Most interpersonal situations are different and have little details that could change everything about the answers.
I'm not sure whether questions should add paragraphs of detail to help the user, or, to be more open in attempt to help future users.
For example, on the site in which I have the ...
I created the young-adults tag for this question because it seems like the answers to a more general question could be different for different age groups, and this clearly pertained to teenagers. I think that there are similar cases where such categorization could be useful, such as in questions ...
I personally feel like we haven't had enough details - and frankly, I did a crappy job of that on my second question, so I'm not just talking about others - but it might be right if we want a question to benefit a bunch of people.
In a few weeks time a friend from the Netherlands is coming over to spend a week with me in the UK. She is female (and I am male), we are both the same age, and are friends (there's nothing special between us). We have known each other for nearly a year now, and I am nervous as to how to handle m...
"Please edit the question to limit it to a specific problem with enough detail to identify an adequate answer. Avoid asking multiple distinct questions at once. See the How to Ask page for help clarifying this question."
You can't not ask multiple questions at once in these situations
If we are going to cater to the individual user, having them separate their problems into 3 or 4 different ones seems unintelligent.
Make it relevant to others
We like to help as many people at a time as we can. Make it clear how your question is relevant to more people than just you, and more of us will be interested in your question and willing to look into it.
I'm so glad you keep trying with it. It's quite a large issue to deal with (another understatement) and it's one we need multiple peoples to put energy into. Many hands make light work and all that.
@10Replies I think the reason we want a single question at once is that, theoretically, we want a single accepted answer for most posts; if you ask two questions, you might get one answer that responds to the first and another that responds to the second. SE doesn't work with multiple questions. I suspect we will end up allowing for looser, less specific questions than other SEs, though.
I freely acknowledge that it will be a lot harder to do in this subject than in most others on SE, but keeping post to one question is rather important to the SE goals and how things work. We really need to try and keep our questions within that guideline. Especially while in Beta, and Private Beta even more so.
In the future our traffic will mostly come from Google (or other search engines, if there are any others), and getting a question ranked there will require that it be a one-topic question, otherwise the ranking will be split between possible key words.
The side benefit is that when a question needs to be split into multiple questions, that also gives us multiple chances to be found on Google.
Tags are going to take time to develop. What looks like a good tag today could end up being to general, or to small, when we get more users and more questions.
Try to find a tag when asking a question, and if you need to make a new tag, try to think of a way to name it so that other people with some-what similar questions can mike it fit on their question, and also so that it's more easily found when trying to think of a tag.
As things progress, I'm sure that there will be lots of reorganization of the tags.
@anonymous2 I have a dominant personality and can easily take over things if I do no moderate self control. I'm also a little literal, so by providing myself clear boundaries - like X number of posts - that works well for me. Also that way I feel like I've achieved something, by contributing and it reduces burn out, by realising I'm not the only person here responsible :D sounds obvious hey?
@YvetteColomb Yes, it's a great approach, especially if your schedule permits it. In my particular case, there's no telling when I'll be working and if I'll have internet tomorrow evening or if I'll be out in the boonies or what. :) But, each person to their way. :) I contribute where I can and admire those who contribute regularly. :)
@YvetteColomb Long story, but essentially it's because I used to have a computer where my user name was anonymous. Then I transferred to Ubuntu Server, where anonymous is actually a system user in some cases. My brother recommended changing my user name, so I changed it to anonymous2. From there on, every profile takes on that name. Well, not quite. My more personal profiles have more personal names. :)
@YvetteColomb Basically whether or not it's considered "hot" is determined by a formula which takes into account three things: upvotes on the question, upvotes on the answers, and number of answers. Closed questions and questions on private betas are disqualified.
@GypsySpellweaver can bounties raise the hotness - by the votes I mean.. hm what I'm trying to say, can bounty questions be listed as hnq or does the bounty preclude that?
The biggest problem seems to be that the number of answers has such a big effect, no matter what the answer quality is.
Deleting spam answers from a question should not drop its hotness, but now it does.
In my opinion answers with zero score have a disproportionate effect on hotness.
This same m...
Basically what's documented here:
What formula should be used to determine "hot" questions?
We have a few tweaks:
Succeeding questions from the same site are penalized by increasing amounts. So, the first question from SO in the list gets multiplied by 1.0, the second by 0.98, the third ...
On Computer Science Educators we've had a string of luck. But that can change without notice. Not sure how long any have stayed there, but there's been a fairly steady presence at least.
@HDE226868 The site feels close to the Parenting site, which many people hate, myself included. I think we can avoid the rubbish that goes on at that site, but we'll need to be strict about questions that are too broad or too subjective.
> This question is of a kind I am calling "asserting your boundaries". Please [edit] this question to add details about the specific problem you are facing beyond learning to be assertive while polite.
I've started using this comment on some questions, just as a trial for now.
To borrow terminology from the Area 51 site, I think in general we will want this site to be aimed at a "Avid Enthusiast or Prosumer" (as poorly as that applies to this site) - not because those who know they are "beginners" at interpersonal skills don't belong her, but because we'd love for ever...
^ My answer to the question of whether terminology questions belong here
TL;DR: Being a "prosumer" of interpersonal skills means having a well-rounded competency in the area of interpersonal interaction, and it is impossible to have such a well-rounded competency without knowing the language of the field. To reuse phrasing I thought up for another site, we want this site to concern both the theory and the practice of interpersonal skills. So questions about terminology fit into this site because they serve that goal: well-rounded competency.
@GypsySpellweaver Ah, well I mean that's an aspirational title - it's something we can all aim for, and I think something we can all achieve. Of course there are a few people who are genuine experts, having done doctoral research etc on interpersonal skills, but I doubt we have any.
I guess I'm always looking for where I don't belong, since I don't belong anywhere, and notice things that confirm my expectations. Not intended but perceived nonetheless.
Well, there's enough of a description in my profile to likely tell you if you know me or not. Not enough to find me or identify to strangers, but someone who knows me should recognize it.
Hi all, I am trying to frame a question on tips and gratuities. The problem is this is very culturally weighted, and I more or less know the deal in my own country. I would love to find out what the standards are elsewhere though. Any ideas?
Notice that the top two lines are concurrent usage. The attempted boot at 04:10 failed and thinks it is still running. The successful but, 13 hours later, at 17:10 is the one that I'm running on now.
The "colony" is the cats that live outside. Five regulars, and 3 that pass through from time to time. Four of the inside cats actually go outside for most of the daylight hours. They get along with the colony as well. The other 13 inside cats don't go out at all.
An unrelated random observation: It seems that questions are routinely getting more upvotes than answers are, which is counter to most trends I've seen before. It's interesting.
I guess that means others like the question, maybe want an answer as well, but not so many people find the answer(s) so far useful for their own situation.
With our questions addressing personal issues, rather than technical issues with solid right/wrong answers, that's to be expected. I think anyway
@HDE226868 Where to start? :P The terrible advice. The unbounded subjectiveness. The complete betrayal of everything that makes the stack exchange format work!
@YvetteColomb Did you read the rest of that sentence? "not because those who know they are "beginners" at interpersonal skills don't belong her, but because we'd love for everyone who is a part of this site to quickly learn skills and gain confidence so that they would soon feel as though they are "prosumers"."
@HDE226868 I think everyone is concerned to make sure the site succeeds during the private beta, so they are being very liberal with their question votes. It's not a healthy sign.
@curiousdannii I did, but as a leading statement it gives that impression, although I suspect you're right, it will be that group and beginners this site draws. Professionals will either be doing it for a living or already have a blog.
@curiousdannii @YvetteColomb I'm making a meta question about experts and expert questions, because I do want this site to be popular among experts. I attend conferences that involve relationship/interpersonal skills experts, and they're huge geeks that would tend to enjoy contributing to a site like this.
@10Replies Yup! Therapists, self-help-book writers, lecturers in communication skills, sociologists, and so on. Heck, I don't know if I'm an expert, but I co-host a podcast that intersects with the topic. I think we want those sorts of people interested in the site.
Other pet peeve of this site is that I wish everyone in the review queues would help contribute to the site as well as the review queues. Some people have been in the review queues and still have 101 rep... no edits, posts, nada.
What does a good expert question look like on this site? Possibly related to Are hypothetical questions welcome? and How can we include the terminology of interpersonal skills into our site? .
Our beta invite says:
The first questions set the tone for the site. If you ask high quality, exper...
I've already noticed a lot of similar and potentially duplicate tags for the site, and I was wondering when during the site's beta is a good time to start asking for community feedback on merging 2 tags (such as online-interaction and social-media) and also removing of duplicate tags? Can we star...