I’m voting to close this question because this question is likely primarily opinion based, since none of us know your husband and how he interacts within his personal relationships. As such, this question fall into the category described in the help center as 'every answer is equally valid'. I'm sorry, but at this point we'd just be throwing mud at a wall and hoping some of it sticks, which isn't what these sites are for. Also, if he really is bothered by this as much as you describe, involving some professional help with this might be of more help than random internet strangers :) — Tinkeringbell ♦ 59 secs ago