Okay, I see your point. I just don't think that is a serious risk, and I don't think you can change it anyway. It is already by far the greatest taboo in Western society.
Should the girl's happiness be sacrificed for this hypothetical effect?
> a strong causal relationship has been established between child and adolescent offenders and these offenders' own prior victimization, by either adults or other children.
Prudie got another letter, by a single dad who was going to host a sleep-over for his four daughters and their friends. He was afraid they wouldn't allow their children to come if he didn't have an adult women there with him, because, who knows? He might be a pedophile, like every adult, and especially every man. Don't you think this paranoia is extremely harmful?
I do care about the girl's life. Now, if there was violence, that would make it so bad in my opinion that perhaps even decades later something should be done.
@KitFox The family doesn't know: they will cry and be in shock and have to pick sides and it will all be a mess for years. No normal family life for the next decade. Stress. Hear attacks.
If you would speak up, and the boy friend would, even after decades, is it likely that she touched many other children in a way that causes more harm than to this girl?
I think that makes it a whole lot less harmful than with force or violence, yes, as you can see in this girl, who apparently doesn't feel she was harmed at all.
@KitFox You keep trying to make me say "pedophilia is OK". It's not. I have said this 10 times already: it should be illegal either way, but my point is just that it's far worse if there was force or violence.
I do think it's harsh to just say that a victim has the responsibility of reporting. It has got to be hard to have the courage to come forward. And it's hard enough for many victims to be believed and taken seriously the moment afterward, when there is evidence; it is certainly more difficult years later.
There are a lot of crimes I would never bother turning someone in for. Jaywalking. Driving ten miles an hour over the speed limit. Drinking before it's turned midnight on your twenty-first birthday.
You don't seem to understand that this crime may have happened ten years ago, but the likelihood is that the relative is still committing these crimes.
@KitFox I most probably would make sure he would be unable to continue, in whatever way possible. But the first thing I would want to do is get all the facts I can get. What is he doing to these children? Is he merely showing them pornography as a joke? That's a sex crime.
> Q. Hard to Discuss: I love my girlfriend very much, but there has been a topic that I find it hard to discuss, and it always leaves me upset. When she was 11, she noticed a relative (in her 30s) in a sexual manner who then took advantage of that and engaged in sexual activities with her.
> My girlfriend insists that she was not molested and that she was never really a child and participated willingly. While I reluctantly believe that she is OK with that, I think that woman is a monster for taking advantage of someone so young. My girlfriend doesn't think that her relative is disgusting. She herself isn't a pedophile, but her defense of that woman leaves me angry. I don't know what to think about any of this or how I should feel.
@Cerberus Child abuse from a long time ago has already caused a lot of grief. Are you saying don't rock the boat because incidents that caused a person ongoing suffering happened a long time ago? You're not really saying that, are you?
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