aight, well I've googled my heart out (again) and I still cannot win...
iptstate -D 22 lists:
<myip>:51215
netstat -a lists:
127.0.0.1:13211
my ssh tunnel command is crap, but unfortunately I cannot change that, I connect from device to server with ssh -R 13211:127.0.0.1:13211 -l username server -N