If you don´t want to argue any of the content I posted her, but seek technicalities why I am a bad person and should go away, just say so or put your -1. I really like the Idea of an IPS.SE an I put considerable effort in those posts to make it better - and I make room for the possibility that I am wrong. If you don´t do that on your side, I see no grounds for discussion! — Daniel 49 secs ago
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#2760 Daniel (2375 rep) | A: Some thoughts on the moderation of comments on this stack (score: -2) | posted 2 hours ago by Daniel (2375 rep) | edited 44 minutes ago by Daniel (2375 rep)
@Daniel I think you're missing the concept of "burden of proof". You think the rules used throughout many SE sites hurts this site, and my failure to prove that this isn't so makes the enforcement here arbitrary? That's not how discussion works. — Beofett 54 secs ago
#2760 Beofett (4276 rep) | A: Some thoughts on the moderation of comments on this stack (score: -2) | posted 2 hours ago by Daniel (2375 rep) | edited 44 minutes ago by Daniel (2375 rep)
@Catija: I am talking about this discussion and subsequent enforcement on some answers. As you well noticed I downvote when I see something that I deem as a bad post, but that is entirely off topic here. — Daniel 1 min ago
#2760 Daniel (2375 rep) | A: Some thoughts on the moderation of comments on this stack (score: -2) | posted 2 hours ago by Daniel (2375 rep) | edited 44 minutes ago by Daniel (2375 rep)
#13041 Bilkokuya (1354 rep) | Q: How can I give out my telephone number without implying anything? (score: 2) | posted 11 minutes ago by IceC (13 rep)
It is important to clarify: Having a crush on someone usually means you feel very attracted and would like to be intimate with him. - You are not acting on these feelings for various reasons, but they are definitely more than just stating someone is attractive. - Furthermore it can imply: "If I had met him before you, maybe he would be my boyfriend now and not you", which can put stress on most relationships. — Falco 19 secs ago
#12846 Falco (101 rep) | A: I have a crush on a coworker but won't act on it, how can I tell my boyfriend about it and that I'll remain faithful? (score: 166) | posted 4 days ago by Jay (1222 rep) | edited 4 days ago by Jay (1222 rep)
@apaul My answer certainly accounts for the gender-fluid bit. What did I miss? — D.Hutchinson 29 secs ago
#13036 D.Hutchinson (3796 rep) | A: Comforting a gender-fluid partner experiencing dysphoria (score: 0) | posted 5 hours ago by D.Hutchinson (3796 rep) | edited 5 hours ago by D.Hutchinson (3796 rep)
The comment policy isn't IPS specific. It is a key feature of how comments work on any Exchange. — sphennings just now
#2760 sphennings (5097 rep) | A: Some thoughts on the moderation of comments on this stack (score: -2) | posted 2 hours ago by Daniel (2375 rep) | edited 50 minutes ago by Daniel (2375 rep)
I'm thinking there may be a little more to this though: is it not common for people/new neighbors to exchange phone numbers over there? What makes you worried (except gender differences) that people will find you overtly friendly? — Tinkeringbell 38 secs ago
#13041 Tinkeringbell (17265 rep) | Q: How can I give out my telephone number without implying anything? (score: 3) | posted 14 minutes ago by IceC (18 rep)
@Tinkeringbell - I really think that is better addressed in the answer. This is the discussion portion, not the FAQ proposal. What you are requesting sounds more like an FAQ Proposal. — WeAreAllInThisTogether 41 secs ago
#2761 WeAreAllInThisTogether (1952 rep) | Q: Can we improve upon the Be Nice policy here as a model for the rest of SE? (score: 0) | posted 2 hours ago by WeAreAllInThisTogether (1952 rep) | edited 12 minutes ago by WeAreAllInThisTogether (1952 rep)
#12999 Mykazuki (1033 rep) | Q: How can I make my flatmate empathize better with my competitive aspirations on games (score: 5) | posted 26 hours ago by Alexander Aeons Torn (1224 rep) | edited 24 hours ago by Alexander Aeons Torn (1224 rep)
3:13 PM
@sphennings: Well in my perception (and some others, I have linked some) the practice is different so either the policy is applied differently or I am mistaken. If you are of that opinion, I recommend an answer that argues exactly that as my entry question/premise was One common stumbling block seems to be, that they are handled more strictly here than on other sites. IF you can´t agree to my premise it is futile to argue any points. — Daniel 1 min ago
#2760 Daniel (2375 rep) | A: Some thoughts on the moderation of comments on this stack (score: -2) | posted 2 hours ago by Daniel (2375 rep) | edited 56 minutes ago by Daniel (2375 rep)
#13043 Catija (10775 rep) | A: How can I give out my telephone number without implying anything? (score: 0) | posted 2 minutes ago by baldPrussian (11006 rep)
That's fair. I guess my concern is that this sort of thing seems to be rare. (I moved around a lot growing up but only in one place has a neighbor offered their number to us for this purpose.) Since this is my first house on my own I didn't want to start off on the wrong foot by making someone wonder if I had ulterior motives. +1 — IceC 1 min ago
#13042 IceC (18 rep) | A: How can I give out my telephone number without implying anything? (score: 1) | posted 9 minutes ago by Bilkokuya (1364 rep)
#13036 apaul (32661 rep) | A: Comforting a gender-fluid partner experiencing dysphoria (score: 0) | posted 5 hours ago by D.Hutchinson (3796 rep) | edited 5 hours ago by D.Hutchinson (3796 rep)
#13036 D.Hutchinson (3796 rep) | A: Comforting a gender-fluid partner experiencing dysphoria (score: 0) | posted 5 hours ago by D.Hutchinson (3796 rep) | edited 5 hours ago by D.Hutchinson (3796 rep)
@TinkeringBell That was my thinking as well. I realize it is uncommon and have just stated so on one of the answers to this. So yeah knowing this is an uncommon thing (at least in my experience in the US) I was concerned people could easily think I had ulterior motives. — IceC 49 secs ago
#13041 IceC (18 rep) | Q: How can I give out my telephone number without implying anything? (score: 3) | posted 20 minutes ago by IceC (18 rep)
Believe me I understand what you are talking about. However I am also concerned that if I take too much time to establish a relationship first then it will also increase the suspicion of ulterior motives when I do offer it. Also I would prefer to give my neighbors as much space as possible but it would be nice for my immediate (left and right and across) neighbor to be able to contact me with concerns. — IceC 31 secs ago
#13043 IceC (18 rep) | A: How can I give out my telephone number without implying anything? (score: 0) | posted 7 minutes ago by baldPrussian (11006 rep)
Do you have reason to believe that she'll dress the same way next time? Don't say anything before a pattern develops! — Shawn V. Wilson 1 min ago
#12760 Shawn V. Wilson (101 rep) | Q: How can I avoid the awkwardness of a returning player who wears a low-cut shirt? (score: 79) | posted 6 days ago by erbert (415 rep) | edited 5 days ago by BlackThorn (1737 rep)
We are stricter with the application of the policy here than on other exchanges because the nature of the site attracts a large volume of emotionally charged comments. Instead of trying to have a complicated and nuanced policy about what exactly is and isn't allowed in a comment, leaving lots of room for people to cry that the policy is being applied unfairly, it's easier all around to have one clear policy about what is and isn't allowed in a comment. — sphennings 1 min ago
#2760 sphennings (5097 rep) | A: Some thoughts on the moderation of comments on this stack (score: -2) | posted 3 hours ago by Daniel (2375 rep) | edited 1 hours ago by Daniel (2375 rep)
And that belief is what tells me that you don't personally know the subject matter very well. Telling a gender-fluid person that they're looking particularly masculine or feminine, by commenting on your perception of their current presentation, runs the risk of backfiring spectacularly. — apaul 1 min ago
#13036 apaul (32661 rep) | A: Comforting a gender-fluid partner experiencing dysphoria (score: 0) | posted 6 hours ago by D.Hutchinson (3796 rep) | edited 5 hours ago by D.Hutchinson (3796 rep)
#2760 Daniel (2375 rep) | A: Some thoughts on the moderation of comments on this stack (score: -2) | posted 3 hours ago by Daniel (2375 rep) | edited 1 hours ago by Daniel (2375 rep)
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#13036 D.Hutchinson (3796 rep) | A: Comforting a gender-fluid partner experiencing dysphoria (score: 0) | posted 6 hours ago by D.Hutchinson (3796 rep) | edited 5 hours ago by D.Hutchinson (3796 rep)
3:42 PM
@Daniel I know that wasn't directed at me, but rather than rejecting the notion that strict enforcement of the comment rules has any negative effects on the site, I'd instead argue that strict enforcement helps mitigate other problems that would otherwise cause far more harm than would be avoided by being more permissive of comments. I believe we have a widespread set of problems on this site directly related to the prevalence of comments. We may make a few people happier by being more tolerant of comments, but I believe we'd lose far more. — Beofett 1 min ago
#2760 Beofett (4276 rep) | A: Some thoughts on the moderation of comments on this stack (score: -2) | posted 3 hours ago by Daniel (2385 rep) | edited 1 hours ago by Daniel (2385 rep)
Thanks @Caitja I really like the idea of having a stack of prepared "business cards" since it would show that I am not singling someone out. And of course respect is always good to show. +1 (I imagine this site like other stack sites prefers a 24 hour wait period before accepting an answer. Right? So far I am definitely liking this option though.) — IceC 19 secs ago
#13044 IceC (28 rep) | A: How can I give out my telephone number without implying anything? (score: 4) | posted 10 minutes ago by Catija (10815 rep)
I don't think the OP ever states their gender, but I imagine there could potentially be issues with someone taking a phone number suggestively regardless of their gender. — Link0352 55 secs ago
#13044 Link0352 (1486 rep) | A: How can I give out my telephone number without implying anything? (score: 4) | posted 11 minutes ago by Catija (10815 rep)
#13044 Catija (10815 rep) | A: How can I give out my telephone number without implying anything? (score: 4) | posted 12 minutes ago by Catija (10815 rep)
@Link0352 It is true I didn't state my gender as I tried to keep this more generic. However, Catija is correct in her assumption. — IceC 9 secs ago
#13044 IceC (28 rep) | A: How can I give out my telephone number without implying anything? (score: 4) | posted 13 minutes ago by Catija (10815 rep)
#13044 IceC (28 rep) | A: How can I give out my telephone number without implying anything? (score: 4) | posted 18 minutes ago by Catija (10815 rep)
4:11 PM
Okay, so with that last edit, I think I'm starting to get it now: You're proposing we edit something into the Be Nice policy on how people interpret posts on this site (like questions or answers) and the kind of comments they leave based on those misinterpretations, and you want to get rid of those comments? — Tinkeringbell 13 secs ago
#2761 Tinkeringbell (17265 rep) | Q: Can we improve upon the Be Nice policy here as a model for the rest of SE? (score: 1) | posted 3 hours ago by WeAreAllInThisTogether (1952 rep) | edited 1 hours ago by WeAreAllInThisTogether (1952 rep)
Voting to re-open (again). For those voting to close, please participate in the meta discussion linked above. So far, my answer indicating that this question is clear and on-topic has 8 upvotes and only one downvote. If you disagree, please explain why in a separate meta answer. — Beofett 15 secs ago
#12966 Beofett (4276 rep) | Q: How to establish more boundaries with my parents? (score: 0) | posted 49 hours ago by snart (27 rep) | edited 44 hours ago by Tinkeringbell (17265 rep) | Has magic comment
Welcome! I think you may need to give us a bit more detail than you have. What do you mean by "replies with comments in bold"? Are these comments interspersed inside the email they received? Can you make up an example that shows what this looks like for us? Can you explain why you find this "confrontational"? How frequent is this? Have you mentioned anything to them about it before? — Catija ♦ 7 secs ago
#13046 Catija (10845 rep) | Q: Colleague Replies in Bold text (score: 0) | posted 2 minutes ago by Flood (1 rep)
#13041 IceC (33 rep) | Q: How can I give out my telephone number without implying anything? (score: 6) | posted 1 hours ago by IceC (33 rep) | edited 6 minutes ago by Tinkeringbell (17265 rep)
engage in extended discussion about the question, but with an attempt to phrase disagreement as a request for clarification. > shouldn't 'question' be 'answer'? Or are you referring to the message I left in that chatroom, about the question? The reasoning for that can be found here, if it was closed and improved with e.g. more details and a clear goal, a lot of the discussion could have been prevented IMO.If a Be Nice policy change can help in that, I'd love to see that too. But that won't mean we don't need good questions anymore. — Tinkeringbell 1 min ago
#2767 Tinkeringbell (17265 rep) | A: Can we improve upon the Be Nice policy here as a model for the rest of SE? (score: 1) | posted 55 minutes ago by Beofett (4276 rep)
4:27 PM
This is also a good answer. I think stressing the idea that it is for emergencies or "serious complaints/situations" only is a good idea as it should help draw a boundary for both sides like you said. +1 This way of handling it should also alleviate some of the concerns mentioned in one of the other answers. — IceC 1 min ago
#13045 IceC (33 rep) | A: How can I give out my telephone number without implying anything? (score: 3) | posted 24 minutes ago by Link0352 (1526 rep)
#13046 Flood (1 rep) | Q: Colleague Replies in Bold text (score: -1) | posted 10 minutes ago by Flood (1 rep)
#13046 F1Krazy (103 rep) | Q: Colleague Replies in Bold text (score: -1) | posted 15 minutes ago by Flood (6 rep)
I'm sorry, but in it's current state this is not a good question for this stack. We need more details. I'd like to know who, what, where, when and why. — Tinkeringbell 1 min ago
#13047 Tinkeringbell (17264 rep) | Q: How to deal with a person who always yells even over a very small thing (score: -1) | posted 4 minutes ago by thinkingchair2014 (1 rep)
@IceC Speaking from a US perspective, you'll definitely make a few people wonder what you're up to. It also depends on your neighborhood. I would certainly be skeptical myself if my neighbor did this, but I wouldn't think it malicious, especially if you had reasoning. I think if you follow these answers here (and initially avoid everyone's children), you won't have anything to worry about from most reasonable people. — Clay07g 1 min ago
#13042 Clay07g (1150 rep) | A: How can I give out my telephone number without implying anything? (score: 6) | posted 1 hours ago by Bilkokuya (1414 rep)
when (if) editing, please add relevant tags like "work-environment" and/or "online-interaction" and location if needed... — OldPadawan 1 min ago
#13046 OldPadawan (8932 rep) | Q: Colleague Replies in Bold text (score: -2) | posted 28 minutes ago by Flood (4 rep)
@IceC It's unfortunate, but we live in a world where your age, gender, height, weight, and the color of your skin all affect how threatening you are perceived. I can probably dig up a few sources on that claim if you are curious, but that's off topic for here. My point is that it is important info. — Clay07g 1 min ago
#13041 Clay07g (1150 rep) | Q: How can I give out my telephone number without implying anything? (score: 9) | posted 1 hours ago by IceC (48 rep) | edited 33 minutes ago by Tinkeringbell (17264 rep)
@Clay07g I would be hesitant to generalize the entire U.S. I live in the U.S. and I have the numbers of both of my next-door neighbors and they have mine for exactly this reason. And we've used them a few times over the years (e.g. to coordinate helping each other out after storm damage and that sort of thing.) — reirab just now
#13042 reirab (716 rep) | A: How can I give out my telephone number without implying anything? (score: 7) | posted 1 hours ago by Bilkokuya (1424 rep)
#13047 Link0352 (1536 rep) | Q: How to deal with a person who always yells even over a very small thing (score: -2) | posted 17 minutes ago by thinkingchair2014 (1 rep)
@Clay07g It is unfortunate but you are definitely correct. Now that I think about it this sort of thing could be potentially worse/harder to accomplish if I were a female offering my number to male neighbors though for likely different reasons. So gender probably is a good idea to include. — IceC 9 secs ago
#13041 IceC (48 rep) | Q: How can I give out my telephone number without implying anything? (score: 9) | posted 1 hours ago by IceC (48 rep) | edited 37 minutes ago by Tinkeringbell (17264 rep)
@Link0352 : THEY ARE NOT YELLING!!! they are expressing themselves a little bit loud, not more :) — OldPadawan 17 secs ago
#13047 OldPadawan (8932 rep) | Q: How to deal with a person who always yells even over a very small thing (score: -2) | posted 21 minutes ago by thinkingchair2014 (1 rep)
@Catija I don't see this as tangential at all. OP specifically states that it is uncommon to give people your number this way in the USA. This answer addresses why it uncommon and offers an excellent path forward IMO. — DoritoStyle 1 min ago
#13043 DoritoStyle (101 rep) | A: How can I give out my telephone number without implying anything? (score: 4) | posted 1 hours ago by baldPrussian (11046 rep)
I think it's important to know just how uncommon this is in the USA, at least currently. Have you considered that maybe it's best not to push the issue? In other works, I don't feel any need to have my neighbors numbers right off the bat. — DoritoStyle just now
#13041 DoritoStyle (101 rep) | Q: How can I give out my telephone number without implying anything? (score: 9) | posted 2 hours ago by IceC (48 rep) | edited 44 minutes ago by Tinkeringbell (17264 rep)
additionally, can you add where you are from in the question? There might be cultural differences that can help get more specific advice. — DoritoStyle 18 secs ago
#13041 DoritoStyle (101 rep) | Q: How can I give out my telephone number without implying anything? (score: 9) | posted 2 hours ago by IceC (48 rep) | edited 45 minutes ago by Tinkeringbell (17264 rep)
@IceC I wouldn't say anything about "complaints". That suggests that you might want their number so you can complain about them. They probably think they don't do anything that a reasonable person would need to complain about, so why would they need to give you their number for that? It kinda makes you seem like a busybody, whereas an emergency could happen to anyone. — David Richerby 22 secs ago
#13045 David Richerby (171 rep) | A: How can I give out my telephone number without implying anything? (score: 4) | posted 58 minutes ago by Link0352 (1536 rep)
#13048 Em C (6009 rep) | A: How can I give out my telephone number without implying anything? (score: -1) | posted 5 minutes ago by JustMuddles (1 rep) | edited 6 seconds ago by JustMuddles (1 rep)
Welcome to Interpersonal Skills! I'm voting to close this question as off-topic because unfortunately, this question appears to be asking “What should I do?”, which the community has determined to not be a good fit for Interpersonal Skills Stack Exchange. We can’t decide for you what to do; after you determine what you want to do, we can help you with your goal, but we can’t make these decisions for you. Sorry. — Tinkeringbell 44 secs ago
#13049 Tinkeringbell (17264 rep) | Q: How should I react to a friend stealing my work (score: 0) | posted 2 minutes ago by Unknown User (1 rep)
5:11 PM
#2767 Beofett (4276 rep) | A: Can we improve upon the Be Nice policy here as a model for the rest of SE? (score: 2) | posted 1 hours ago by Beofett (4276 rep) | edited 1 minutes ago by Beofett (4276 rep)
If you decide what you would like to do (talk to him? talk to your friends? something else?), please note that on this site we can only help with interpersonal solutions. Things like IP issues or how to protect yourself legally would be off-topic here. — Em C 29 secs ago
#13049 Em C (6009 rep) | Q: How should I react to a friend stealing my work (score: 0) | posted 9 minutes ago by Unknown User (1 rep)
This seems to be a question about how to keep your intellectual property secure. May be a better question for the Law stack exchange. You may have to reword to indicate that you want to know how to secure your intellectual property. Here, we could help you with questions like "How can I communicate to my friend that I am the intellectual owner of this code without alienating myself from the group?" as that would develop an interpersonal skill. — Link0352 42 secs ago
#13049 Link0352 (1535 rep) | Q: How should I react to a friend stealing my work (score: 0) | posted 12 minutes ago by Unknown User (1 rep)
@apaul I suggested an edit for removing inflammatory aside that is unnecessary and distracts from the answer. — Physics-Compute 1 min ago
#12761 Physics-Compute (214 rep) | A: How can I avoid the awkwardness of a returning player who wears a low-cut shirt? (score: 91) | posted 6 days ago by apaul (32682 rep)
#13049 Oleg (229 rep) | Q: How should I react to a friend stealing my work (score: -1) | posted 18 minutes ago by Unknown User (1 rep)
#12761 apaul (32687 rep) | A: How can I avoid the awkwardness of a returning player who wears a low-cut shirt? (score: 91) | posted 6 days ago by apaul (32687 rep)
@Physics-Compute If the "inflammatory aside" is what I think it is, you may want to read this meta post about this answer and direct further commentary there. — Em C 1 min ago
#12761 Em C (6009 rep) | A: How can I avoid the awkwardness of a returning player who wears a low-cut shirt? (score: 91) | posted 6 days ago by apaul (32687 rep)
5:47 PM
@DavidRicherby Just to be clear I don't intend on trying to get their numbers (Though if they offer their numbers for the same purpose I am ok with that) but I do see your point and will definitely take it into consideration. — IceC 2 mins ago
#13045 IceC (88 rep) | A: How can I give out my telephone number without implying anything? (score: 6) | posted 1 hours ago by Link0352 (1556 rep)
@DoritoStyle I can tell you it is in a medium sized city(<50,000) in the midwest region but I'm not sure more detail than that would be helpful. I can see how this situation would be different from west coast to east coast though. And your concern is valid and I will take it into consideration. While this situation is uncommon I wouldn't say it is unheard of as other commenters have stated. — IceC 8 secs ago
#13041 IceC (88 rep) | Q: How can I give out my telephone number without implying anything? (score: 17) | posted 2 hours ago by IceC (88 rep) | edited 20 minutes ago by Oleg (231 rep)
If y'all are curious, there are 51 comments deleted from that post with the stern directive. 25 from before the quoted message, 20 between it and HDE moving the new comments to chat, and six deleted since then... and, sadly, that's not even a record. We have posts with >100 deleted comments. — Catija ♦ 1 min ago
#2767 Catija (10955 rep) | A: Can we improve upon the Be Nice policy here as a model for the rest of SE? (score: 2) | posted 2 hours ago by Beofett (4276 rep) | edited 42 minutes ago by Beofett (4276 rep)
@apaul feel free to vote on my answer then. I've reviewed my answer and its sources, and I believe I give a pretty decent answer to a complex question. By the way, what aren't you questioning the top-voted answer, too? It does not at all address the gender-fluid bit, while my answer does. — D.Hutchinson 18 secs ago
#13036 D.Hutchinson (3796 rep) | A: Comforting a gender-fluid partner experiencing dysphoria (score: 0) | posted 8 hours ago by D.Hutchinson (3796 rep) | edited 8 hours ago by D.Hutchinson (3796 rep)
#13036 apaul (32691 rep) | A: Comforting a gender-fluid partner experiencing dysphoria (score: 0) | posted 8 hours ago by D.Hutchinson (3796 rep) | edited 8 hours ago by D.Hutchinson (3796 rep)
@apaul From one of the sources I link to: "So, don't always keep the compliments to their appearance or they might start to feel even more self-conscious about how they look." and their recommendation to try and compliment them beyond their appearance ... seems to address the potential concerns that you are getting at, I think. What I'm saying is, I directly based my answer off the sources that I linked to - it's not my personal opinion ... — D.Hutchinson 53 secs ago
#13036 D.Hutchinson (3796 rep) | A: Comforting a gender-fluid partner experiencing dysphoria (score: 0) | posted 8 hours ago by D.Hutchinson (3796 rep) | edited 8 hours ago by D.Hutchinson (3796 rep)
And you're not in the position to know whether your sources are any good, or if they apply to this question. — apaul 40 secs ago
#13036 apaul (32691 rep) | A: Comforting a gender-fluid partner experiencing dysphoria (score: 0) | posted 8 hours ago by D.Hutchinson (3796 rep) | edited 8 hours ago by D.Hutchinson (3796 rep)
@IceC I think that, in pretty much any situation where somebody offers you their phone number, there's a fairly strong suggestion that they'd also like to know yours, whether it's "Hey, call me so we can arrange to go on a date [actually, I could call you]" or "Hey, call me if my house is on fire [and I'll call you if yours is!]" — David Richerby 59 secs ago
#13045 David Richerby (171 rep) | A: How can I give out my telephone number without implying anything? (score: 6) | posted 2 hours ago by Link0352 (1556 rep)
#13045 IceC (88 rep) | A: How can I give out my telephone number without implying anything? (score: 6) | posted 2 hours ago by Link0352 (1556 rep)
6:24 PM
#13016 swbarnes2 (907 rep) | A: How can I make my flatmate empathize better with my competitive aspirations on games (score: 5) | posted 23 hours ago by swbarnes2 (907 rep)
@IceC Yeah, I'd realised you weren't trying to get their phone numbers and should have said so to avoid you needing to reply. :-) — David Richerby 1 min ago
#13045 David Richerby (171 rep) | A: How can I give out my telephone number without implying anything? (score: 7) | posted 2 hours ago by Link0352 (1566 rep)
7:02 PM
#12913 JBentley (101 rep) | A: I have a crush on a coworker but won't act on it, how can I tell my boyfriend about it and that I'll remain faithful? (score: 59) | posted 4 days ago by Daniel (2435 rep) | edited 29 hours ago by Sergio Tulentsev (103 rep)
#12415 Studoku (101 rep) | Q: How can I say I am an outstanding leader without sounding arrogant? (score: 26) | posted 14 days ago by Patrick McKeen (139 rep) | edited 1 hours ago by Crafter0800 (5163 rep)
Your post seems more about the criticizing the OP rather than criticizing the OP's post. The top two answers under this question do a better job without attacking anyone...If you're still pissed about the fight in the 'ogling' question, best take some time to cool off. And you're snarkiness has been pointed out to you in a previous post. — Simpleton 25 secs ago
#2748 Simpleton (270 rep) | A: Why was my question closed? (score: -1) | posted 22 hours ago by apaul (32691 rep)
7:21 PM
"Often times, partners just want to talk about the hardships they face, and don't want to hear suggestions how to solve them." Why would you ever want to date anyone like this? That's not OK. "Here all my problems, but don't you dare implicate me as being responsible, and don't even think about offering solutions or reasonable steps I can take to fix my situation!" — Alexander 42 secs ago
#7151 Alexander (101 rep) | A: How can I help my partner with her body image without offending her? (score: 9) | posted 138 days ago by Magisch (7409 rep)
I honestly don't see how this directly answers the question, which is about one-on-one comforting. Public situations (bathrooms) aren't relevant. Third-person pronouns aren't really used in a 1:1 conversation (and the OP has already established the pronouns, no need to repeat that). And... this is chock-full of binary-only phrasing ("If your partner is a woman"), which does not really apply to a genderfluid person. The sources cited are similarly about binary trans people. So overall, this is advice for the wrong situation - not fundamentally bad advice, just out of place. — Cascabel 10 secs ago
#13036 Cascabel (390 rep) | A: Comforting a gender-fluid partner experiencing dysphoria (score: -1) | posted 10 hours ago by D.Hutchinson (3794 rep) | edited 9 hours ago by D.Hutchinson (3794 rep)
One thing I would add/question, is why? Why are you concerned? What emergency happened in your past, or your close friends/relatives that causes you to do this (unusual?) thing? If you can answer that for yourself, then you can let your new neighbors know as well, as long as it is not sensitive. My family's house burnt down and no one new how to alert us (ok that's out there), or our house was burgled and no one could call us, here's my cell phone number incase you see a white van out front... — CGCampbell 16 secs ago
#13041 CGCampbell (103 rep) | Q: How can I give out my telephone number without implying anything? (score: 23) | posted 4 hours ago by IceC (118 rep) | edited 1 hours ago by Oleg (231 rep)
#2748 apaul (32691 rep) | A: Why was my question closed? (score: -1) | posted 22 hours ago by apaul (32691 rep)
8:15 PM
#13041 sgroves (101 rep) | Q: How can I give out my telephone number to my neighbors without implying anything? (score: 23) | posted 5 hours ago by IceC (118 rep) | edited 9 minutes ago by gparyani (204 rep)
8:38 PM
@sgroves it might vary by location... However, in most of the places I have lived growing up I never even knew our neighbors' names most of the time. I know other people have mentioned that it is uncommon for them too... but this country is very diverse so there could be multiple reasons for the discrepancies.. — IceC 47 secs ago
#13041 IceC (133 rep) | Q: How can I give out my telephone number to my neighbors without implying anything? (score: 26) | posted 5 hours ago by IceC (133 rep) | edited 32 minutes ago by gparyani (204 rep)
#13041 IceC (138 rep) | Q: How can I give out my telephone number to my neighbors without implying anything? (score: 27) | posted 5 hours ago by IceC (138 rep) | edited 35 minutes ago by gparyani (204 rep)
#13041 WGroleau (485 rep) | Q: How can I give out my telephone number to my neighbors without implying anything? (score: 27) | posted 5 hours ago by IceC (138 rep) | edited 38 minutes ago by gparyani (204 rep)
9:21 PM
I believe in being totally honest. That's why every time I see someone who is ugly, I walk up to them and say, "you know, you're really ugly". And every time I see someone make a mistake, I immediately run over and say, "wow, you just made a mistake. You're probably feeling really stupid right now and if you're not, you should be.". No, I don't. There are some things that are true but that don't need to be said. — Jay 1 min ago
#11469 Jay (1264 rep) | A: Dreamt of another girl, want to tell my girlfriend, but how without getting smited? (score: 423) | posted 35 days ago by Berthim (1806 rep) | edited 32 days ago by Catija (10975 rep)
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I think, at least in the western world, the connections between neighbours are weakening, and less and less people will share phone numbers with their neighbours. If you think it would be too “friendly”, try perhaps actually building a relationship with your neighbours. If you see them outside and they seem willing, talk to them, strike up a conversation. When relationships build, usually connecting through phone numbers is a pretty normal step, and it dosent really seem all that awkward. TL:DR — let it happen naturally. — Kieran Moynihan 1 min ago
#13041 Kieran Moynihan (101 rep) | Q: How can I give out my telephone number to my neighbors without implying anything? (score: 31) | posted 7 hours ago by IceC (158 rep) | edited 2 hours ago by gparyani (204 rep)
11:02 PM
This is a great answer. I know that @Tay-W brought this up, not you, but do you have any thoughts on voice therapy? I know that singing training can expand someone's range in both directions, and thus (in theory) it might be an investment that can help someone avoid some dysphoria. — cactus_pardner 12 secs ago
#13051 cactus_pardner (339 rep) | A: Comforting a gender-fluid partner experiencing dysphoria (score: 4) | posted 3 hours ago by GretchenV (262 rep)
11:26 PM
warn, and then suspend, repeat offenders, or those who ignore or attempt to bypass the moderator messages. This is literally penalizing the customers who need this site the most though. — WeAreAllInThisTogether 54 secs ago
#2767 WeAreAllInThisTogether (1962 rep) | A: Can we improve upon the Be Nice policy here as a model for the rest of SE? (score: 2) | posted 7 hours ago by Beofett (4271 rep) | edited 6 hours ago by Beofett (4271 rep)
11:37 PM
Who sets up and maintains this list? It can easily turn into a maintain war. For example, "homophobe." It is many times used as a pejorative rather than it's real meaning. Such words would not only be a hotbed for debate on inclusion on the list, but would limit it's use when speaking medically on that rare occasion its literal meaning is needed. — Physics-Compute 1 min ago
#1866 Physics-Compute (214 rep) | Q: Can we agree that certain terms are offensive and stop using them on the site? (score: -4) | posted 184 days ago by apaul (32697 rep)
11:47 PM
This...is really going to depend on the person. Just because I might also have anxiety, doesn't mean I a) ascribe to or understand the idea of spoon theory, or b) like the idea of this gift in the same way she would. (also, this isn't about an interpersonal issue, per se) — Ash 32 secs ago
#13053 Ash (467 rep) | Q: Appropriate gift for someone with anxiety (score: -1) | posted 5 minutes ago by TMP4 (1 rep)
There might not be a Stack Exchange site where this question fits, if ultimately it ends up getting closed here. Not every question fits on the SE network, unfortunately. — Ash 16 secs ago
#13053 Ash (467 rep) | Q: Appropriate gift for someone with anxiety (score: -1) | posted 8 minutes ago by TMP4 (1 rep)
#13053 TMP4 (1 rep) | Q: Appropriate gift for someone with anxiety (score: -1) | posted 8 minutes ago by TMP4 (1 rep)
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