The Awkward Silence

dhein

04:48

😁

Oh, and GaMen :)

Thats the view from my office btw :P I like the daily changing flags :D

Extroverted Main Man

05:23

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Q: I need help with abusive autistic kid at my school

Theres this autistic kid at my school who pushes me occasionally hits me tickles me and other things and I don’t know what to do i tell him to stop but he doesn’t I tell the teachers but they don’t do anything he has gave me bruises and hurt my back from digging his nails into it. I told my paren...

mental-health

dhein

05:36

Puhhh, that's a tough one.... I mean even if he would reshape his OP to be on-topic what would break down to asking something along the lines "How can I make him stop it?" I start wondering, since it appears to be a none adult. What advice could we give here? I mean, from my own experience, adolescents often aren't capable of understanding and respecting someone else self-determination and hence any intersocial solution is unlikely to work :x

Any thoughts on that? I was considering putting that in the comment, but for now I decided to not to

dhein

07:28

@Sandman Uff... He is right about saying that sounds pretty stalky. :x

dhein

07:41

Putting up a website to express his feelings for her... as a form of privately messaging her considering the traffic as a matter of the importance of the message to give :o That sounds.... scary

Magisch

morning

dhein

08:06

Moin! :D

Finally I don't have to just talk to bots anymore x)

@M.A.R.ಠ_ಠ: Hey :) Check out the latest Sandbox proposed question. I am sure you will appreciate that read ^^

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

08:23

Guten Tag!

Tinkeringbell

@dhein That one seriously has no place here, I feel.

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

@dhein In the sense of fun reading? Yeah, it's kinda fun

It feels more like Batman and Rachel's romance story.

Someone tell Ooker to try and save Harvey instead.

dhein

@Tinkeringbell What exactly you mean?

@M.A.R.ಠ_ಠ Yeah. Thought so.

Tinkeringbell

@dhein It's stalking, basically asking 'she told me I'm stalking her, so now how do I harass her properly'. The code of conduct clearly says no harassment.

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

@dhein Either way, I don't take much pleasure in reading about other people's real life dilemmas. Just mostly ranting about Y GIEV NEGETIVEZ POINTZ.

I'm not a monster. Sometimes.

dhein

08:33

@Tinkeringbell I tried to transport that in my comment just wanted to not point it out without being clear

Tinkeringbell

I put two that comments there now that are a little bit more direct ;)

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

I don't feel particularly verbose today. I might've said 'stalk ur face'. But that'd also violate Clash of Clans.

If I knew what it means, that is.

OK, newish mission: Get to 125 on Eeps.

Tinkeringbell

@M.A.R.ಠ_ಠ And then? you can only downvote once? :P

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

If it's an answer on main

Of course, wouldn't stop right at 125. The pesky mods like to delete crap and stuff.

Now, let me find posts with poor grammar. Maybe I should search for "loosing data".

Oh man. I missed the beta theme. Nicely burns your retina with all its excessive white

Mithrandir

08:51

@M.A.R.ಠ_ಠ look for comments that can be incorporated into questions, edit them in, and then flag the comments

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

Whoa, this does seem outside of my realm of wizardry.

Tinkeringbell

@M.A.R.ಠ_ಠ It's not much whiter than MSE :P

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

Even people that are 'loosing friendships' write incredibly well-written posts.

@Mithrandir How would I do that?

Mithrandir

Just go through questions, you'll find some soon enough :p

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

I thought for a moment you were gonna advertise your Eeps bot.

@Tinkeringbell Do you moderate with sunglasses on

Magisch

08:57

stack exchange dark mode ftw

Tinkeringbell

@M.A.R.ಠ_ಠ nope ;) just put the screens light output really low :P

Mithrandir

09:11

@Magisch you always mention it and never provide a link

Magisch

@Mithrandir github.com/samliew/SO-mod-userscripts

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works for all sites in the network, and does not require mod anywhere to work correctly

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

@Magisch have a star

Looks neater than Porkchat's dark mode. I might stick to it

dhein

09:39

@Tinkeringbell Yeah, found them but couldn't check as I had a meeting ^^ But I generally am a bit hesitated about just calling something like "hey, thats stalking!" out, as I already mentioned in the past, I sometimes totally miss the point of someones intentions in writing and confuse whats been meant. So I rather ask for clarification first before being direct about it.

Tinkeringbell

@dhein ;) That's okay. Mods can see deleted stuff too, and there's definitely something going on there, that's not okay.

So yeah, often a mod might be a bit more definitive than a regular user :) No worries.

dhein

@M.A.R.ಠ_ಠ Yeah, that wasn't the part I made that call uppon. But I thought you might enjoy reading him explaining that he isn't considering this stalking while it is the most obvious case of stalking I ever saw. Thats why I pinged you to it. :P

Magisch

@dhein ಠ_ಠ, someone needs help, and not in contacting their ex again

dhein

@Tinkeringbell Hehehe, yeah thats also why I wouldn't find my self capable of that job. You need to know what are the few cases to be definitive and which are those you should just row back. And not overreact on any of the inbetween. I struggle with both sometimes and sometimes is already too much ^^

(To be more clear, this was supposed to be a compliment about the job you are doing here... I can imagine, that might have not made it through inbetween the lines ^^)

Tinkeringbell

@dhein It's... always gut feeling here too ;) And you have a team (site, but also a room with mods from all sites) to ask for help :)

@dhein Thanks :) I did notice :)

dhein

09:44

@Magisch Pardon? I am not sure I understand you

I am at lunch now ttyl :)

Magisch

I read the proposed question tink deleted, it's consternating

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

09:58

@Magisch I skimmed through it, didn't quite know how to react to it.

Who the hell would tell someone else "you're not as smart as I am, and you'll never be"? IIRC that's what she said.

dhein

10:15

@M.A.R.ಠ_ಠ Maybe I confused the personal pronouns but didnt he say "He will never be as smart as she is, at least from her pespective" or soemthing along that?

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

@dhein Huh? Not you

The ex in that proposed post

dhein

Yeah, thats what I talk about ^^

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

I can't see deleted thingies yet

dhein

yeah same.

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

@dhein 700 rep to go tho, you can do it!

dhein

10:17

But that makes much more sense the way everyone else understands it, especially since he pointed out like 2 times it might appear weird, that he says it that way. And I was like "Well dunno, but if you think shes smarter than you, well fine by me"

Hehe long term I will :)

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

I could see deleted stuff in Chem for some while.

It felt like a blessing from heaven.

dhein

Hahaha, the stuff you like reading most, gets often deleted very quickly, doesn't it? xD

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

@dhein my impression was, from my shallow understanding of India, that she's like the privileged daughter of a noble family from the Victorian era, and poor Ook's like a 'peasant' to her.

Asians are different in these matters that they're usually more straightforward about it

dhein

Especially if you check his profile. He has actually asked 3 questions, all about how to contact his ex and by passing the friends of hers or making them help him get in contact with her again, in intervalls of like half a year per question....

So I think there are good chances that they actually actively trying to block him from getting any contact, not to mention that there might actually be a good reason on WHY he has literally no chance in getting any information on her presence.... I mean, usually, it doesn't coincidently happen, that you have no chance to contact your ex on any chann…

@M.A.R.ಠ_ಠ Dunno enough about the culture, but how would he came together with her at first in that case and split it then up on his site?

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

I wouldn't say culture, it's probably not something that can be called culture. But Asians are usually much easier to admit that they're 'too good' for someone else.

Of course, as you said, it could be something taken out of context.

Like, it's what she said after being fed up or something.

Why are we gossiping about someone and their ex, BTW? o.o

Let's gossip about Hollywood actors. That's definitely okay.

@dhein BTW, this was confusing. Are you a she? I'm asking to get my pronouns right next time, just in case

dhein

10:31

@M.A.R.ಠ_ಠ Did you pronounce me? I am a He :D And my confusion fo the pronouns was about him (oOke) writing something about he and she. but that was confusing to me as he I think used the terms he and she in that context. So it read to me like saying shes smarter than him. But that would make no sense in that context, so I mentioned I might have confused the pronouns he used ^^

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

scratches head

dhein

@M.A.R.ಠ_ಠ Well, I am doing so, as I am kinda worried about the intends that person about looking here for something. :P Hollywood actors I am less concerned about x'D

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

keeps scratching

dhein

@M.A.R.ಠ_ಠ Just nevermind it ;P

Magisch

@dhein 's pretty sketchy.

Mithrandir

10:35

@M.A.R.ಠ_ಠ He's got lice! Evacuate!

Magisch

10:49

@Mithrandir or worse, bedbugs

(don't google that, it'll give you anxiety)

dhein

@Magisch It is...

Well I am heading into the weekend now, so have a nice one you all :)

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

@Mithrandir Did you just assume my parasites?

Mithrandir

@M.A.R.ಠ_ಠ Do you have other parasites you'd like to tell us about?

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

@Mithrandir Not before you give me a hug.

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Mithrandir

11:04

Let the record show that M.A.R. has requested a hug from me.

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

Yeah yeah you can have that one

interpersonal.stackexchange.com/questions/21930/… o.O

Married for 15 years and he worries their bond is not strong enough o.o

Rainbacon

13:09

@IPSCommentBot tp

and also, to say that answer not only addresses the question, but that the others don't is blatantly incorrect

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

@Rainbacon Ditto. I'm so sick of that "This is the only anwer so far that addresses the actual question" And the thing is it almost exclusively appears on HNQ posts.

Tinkeringbell

@Rainbacon Well, the post from Mindwin can use a little bit of editing to focus on the 'not upsetting their parents' part, there was a second comment from the same author on that one (that I rewrote ;))

But the accepted answer seems a good one.

ElizB

Morning all :) happy Friday!

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

Afternoon!

Rainbacon

Yeah, I was pretty happy with the answer that I accepted (hence the fact that I accepted it)

Ooh, I'm almost to the last rep milestone. I'll probably hit it if my question stays on HNQ

M.A.R. ಠ_ಠ

13:25

Inb4 Eeps graduates tomorrow

Rainbacon

Nah, if they won't graduate writing, there's no way that they graduate us

Tinkeringbell