When I am forced to address a confrontation while still emotionally upset (in this case, I didn't understand yet why she was angry with me), I feel like I don't actually get to express my emotions because I haven't had time to reflect on them.
Well, this is your answer, all you have to do is...
I am currently the project lead of an online volunteer run software project. I originally created this and work on it my in free time. There are also a few other people who took interest in this project and volunteered to help. I have never worked with other developers before. Currently, there is...
When I was reversing, I accidentally scratched a woman's car. The scratch is around 15cm long and 0.5cm wide. The scratch was not a really a scratch where my car's paint was scraped off onto hers.
So I suggested to her to trying polishing or buffing it off. But she demands strongly to go a full...
Studies appear to show that you'll probably improve your mental and possibly even physical health by engaging people through other means than facebook. — Mark Rogers6 hours ago
Iewlll... I'm mentally and physically unhealthy because I'm on Facebook?
I am attending a party during the weekends, but I do not want her to be there because it will probably be embarrassing to me since coworkers are going to be there. I do not want my coworkers to meet her because she much lower class, and sometimes does things that would make me look bad. She's not...
@apaul Sound way too unorganized for my inner control freak... And I'm seeing about a thousand ways to bend those rules so I can abuse other people/other people can abuse me..:S
@Tinkeringbell Dunno, from what I've heard the radical self reliance is pretty paramount. There's a saying "Don't be a sparkle-pony" which seems to mean, don't show up expecting a rave/music festival...
The give a mouse a cookie story is a warning tale that I use for dealing with hippies... You give a mouse a cookie and he's going to want a glass of milk, if you give him a glass of milk, he'll want a place to take a nap, and so on...
Creative self expression is a beautiful thing. Making the world what you want it to be rather than just problem solving around the way it is... Art gives people a socially acceptable way to do that. Challenge notions, make things, hopefully make things better.
These days, you've got to be very careful of what you let be known about yourself
Notions of discontent with the status quo can deny you a lot of opportunities in the world. In this day and age, anything you say can and will be used against you
People's lives have been thoroughly ruined for off topic quips taken the wrong way. In the age of the internet, it's very easy to become widely known as awful for something you said off hand
@Magisch I guess I've come to a point in life where I find it better to be an outsider and be open about who I am. Ambition was fun while it lasted, but I'd rather be myself than be profitable or liked for being something else.
@Magisch Trust me, you don't have to be wealthy or successful to have adventures. You just have to give yourself permission to have them. They don't always go well, perhaps most of them don't, but do you really want to die without any scars?
@JarkoDubbeldam I think Mithrandir means queries that some people designed for very specific purposes where every result can look like abuse to someone with no / very little idea
for instance I have a query using some quirks of the SEDE data structure to find incidents of serial voting. People who haven't seen a lot of it before might start witch hunts against innocent users because of what a query reported
Essentially: just because it came up on a query designed to catch stuff that needs moderation doesn't mean that it's automatically evil. These things have false positives. Everything needs to be carefully checked before being flagged. But some people don't do that, and just flag everything or start a witchhunt.
More importantly if you didn't write the query and aren't deep into the subject matter you really have no way of telling the false positives
There are signs to look for, but most people don't really do that in that way. There are reasons why most of these things are usually left for moderators. normal users lack a lot of information you have to glean by inference and experience instead if you take this on as a normal user
When I am forced to address a confrontation while still emotionally upset (in this case, I didn't understand yet why she was angry with me), I feel like I don't actually get to express my emotions because I haven't had time to reflect on them.
Well, this is your answer, all you have to do is...
If I have to qualify something I'm about to say with "This sure sounds horribly sexist and probably is but hear me out..." then my secondary reaction to that should be "Wait, I don't actually have to post sexist garbage, I should probably cut that"
So.. i am working in the IT of a pretty big Company. This Company is a Institution where mentally handycapped or physically limited People getting integrated into the regular Workforce. My disability isnt the subject here, but we have many "Special" People here and many are annoying.
But i digre...
Can you narrow the scope of your question towards what kind of interpersonal solution you seek? "What should I do now?" is very broad, something like "Is there some way I can walk back what I said or use a social tactic to get him off my back?" would be more on topic for here. Welcome to IPS by the way. — Magisch1 min ago
OP basically has been feeding the paranoia, while being told to ignore it, and now reaps to consequences
> So I took matters in my own hands and tried to convince him, that his paranoia are false. I tried to ridicule his ideas about a world conspiracy and pretended I was some sort of insider in a resistance group. You know, the usual conspiracy stuff with contaminated tap-water, chemtrails, that kind of things.
what good would this do?
ever?
I fear that it is hard to answer any question related to this without pointing that out. Which makes it very likely for users to berate him for that
Find out who you have there the most .. And provoke him into a fight, it does not matter whether you will win it, but I see you that questions like yours will not bother you anymore ... For nothing.
welp, that's all comment flags gone for the day :/
There was a guy who had <10 helpful flags and 0 reviews on SO but 100k rep and specifically stated he would use his diamond to reopen closed beginner questions and punish people who closed questions since it was "rude" and he got thousands of votes
TLDR;
Is it rude to ask how much a new neighbour paid for their apartment? My view is that it isn't, because it's information that's probably their favourite topic of conversation right now, and also in the public domain.
Recently, some new people in my apartment building moved in. Unfortunate...
One thing I think that's missing here is that explaining that your foot was already injured when she stepped on it does NOT at all explain why you said what you did.
It does explain why you "made such a big deal about it" when she stepped on you, but it has no bearing whatsoever on why you would...
and it doesn't really help when the other asks why you are acting that way
one time I kicked someone and I got a contusion/bruise, oh and a hemorrhage. all on my big toe. and the next day I had to go to the gym and jump as high as i can (with a trampoline jumping over a stick)
(my injuries came from my kick, not from him/her hitting me)
@Magisch I've been trying to avoid the term "virtue signaling", but that's been a massive amount of what's been showing up in your question. You asked how to handle something you did, and many responses have been just saying what a horrible person you are. NOT productive.
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Personal favorite: "Can you do this $easything with $horriblehandmaintainedexceltable and get back to me in 4 weeks? sorry to spring this on you but $uselessintern can't do it and we're so behind schedule with it"