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Q: How can I make friends?

altblancI'm Japanese, and as typically Japanase people, I'm shy. Whan I was in elementary school, I was very confident of myself so I was showy if anything. But as I get older, I had less confident and became shy. I think this is because I became compare myself to others(maybe caused my mother, I hardly ...

 
 
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6:20 AM
I command y'all have a good morning! :D
 
JAD
o7 aye aye
 
 
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8:19 AM
Hey @ElizB! I might be wrong but it seems like you don't flag as NAA when you post a comment asking for backup. Can I ask you why?
 
gasps! Sounds like grounding to me :p
 
@avazula it started terrible, but its better now ;p
(dog's been sick.)
 
oh no! Hope they're okay now :/
 
8:35 AM
He is
The vet was pretty fantastic.
 
yay :)
 
JAD
9:02 AM
ok wtf
I am in the process of applying for life insurance
for that, you have to answer a bunch of medical questions
one of the followup questions they wanted to know was the following: "From when till when were you suffering from Asperger?"
As if it's something that comes and goes
 
So, I had some urgent test to run this morning. But someone made a modification to the first page of the app I was testing (remove ids and other stuff) so then, none of my tests were working anymore!! Grrr (now I'm currently waiting for my ids to come back)
 
9:18 AM
Morning o/
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A: How to inform a friend about my will of ending the relationship?

tangentbundleThank you all for taking the time to understand my question better. Thank you also for giving me plenty of useful advice and asking me questions that actually helped me think about why I wanted to do this, from all facets. I talked to him today for about 3 hours and I was able to achieve what I w...

I'm actually proud of the answer the OP gave, they both had a heartfelt conversation and actually talked and reached a deal without "extreme" measures :)
 
 
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10:36 AM
@CaldeiraG Why don't you upvote it if you like it? ^^'
 
@JAD o_o
 
JAD
It looks like it's a copy-replace questionnaire, since the same questions are asked about Dysthymia
 
@CaldeiraG I retracted my close vote too. There were 2, now 1.
@JAD doesnt look like they're aware of what they're printing..
Caldeira (I hope it's the name) (Cal is better though,) it's hard to go to extremes when OP is cool enough to sit back, think, post a question and considers help. Extreme people don't visit IPS for suggestions I guess.
Loved the Grrr @Ælis!
 
JAD
@ankii It's kinda braindead. It looks very much to me like they have some binary decision tree: "mentions mental affliction yes/no, if yes, send additional questions"
 
emphasis on mentions
 
JAD
10:50 AM
eh, they explicitly ask for it
 
I hope they simply dont filter the mentions out.
Oh life insurance, I thought it was job
 
@Ælis Well, i was busy typing here and forgot to upvote :p but i did now
@ankii Cal is fine for me :) by extreme I mean, ending abruptly the friendship without a clear explanation
 
Ah that's better ..
 
I was going to frame challenge that question
But not in the mood yesterday to write an answer :p
 
JAD
11:07 AM
@ankii oh yeah, that's a relevant distinction lol
 
11:53 AM
| (flagged as NAA) | I'm doubtful about this one, should it be deleted? interpersonal.stackexchange.com/a/23029/4550
personal XP is little so I'm unsure whether it should go or if it's just judged by the community as not really useful for the given situation
 
Ugh, dangit :/
I came here to escape all the noise outside, and look at the star board.
 
@M.A.R. TAS is pretty safe for that, no worries
@M.A.R. how's it going for you?
 
Pretty great! You?
 
That is long gone and is just a forewarning. TCS has also refrained from chatting about it.
 
heh, glad to hear that! :) I'm good
 
12:05 PM
@avazula I feel latter. It is a rude approach, thus a bit hated, but technically a solution.
can't say I haven't used it.
 
@avazula Uh, to me it seems like the whole point of such a post would be how to avoid running into a situation like that in the future.
Is the point of interpersonal skills being a smartass, or not getting into a fight whenever something happens?
I'm overgeneralizing but I hope you know what I mean.
@ankii Google says Tata Consultancy Services
India-based
 
yes I dont know how I missed this.. maybe it doesnt come to out college for hiring.
oh F
I meant TSR, But TCS isn't talking about it either. so it fits.
 
@ankii Maybe you could translate and tell us what are thise two chatrooms? ^^
 
12:20 PM

 The Screening Room

“We are all the pieces of what we remember. We hold in ourselv...
TCS was a mistake unless it exists. it is an India based company.
 
Oh, right, thanks for the link ^^
 
answerer didnt reply to your comment on answer that Ava asked eyes for.
guess I'd downvote it too
 
12:36 PM
@ankii Haha, between you and me, I think Ankit cares more about Shah Rukh Khan's next movie.
Don't tell him I said that.
Actually, definitely don't, because it might look like a compliment.
 
@M.A.R. I definitely care very less about his movies.. I started ignoring them long time ago..
doesnt seem so charming to me.
he doesnt visit this room... he won't know unless someone quotes it there.. .;)
 
I'm not an avid Bollywood follower, so my impression is probably flawed, but it seems like Iran, just on a larger and more financially focused scale.
Our cinema used to be great.
The latest TV series make me ashamed of even being connected to them by mere nationality.
 
you could put some Iran-i movie on Movie of the day there...
 
Pretentious highfalutin sprinkled with state propaganda produced by people that don't know or care.
 
ah yes, @Ælis TSR is great for movie recommendations. Just search Movie of the day
@M.A.R. propaganda is what Russians do in their TV. rest all are dwarfed by it.
No offence to anyone, I am pointing to Chernobyl.
 
12:44 PM
@ankii IIRC @Ælis is not really interested in a wide range of movies.
 
then it's for everyone gotten free time. ;p
 
@ankii Distorting facts is despicable everywhere. Doesn't need a competition.
 
my tolerance is definitely sensitive to scale of distortion.
I usually read wiki etc for some factual reference in such cases
bye tho..
 
See ya
@ankii Hey, if some pedant were around, you would have gotten a "Don't refer to Wikipedia as wiki!"
They're kinda right
And have made me grown quite sensitive about it
No, don't do it, don't you say it!
Dangit.
DON'T REFER TO WIKIPEDIA AS WIKI! Phew, that was relieving
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@M.A.R. Ok. I'll see what the wiki says about it...
 
12:55 PM
@M.A.R. wait, why?
 
@Rainbacon I dunno, not enough of a Wikipedian to understand them
But I guess "wiki" means "resource" or something.
Even if it's a term coined by Wikipedia. I dunno the etymology
 
I just realize, since I hit the 200 rep cap, I can downvote a lot of IPS questions/answers for "free"! This is giving a lots of ideas to evil me :p
 
@JAD I mean, my symptoms certainly have more impact on me some days than others, but I'm not sure I'd say that it goes away entirely
 
@Ælis Shh, don't say that when the blue name is watching . . .
 
12:59 PM
@M.A.R. Don't worry, the blue name who is currently watching isn't an IPS mod :p
 
@JourneymanGeek Sounds like a Hawaiian dance
 
JAD
@Rainbacon sure, but it's not like I could pinpoint that for yesterday, let alone the last 10 yeras
 
I personally love the idea of reading a book and discussing it or telling the story to other people. Me and my boyfriend do it a lot. We also read the same book and afterwards we see the movie adaptation(when the book has one) and discuss the differences and alikes. Its a pleasant and low energy activity two can carry easily. — Peacekeeper 43 secs ago
#22599 Peacekeeper (50 rep) | A: How to make clear to my boyfriend that I simply don't have anything to talk about (score: 15) | posted 56 days ago by Wrokar (659 rep) | Toxicity 0.039180465 | Comment on inactive post | tps/fps: 0/0
 
@JAD TBF, some similar things are asked of most patients
I mean, patients with a serious condition
I guess it speaks more about the mindset.
 
JAD
1:14 PM
@M.A.R. eh, it's similar to asking an amputee when they didn't have their limb. It's just not something that turns on and off
 
Turning arm on
 
 
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3:06 PM
Offering "nice pictures" when trying to not be a creepy online guy might be not the best vibe here. Otherwise I agree with your answer. — infinitezero 1 min ago
#23045 infinitezero (279 rep) | A: How to make a gift without seeming creepy? (score: 43) | posted 25 hours ago by Ælis (9150 rep) | Toxicity 0.26990682 | tps/fps: 0/0
Matched regex(es) ["chatty"]
 
@IPSCommentBot fp
 
Marked this comment as caught incorrectly (fp). Currently marked 0tps/1fps
 
3:29 PM
@scohe001 Nice joke :p And thanks for the suggest phrasing, I'm not sure I would have been able to make something not loaded up (since I'm not a native, I might have not see the issue)
 
Yea, I figured it was an English issue. We wouldn't really say "nice photos" like that casually, so it's pretty easy to interpret it with a sexual tone. Glad you liked my phrasing :D
 
Joke? Where? :D
I could use a good laugh. I always do!
 
@avazula It's nice that you are asking since it's some comments that can be cleaned now :p interpersonal.stackexchange.com/questions/23043/… (Mouahaha, I'm evil :p )
 
3:44 PM
Sometimes I think it's not the best that America hosts all the tech giants and paves the way for the tech world :/
 
@Ælis poof! gone. Thanks for the good laugh :D
@scohe001 :(
 
On a happier note though, I discovered yesterday that the secret to a happy pig bath is just a little bit of peanut butter on the wall
 
4:00 PM
That's amazing, I wonder if I could get something to work like that with a cat
 
Do cats like peanut butter?
 
I don't think cats like anything
 
Lol hmm. That is a conundrum.
I guess a better question would be "do cats tolerate peanut butter?"
 
Yeah, I envision that the peanut butter would work with a dog, but it might need to be something else for a cat
 
@scohe001 awwww
@Rainbacon my cat likes SO MANY foods.. even foods she should definitely not like :P
 
4:03 PM
@EmC Oh, which ones?
 
things with garlic and chocolate in them are the usual problems, those aren't good for cats
I've also caught her licking a coffee mug -__-
 
garlic, interesting. I didn't know that was bad for cats
 
our other cat loves anything coconut, and if you spray whipped cream from a can he comes running
it's pretty funny to watch
 
@EmC Lol that sounds hilarious
 
The only time our cat comes running is when I get up in the morning
 
4:06 PM
haha yeah both our cats get very excited about that, because it means (or they think it means) breakfast
 
Yep, that's exactly it. Interestingly, as I've learned this week. If my wife gets up first and feeds the cat, she still runs to me and tries to get me to feed her when I get up, but if I get up and feed her, she doesn't try to get extra food from my wife. I guess she thinks I'm more gullible
 
hahaha
 
Looks like even the cats know not to try to mess with mom :p
 
Well, she's had the cat longer than she's had me
 
Dang. That's actually a funny way of thinking about it
 
4:40 PM
Just saw your comment @Rain. 110% agree. I think you said it a lot better than I did too
 
NVZ
sad day on se.
 
@NVZ No talking about that in this chat please :)
 
NVZ
happy to be on ips, as always
 
@NVZ sad week :/ but we'll pull through I'm sure. It's just a question of how the rest of the landscape will look :/
 
 
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6:05 PM
we have enough programmers in this room that you might appreciate this meme I just saw:
 
x)
 
I'm working in Java and.. yep that about sums up my code right now :P
 
I kind of envy you. Lately pretty much all I have done is run my tests and tell the devs: "It's not working", "still not working", "nope, still not". I miss actually having to write some code...
 
:(
that sounds really frustrating, having to wait on them
 
Well, they too have to wait on me. But yes, interdependance like that is not fun. I wish they could run my tests without my help, but it's not currently possible. And the project we are testing (and who isn't working!!!) has priority however: making my test runnable by everyone
 
6:15 PM
@EmC Java is rough, but it must be nice having types though
 
@Rainbacon true that ;)
 
In other news, I'm planning on visiting a shelter this weekend. I'm thinking more and more about adopting a cat and, well, I guess visiting a shelter will help me make up my mind (to be accurate, I already know that I want a cat someday, but I want to help my mind switch this "someday" to "soon" or "now")
 
@Ælis :D take pictures?
 
@EmC I don't want to get attach by a cat I finaly won't adopt, so I don't think I will take pictures but, once I have a cat, I will definitively do :D (I'll probably even flood all of you with pictures :p )
 
deal :D
 
6:22 PM
In the meantime, if anyone wants to share pets pictures with me, I'm "all eyes" :p
 
^ that's my kitty stalking peanut butter cookies on my desk
(from a week ago or so, but the most recent good picture I have of her :P)
 
@EmC LOL this is gold
 
@EmC Aaawww, so cute <3
 
@EmC also this one's a cutie. I guess cats do like peanut butter :p
 
haha yep
I have a pic of her trying to steal cookies somewhere too
 
6:33 PM
@scohe001 I didn't told you before, but Finley (do I remember the name correctly?) is also very cute on this video :D (I guess just seeing animals is making my heart melt these days ^^)
 
@Ælis haha thank you! You got his name right, btw :)
 
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Omg this is incredible
Caught red-pawed
 
*-*
 
she can be very persistent too :P
but she usually tries to be sneaky about it
 
6:38 PM
I want to hug your cat sooooo much * - *
 
aww.. sadly she doesn't like hugs :c
 
Speaking of cat paws, I've got an @AJ style joke for you: What's the difference between a cat and a comma?
 
@EmC Well then, good thing I'm living far away :p
 
@Ælis hehe. yeah, she's very much a "I will decide when you are allowed to pet me" sort of kitty :P
 
@scohe001 No idea but the "AJ style joke" made me laught :p
 
6:40 PM
Hmm, I was going to upload a cat photo, but it appears that mobile chat won't let me
 
A cat has paws at the end of its claws, while a comma has a clause at the end of its pause!
3
 
@EmC At least she knows how to properly train her humans :p
 
@scohe001 lol that's a good one
(unlike my chat replying skills)
 
@EmC I love that.
 
@Rainbacon They might be jealous :p ("chat" in French = "cat" in English)
@EmC Did you also star the wrong message? x)
 
6:43 PM
@Ælis argh
 
race conditions :P
 
There we go. Just had to go pull it down to my computer from the cloud
 
@Rainbacon so pretty!!
 
@Rainbacon why does your cat look like an evil overload O_O (but like a gorgeous evil overlord)
 
6:44 PM
Yeah, she's pretty cute
@scohe001 Oh, she's definitely trying to rule the world
 
@Rainbacon She look so jaded x)
 
Yeah, she usually does look like that
 
Oh also I think I forgot to tell you guys, but a few weekends ago, we tried to help Finley develop some interpersonal skills
Turns out he's got a long way to go
 
I believe you already told us, but you didn't share that picture, so that's nice :)
 
Ahh my b
 
6:53 PM
What did he do that says he has a long way to go?
 
He kinda sniffed at the dog (who ignored him) and then walked off to continue looking for food lol he's a little anti-social for now
We tried again this past weekend with some more energetic dogs and every time they'd approach him, he'd run off. So I think we just need to get him more used to other animals. (which means more piggy-playdates)
 
Well, at least he didn't bite the dog
 
Oof yea. Or vice versa.
As a prey animal, he'd really only try to attack like that if he really felt backed into a corner
 
Hmm, he looks pretty backed into a corner in that photo
 
Lol nah, he was fine there because the dog just stood there ignoring him the whole time. But the others from this weekend would run up to him or jump at him.
 
7:18 PM
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Q: Ego, jealousy issues among junior colleagues in small group

Suddhasattwa Ghosh Is there any way (diplomatic or otherwise) out to handle serious ego & jealousy issues among junior colleagues by a leader of small working group. On few occasions, we find individuals breaking down emotionally when they realize somebody within the group is performing better than them although th...

 
@ExtrovertedMainMan Right now that looks like a what should I do
 
@Rainbacon Honestly, there isn't enough detail in it for it to be a "what should I do", IMO
 
"what should be the approach of the group leader; allow the individual to leave or to pacify the individual to carry on."
 
@Rainbacon Didn't even spotted this one. They should really be interogation mark on it, that would at least start to make the question clearer
 
Yeah
@Ælis I really need to write some answers. While your rep has been going up, mine went down today :(
 
7:34 PM
I started writing an answer to that meta about adding backup last week.. then other things happened.. still need to finish it :/
and I just got comments on another meta answer that I need to respond to
no rep for that though :P
 
@Rainbacon Arf :/ Also, you might want to try asking questions too. At least, with questions, you don't need to come up with the relevant experience or other form of backup. Also, it gives me a chance to answer more stuff and gain rep quicker :p
@EmC I would be curious to read that answer. You really shouldn't teasing me about such things :p
 
7:55 PM
@Ælis haha, right now it's a lot of half-finished thoughts in a doc.. knowing there's people waiting to read it helps with motivation :D
 
Yay \o/
In case you are wondering, this is how social I am:
x)
 
Haha, you'd do great in NYC
 
Thank you (what do you mean, "that's not really a compliment?") :p
 
It's a commonly discussed thing that true New Yorkers close the elevator doors before others can get in
 
8:18 PM
randomly wanders back in I feel like the rest of the crowds that I hear are in NYC make that not worth it for her :-p
 
Nah, they'd be fine here. NYC is a great city to be in if you hate crowds
Just avoid the tourist places and Penn Station and you're fine
 
@Ælis \o/ XD
 
NYC's great! With the exception of Midtown, if you're trying to get anywhere.
 
@HDE226868 Honestly, I don't mind midtown too much as long as I'm in the parts that aren't Times Square, Herald Square, or Penn Station
But certainly the other parts of town are much less crowded
 
@Rainbacon Yeah, those are the worst. . .
 
8:37 PM
.. Penn Station is not a sandwich place I assume? xD
 
@TheTinyMan Sadly not
It is in fact one of many train stations which all share a name
 
A sandwich place would probably be more pleasant, though.
 
Ahhh neat!
 
That I know of, there's one in NYC and one in Newark.
I think that the Pennsylvania railroad was a bit lazy in naming their stations
@user58 You got a new profile picture, that's going to take some getting used to
It looks nice though
 
It's temporary.
 
8:45 PM
Any particular reason? Or would you rather not say?
 
There were TL screenshots leaked publicly. I'm taking precautions.
 
ah
 
@user58 In case you need it: you are awsome. I hope you aren't too negativily affected by what is going on lately and I hope things will get better soon. Also, ouch for those public leaking. I'm sorry you have to go through that :/ Sending you all my love <3
 
Thanks. :)
 
For what it's worth, I'm with @Ælis on this one. Users 1-57 have got nothing on you :)
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9:06 PM
@user58 [extremely strong words].. haven't been in there today. sending happier thoughts your way <3
 
9:23 PM
Thanks, it means a lot to me. It's been a tough week.
 
I can offer cat pics :) that's our other one
 
9:50 PM
@EmC Cats, yay, cute :D
@scohe001 I agree :)
 
@CaldeiraG he's very cute when he's sleeping ;)
 
This couple of days been rough about moderators :(
@EmC Sweet ;p
 
@CaldeiraG he's cute when he's awake too, but if he's hungry.. can be annoying :P
 
@EmC XD aren't we all when we're hungry? :)
 
hahaha
 
10:16 PM
@Ælis I consider flagging it NAA when they haven't done anything to their post within 10 or so hours after I or someone else comments
it really depends. if it's a new user, I give them more time especially if the answer is a well written one, it just needs backup
 
user15026
10:37 PM
@user58 Oh, I hope everything's okay <3
 
user15026
(Also I like your profile's ears/headband thing. It's cute.)
 

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