I don't pretend to fully understand the pronoun issue, but under Network Baclground, my understanding is that the issue is more complex than described. Some people want "they". Others are offended by "they" and want a requirement that their preferred pronoun be used. Some claim that anything other than their preferred pronoun, including use of their username or disengaging, is offensive. Parsing some of this into the timeline seems inaccurate. —
fixer1234 Oct 4 '19 at 21:22