12:06 AM
#9070 Mr.J (rep: 111) | A: How to tell people I'm not their tech support? (score: 1) | posted 2 days ago by Mr.J (111 rep)
I can tell she's likely anxious by what you mentioned of her reactions and possibly she knows it. It's not a reflection on you but a trigger reaction of how past partners treated her. In her head when certain situations occur, they react negatively and treat her that way. It sounds like perhaps past exes would blame or act like things are her fault so that's become her baseline in those situations. You're already making an effort to make her comfortable and she'll need encouragement to make an effort to trust that you're different. — doctordonna 7 secs ago
#9130 doctordonna (rep: 411) | A: Tips on reassuring partner with bad experiences with previous partners (score: 1) | posted 30 hours ago by doctordonna (411 rep)
"Please visit superuser.com and post your question there and someone there will help you." Now you have offered them a useful suggestion on where to get help. — cybernard 22 secs ago
#9042 cybernard (rep: 109) | Q: How to tell people I'm not their tech support? (score: 88) | posted 3 days ago by NaCl (478 rep)
If you normally have an answer to their questions, why does it matter if their questions relate to your job or not? If someone asked me "can you reach that off the top shelf for me" I wouldn't respond with "well I can, but I really only write software for C++". I think OP's problem is he gets asked questions he doesn't know the answer to, but people assumes he does because of his profession. — Edmund Reed 50 secs ago
#9045 Edmund Reed (rep: 101) | A: How to tell people I'm not their tech support? (score: 32) | posted 3 days ago by Clay07g (531 rep) | edited 3 days ago by Kat (1555 rep)
12:45 AM
Very entertaining to read so many arrogant, divisive, harsh suggestions for reactions on a "Interpersonal Skills" forum. I guess that says it all. — Manuel 21 secs ago
#9104 Manuel (rep: 101) | A: Responding to being told to "smile" by a stranger? (score: 33) | posted 50 hours ago by doctordonna (411 rep) | edited 16 hours ago by Community (1 rep)
1:10 AM
Again, I have to complain about this kind of forum being on stackexchange. One of the most popular answers is in support of OP. This is outrageous. The OP has a mental illness and advocates throwing people across rooms to illustrate how this mental illness manifests itself, and comes here for UPVOTES?? — Sentinel 40 secs ago
#9016 Sentinel (rep: 190) | Q: How to stop people from touching me without having to freak out at them? (score: 46) | posted 3 days ago by Magisch (5223 rep) | edited 3 days ago by Magisch (5223 rep)
#9035 Sentinel (rep: 190) | A: How to stop people from touching me without having to freak out at them? (score: 17) | posted 3 days ago by Anne Daunted (7900 rep) | edited 2 days ago by Anne Daunted (7900 rep)
1:44 AM
People need to grow up and defend their personal space. And when getting on a metro train or queuing for a rock concert, or thrashing in a mosh pit, realize that defending their space should be put on hold. I am so listening lol — Sentinel 19 secs ago
#9026 Sentinel (rep: 190) | A: How to stop people from touching me without having to freak out at them? (score: 0) | posted 3 days ago by Chris K (81 rep)
+1, on the grounds that are supposed to be used, which is that the answer is useful. Answer provides data (anecdotal as it may be, it's more than I was able to come up with). Also provides a perspective that is alternate of the OP and many of the other answers. I'd also like to comment that I really appreciate that other perspective, contrasting the offensive question. People should be friendly, as the world is better when people are. OP should have recognized the self-failure, laughed at own error, and thereby smiled. Obviously my attitude is swimming upstream of most here. Thanks Hertz! — TOOGAM 1 min ago
#9147 TOOGAM (rep: 406) | A: Responding to being told to "smile" by a stranger? (score: 0) | posted 12 hours ago by Hertz (21 rep) | edited 12 hours ago by Hertz (21 rep)
Jesse, it makes little difference whether the clients are professionals, it is the provider of the services that should be professional. This is a business relationship, whether it's being conducted with parents in their own house is irrelevant. Your comment about treating them as clients is spot on, it's just we appear to disagree on what that means. To me, it means making it clear why certain decisions have been made. — paxdiablo 18 secs ago
#8630 paxdiablo (rep: 181) | A: How best to tell a parent I wish to stop tutoring her son? (score: 4) | posted 12 days ago by paxdiablo (181 rep)
2:01 AM
Lol professional victim at it again? This place is turning into Tumblr too fast. It's just a circlejerk of "You go girl!!" and "I can't believe I'm a guy, we are so bad!" — insidesin 43 secs ago
#9103 insidesin (rep: 101) | Q: Responding to being told to "smile" by a stranger? (score: 32) | posted 51 hours ago by Jess K. (5586 rep)
#9039 Sentinel (rep: 179) | A: How to stop people from touching me without having to freak out at them? (score: 5) | posted 3 days ago by UnicornsSeem4EverHorny (59 rep)
2:18 AM
Comments are not for extended discussion; this conversation has been moved to chat. — Catija ♦ 1 min ago
#9104 Catija (rep: 8591) | A: Responding to being told to "smile" by a stranger? (score: 33) | posted 51 hours ago by doctordonna (409 rep) | edited 18 hours ago by Community (1 rep)
2:33 AM
@Edumund_Reed It is rude to assume that someone knows everything about a subject because they work in a related field. Period. Whether or not the assumption is correct really doesn't matter. The problem manifests physically when the person making the assumption does not consider that those who aren't in my field cannot do basic technical support. What if you had a friend that was convinced you were the only person who could grab an item off a shelf? — Clay07g 1 min ago
#9045 Clay07g (rep: 531) | A: How to tell people I'm not their tech support? (score: 32) | posted 3 days ago by Clay07g (531 rep) | edited 3 days ago by Kat (1555 rep)
2:58 AM
I don't mean to sound insensitive, but are you aware of any reason why you are like this? Would a more preferable solution not be to learn how to cope with people touching you? If it's just an irrational fear, it could perhaps be overcome. — Edmund Reed 43 secs ago
#9016 Edmund Reed (rep: 101) | Q: How to stop people from touching me without having to freak out at them? (score: 46) | posted 3 days ago by Magisch (5223 rep) | edited 3 days ago by Magisch (5223 rep)
3:35 AM
Thank you for taking your time to write such a nice answer and provide very helpful tips! Our windows face away from each other but im still included towards using this idea and create some sort of consistent signal. — Hanky Panky 1 min ago
#9114 Hanky Panky (rep: 111) | A: How to deal with a noisy neighbor you're on friendly terms with? (score: 2) | posted 44 hours ago by Wildcard (452 rep) | edited 44 hours ago by Wildcard (452 rep)
Printers have [shudder] moving parts. If it moves, it's a mechanical issue, and outside my field of expertise... — Alan Campbell 1 min ago
#9045 Alan Campbell (rep: 101) | A: How to tell people I'm not their tech support? (score: 32) | posted 3 days ago by Clay07g (531 rep) | edited 3 days ago by Kat (1555 rep)
@Maxim Then you have seen the light and switched to Linux... and then OpenBSD. — Thorbjørn Ravn Andersen 1 min ago
#9063 Thorbjørn Ravn Andersen (rep: 155) | A: How to tell people I'm not their tech support? (score: 5) | posted 3 days ago by Harper (567 rep)
4:38 AM
#9045 Edmund Reed (rep: 101) | A: How to tell people I'm not their tech support? (score: 32) | posted 3 days ago by Clay07g (531 rep) | edited 3 days ago by Kat (1555 rep)
4:55 AM
@cybernard: Cannot agree. I believe the more salient approach is recommending a web search, as (1) a web search may well turn up an already-existing SU/SE answer to the problem, and (2) in the highly probable case where SU already has the same question, it'll correctly get closed as a duplicate, which is just more noise and effort for the good people that contribute to that site. Naturally, if a web search doesn't find it, then asking the question (or using better search terms) is good. — Mathieu K. just now
#9042 Mathieu K. (rep: 101) | Q: How to tell people I'm not their tech support? (score: 88) | posted 3 days ago by NaCl (478 rep)
5:16 AM
#9114 Wildcard (rep: 452) | A: How to deal with a noisy neighbor you're on friendly terms with? (score: 2) | posted 46 hours ago by Wildcard (452 rep) | edited 46 hours ago by Wildcard (452 rep)
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7:42 AM
@insidesin Must feel good to be a dude bro amongst dude bros... Did you get lost on your way to Reddit? — apaul 52 secs ago
#9103 apaul (rep: 25180) | Q: Responding to being told to "smile" by a stranger? (score: 35) | posted 57 hours ago by Jess K. (5621 rep)
#9152 NVZ (rep: 8310) | A: How do I say my goodbye to a female coworker? (score: -1) | posted 9 hours ago by O. Jones (99 rep)
Do you support your conditions in some legal way, or it's just written in email/letter? Currently I see it as the latter. Perhaps you can consult legal adviser about this - if you have a valid contract and they play fast and loose with it, then you can sue them inside out - up to receiving the compensation comparable to your intended monetary award. In ideal world. — user2851843 1 min ago
#9159 user2851843 (rep: 311) | Q: Writing supply conditions that define customer's deadline (score: 1) | posted 20 minutes ago by Mark (106 rep)
@Clay07g Why would it be "Rude" of them to think you know stuff. I am a software engineer as well, and my brother is also working in IT. But because we prior went to engineering school, and naturally always spent loads of time at PCs people assume that we know a lot of technical stuff. Not because we are working in IT, but because we spent time with technology. And of course we cant know everything but how could the asker ever know what is "ok to ask" and what not? If i had a problem with my climbing shoes I'd go to my fellow climber friend because he might know, altough he is no shoemaker.. — MansNotHot 11 secs ago
#9045 MansNotHot (rep: 603) | A: How to tell people I'm not their tech support? (score: 33) | posted 3 days ago by Clay07g (541 rep) | edited 3 days ago by Kat (1555 rep)
@Clay07g The thing i wanted to point out is, if you have a problem with a subject you first normally go to the person that MIGHT have an idea or clue before you go get professional help. Because that mostly costs money. I definetily would do, and do the same. And because i have the mentality, one hand washes the other, i always like helping if i can. If not, well i can't and why on earth would the other person despise me for not knowing. Never had that in my circle of family or friends. — MansNotHot 38 secs ago
#9045 MansNotHot (rep: 603) | A: How to tell people I'm not their tech support? (score: 33) | posted 3 days ago by Clay07g (541 rep) | edited 3 days ago by Kat (1555 rep)
#9159 Mark (rep: 106) | Q: Writing supply conditions that define customer's deadline (score: 1) | posted 24 minutes ago by Mark (106 rep)
8:09 AM
#9117 Raditz_35 (rep: 180) | Q: How do I ask if I'm invited to a birthday party? (score: 2) | posted 45 hours ago by bluevapor (36 rep) | edited 41 hours ago by Anne Daunted (7898 rep)
Solid advice! I would add; if it seems like nothing is good enough, look at the invoices. If they are getting paid, the work is good enough... The performance review you suggest might be over the top for a really non-communicative client. Looking at it from the clients side, it must be tough for him to have successful work done by freelancers, if he finds one that works, he is going to hang on to him/her... — Stian Yttervik 12 secs ago
#9058 Stian Yttervik (rep: 477) | A: How do I deal with a client who doesn't respect me? (score: 68) | posted 3 days ago by michi (1462 rep) | edited 2 days ago by michi (1462 rep)
I don't think this is necessarily true. For starters, as the op notes, there are situations when you can join a party from an unknown person uninvited and it's perfectly acceptable socially. It could depend on the nature of the party, but if it's the kind a 25 year old really enjoys ... a birthday party is not a wedding. He might simply not have invited him because he himself wouldve found it socially awkward to invite someone he barely knows. I'm not saying you don't have a point, but this social rule of not doing stuff is really only ironclad in some circumstances. — Raditz_35 16 secs ago
#9155 Raditz_35 (rep: 180) | A: How do I ask if I'm invited to a birthday party? (score: 1) | posted 6 hours ago by paxdiablo (191 rep)
Yes there is some art people don't enjoy or doesn't fulfil one's criteria for what art is supposed to be. Just learn to be fine with not liking everything, you don't have to like everything. It would be nice if you valued the end product over the effort to create it, but I know many people that don't. This btw is a q&a for lack of interpersonal skills and your "question" is completely off topic. — Raditz_35 35 secs ago
#9160 Raditz_35 (rep: 180) | Q: How do appreciate people's creations that take very little effort (score: 0) | posted 16 minutes ago by gman (358 rep)
#9030 everyone (rep: 181) | A: How to stop people from touching me without having to freak out at them? (score: 1) | posted 3 days ago by everyone (181 rep)
as Wikipedia says, there will be phases when you will be contagious again from time to time without any symptoms, so you wont be able to tell when... — Kinaeh 9 secs ago
#9124 Kinaeh (rep: 109) | Q: Dating with EBV/mono (score: 1) | posted 39 hours ago by Throwaway1234567 (18 rep) | edited 39 hours ago by Anne Daunted (7898 rep)
8:37 AM
@Mr.J, Stephen Hawking has had a very successful career in cosmology despite being physically unable to manipulate a telescope. — Peter Taylor 28 secs ago
#9070 Peter Taylor (rep: 204) | A: How to tell people I'm not their tech support? (score: 1) | posted 3 days ago by Mr.J (111 rep)
#9103 Fabian (rep: 103) | Q: Responding to being told to "smile" by a stranger? (score: 35) | posted 58 hours ago by Jess K. (5651 rep)
#9103 James Trotter (rep: 101) | Q: Responding to being told to "smile" by a stranger? (score: 36) | posted 58 hours ago by Jess K. (5656 rep)
Did that person read your message but didn't reply at all? Or what exactly is the current status in the conversation? — XtremeBaumer 30 secs ago
#9162 XtremeBaumer (rep: 634) | Q: How to nicely remind someone to reply to important message (score: 0) | posted 3 minutes ago by OmamArmy (101 rep)
I'm voting to close this question as off-topic because changing the way you think and feel is an intrapersonal problem, not an interpersonal one. — Tinkeringbell 1 min ago
#9160 Tinkeringbell (rep: 11529) | Q: How do appreciate people's creations that take very little effort (score: 0) | posted 50 minutes ago by gman (358 rep)
#9160 Markino (rep: 2088) | Q: How do appreciate people's creations that take very little effort (score: 0) | posted 57 minutes ago by gman (358 rep)
#9103 user24582 (rep: 127) | Q: Responding to being told to "smile" by a stranger? (score: 37) | posted 58 hours ago by Jess K. (5671 rep)
#9160 Tycho's Nose (rep: 4879) | Q: How do appreciate people's creations that take very little effort (score: 0) | posted 1 hours ago by gman (358 rep)
Although I think this does not answer the question directly (it only works if you're not using the same OS as your relatives), I still upvoted because exactly this works for me. Using Linux for many years, maintaining many Linux boxes, but the one Windows box on my desk is managed by our IT department, not me. I don't do Windows, I'm too dumb for it. — Dubu 1 min ago
#9063 Dubu (rep: 101) | A: How to tell people I'm not their tech support? (score: 6) | posted 3 days ago by Harper (577 rep)
9:25 AM
"I call the Desktop Engineering folks myself when I need help." eyes of other glaze over .... * awkward pause * "Soo... you know how to fix it then?" — Tschallacka 1 min ago
#9050 Tschallacka (rep: 101) | A: How to tell people I'm not their tech support? (score: 19) | posted 3 days ago by baldPrussian (4301 rep)
I charge people 50 euro's an hour for helping them. They quickly turn away. then they call a store and notice they charge 65 per hour. then they decide to google it. — Tschallacka 10 secs ago
#9062 Tschallacka (rep: 101) | A: How to tell people I'm not their tech support? (score: 9) | posted 3 days ago by nijineko (191 rep)
9:41 AM
It's also important to remember that most "non-millennials" assume all millennials know about computers regardless of which industry they work in/study. — BDLPPL 42 secs ago
#9042 BDLPPL (rep: 101) | Q: How to tell people I'm not their tech support? (score: 93) | posted 3 days ago by NaCl (503 rep)
10:00 AM
Definitely this. I tell people "I refuse to support Windows. Get Linux and I'll help". If they do get Linux, they never need help because it doesn't constantly break. — Toby Wilson 1 min ago
#9063 Toby Wilson (rep: 101) | A: How to tell people I'm not their tech support? (score: 7) | posted 3 days ago by Harper (587 rep)
10:11 AM
It would say this is 100% an interpersonal skill. People that manage to appear to genuinely appreciate others are generally people that others gravitate toward and want to be around. As for why I want to force myself to appreciate something I currently don't ... see previous sentence. — gman 36 secs ago
#9160 gman (rep: 358) | Q: How do appreciate people's creations that take very little effort (score: 0) | posted 2 hours ago by gman (358 rep) | edited 2 minutes ago by gman (358 rep)
#9163 gman (rep: 358) | A: How do appreciate people's creations that take very little effort (score: 1) | posted 1 hours ago by Markino (2118 rep) | edited 1 hours ago by Markino (2118 rep)
10:37 AM
#9103 AJFaraday (rep: 101) | Q: Responding to being told to "smile" by a stranger? (score: 40) | posted 2 days ago by Jess K. (5689 rep)
#9167 A J (rep: 4860) | Q: Which salutation should I use in email, in which not the owner of the email replies? (score: 0) | posted 4 minutes ago by user3342072 (1 rep)
Need more information. Salutations depend largely on your relationship with the person in question, in emails and in person. Is 'Person A' a tutor, or a friend? — Astralbee 13 secs ago
#9167 Astralbee (rep: 2976) | Q: Which salutation should I use in email, in which not the owner of the email replies? (score: 0) | posted 7 minutes ago by user3342072 (1 rep)
#9167 A J (rep: 4860) | Q: Which salutation should I use in email, in which not the owner of the email replies? (score: 0) | posted 7 minutes ago by user3342072 (1 rep)
@AJ - nope. This is a different case - that's asking about
Mrs. vs Ms., and this is asking about who to address. — Arwen Undómiel 2 mins ago
#9167 Arwen Undómiel (rep: 964) | Q: Which salutation should I use in email, in which not the owner of the email replies? (score: 0) | posted 7 minutes ago by user3342072 (1 rep)
#9103 Lasse Meyer (rep: 101) | Q: Responding to being told to "smile" by a stranger? (score: 40) | posted 2 days ago by Jess K. (5699 rep)
In addition to what Astralbee said, is there a relation between person A and B, and what is it? Have you asked your classmates what they do? — Tinkeringbell 1 min ago
#9167 Tinkeringbell (rep: 11529) | Q: Which salutation should I use in email, in which not the owner of the email replies? (score: 0) | posted 15 minutes ago by user3342072 (1 rep)
@Astralbee, Yes, person A is my tutor and I don't know B personally. Also I don't feel like casual salutation is appropriate. — user3342072 59 secs ago
#9167 user3342072 (rep: 1) | Q: Which salutation should I use in email, in which not the owner of the email replies? (score: 0) | posted 18 minutes ago by user3342072 (1 rep)
I've had a worst case where someone was bugging me for help.. and my business was me doing just that work for pay. They wouldn't get the hint after several gentle rebuffs and a reminder of my rate that I had to ask them point blank, "This is how I put food on the table. Are you trying to /steal/ from me and my business to get free service because you have this illusion that I know IT and since I am family that I'll do it for free?" Sadly.. even that did not get through their thick skulls and I had to refer them to my father in law, their parent. I hope you NEVER have to deal with this. — whiskeyfur 1 min ago
#9043 whiskeyfur (rep: 101) | A: How to tell people I'm not their tech support? (score: 102) | posted 3 days ago by Jess K. (5709 rep) | edited 2 days ago by Jess K. (5709 rep)
@Tinkeringbell I have no idea, B might be a tutor for another group. They don't care. — user3342072 2 mins ago
#9167 user3342072 (rep: 1) | Q: Which salutation should I use in email, in which not the owner of the email replies? (score: 0) | posted 21 minutes ago by user3342072 (1 rep)
#9153 Stig Hemmer (rep: 101) | A: How to stop people from touching me without having to freak out at them? (score: 0) | posted 9 hours ago by Sentinel (179 rep)
#9153 Sentinel (rep: 179) | A: How to stop people from touching me without having to freak out at them? (score: 0) | posted 9 hours ago by Sentinel (179 rep)
11:37 AM
@T.E.D. Closing the circle: Asking a software developer about your issues with Windows is like asking a dentist to fix your bad back. — Royal Canadian Bandit 1 min ago
#9042 Royal Canadian Bandit (rep: 411) | Q: How to tell people I'm not their tech support? (score: 95) | posted 3 days ago by NaCl (513 rep)
@Sentinel I've been avoiding instances in public where people have to touch me for quite a while now and it seems to be working fine. This is about acquaintances doing it for the laughs or because they think nothing of it, not because it's necessary or given to the situation (I avoid these situations as I can't for instance expect a queue to spread out so nobody touches me). If "rearranging my Self" was that easy then this entire problem would be moot. — Magisch 44 secs ago
#9153 Magisch (rep: 5233) | A: How to stop people from touching me without having to freak out at them? (score: 0) | posted 10 hours ago by Sentinel (179 rep)
@gman You can make the same argument about "how can I be happier" or "how can I find clothes that look good", which are more obviously not interpersonal issues - things that indirectly lead to better interpersonal relations are not interpersonal issues. If you want help appearing more appreciative (regardless of how appreciative you are), that's something we can probably help with. — NotThatGuy 1 min ago
#9160 NotThatGuy (rep: 1794) | Q: How do appreciate people's creations that take very little effort (score: 2) | posted 3 hours ago by gman (371 rep) | edited 1 hours ago by gman (371 rep)
11:58 AM
#9103 user (rep: 413) | Q: Responding to being told to "smile" by a stranger? (score: 41) | posted 2 days ago by Jess K. (5714 rep)
Fire this client. If you are spending all your time and energy with bad clients you will never get good ones. The hardest thing in freelancing is learning to say "NO". See the The Win Without Pitching Manifesto — Paulo Scardine 47 secs ago
#9040 Paulo Scardine (rep: 121) | Q: How do I deal with a client who doesn't respect me? (score: 48) | posted 3 days ago by Stacey (3029 rep)
Be careful with these responses. They could be taken as flirting. Unless you're trying to flirt, then go ahead. (Lightly informing someone you just met about how you deal with "strangers" suggests that you could be willing to be more open with that person in the future.) — Paul Dexter 2 mins ago
#9106 Paul Dexter (rep: 101) | A: Responding to being told to "smile" by a stranger? (score: 23) | posted 2 days ago by kingW3 (381 rep)
12:19 PM
#9153 Tinkeringbell (rep: 11528) | A: How to stop people from touching me without having to freak out at them? (score: -4) | posted 10 hours ago by Sentinel (171 rep)
1:08 PM
You are not considering the option of actually learning how to assess to fix common computer problems like a first level technical support ? Will be a good hobby or a complimenting skill for your learning. I did this, though not because of people who pestered me, but it helps me and them both. I work in a mixed IT environment as a lone warrior where I am in-charge (and the doer) of the all IT things under their sky, hardware, software, networking, even phone apps. — Whirl Mind 25 secs ago
#9042 Whirl Mind (rep: 101) | Q: How to tell people I'm not their tech support? (score: 95) | posted 3 days ago by NaCl (513 rep)
This question sounds like a better fit for Freelancing (although it might work here as well) — Erik 1 min ago
#9159 Erik (rep: 5635) | Q: Writing supply conditions that define customer's deadline (score: 2) | posted 5 hours ago by Mark (111 rep)
@Sentinel's point is basically right. To see this answer's (and a few others) scene played out in any business or office setting would be downright absurd (possibly hilarious, too). For OP to pull this off and not have to deal with a severe decline in his quality of life, it could only be on a farm or a mechanic shop, etc. (Both places I've worked). And only then if you aren't challenged to back up those tough words and steely glare. In office, you'll become known as That Weird Dude Who Freaked Out That One Time. — A.fm. 1 min ago
#9035 A.fm. (rep: 224) | A: How to stop people from touching me without having to freak out at them? (score: 16) | posted 3 days ago by Anne Daunted (7898 rep) | edited 3 days ago by Anne Daunted (7898 rep)
#3874 Top Questions (rep: 101) | Q: WhatsApp: is it rude to read and not reply to an unimportant message? (score: 24) | posted 123 days ago by Peaceful (534 rep) | edited 123 days ago by pyro (103 rep)
You realize this phrase isn't used in a demanding way? It's basically rhetorical. They aren't demanding anything from you, they're just saying "hope you feel better", or something along those lines. Most responses in the comments are actually pretty rude. — Tyler 14 secs ago
#9103 Tyler (rep: 101) | Q: Responding to being told to "smile" by a stranger? (score: 46) | posted 2 days ago by Jess K. (5776 rep)
I appreciate your answer and I believe everything you said but you need to take my word for it and accept the premise that the creation in question required little to no effort nor did it require lots of steep or long learning. — gman 24 secs ago
#9173 gman (rep: 379) | A: How do appreciate people's creations that take very little effort (score: 0) | posted 26 minutes ago by Smeato (101 rep)
The phrase is very effective because you can't reply anything in order to invalide it. A phrase like that would be the best answer I can imagine! — monamona 22 secs ago
#9178 monamona (rep: 101) | Q: How to respond to a brother with the basic attitude: "You are right and I have my peace"? (score: 0) | posted 1 minutes ago by monamona (101 rep)
#9147 mickburkejnr (rep: 121) | A: Responding to being told to "smile" by a stranger? (score: 6) | posted 24 hours ago by Hertz (81 rep) | edited 24 hours ago by Hertz (81 rep)
#8743 Big_Chair (rep: 101) | A: Dealing with sexual comments from customers (score: 7) | posted 11 days ago by Jesse (2162 rep) | edited 11 days ago by Jesse (2162 rep)
#9103 Lord Farquaad (rep: 590) | Q: Responding to being told to "smile" by a stranger? (score: 46) | posted 2 days ago by Jess K. (5776 rep)
Not sure how this would really come up, but you should just say African-American, Hispanic, etc., which conforms with the standard terms used in, for example, the U.S. Census. This is appropriate if, for example, reporting data on demographics of a certain area. If just in a more casual conversation - again, without being clear on how/why this would come up - you should just ask the person in question what is appropriate to say. Ironically, a bunch of white people debating/lecturing one another on what to call someone they could just ask, sort of epitomizes the problem you wish to avoid. — A.fm. 44 secs ago
#9139 A.fm. (rep: 224) | Q: How do I anticipate whether using the expression "of color" will be received favourably or not? (score: -2) | posted 38 hours ago by SantiBailors (100 rep) | edited 19 hours ago by SantiBailors (100 rep)
@A.fm. - please don't write answers in the comments. They're harmful to the site and your comments will be deleted. — Arwen Undómiel 1 min ago
#9139 Arwen Undómiel (rep: 963) | Q: How do I anticipate whether using the expression "of color" will be received favourably or not? (score: -2) | posted 38 hours ago by SantiBailors (100 rep) | edited 19 hours ago by [SantiBailors](interpersonal.stackexchange.com/users/11347/santibailo
Since you already seem to know what you want to say, have you actually tried saying exactly that? How did your brother react to that? Why not let your parents parent your brother? — Tinkeringbell 56 secs ago
#9178 Tinkeringbell (rep: 11529) | Q: How to respond to a brother with the basic attitude: "You are right and I have my peace"? (score: -1) | posted 28 minutes ago by monamona (102 rep)
You want to let your brother know that his response is annoying, it seems clear to me that he is saying it because he knows it is annoying, and so this approach is unlikely to help at all. If your question instead asked us why how you all can start up a dialogue with him to find out why he wants to be annoying and and fix the root issue then it should prove much more effective — Jesse 1 min ago
#9178 Jesse (rep: 2162) | Q: How to respond to a brother with the basic attitude: "You are right and I have my peace"? (score: -1) | posted 31 minutes ago by monamona (102 rep)
#9045 Clay07g (rep: 591) | A: How to tell people I'm not their tech support? (score: 36) | posted 3 days ago by Clay07g (591 rep) | edited 3 days ago by Kat (1555 rep)
Love the answer so long as you keep in mind that calling has different implications for different generations. Depending how young OP is, then if calling is best or not may depend a lot on the type of friend they are — Jesse 9 secs ago
#9164 Jesse (rep: 2162) | A: How to nicely remind someone to reply to important message (score: 11) | posted 5 hours ago by Markino (2288 rep)
You are clearly offended. "there is no way I'm going to smile for someone or continue a conversation with them". Do you come there often? Maybe you imply being in a bad mood every time your there by how you act or your body language. You're making it look like "a nasty man tried forcing me to smile" but the way I read this is that someone wanted to make conversation that didn't fit your style of "making conversation". — Zimano 51 secs ago
#9103 Zimano (rep: 101) | Q: Responding to being told to "smile" by a stranger? (score: 46) | posted 2 days ago by Jess K. (5776 rep)
@Zimano - please don't write answers in the comments. It's harmful to the site, and your comments will be deleted. — Arwen Undómiel just now
#9103 Arwen Undómiel (rep: 963) | Q: Responding to being told to "smile" by a stranger? (score: 46) | posted 2 days ago by Jess K. (5776 rep) | edited 36 seconds ago by Jess K. (5776 rep)
@A.fm. So "That Weird Dude" would not be the guy running around and hugging his/her co-workers, but the co-worker who asked them to stop and then asks again why his wish is being ignored? — Anne Daunted 1 min ago
#9035 Anne Daunted (rep: 7898) | A: How to stop people from touching me without having to freak out at them? (score: 16) | posted 3 days ago by Anne Daunted (7898 rep) | edited 3 days ago by Anne Daunted (7898 rep)
2:36 PM
#9164 Skeith (rep: 141) | A: How to nicely remind someone to reply to important message without being rude? (score: 12) | posted 5 hours ago by Markino (2288 rep)
I agree with Jesse that in all situations calling is not always the answer as in they don't live in the same country so calling is not an option. but your second point is spot on! +1 — OmamArmy 19 secs ago
#9164 OmamArmy (rep: 116) | A: How to nicely remind someone to reply to important message without being rude? (score: 12) | posted 5 hours ago by Markino (2288 rep)
Fair enough! This is your situation and I can't really comment. I'll leave this answer up though for others who may stumble upon it from a different point of view. — Smeato 51 secs ago
#9173 Smeato (rep: 101) | A: How do appreciate people's creations that take very little effort (score: 0) | posted 1 hours ago by Smeato (101 rep)
@aim100k Hard to truly explain in just a comment, so I'll make a comparison to illustrate. Take engineering as an example. If someone is a civil engineer, would you expect them to understand aerospace engineering as well? They're an engineer after all, so surely they know every kind of engineering. In reality, you'd never ask someone who designs bridges to design you an airplane. Computer science is at least as diverse as engineering, hence the curse of being generalized as "the computer guy". Hopefully that helps shed a little light on it. — thanby 29 secs ago
#9042 thanby (rep: 201) | Q: How to tell people I'm not their tech support? (score: 100) | posted 3 days ago by NaCl (538 rep)
OP is talking about friends and acquaintances. If this guy doesn't like his friends touching him he should take a good look at himself first before trying to bother them with his problems. — Sentinel 48 secs ago
#9035 Sentinel (rep: 179) | A: How to stop people from touching me without having to freak out at them? (score: 16) | posted 3 days ago by Anne Daunted (7898 rep) | edited 3 days ago by Anne Daunted (7898 rep)
#9164 Markino (rep: 2288) | A: How to nicely remind someone to reply to important message without being rude? (score: 12) | posted 5 hours ago by Markino (2288 rep)
This looks like a comment IMO. Do you mind expanding and explaining why this would be a good answer and be helpful for OP? — OldPadawan 1 min ago
#9176 OldPadawan (rep: 7736) | A: Responding to being told to "smile" by a stranger? (score: 0) | posted 1 hours ago by Nat (93 rep)
#9164 OmamArmy (rep: 116) | A: How to nicely remind someone to reply to important message without being rude? (score: 12) | posted 5 hours ago by Markino (2288 rep)
3:11 PM
Well, OP did specifically say acquaintances and/or colleagues, not friends, but likely, yes, @AnneDaunted. I can say that confidently because I hardly believe there is a guy "running around" hugging people, but rather people who hug, put their arm around, and/or otherwise greet and interact with one in a way that leads to more (non-sexual) touching than some are used to. Everybody knows someone like this; but, to see someone confront someone in the manner described above would, as stated, be absurd and make one a laughing stock or simply lead to being ostracized. — A.fm. 1 min ago
#9035 A.fm. (rep: 224) | A: How to stop people from touching me without having to freak out at them? (score: 16) | posted 3 days ago by Anne Daunted (7898 rep) | edited 3 days ago by Anne Daunted (7898 rep)
3:22 PM
Stand behind her. Comfort her when she is sad that she did not get a specific job. Help in any way you can to make sure it is not a hassle for her to find time for the process. Also make sure to let her feel that you value the work she does right now (not too much, or she might feel pressured subconsciously). Help her out like you would with any other situation that puts pressure on her or makes her struggle in any way. Do not "sneakily" contact your network behind her back, even if it is with the best intentions. Maybe offer her the contact details so she may get in contact with them herself. — skymningen 1 min ago
#9148 skymningen (rep: 171) | Q: How do I support my partner's return to her career after a five-year child raising hiatus? (score: 0) | posted 25 hours ago by Hertz (91 rep)
#9146 Law29 (rep: 109) | A: How to stop people from touching me without having to freak out at them? (score: 0) | posted 28 hours ago by Law29 (109 rep)
@skymningen - please don't answer questions in the comments. It's harmful to the site, and your comments will be deleted. — Arwen Undómiel 1 min ago
#9148 Arwen Undómiel (rep: 963) | Q: How do I support my partner's return to her career after a five-year child raising hiatus? (score: 0) | posted 25 hours ago by Hertz (91 rep)
@ArwenUndómiel It was not an answer. It was a comment on the validity of the question and asking for clarification about whether OP visits the store often or not. — Zimano 10 secs ago
#9103 Zimano (rep: 101) | Q: Responding to being told to "smile" by a stranger? (score: 46) | posted 2 days ago by Jess K. (5776 rep) | edited 1 hours ago by Jess K. (5776 rep)
3:51 PM
#9103 Agent_L (rep: 541) | Q: Responding to being told to "smile" by a stranger? (score: 46) | posted 2 days ago by Jess K. (5776 rep) | edited 1 hours ago by Jess K. (5776 rep)
How did your co-worker know? If Alice shared this information openly, so she wouldn't have to keep explaining it or deflecting, then she probably wouldn't consider it rude that you don't ask about her absence. — PoloHoleSet 1 min ago
#8243 PoloHoleSet (rep: 759) | Q: Best way to give coworker chance to share personal (religious) information with me that I already heard from someone else? (score: 19) | posted 28 days ago by Jess K. (5776 rep) | edited 28 days ago by Jess K. (5776 rep)
@Digitalsa1nt - I don't think it does, it presents the facade of that assumption, as opposed to "hey, jerk, they told us not to do that!" If they already know about it, then there's no legitimate reason for them to act put out about complying with it. — PoloHoleSet 1 min ago
#7075 PoloHoleSet (rep: 759) | A: How to ask someone to follow security protocol without sounding rude or commanding? (score: 9) | posted 54 days ago by The Snark Knight (4474 rep) | edited 54 days ago by The Snark Knight (4474 rep)
Definitely don't use with any non-family person, as it would come off as way too rude. — Carl Witthoft 28 secs ago
#9055 Carl Witthoft (rep: 101) | A: How to tell people I'm not their tech support? (score: 12) | posted 3 days ago by El Stepherino (129 rep) | edited 2 days ago by El Stepherino (129 rep)
You're not in charge of other people complying with security directives, but when the security directive is "don't let someone else piggy-back onto your badge scan," then not allowing them to do so would be YOU complying with what you were told to do. Basically - "I don't care if you get in the building without scanning your own badge, but you're not coming in on mine." — PoloHoleSet 12 secs ago
#7095 PoloHoleSet (rep: 759) | A: How to ask someone to follow security protocol without sounding rude or commanding? (score: 5) | posted 54 days ago by Flater (3179 rep) | edited 54 days ago by Flater (3179 rep)
@PoloHoleSet it's this line specifically "We've had to tighten procedures lately due to a recent incident." that I have an issue with, because what if the other person already knows about the incident, it sounds like you're talking to them as if they are not part of the company and as such that gives the impression you don't know that they work there; something that the OP wanted to avoid. — Digitalsa1nt 1 min ago
#7075 Digitalsa1nt (rep: 1193) | A: How to ask someone to follow security protocol without sounding rude or commanding? (score: 9) | posted 54 days ago by The Snark Knight (4474 rep) | edited 54 days ago by The Snark Knight (4474 rep)
@A.fm. That's not the situation as described by the OP. They write: "In fact, some of them make a joke of it "Heh he doesn't like to be touched lets group hug him from behind" needless to say, it always makes me uncomfortable and it's really stressful and tiring and also sometimes I can't help myself and shove people away forcefully." — Anne Daunted 1 min ago
#9035 Anne Daunted (rep: 7898) | A: How to stop people from touching me without having to freak out at them? (score: 16) | posted 3 days ago by Anne Daunted (7898 rep) | edited 3 days ago by Anne Daunted (7898 rep)
Non-smoker kissing a smoker is a really bad experience. It's not just the smell. — PoloHoleSet 39 secs ago
#7673 PoloHoleSet (rep: 759) | Q: How can I express disappointment while still being supportive of partner quitting smoking? (score: 8) | posted 40 days ago by Jess K. (5776 rep) | edited 39 days ago by Jess K. (5776 rep)
None of that contravenes the characterization I mentioned. Frankly, some more detail from OP on who these people are would be helpful. Nothing in the quote you cited sounds like anything drastically out of step with what I would expect from a group of coworkers. — A.fm. 22 secs ago
#9035 A.fm. (rep: 224) | A: How to stop people from touching me without having to freak out at them? (score: 16) | posted 3 days ago by Anne Daunted (7898 rep) | edited 3 days ago by Anne Daunted (7898 rep)
#9035 A.fm. (rep: 224) | A: How to stop people from touching me without having to freak out at them? (score: 16) | posted 3 days ago by Anne Daunted (7898 rep) | edited 3 days ago by Anne Daunted (7898 rep)
@Digitalsa1nt feel free to provide an answer yourself if you think this one is inadequate — The Snark Knight 1 min ago
#7075 The Snark Knight (rep: 4474) | A: How to ask someone to follow security protocol without sounding rude or commanding? (score: 9) | posted 54 days ago by The Snark Knight (4474 rep) | edited 54 days ago by The Snark Knight (4474 rep
@TheSnarkKnight There's not really much point submitting an answer which would likely be almost identical to yours with the exception of a slight phrasing change. Comments are at their core for critique and suggestions regarding an existing answer, apologies if I offended you. — Digitalsa1nt 54 secs ago
#7075 Digitalsa1nt (rep: 1193) | A: How to ask someone to follow security protocol without sounding rude or commanding? (score: 9) | posted 54 days ago by The Snark Knight (4474 rep) | edited 54 days ago by The Snark Knight (4474 rep)
@Markino in my local social context calling out of the blue without arranging a time via text is always inappropriate. It's not the cost, it's that a phone call demands someone's attention right now, regardless of what they were doing, which is extremely rude when everyone is used to communicating asynchronously. — Racheet 21 secs ago
#9164 Racheet (rep: 141) | A: How to nicely remind someone to reply to important message without being rude? (score: 19) | posted 7 hours ago by Markino (2288 rep)
@Digitalsa1nt this question only has two responses. More would likely be helpful. No offense taken. — The Snark Knight 15 secs ago
#7075 The Snark Knight (rep: 4474) | A: How to ask someone to follow security protocol without sounding rude or commanding? (score: 9) | posted 54 days ago by The Snark Knight (4474 rep) | edited 54 days ago by The Snark Knight (4474 rep
Good to hear the other perspective. It probably is a number game and it always helps to identify the people who take themselves too seriously. At the end of the day, it's just a smile. — UnicornsSeem4EverHorny 53 secs ago
#9147 UnicornsSeem4EverHorny (rep: 59) | A: Responding to being told to "smile" by a stranger? (score: 8) | posted 27 hours ago by Hertz (101 rep) | edited 26 hours ago by Hertz (101 rep)
#9183 paj28 (rep: 418) | A: How best to offer practical assistance? (score: 0) | posted 26 minutes ago by thanby (201 rep)
You can also make them feel conscious another way. Like asking "do you also tell other dudes to smile?". He might realize that in fact he doesn't tell other men to smile because doing that is flirting. And that he is trying to flirt right now, while she doesn't want to. He will probably stop unless he was doing that intentionally in the first place and/or is really brazen. — user31389 1 min ago
#9105 user31389 (rep: 101) | A: Responding to being told to "smile" by a stranger? (score: 18) | posted 2 days ago by LinuxBlanket (1510 rep) | edited 2 days ago by LinuxBlanket (1510 rep)
My mistake, I read that as she just asked for the number, not for you to call for her. If she specifically solicited your help, that's perfectly fine. I'd still draw the line there, though, and end with the same bottom line answer. You were generous enough to offer, but it's no surprise she didn't accept further assistance, and you shouldn't worry about it (unless, as mentioned, there's a clear risk to her safety). You did your due diligence. — thanby 9 secs ago
#9183 thanby (rep: 201) | A: How best to offer practical assistance? (score: 0) | posted 39 minutes ago by thanby (201 rep)
@Racheet ...wow, that sounds... a bit extreme. I hate phone calls with a passion but I won't get offended if someone calls me once. Is your local social context aware of that little red phone button? It allows you to quickly and almost effortlessly convey the message that you can't pay attention to the call right now. Modern devices even have the option for stock reply messages to be sent when pressing that red phone button. (If they keep calling, and it's not a matter of life&death, I will get annoyed, though) — xDaizu 39 secs ago
#9164 xDaizu (rep: 101) | A: How to nicely remind someone to reply to important message without being rude? (score: 19) | posted 7 hours ago by Markino (2288 rep)
@A.fm. From the OP: "This is about acquaintances doing it for the laughs or because they think nothing of it, not because it's necessary or given to the situation (I avoid these situations as I can't for instance expect a queue to spread out so nobody touches me)." This is from a comment to Sentinel's now deleted answer. Regarding the office setting - the question doesn't have a [work-environment] tag... — Anne Daunted 30 secs ago
#9035 Anne Daunted (rep: 7898) | A: How to stop people from touching me without having to freak out at them? (score: 16) | posted 3 days ago by Anne Daunted (7898 rep) | edited 3 days ago by Anne Daunted (7898 rep)
@Sentinel - interestingly, most HR teams, and many employers have the exact opposite view to you. It is definitely not okay and if you are not okay with that, it would indicate you are not fully aware of personal boundaries...which could be a serious problem! — Rory Alsop 1 min ago
#9039 Rory Alsop (rep: 2487) | A: How to stop people from touching me without having to freak out at them? (score: 5) | posted 3 days ago by UnicornsSeem4EverHorny (59 rep)
Fair enough, @AnneDaunted, but OP nonetheless says in his post: "The problem is, many acquaintances (friends of friends or colleagues) don't take this seriously at all even after repeated explainations.[sic]" So my discussion of coworkers (often used as a simile to "colleagues") is by no means unreasonable or pulled out of thin air. Yet while you argue the semantics of the "extras" on the cast of the movie, you don't address the content of what I've submitted... that is, if you have a counterpoint to make. — A.fm. 20 secs ago
#9035 A.fm. (rep: 224) | A: How to stop people from touching me without having to freak out at them? (score: 16) | posted 3 days ago by Anne Daunted (7898 rep) | edited 3 days ago by Anne Daunted (7898 rep)
Also, you characterized them as co-workers, too, in your first comment to me (2 hours ago)... so why are you arguing this point? — A.fm. 25 secs ago
#9035 A.fm. (rep: 224) | A: How to stop people from touching me without having to freak out at them? (score: 16) | posted 3 days ago by Anne Daunted (7898 rep) | edited 3 days ago by Anne Daunted (7898 rep)
@Racheet that does sound extreme to me too. In this specific case, we're not speaking about calling for something trivial such as "hey wanna chat a bit?" or "hey wanna hang out tonight?", it's rather a serious question that is being asked with some sort of urgency/emergency. Should the question author decide to CALL, clearly his/her intentions are not "being rude", he/she is just trying to deal with a pressing/urgent issue, so it's a NEED. Moreover, I hope you noticed how I recommended the user to APOLOGIZE. — Markino 51 secs ago
#9164 Markino (rep: 2288) | A: How to nicely remind someone to reply to important message without being rude? (score: 19) | posted 7 hours ago by Markino (2288 rep)
#9176 clark (rep: 189) | A: Responding to being told to "smile" by a stranger? (score: 0) | posted 3 hours ago by Nat (93 rep)
5:25 PM
I was responding mostly to @markino saying that they believe that calling is always appropriate because quick calls are "not heavy on the pocket" by trying to explain that in my social context unscheduled calls are inherently rude for reasons unrelated to cost. Sometime's there's a good reason to be a little rude, as perhaps in this case, but one should always be aware that one is making an imposition when they do it. — Racheet 1 min ago
#9164 Racheet (rep: 141) | A: How to nicely remind someone to reply to important message without being rude? (score: 21) | posted 8 hours ago by Markino (2288 rep)
I certainly didn't mean that everyone would be offended to receive a sudden call, but it would certainly be considered an unusual imposition, because the default expectation is that these things are handled asynchronously over IM platforms, and phone or video calls are arranged in advance. — Racheet 9 secs ago
#9164 Racheet (rep: 141) | A: How to nicely remind someone to reply to important message without being rude? (score: 21) | posted 8 hours ago by Markino (2288 rep)
#9182 clark (rep: 189) | A: Responding to being told to "smile" by a stranger? (score: 2) | posted 1 hours ago by PoloHoleSet (779 rep)
#9106 kingW3 (rep: 401) | A: Responding to being told to "smile" by a stranger? (score: 25) | posted 2 days ago by kingW3 (401 rep)
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#9106 kingW3 (rep: 401) | A: Responding to being told to "smile" by a stranger? (score: 25) | posted 2 days ago by kingW3 (401 rep) | edited 26 minutes ago by kingW3 (401 rep)
6:08 PM
Not sure why there is a "delete" vote, but I'm quite serious (and not smiling) about this. — PoloHoleSet 1 min ago
#9182 PoloHoleSet (rep: 789) | A: Responding to being told to "smile" by a stranger? (score: 2) | posted 2 hours ago by PoloHoleSet (789 rep)
6:29 PM
#8858 Aaron (rep: 315) | A: Coworker scans my body. How to best tell him to stop? (score: 15) | posted 9 days ago by Aaron (315 rep) | edited 3 minutes ago by Aaron (315 rep)
6:52 PM
For non family members, I use the line: "Unfortunately, I don't have my tools with me". — El Stepherino 16 secs ago
#9055 El Stepherino (rep: 129) | A: How to tell people I'm not their tech support? (score: 12) | posted 3 days ago by El Stepherino (129 rep) | edited 2 days ago by El Stepherino (129 rep)
No worries. Thanks for taking the time to answer. I'm ok with the legal risks by the way. I know they're non-zero, but I wasn't going to do any wiring, and I can live with that level of risk. I actually think it's sad these days that people see such risks as a reason for inaction. But I agree with your conclusion - with a denial, there's not much more I can do. — paj28 14 secs ago
#9183 paj28 (rep: 418) | A: How best to offer practical assistance? (score: 1) | posted 2 hours ago by thanby (211 rep)
In New York the default answer to "Having a bad day?" is "F*** YOU". It probably is the default answer to anything you can ask a stranger there. :-) — Paulo Scardine 1 min ago
#9103 Paulo Scardine (rep: 131) | Q: Responding to being told to "smile" by a stranger? (score: 46) | posted 2 days ago by Jess K. (5776 rep) | edited 4 hours ago by Jess K. (5776 rep)
I understand your point of view. With that sentence I was trying to nicely push the customer to find out what's wrong as soon as possible. I admit it's not the best way in the would though... — Mark 6 secs ago
#9174 Mark (rep: 116) | A: Writing supply conditions that define customer's deadline (score: 2) | posted 5 hours ago by Paparazzi (584 rep) | edited 2 hours ago by Paparazzi (584 rep)
#9175 Mark (rep: 116) | A: Writing supply conditions that define customer's deadline (score: 2) | posted 5 hours ago by Astralbee (3016 rep)
#9042 Thorbjørn Ravn Andersen (rep: 155) | Q: How to tell people I'm not their tech support? (score: 103) | posted 3 days ago by NaCl (553 rep)
Good points. I like your approach. In my specific case a difficult rises because some projects are quite long (2-3 months) and if someone will messes up all my plannings it's hard to maintain all the other deadlines. Well, that means I need to increase the time margin for each one, at the risk of losing some work. — Mark 1 min ago
#9179 Mark (rep: 116) | A: Writing supply conditions that define customer's deadline (score: 3) | posted 5 hours ago by Kate Gregory (12042 rep)
It is kind-of sad we have to worry about stuff like that in this day and age. But there are risks beyond just electrocution/fire/whatever. From my experience, someone whose utilities got shut off usually have a lot of other more serious problems, not just a simple "Oops forgot to pay the bill" or a tripped breaker or similar. That's where it gets really sticky, when you discover unsanitary conditions, neglect, etc. It's just impossible to take anything at face value these days. — thanby 1 min ago
#9183 thanby (rep: 211) | A: How best to offer practical assistance? (score: 1) | posted 3 hours ago by thanby (211 rep)
Set aside a little time every week for rework on old projects. If someone takes 6 months to ask for a week's rework, they won't reasonably expect you to (on no notice) give them the entire next week. You'll do the rework in the time set aside and get it back to them as soon as you can, but without setting aside the on-schedule work of good customers to do so. In a week with no rework, you can get ahead of schedule on your good customers, or just relax a bit. — Kate Gregory 1 min ago
#9179 Kate Gregory (rep: 12042) | A: Writing supply conditions that define customer's deadline (score: 3) | posted 5 hours ago by Kate Gregory (12042 rep)
7:43 PM
I don't follow the point of this - are you about to run out of praise? Is there a limited supply you have to allocate to only the top percent of quality? Will you be punished for praising something you think is easy? Are you jealous that people can get praise for easy things but you both won't ask for praise for easy things and don't feel you get enough praise for hard effort you put in? You click +1 on social media, how much praises is that, exactly? That's like the minimum amount of praise you could reasonably give, which is ... probably a fine amount for 10 minutes of effort, isn't it? — TessellatingHeckler 23 secs ago
#9160 TessellatingHeckler (rep: 101) | Q: How do appreciate people's creations that take very little effort (score: 4) | posted 11 hours ago by gman (384 rep) | edited 9 hours ago by gman (384 rep)
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To deal with that behavior, you must make it stop working: Allow him no peace, pursue and demand more. WHAT are you right about? If you are right, then he is wronging you by his behavior, and must promise to stop. Disrupt his "peace" until you get what you want. When the behavior is no longer effective for him, he will stop trying to use it. When he says you are right and walks off, follow him, and demand details, or demand to know why he continues behavior that he just admitted is wrong and hurtful. Whatever he does, do not let him have "his peace". — Amadeus 38 secs ago
#9178 Amadeus (rep: 3881) | Q: How to respond to a brother with the basic attitude: "You are right and I have my peace"? (score: -2) | posted 7 hours ago by monamona (100 rep)
My answer is to make an analogy to a chef. I, as a chef / programmer, use a stove to cook - it doesn't mean that I know how to repair it. — Mayo 5 secs ago
#9042 Mayo (rep: 101) | Q: How to tell people I'm not their tech support? (score: 104) | posted 4 days ago by NaCl (558 rep)
9:29 PM
@user He is not an ordinary citizen. He is a citizen who is armed, trained to overpower people, and therefore highly dangerous. — gnasher729 52 secs ago
#3451 gnasher729 (rep: 758) | A: How to deal with wife's ex coming to our house over finances-related issues? (score: 5) | posted 130 days ago by user (413 rep)
9:50 PM
#9093 Boondoggle (rep: 208) | A: How to deal with a noisy neighbor you're on friendly terms with? (score: 1) | posted 3 days ago by Boondoggle (208 rep)
Arriving in a uniform from another state along with asking for a large lone is bizarre and intimidating. Also, many other cops manage to live on their wages and not above it. Asking for money to boost his living style is overstepping boundaries. — doctordonna 13 secs ago
#3448 doctordonna (rep: 575) | Q: How to deal with wife's ex coming to our house over finances-related issues? (score: 6) | posted 130 days ago by Cysolis-turima (31 rep) | edited 130 days ago by Jasper (133 rep)
I think the point is you should take more responsibility and "babysit" them through thia part. Maybe schedule the testing and feedback at the beginning. Also, perhaps, schedule payment differently : 25 upfront, 50 at delivery of the demo etc. (adjust to your heart content). This has the obvious advantage of protecting your earnings if you ever have to lose a bad customer but also incentives the client to pay attention to the process and pushes them to complete it (if they have paid 75 percent they'll be more prone to do the last bit and get the working product delivered) — Three Diag 1 min ago
#9175 Three Diag (rep: 99) | A: Writing supply conditions that define customer's deadline (score: 3) | posted 8 hours ago by Astralbee (3026 rep)
10:14 PM
Perhaps it would be more true to say "The fact that he is a cop should be irrelevant." Even as a law abiding citizen I find it practical to be a little more careful and respectful when interacting with a person who A) is used to giving orders and B) is carrying a gun. — Dan Anderson 50 secs ago
#3451 Dan Anderson (rep: 2913) | A: How to deal with wife's ex coming to our house over finances-related issues? (score: 5) | posted 130 days ago by user (413 rep)
10:39 PM
How is this tagged Germany when you have that level of English written grammar? Are you an English/American/? living in Germany, or are you actually German? This might be purely culture shock. — Sentinel 45 secs ago
#8759 Sentinel (rep: 179) | Q: Coworker scans my body. How to best tell him to stop? (score: 77) | posted 11 days ago by DarkPurpleShadow (1877 rep) | edited 10 days ago by Catija (8601 rep)
#5716 Sentinel (rep: 179) | Q: My grandmother doesn't talk or communicate any more. How can I be good company to her? (score: 64) | posted 86 days ago by DarkPurpleShadow (1877 rep) | edited 84 days ago by psmears (127 rep)
@Racheet I disagree. If someone calls, a person can simply refuse the call and if it's important, they will receive a voice mail. — mbomb007 28 secs ago
#9164 mbomb007 (rep: 101) | A: How to nicely remind someone to reply to an important message without being rude? (score: 32) | posted 13 hours ago by Markino (2288 rep)
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