The Awkward Silence

Extroverted Main Man

00:01

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I work in a small office where each of has our own set of clients that we have established relationships with over the years. I've recently moved desks and am now sitting almost side by side with another sales person who takes pride in having the highest commissions each month. For the past few w...

Extroverted Main Man

02:01

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Q: How do you handle being not welcomed in a group?

The saying "Can I come with?" or "Can I join in" have been the bane of everyone I talk to these days. Every time when there is a group of people doing something that I'm interested in I go for it, but to the respect of the group I do it sparingly so I'm not seen as overly intrusive. The problem i...

friends awkward-situations socializing friend-groups acceptable-behavior

Extroverted Main Man

03:13

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Q: As a cis-gendered male, is using a ( he / they ) pronouns supportive or hurtful to the gender nonconforming community?

I identify as a cis-gendered male, but prefer gender neutral, or gender agnostic, pronouns and want to declare that. (my email signature is what first comes to mind, but on other mediums and in person as well) I don't want my gender identity to define me. It seems to me, that normalizing gender-...

lgbt+ gender

M.A.R.

05:45

Morning

Tinkeringbell

Hey :)

M.A.R.

@ExtrovertedMainMan Wha?

If you're worried that you might behave as politely as you can and there would still be someone having a bad day out there who'd take offense, maybe especially to your politeness,

I just forgot how I was going to finish that sentence.

But anyway you can turn into an ad for Twix

Tinkeringbell

It's a repost of one I closed last night (though that one was asking 'is is appropriate').

This one still seems just as much off-topic.

M.A.R.

I mean, heck, people can take offense to politeness.

Are you treating me like a wallflower because you ASSUME I'm fragile and blah blah blah

I'm gonna go watch a few episodes of Simpsons

Tinkeringbell

Enjoy :)

I've closed the question (again).

Tinkeringbell

06:10

@ExtrovertedMainMan This one is...really broad?

CaldeiraG

06:50

Morning!

Tinkeringbell

Hey :)

CaldeiraG

@Tinkeringbell you need the size of it (most common 120mm), for the brand, Noctua is pretty good :)

How are ya?

Tinkeringbell

07:03

@CaldeiraG Size, and there was something with connectors. :P I needed a 3-pin.

I'm okay, getting a bit hot here. But that'll be better this afternoon when there's no sun on my windows anymore.

And you?

CaldeiraG

@Tinkeringbell ah i see :p

@Tinkeringbell i'm good yea

Tinkeringbell

Good :)

CaldeiraG

07:52

I've been waiting for some emails back since monday and nothing arrived so far :/

Tinkeringbell

08:06

:(

CaldeiraG

08:44

uh, interpersonalskills.stackexchange.com redirects me to interpersonal.stackexchange.com

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A: Better late than too late: Could a single word substitution in our name, be at least considered?

Here's what we'll be rolling out later this week: We will update your site name to "Matter Modeling Stack Exchange". It seems pretty unanimous here that this is a better fit for your site. To support this, we will change the site URL to mattermodeling.stackexchange.com - we can't use either matte...

Tinkeringbell

@CaldeiraG ips.stackexchange should too :)

CaldeiraG

yep it does

Ael

09:07

@Tinkeringbell I never realized that the ips.stackexchange url worked x) I guess, TIL (today I learned) :p

Tinkeringbell

@Ael Well, technically it didn't until last night :P

Ael

@Tinkeringbell Oh, that what I though. That's so cool!!

Tinkeringbell

Bug report of the day "works not"

Ooookay.

Ael

x)

Test: Interpersonal Skills

Oh, it works! \o

Tinkeringbell

Yay, magic link :D

Saves a lot of characters when writing ;)

Ael

09:23

Most definitively! Plus, you have less chance of making an ortographic mistake when writing "ips" than when writing "interpersonalskills"

Tinkeringbell

I've always used interpersonal.stackexchange myself ;) And since that's in the browser history, just hitting int works :P

CaldeiraG

Magic link I knew already

A J

Interpersonal Skills

Ael

09:52

Anyone here is good with gitlab-ci?

A J

@Tinkeringbell And it saves 10 bytes of my internet. :P

Tinkeringbell

Well, every 10 bytes saves up some!

A J

Lol

Tinkeringbell

11:30

AAAGH. I bought some t-shirts online, the shop said they'd ship in 2-3 weeks. Now I got an e-mail saying they're not sure if they can ship... Which would mean wasting more time on picking out other shirts :(

avazula

12:55

@Ael sorry hon didn't see your message earlier! Do you still need help?

Ael

@avazula Most definitively! (even though it's more "cosmetic issue than real blocking one): devops.stackexchange.com/questions/11901/…

avazula

Imma have a look

Ael

And that too: devops.stackexchange.com/questions/11897/…

Thanks @ava :D

avazula

devops.se is much less active than I wish it were :(

Ael

Yeah, that's definitively true

Rainbacon

13:00

@avazula I feel the same way about devops.<my company>

Ael

I'm kind of thankful that Software Quality Assurance & Testing is more active (well, there isn't that much activity be the number of unanswer questions is very low)

Tinkeringbell

@Rainbacon Can you explain to me what devops is? :P

Rainbacon

@Tinkeringbell I can't tell if you are being serious or not, so I'm going to pretend like you are. Devops is a set of practices related to how we go from "developer writing code" to "Applications running for users to use"

Tinkeringbell

I wasn't :P It was a reference to it basically not happening at all in my company too ;)

But thanks! :D

Rainbacon

ah, I thought the 😋 might have been a giveaway, but I couldn't be sure

Ael

13:09

@Rainbacon At my company it's: "you see those stuff devs don't want to do? Well, that's what devops do" :p

Tinkeringbell

No worries :)

CaldeiraG

today's lunch, copying data from one sql server to another, 20million rows and counting

XD

need to do this on 3 more

that's only data for 2 months apparently

Rainbacon

I've been involved in a developer guild at work focused on getting people to run integration tests on their feature branches before merging. We built out a solution to add IT into the build pipeline so they automatically run on your branch and block you from merging, that has since been pared down to writing a shell script that you can choose to run or not that will run the tests on our CI server, but has no effect on your ability to merge

Ael

@Rainbacon Well, unfortunately, I can't say I'm surprise. Though I do believe that keeping it in the pipeline but putting an "allow-failure:true" would have been better. At least a reviewer would have been able to see that the tests had fail before approuving (or not) the merge request

Tinkeringbell

@CaldeiraG lunch?! At 15:19 PM?

CaldeiraG

13:20

@Tinkeringbell i've been doing since since 11AM but yeah, cup of tea it is XD

Tinkeringbell

Hahaha

CaldeiraG

Or a cheesecake perhaps?

:P

avazula

@Ael I'm gonna write an answer when I have the time but this could help you. Let me know if it does :)

CaldeiraG

Transactions logs are screaming for space

k, 1 done

3 more XD

Ael

13:43

@avazula That sounds promising. I am currently working on something else, so I won't have time to test it today. But in any case, thanks :)

avazula

@Ael you're welcome <3

Ael

@avazula <3

@ava Question: Dp you know if putting the "allow_failure: false" on my deploy job prevents me from launching a manual job (like "rollback") from the same pipeline if the deploy fails? I was under the impression that manual job can't be launch if something fails before

avazula

14:18

@Ael I do not know for sure. However, I struggle to see why would your rollback job be manual? I'd have put up to be automatically triggered upon failure of the manual job

CaldeiraG

14:56

@Tinkeringbell the cup of tea is almost done \o/

Tinkeringbell

@CaldeiraG Took you long enough! I have 4 minutes left I guess, before dinner is served.

CaldeiraG

@Tinkeringbell good :)

Tinkeringbell

Though I do not yet smell any fries.

Oh, and dad's already home so we might eat late...

Poor schedule :(

CaldeiraG

:(

Tinkeringbell

Yep, dinner is officially late.

avazula

15:07

sad

Cultural differences: dinner will be in 3 hours for me

And I think it's still early haha

Rainbacon

@avazula What time would you consider correct for dinner?

Tinkeringbell

@avazula Yep, seems about right :P

Spent a week in Paris as a high-school student, with a host/hostess. They ate 'early' because of us, and it would still be 8/9 PM and we'd be ravenous!

avazula

@Rainbacon mmh ... I know that you should eat pretty early if you want to have a healthy digestion ... but with my Spanish roots I've been taught to eat lunch at 2-3PM and have dinner at 10PM :p

Tinkeringbell

After a day or two I just ate two hot meals a day: 1 at McDonalds at lunch, one at their place :P

avazula

wow

Tinkeringbell

15:18

Note that lunch was still at pretty Dutch times, because at that time we'd be with our Dutch teachers ;)

avazula

12PM?

Tinkeringbell

So, lunch was somewhere between 12/1 PM, and then there was whole afternoons of walking doing stuff, and then indeed dinner only at 8..

So many snacks were eaten XD

avazula

at what time do you have breakfast?

Rainbacon

We eat dinner at 6pm, I don't know how you all stand to wait so late

avazula

@Rainbacon I hardly ever feel hungry ... my mom doesn't either (I suspect she's autistic too)

Tinkeringbell

15:23

@avazula When in Paris? We used to have breakfast at around 8AM, be picked up/dropped off at the bus by 9 ;)

Lately, I haven't been eating breakfast because I'm a horrible breakfast eater anyways, and it's easy to wait until lunch (which is still at 12)

avazula

By the way, guys ... today is my first anniversary as a IPS mod! Thank you for the amazing community we're building together. Here's to the future of our stack! :)

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Rainbacon

Wow, I can't believe it's already been a year

avazula

me neither ... time flies!

M.A.R.

@avazula We're building a what

Awkwardly steps out of the way

avazula

ew, extroverts! I'm out

M.A.R.

15:39

Hey that's not fair

I might be an arsehole but I'm at best only WEAKLY qualified as an extrovert!

avazula

lol

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