend} is feeling depressed or suicidal, what should I do" questions as dupes against it.
@Zizouz212 FYI: I rejected this edit of yours interpersonal.stackexchange.com/review/suggested-edits/1128 because I think it's fine to want to know about other cultures as well as your own.
Darn, I'd like to be able to vote up or down from the VLQ-queue.
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Q: Add downvote option to Low Quality Review Queue list of potential actions

enderlandVLQ flagged posts are now being shown in the Low Quality review, which allows: Looks Good Edit Delete Skip but no option to vote on the post. My suggestion is to add downvoting as options: Downvote Downvote/Delete (this would replace current Delete) There have been times I want to downvot...

 
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How do we help out this 'loner' user?
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Q: I feel like I don't belong where I currently am

lonerI believe in some ways I have always been a social puzzle for everyone to solve including myself.I don't think I like it where I was born,raised ,went to school,where i am going to college right now.I always feel i am at the wrong place.I need to be somewhere ,where i am appreciated for who and w...

Recent posts from this user were closed or deleted.
User does not have 20 rep to join chat.
Oh, hey! New mods! Welcome! :D
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Q: I feel like I don't belong where I currently am

lonerI believe in some ways I have always been a social puzzle for everyone to solve including myself.I don't think I like it where I was born,raised ,went to school,where i am going to college right now.I always feel i am at the wrong place.I need to be somewhere ,where i am appreciated for who and w...

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Would it be considered wrong to upvote that user's question a couple of times? That would give them the rep to get into chat where they can ask get spoken to on a more personal basis and in a format more suitable for discussion rather than the Q&A format
Like overall it's not a good question, TBH, but I think a quick chat would go a long way
@JackParkinson unfortunately, no one here is a professional therapist. Chat is not a substitute for therapy. For these types of questions, the OP should be redirected to professional help, not chat. Although I'm sure everyone here means well, without professional experience you might do more harm than good.
And no, quick chats don't go a long way for something like this.
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@Hamlet Okay I hear you, but I've definitely been in situations where they do go a long way. When a person feels completely alone, even a stranger on the internet taking time to hear them out (and just say a few kind words to them) can make a huge difference. I agree it's nowhere near a substitute for professional help, which would be the main discussion point, but in my experience it can help to bridge the gap between getting help and giving up.
Not anecdotal, I've spoken to people in similar situations.
Maybe OldPadawan's comment is enough. I hope so.
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Q: How to deal with a lazy housemate?

Bradley WilsonFirstly, I haven't got the means to move out into a new place for atleast a couple of months because of finances and I just want to have my housemate do more around the house. Context I've been living with my housemate for around 3 months and he barely lifts a finger around the house. I seem t...

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@Catija Mornin'
You're here early today.
Meh
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Hmm
Ben is hungry. Going back to bed shortly.
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ohh
You didn't let him eat that leaf, did you? :P
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Hi there :)
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Hello
was just hanging around, not used to going to chat, but I was checking how people will follow on this interpersonal.stackexchange.com/questions/1483/…
@YvetteColomb Aw, thanks!
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@HDE226868 yw :D
I'm going again - I'm crook today \o
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@Catija Mornin'
@John Mornin'
@AJ Good morning
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Q: How do I deal with someone people think is funny, but I think is mean?

Joe SThere is someone that dropped out of college but still visits our friend group about once a month who tries to be funny by making intentionally hurtful comments to 2 or 3 different people in the group of 10 to 15. Usual comments are like "wow you have really gotten fat", "youre useless and shou...

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@AJ Morning!
Finally at an actual computer!
@YvetteColomb Thanks so much for the vote of confidence :)
Hey @heather Let me know if you have any questions about editing your question.
@HDE226868 @Catija on this site, it is crucial that you close questions where the OP needs professional help immediately. It is crucial that you create a custom close reason. If you wait, well intentioned people will start writing answers.
@Catija okay
@Hamlet We can't be here 24/7.
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Q: Apology to ex-boss

Sandy CA decade ago, an unfortunate incident had happened in ex-office and it almost went into a legal suit. Nothing bad happened, but, down the line I realized that it could have been avoided. I want to apologize to my ex-boss about the same. We live in different countries and I do not have any optio...

@Catija crucial that,you ensure that the community closes such questions immediately
@Catija I edited, is it a little clearer now?
I'm a bit unsure why it was closed as too broad though.
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@heather Did you see my comment?
yes
I get that maybe I need to add a more specific age/location, which I did.
but as for examples - this seems like a fairly universal problem.
i did all of the above, but i think without the examples it could still be reopened.
But we are not a universal site. SE is here to address specific problems that you actually face.
right - how to get adults to take one seriously.
this question (and many others on this site) aren't about a specific situation, but a general occurrence. my question is the same.
and...removed the examples.
apparently they were bad ones.
That is a much more precise question. What you mean by "take one seriously" depends vastly on the person. An example is beneficial.
alright, i'll try to think of a better one.
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@heather You might consider looking at this related meta question. I think it asks much the same things you're asking about and the responses are similar to Hamlet's statement when you added your examples.
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Q: Can I request that a user doesn't hint that I am insignificant because of my age?

bjskistadIn some questions, I include my age/grade. Answerers seem to treat me like a child (I use this metaphorically since I am). Is there a way I could request for them to treat me as if I were an adult?

yeah.
i was kind of hoping to bring some of those responses over to the main site.
though of course, i have had different experiences than that asker.
Maybe what you really want to know is how to discern when someone is treating you dismissively because of your age?
how to discern when being treated dismissively because of age, or because of maturity/other fixable issues, and then how to respond to it. both questions are listed in the current question.
But that's not what your question point 1 reads like to me. "It's just me" - what does that mean? You seem to think that you're being ignored either because of your age or because of maturity or how you dress... but there is a third option - bureaucracy. You're asking your principal to change something that they may not be able to change.
that was perhaps a poor example.
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So, if you're having a difficult time coming up with an example, think about it for a while. The question has a positive score, so it won't be deleted, even though it's closed. If you can't think of a specific example, make the wording of your question more concrete. Don't rely on phrases like "it's just me". Read through what you've written, too... the usage of emoticons and the phrasing you've chosen may seem like you're not very serious about the question. For example:
> and it's not like I dress super terribly (standard not-baggy/hideous t-shirt or sometimes nicer shirt and jeans/shorts).
Try instead:
> I wear non-baggy clothes and sometimes a nicer shirt and jeans or shorts.
@Catija that question is a request for therapy. This site shouldn't be answering that question no matter how much location data it includes
If you want to have questions like that, are you prepared for the consequence if you give the OP bad advice?
@Hamlet Could you please give us a break? We are here for the community but we are not perfect and we are not arbiters of justice. I already feel like I overreacted on that question because you're pushing me around and I don't appreciate it. A couple of bad questions on the site for a few hours will not break this site.
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I really, really appreciate the work that you're doing but we're only 42 days old. We do not need to solve all of the problems right this minute. We are going to be facing them for years and that's fine.
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Also, start playing more instead of complaining about the rules.
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@John OMG!! Congratulations!! That's so great that you are a mod!! You are one of the nicest people on SE!! I'm so happy for you!! Best of luck :))
@Catija Congratulations!! I know that this site will benefit from your knowledge and awesomeness!! I'm so excited for you! YAY!!
I don't know @HDE226868, but...best of luck to you and congratulations! :)
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Intersquirrelly Skills?
@SQB Hehehe! HELLO STRANGER!!
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Wassup? How are things on the Slack side?
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They're going good! I wish that you would join :)
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Q: How am i suppose to talk about my inability to talk?

dipsheetI can't talk because: My social skills are non existing since i have no social life. In most of the situations i don't even know now to act or react because of my lack of experience in real social life This one is my real issue here. Social skills might be improved but i don't think this is fix...

Gheez. Mods are already getting strong armed up in here ;)
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Say hi to the gang for me.
Will do! :)
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@steelersquirrel I have confidence in them.
Me too! I think that they picked the perfect mod team for this site!
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Q: How to invite people to an event who don't get along?

CatijaI'm hosting an event in a couple of weeks - my son's first birthday party. I have several people who I would like to invite. Unfortunately, some of them don't get along. This seems to be a one-sided disagreement - meaning that Person A doesn't like Family B for some slight that Person A can't get...

 
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@Catija I noticed your edit here adding the "s" to "invitation". Can you add an "s" to "wedding" as well? It's currently the only question with the tag.
@NVZ yep. I'm mobile now but I'll do it shortly
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@NVZ why not keep it singular?
hey, i think we have a situation - see
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Q: How am i suppose to talk about my inability to talk?

dipsheetI can't talk because: My social skills are non existing since I have no social life. In most of the situations I don't even know now to act or react because of my lack of experience in real social life This one is my real issue here. Social skills might be improved but I don't think this is fix...

The OP seems a bit suicidal. There are already answers. How do we deal with this?
@Catija/@HDE226868/@Mods
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Agreed, even though "a bit suicidal" sounds weird.
@John is the third mod.
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@SQB usually for such things we have plural "s" on the tags.
Not necessary though
@SQB ah, thank you.
@SQB Standard practice, really. We even have a Meta about it.
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20:18
And if @Mithrandir is pingable as well; it doesn't have to be an IPS mod.
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A: Should tags be pluralised or singular?

CatijaIt's pretty standard on the other sites I use to use the plural version of tags along with the -ing version of many nouns (on Arts and Crafts, we use "crocheting" instead of "crochet", for example). You can see this standard in the tags you've used on this question. Those tags are tags and taggin...

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Ah, @Catija is here.
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@Catija I can only remove it. Can't add it back with an s.
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I agree with @heather's assessment of this post.
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Q: How am i suppose to talk about my inability to talk?

dipsheetI can't talk because: My social skills are non existing since I have no social life. In most of the situations I don't even know now to act or react because of my lack of experience in real social life This one is my real issue here. Social skills might be improved but I don't think this is fix...

@heather If you're honestly worried about that sort of thing, you should flag it so that we can see it and look into it. At this point in time, the CMs are also watching our flags, so they may even be better at addressing the issue.
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okay.
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@Catija I think it's a good idea to update tags to make them plural. Your suggested changes in your meta answer would be a good place to start.
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I worry that SE policy of closing such questions is not the right thing to do.
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@SQB Not merely closing. Closing with comments pointing to helplines or recommending seeking professional advice.
Maybe I'm taking things too lightly but that seems like they're talking about how removing themselves from society is social suicide, not actual suicide.
they're also calling themselves crap, worthless, and other names.
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@Catija I had to Ctrl+F to see why heather mentioned suicide because I didn't get that from OP.
Anyway, I informally pinged a CM so we'll see what happens.
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While we may not be equipped to give these users the help they need, I fear that closing the question, even with encouraging words, may be yet another rejection.
Tag added.
@SQB sadly, yes. Can we invite them into chat?
(I know there's the mod superping.)
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@SQB that is true. But imagine the other way. What if we started welcoming them and their questions here? What will IPS become?
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20:29
@NVZ helpful?
I'm sorry, that's a bit snarky.
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@SQB Nope. :)
@SQB I don't mind snarky. I have shruggy with me.
¯\_(ツ)_/¯
@Catija, by the way, my question about age/adults was edited quite nicely by Ben I., is it any better now in terms of phrasing?
@heather Let me check :D
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@Catija Can you migrate the tag wikis as well?
Or copypaste it?
@NVZ So needy.
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20:35
LOL
I was hoping to be bossy.
Might be a good time to remind y'all that none of you are trained therapists, and that any advice other than "see a professional" may have harmful consequences. And in this case the consequence isn't the site has bad questions/Answers, the consequence is somebody harmed themselves.
Might also be worth mentioning that when professionals assess whether someone is at risk of committing self harm, the question that they ask is "have you ever considered or imagined committing self harm."
Maybe you'll help 99.99% of people. But if something wrong happens with the .01%
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Might also be worth having a clear guideline about that in our "don't ask" help page.
Unfortunately, we don't get to edit that page, I believe.
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Q: Let's start working on our help center "what to ask" text!

CatijaWithin the next couple of weeks we are likely to have moderators who can edit the various parts of the site, including our "On Topic" page and our three custom "off topic" close reasons. In our time here so far, we've started to make some headway in defining this site. This "On Topic" page is a...

@NVZ The "What to ask" page also contains "off topic" guidelines.
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Ah. Forgot that meta.
This is a good candidate for "off-topic". Questions seeking help with suicidal thoughts and such things.
I don't have the best words to express it.
Somebody else can come up with a good phrasing.
@NVZ if it would be helpful, I could write up a well argued meta post.
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@Hamlet yea, feel free to. And, thank you.
@Hamlet There are examples and references on MSE. Use that.
Is there something wrong with the existing answer here:
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A: Should we send [depression] and [suicide] to trained professionals?

Zizouz212Before you read what I say, please read this meta post: What's the official SE response to serious mentions of suicide or self-harm in posts? Go back, I'm serious. Read it. First case, at-risk user. If you ever find a question where you believe that the asker is at-risk, either from harming so...

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Yeah.
I mean. No problem.
Forgot about that meta as well.
It's a good answer. My upvote, it gets.
@Catija well, there currently is a question open where the OP mentioned contemplating suicide, and answers are coming in
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There was a user 'loner' in a similar state, I think.
@Hamlet I think 8 upvotes on that answer is a good "consensus". So I think it's enough that you come up with a neat summary line to use on our help page.
And add that under Catija's help center proposal.
@heather Reminds me of something similar: english.meta.stackexchange.com/q/10583/50044
External resources, if any, should also be collected all at one place.
@heather I'm talking about your meta proposal: interpersonal.meta.stackexchange.com/q/1372/345
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Q: Are resource recommendations on topic?

heatherSuppose a person wanted to ask for resources to examine a subject further - for example, books on public speaking, websites with conversation starters, or videos about how to dress at a conference. Are questions like these on topic?

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@IntrovertedMetaMan. You're late to the party as usual.
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This is not a call for sympathy / pity up votes, but could you please look at my answer and tell me what might be wrong with it? I'm really puzzled.
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A: How to approach a strategy game against a 5-10 year old child you don't know

SQBThe important part is not that the opponent is a kid, the important part is that they're likely to be inexperienced. The goal of this social event is likely for all participants to have a good time. Bob is one of the staffers, so he has been tasked with making the attendants have a good time. I...

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Q: Can we close questions where the OP needs professional help?

HamletI have to admit that I feel uncomfortable with how this community is handling questions where the OP shows signs of needing professional help. The question How am i suppose to talk about my inability to talk? is a good example. The question is unspecific, and probably should be closed for that r...

 
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@John, could you please lock this question:
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Q: How am i suppose to talk about my inability to talk?

dipsheetI can't talk because: My social skills are non existing since I have no social life. In most of the situations I don't even know now to act or react because of my lack of experience in real social life This one is my real issue here. Social skills might be improved but I don't think this is fix...

It's a question where the only good answer is to seek professional help.
The SE protocol is to lock such questions:
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A: What's the official SE response to serious mentions of suicide or self-harm in posts?

ShokhetScroll down for updated, ready-to-use comments. I think Shog9's answer to the Meta Software Engineering question is good enough: I hate to sound callous about this, but... This isn't a support group; y'all probably aren't trained to deal with the outpouring of grief and despair of someon...

While it may not outright say that the asker is going to commit suicide, it's serious enough that I think it should be locked for now.
@heather We are not ignoring you. We've pushed it up to the CMs.
This is not something that you need to wait on the CMs for.
Please lock it until they can take a look at it.
I wrote an answer on meta explaining why I think this is so important here, if it's necessary, but please do lock it.

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