The Awkward Silence

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Q: How Can We Incorporate Academic Literature into IPS.SE?

I'm on record as being concerned about the difficulties of basing questions and answers exclusively about published academic literature here on IPS.SE. The summary version is that I don't think that more focus on published research will improve IPS.SE question or answer quality very much, will ca...

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Extroverted Main Man

00:41

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Q: Date's grand-parent died. Did I do right?

Context I'm a man (22), talking about a woman (24). We met on a dating site. From there been talking pretty much non stop everyday for quite some time. We had a first date last saturday. The goal of both sides was purely to discuss and check the feeling (I had proposed a movie, but she said...

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ElizB

01:33

@Noon the eye contact question you had is open :) Yay!

El'endia Starman

\o/ I was discouraged earlier but now I'll get back to working on that answer. :D

ElizB

02:20

10 months married to @El'endiaStarman today! hehe okay i'm done being cheesy

El'endia Starman

02:30

Oh, just y'all wait until we hit 12 months...

Rainbacon

02:47

Happy 10 months @El'endiaStarman and @ElizB!

ElizB

@Rainbacon Thank you! :)

El'endia Starman

03:35

Finally posted that answer. :D

Rainbacon

05:00

@El'endiaStarman It's a great answer

El'endia Starman

05:26

Thanks! :)

dhein

@ElizB Well, to be honest, I was a little scared approaching them back then last year. But not for the effort, but cause I was scared of the language barrier gonna cause missunderstandings. But they all for so kind and funny folks I really enjoyed it. I want to share a funny anecdote about it with you :D

When I was spending time with them, one of them could hear if you were speaking loud into his ears, as long a ear device he had was on power, and also He was able to speak a little. He kept translating for me and his mates. But for one I didn't liked that cause most of his mates seemed a bit annoyed of it and for the other part, I wanted to integrate so they feel comfortable. So at one point I asked him to stop translating and rather just explaining me how to gesticulate the words I needed.

All of them except one were seemingly appreciating that. So when at some point we walked to join some partying folks at another hut, that guy who might have been a bit annoyed of me was walking like 10 meters ahead and the guy who was able to talk with me walked with me. So I whispered into his ear "Tell me, is you friend allways like that, or does he not like me?"

And he just responded "I can't understand you, could you please speak up a bit? I mean he can't hear you anyways, you don't need to whisper"

And a good morning to all of you :)

Extroverted Main Man

05:42

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Q: Is my friendship twisted and does she abuse me?

Some people tell me my friendship with Cheyenne is twisted me and Cheyenne love each other we're like sisters but Cheyenne can be bitchy, bossy, snobbish, judging, rude, selfish, and cold. But underneath all of that she cares and I can tell when I needed her she was there through heartbreaks, whe...

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dhein

06:59

@avazula @Noon I had by the way yesterday my conversation with our councelot :) She actually was more or less inline with what you 2 said. But we found a way how I can approach my coworker in telling her about the different screen setting without either having to lie, nor without having to mention the underlying reason :)

Tinkeringbell

07:59

Good morning!

yawn

dhein

@Rainbacon I am waking up at 4.30 so I can leave my room at 5.30 an am at work at 6 am x'D Just to add my 2 cents xD

Hah morning :P

avazula

08:47

Hello-every-one! ♥

Tinkeringbell

Heya!

avazula

How are you doing today? :)

Tinkeringbell

Cold! It's freezing here

(and my bedroom isn't all that well isolated, so...)

I have an extra sweater, and two blankets :)

avazula

@Tinkeringbell so comfy :)

It's -2°C here as well

but the heating is quite good in our offices

dhein

+2 here :x I hope it starts freezing by 25th jan aswell. ^^

Noon

09:41

Hello people! :D

I know that makes me an annoying person, but I love discovering things that aren't right so that I can fix them (by telling people that they should do better ^^'). And, on the web site that I'm testing, I just found a lot of things that aren't right at all for accessibility. Right now, I feel like someone who just discovered a gold mine :p

dhein

09:56

@Noon: I know how you feel xP I once was like that too. I just changed it cause I couldn't bear the intersocial stress this was bringing with it anymore. But if you can, have fun mining <3

Noon

@dhein Hehe, thanks :p

Noon

10:45

@dhein About the fact that doing this is bringing intersocial stress, I'm doing this because it's my job to check and report things like that. I do it less otherwise because it brings conflicts which is draining (but I still do it because I find it wrong to not try to fix things)

motosubatsu

@Noon there's nothing with enjoying hunting down and fixing and improving things in pretty much any aspect of life - where it becomes problematic (outside of a tester/QA role) is the "by telling people that they should do better"

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Noon

@motosubatsu Well, I see nothing wrong with telling people "stop making racist/sexist/homophobe/transphobe/etc... jokes". Of course it must be said in a proper way for it to work, but otherwise...

motosubatsu

@Noon I'd agree with you there.. I should probably be more specific in that I was thinking more along the lines of telling people how to do things in general

stopping abusive behavior of course is always a laudable goal

Extroverted Main Man

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Q: What to do if a potential sugar baby steal money?

A friend of mine found out that someone withdraw money from his ATM. He is very surprised. The event was yesterday and his memory was still very fresh. As far as he know, he never lost the ATM card. The bank told him about the exact time and location the ATM is lost. He checked CCTV. That is ...

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Noon

@motosubatsu Well, if what someone do isn't impacting me or anyone else in a bad/dangerous way, I really don't care ^^

motosubatsu

10:56

@Noon cool.. sounds like we are in broad agreement there then

apologies if I looked like I was jumping on you - that really wasn't my intent

Noon

@motosubatsu Don't worrie, it's fine :)

dhein

12:01

@Noon Ah I get it. Yeah, but even if it was my job, and no one would directly support my point (dunno if that is the case for you, but it sometimes sounds like) I would just reduce the effort I am putting in it. Don't understand it as an advice. As said if you can handle it, great thing :)

@Noon Well it becomes problematic, as you are judging by your view of what defines these ethical standards. And by indoctrinating others to act acording to your ethical standards, it gets problematic. Even if you are right about it others might have slightly different views and that way you get someone in opposition who might otherwise even be on your side.

Not to mention, the impact it had in cases where you possibly are "wrong". If that makes any sense >.<

Rainbacon

13:10

@dhein Too early

@avazula It's 0C here. And I had to walk to work while it was snowing because the bus was too far away.

Noon

@dhein I'm really not up for a debate, nor am I up to dig further into what you intend to say but I just wanted to tell you that we probably have different views on that

dhein

13:42

@Noon I know ;)

Noon

14:06

You know what people? We have 666 meta questions! :O

Rainbacon

:O

dhein

14:29

Maybe thats why my server died xD

avazula

This inspires me one of my fav metal songs but I'll save it for myself x)

scohe001

@avazula ooh is it in English? Or French?

I don't think I've ever heard any French metal...

avazula

@scohe001 English. But if you wanna hear french humouristic metal, I got your back :p

scohe001

Humouristic metal?

Might as well send links to both, now you have me curious

avazula

@scohe001 Okay, so that devil meta remark made me thought about this

And one pretty good example of French humouristic metal is that

there's also German sentences in it

Introverted Meta Man.

14:43

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Q: The great canonical library

I suggest using this question to post canonical questions that we can't answer on IPS. Here are the rules: One answer per canonical question Every answer must contain: The title of the question A link (or more) to a resource able to answer the question A summary of what the link contains Aft...

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Noon

@IntrovertedMetaMan. Wow, you are so quick today!

scohe001

@Noon he must be peeved about my comment yesterday, he's trying to make up for his less cool avatar

@avazula ooh I'll check em out after scrum!

Noon

@scohe001 Ahah, it must be that :p

Extroverted Main Man

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Q: How can I correct text of another person during a chat without being pedant or making fun of the other person?

A written chat is not a good channel of communication for no verbal language, hence, is quite easy to make mistakes because each side might add different context to the sentences. This might cause difficulties whenever a correction, a negative or a disagreement has to be said in a written chat. ...

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El'endia Starman

@Noon When Christianity.SE was at 665 main site questions, three people posted a question about 666. :P

Noon

14:53

@El'endiaStarman Haha, that was something to be expected on a site name "Christianity" :P I wonder if this number also have particular meaning in other "culture"

El'endia Starman

Doubtful. Small numbers tend to lend themselves really well to numerology and so you might find those repeated in independent cultures (e.g. the significance of 7 - 7 days in a week, 7 chakras, etc). Large numbers, on the other hand, probably won't pop up independently in different cultures.

Noon

@El'endiaStarman Unless you are also counting using a base 10. In this case, the fact that the "6" repeat themselves might also lead to a special meaning

Changing subject but I must say I'm quite baffled at how popular my "eye contact question" is (judging on the number of upvote on my question + its answer)

scohe001

@El'endiaStarman 613 and 18 are both auspicious in Judaism, but those are the biggest I know of

motosubatsu

it crops up in Thelema, although that's hardly occuring independently

El'endia Starman

@scohe001 What about 40?

scohe001

15:14

@El'endiaStarman huh. I didn't even realize until reading the Wikipedia just how often 40 pops up. I never noticed, but with all those examples it points out it makes sense. It's funny since 4 is such terrible luck in the eastern cultures

Tinkeringbell

> The number 40 is used in Jewish, Christian, Islamic, and other Middle Eastern traditions to represent a large, approximate number, similar to "umpteen".

:D

Whenever there's a public transport delay, I'm now going to say it was 40 minutes long

El'endia Starman

@Tinkeringbell Huh, interesting! That actually makes a fair amount of sense...

Tinkeringbell

It's almost like 'There's not enough fingers and toes on two people to count this, so it has to be a lot! XD'

scohe001

@avazula Ooh Avenged Sevenfold is always 👌

@avazula LOL I love this. The humor is perfect and the song actually isn't bad! :p

El'endia Starman

Though it's probably also worth noting that the Book of Revelation has several huge numbers, like the 144,000 people sealed for God; 12,000 from each of the 12 tribes of Israel.

Noon

15:26

Should we close this question? I mean, the answers there don't seem to have any real backup or are mostly "in my opinion blablabla because of this and that"

avazula

15:42

@scohe001 haha :)

ElizB

16:40

@dhein Lots of people are nervous about the language barrier but I'm really honestly impressed that you told the group that you wanted to gesture your communication and learn some signs

Good morning :)

Got some snow this morning, and we're anticipating at least a foot or two of snow Saturday night through Sunday all day

Extroverted Main Man

18:30

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Q: How can I discuss beer without sounding like a snob?

I like beer. I like drinking it, discovering it, and I just recently started brewing it. Needless to say, one of my common topics of conversation is beer (of course there are plenty more, and beer is not my go-to for sure). When people say “yeah I like beer” in conversation and I mention that I ...

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dhein

18:58

@ElizB I found that kinda... self-evident, that sfter they invited me so kind, that I should not expect them to comply with me. And I found it honestly exciting :) But maybe they were impressed, too. That would explain why all except the one changed their attitude significantly possitive towards me after I started that :)

And morning to you too :)

Extroverted Main Man

19:33

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Q: How do I talk to my housemate about bathroom hygiene?

I live in a shared house with 3 other people through my college's housing program. We have our own rooms, a common kitchen and living room, and two bathrooms (1 per two people). The person I share a bathroom with has a problem with keeping poop inside the toilet. In particular, I've come home on ...

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Extroverted Main Man

23:30

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Q: Is it considered good etiquette to compliment a woman’s makeup?

Situation: Yesterday I was instructed to go to a small conference several of my colleagues were attending. It was short in duration and gave everyone the opportunity to socialize a bit after it was finished. I talked with my new friend (female) again and noticed her makeup. It wasn’t unusual si...

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