Here's the scenario:
I have a friend who had/has really abusive parents who are part of a tightly knit expatriate South Asian community from a certain minority ethnic/religious group here in our small-ish US city. She experienced the community as very toxic, and although she was born in the US, ...
A few months ago, a friend that I know in real life has invited me and a few friends to join a Discord server to play with some other people. Two of these people that I didn't know and that are quite close friends with each other have a (slightly to highly) toxic behavior towards the other people...
I'm an young high school student that really like dressing up as a girl in my house when my parents aren't here I usually use my moms cloths but I wanna get my own too I really don't know how to go approach a cashier with girl tights! I really want a white pair but I'm too afraid that people wil...
You can always start the conversation. Don't give them time to run away, ask a question right away. I doubt they will completely ignore you after you gave them a cigarette. If they do, you should tell them that they are being rude. — Bakuriu2 mins ago
I work in IT sector and I believe in perfection and following industry best practices in my work. People in my team believe in delivering projects before time and earning brownie points even if the project has bugs and the code is not streamlined. Somehow this practice doesn't go well with me. Al...
Can someone guide me to questions about dealing with irritating people? I have searched for them, but I wish to know them from the veterans who know the questions in and out.
I thought 6 recommend deletions removed posts. Something wrong?
https://interpersonal.stackexchange.com/review/low-quality-posts/7632
After the review, I went ahead and downvoted it to balance the 1 positive score it had, which was what denied me the permission to actually vote to delete. But I...
Why does it matter whether or not they know? Are you saying that you need to be treated differently or that we should have different expectations of you due to your being a woman? — Delta_G50 secs ago
This question is related to How to politely notify in an online conversation that I am a woman?.
In my non-internet life, I identify nonambiguously as female. However, on the internet, it's important to me to be gender-unknown. I don't want people to assume either gender. Note that some of th...
As said, the "question" is actually several questions. Before you can follow any course of action, you need to decide what then end should look like, then you can plan how to get there. All of your options are valid, on their own, but not together. Refine, in your mind, what you want, then edit your question to ask one question. I'll gladly vote to reopen the question once that happens. Until then I have to vote for it to be put on hold. — Witan ap Danu1 min ago
If someone assumes you are female without any basis and refers to you as a she would this bother you about their motivations on a predominantly male field? How do you refer to a gender non-specific person if you have no clue they prefer neither male nor female? Is it rude of you or is it just a simple first approximation for you to assume they might be a "he" if they say they are not female but have not bothered to say they prefer "it" yet. It boils down to a basic thing, if your gender pronoun is important to you, then let people know in advance. — KalleMP3 hours ago
The problem with it as a pronoun is that if I abide by the wishes of someone who wants to be called "it" is that it indicates to anyone who doesn't know it that I am denying someone's gender and am not safe/respectful.
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It's a little complicated but in those cases, if someone mentions it, you can just go "this is <name>'s preferred pronoun, I am using it at it's request"
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And then if they push it further, well, they can either speak to the person about the issue if they know the person, or they can accept my response, or they can be jerks about it and I won't waste more time on interacting with them
To do that I'd need to keep a running tally of who I've explained it two and hope that I'm not overhead by third parties. Given how poorly local trans spaces respond to the misgendering of their people, there is a risk of being silenced before given room to explain.
I'm all for queer spaces protecting their members. This is an unintended consequence of using it as a human pronoun.
Can anyone shed some light on the IPS Comment Bot's function? I notice that my comment matched the regex, and don't know what that means. Is it good or bad?
An old friend and I reconnected and I asked her out for coffee for a chance to catch up. It wasn't a date, but more of an opportunity to see if we still had the same rapport that we used to have. I'm not sure if she saw it the same way or really how she saw it at all, but that's beside the point....
@WitanapDanu For instance while trying to detect answers in comments filtering comments that say "you need" seems like a good idea since "You need to do x" is definitely telling the OP what to do. What a regex cannot do is determine whether You need to do x is a solution to the question or a suggestion of how to fix the question, to make it acceptable for this site.
I thought 6 recommend deletions removed posts. Something wrong?
https://interpersonal.stackexchange.com/review/low-quality-posts/7632
After the review, I went ahead and downvoted it to balance the 1 positive score it had, which was what denied me the permission to actually vote to delete. But I...
This question is related to How to politely notify in an online conversation that I am a woman?.
In my non-internet life, I identify nonambiguously as female. However, on the internet, it's important to me to be gender-unknown. I don't want people to assume either gender. Note that some of th...
