The Awkward Silence

avazula

6:28 AM

@Ælis It indeed really rang a bell. Thank you :)

Morning everyone!

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A J

Good noon!

Tinkeringbell

7:59 AM

morning!

Mithical

in Contact, 9 hours ago, by Mithical

Tinkeringbell

Same.

Belle

9:17 AM

Morning

Morning!

Afternoon!

Morning :)

9:38 AM

How is everyone?

Tinkeringbell

Meh.

And you?

Belle

It's okay for a monday

A J

@Belle feeling sleepy.

#LazyMonday

Ælis

@Belle I'm febrile and jumping everywhere ^^ (I have been like that for a little more than a week now. It's kind of weird, I'm not us to have so much energy, even if this one is induce by stress ^^)

Also, I ask a new bunch of my coworkers to call me Ælis and not <deadname>. It's going well so far :D (I have now ask 8 coworkers. I have maybe 45 in total ^^)

Belle

Good going @Ælis :)

My fiancé went to a work party on the weekend (I was invited too but I declined and told him to have fun with his friends). When he came back he was super drunk and kept apologizing because people had flirted with him. Not because he cheated or anything, but because other people flirted with him. This guy... *v*

Ælis

9:59 AM

@Tinkeringbell Seems like I didn't see this question of yours when you posted it. I'm glad I did now. I might answer it too, even though the answers over here are already quite good. In any case, I just wanted to say that both my grandparents really love going through old pictures. It kind of is like those pictures is filling their memory gap

@Belle Haha :D

Tinkeringbell

@Ælis That's nice... even though we didn't have any pictures ready as she was visiting our place ;)

Ælis

@Tinkeringbell Oh right. In this case, my grandpa love seeing pictures of castle he may or may not have visited. My grandma also love things that talk about the second world war (even though that's not the happiest conversation subject ^^). So, the picture don't necessary need to be about her, but can also be about things that she has always liked

Tinkeringbell

Ah, that might have been an option... there is a local 'archive' and they do old pictures...

At this point though... I think the great-aunt may pass away before there's a chance she'll visit us again. That 'solves' the problem too XD

Ælis

Oh dear x) But in case you have some other parent who "catch" dementia, you'll know what to try :)

Tinkeringbell

I really hope neither of my parents will ever get that disease... But yeah, there's a few other old relatives around ;)

Ælis

10:10 AM

I don't want to be pessimistic, but both of my grandparent caught it :/ (though my grandma is doing better now). So, it might only be temporary, but if they live long enough, they might have it sooner or later

Tinkeringbell

10:22 AM

Yeah... fingers crossed things just go well for a very long time ;)

Ælis

Yep, finger crossed here as well :)

CaldeiraG

10:49 AM

Morning :)

Well, so my debit card wasn't the problem after all, looked like a system issue or something :D which is nice because I also opened a 'savings account' and closed an old account so yay :D

Ælis

@CaldeiraG Yay for the saving account! \o/

How I currently feel:

^^

CaldeiraG

11:09 AM

xD :D

The card issue was a bummer but I was able to pay for my lunch via an app so it's alright

I talked to the person from the bank (that was the same when i opened it back in 2018) and they said that he also used the card around the same time with no issues so not sure what happened

Ælis

11:31 AM

One of my coworkers just asked me wanted to be called Ælis instead of <deadname> was because I was non-binary *-*

avazula

@Ælis :D Is it okay if I still call you "Noon" or do you rather want me to abandon that nickname as well?

("Noon" is how I've been referring to you to my relatives so let me know if that's not okay with you :))

Ælis

@avazula I think I'm still okay with Noon for now? It's my given name that I really hate but Noon is just a nickname (even though it's based on my given name). So, I guess I have mix feelings with "Noon" but I'm not really against it for now (though it might change in the future)

avazula

@Ælis Well, let me know if you change your mind then, I have no issue with calling you any way you want it :)

that's the need we need it, anyway you want it...

Ælis

@avazula I think I am lost in my feelings and are not sure about what I want ^^ I think I prefer Ælis when people are talking to me. But I still like being Ælis Noon. And I am not against it if you need to refer me as "Noon" for clarity purpose. Also, I love you, thank you for asking this <3

avazula

1:43 PM

Welcome American friends!

It's been a quiet morning

Morning @avazula!

Morning @Rain :D

Morning!

Today i drunk a very burnt coffee, I still have the taste of it :x

Rainbacon

I haven't had any coffee today

Tinkeringbell

2:01 PM

I've already had 4 latte's. I want another one but... then I will have trouble sleeping tonight.

Belle

2:16 PM

Morning @Rainbacon

Rainbacon

Morning!

Belle

We were talking about coffee here earlier. One of my colleagues mentioned drinking 4 cups a day, another one 5, one 7 and one 10. Then I said I drink 1 or 2 a week. Now they're wondering if I'm even a developer.

brb grabbing more water

CaldeiraG

@Belle xD

4 per day for me here :D

avazula

@Belle I used to be around 10 ._.

Now I'm at like 4-5

Tinkeringbell

I'm really limiting myself to 4, and only on days that I'm at an office. (So, three days a week, usually). Now that I'm more on site, I might need to spread them a bit better ;)

Ælis

2:23 PM

@Belle I don't drink coffee at all ^^ But I don't need it, I already have my anxiety to play this role :p (drinking coffee when you have anxiety issues is really not a good idea. You should probably stop)

CaldeiraG

@avazula :o that's like a coffee every 2.5 hours xD

Journeyman Geek

@Belle if you develop, you're a developer :D

@avazula you sound like some of my folks in the old country :D

Em C

3:04 PM

@Ælis it took me an embarrassingly long time to figure out that connection xP

now I usually just drink one cup in the morning, maybe two or a tea if I feel really tired

El'endia Starman

@avazula Very curious - I understood what you meant even though the phrase rang a bell is more about vaguely remembering something. (Oooh, maybe because of the association with Pavlov?) You might've meant struck a chord? Which is also a musical phrase, looks like. Very interesting...

@Belle I drink 0 per year. :P

Milk allllll the time!

avazula

3:20 PM

@El'endiaStarman I guess strike a chord would've been more appropriate in that case indeed ... I've only ever used the former as in "it doesn't ring a bell" so I thought it meant sth like "It's not something I can remember" ... and therefore if it rings a bell it means I've seen that before :p

Not sure that's very understandable haha

Mithical

@Belle I drink coffee a lot in the winter because it's warm

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4:29 PM

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Tinkeringbell

Not much of a surprise though...

CaldeiraG

meta post too

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Tinkeringbell

Yep, same copy..

Only apparently Meta isn't awesome ;)

CaldeiraG

@Tinkeringbell yeah, removing two of the most respected people on SE hands was the end of the line for some

Tinkeringbell

@CaldeiraG Of course it was. It's not something that can be forgiven.

CaldeiraG

4:32 PM

@Tinkeringbell Yeah :(

Alex Robinson

hello everyone

Tinkeringbell

Hey! Long time no see, how are you?

Alex Robinson

hey! yeah it's been a hot minute... i am mostly good - currently jobhunting and feeling confident about it :) what about you

Belle

Hi Alex!

Alex Robinson

hey belle ^^

Tinkeringbell

4:41 PM

@AlexRobinson Work is going great here, people actually listen when I say stuff :) that's a thing I was starting to miss, learning a new language... So I'm getting a bit more confident which is a good feeling :)

Alex Robinson

sounds great! which language are you learning?

Tinkeringbell

Magik, still ;)

It's been 1,5 years now, though I think I made more progress since I got a proper mentor in August than the entire time before that

chumpbot

5:09 PM

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Alex Robinson

@chumpbot wrongo

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@chumpbot wrongo

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5:12 PM

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Alex Robinson

poor lux... getting targeted

Belle

Just encountered this and felt the need to share

El'endia Starman

Gotta drink more to stay awake during the longer nights.

ankii

@Belle Where's India : (

there must be a bright yellow dot somewhere there

Ælis

@EmC +1 <3

El'endia Starman

5:26 PM

Alas, country-level data and (more than?) half of India is poor rural areas.

Em C

@Ælis :) it was bugging me (among other things.. but that's the most easily fixed one :p)

@Belle huh! that's surprising

Ælis

@EmC Oh yeah, the question in itself is absolutely awful. I must say, I haven't read the entire post though. So I have no idea if there are other "bad stuff" in it ^^

Em C

5:44 PM

off-topic question ... how do other devs here deal with working on multiple features at once, branching-wise? every so often I try to separate them out but eventually give up and mix everything up in one branch again (like when I need to demo both of them in back-to-back meetings or something) and it feels like a big mess :/

(I'm trying to un-stash stuff right now but of course I have half of one feature still in my current branch so git is unhappy)

Tinkeringbell

@EmC Really just keep them separate, and when demoing unmerged stuff, switch branches.

El'endia Starman

If you must demo two features simultaneously, make a new branch from one and merge the other into that.

Ælis

@EmC I usually make a second repo, call it "branch_feature-name" and act like they are not even in the same project ^^

Tinkeringbell

Or have two versions/sessions of your application running, each with 1 branch loaded into it... If that's possible

Em C

@Tinkeringbell not really :(

sounds like I need to be more disciplined about keeping track of things. what a surprise :p

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5:51 PM

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Em C

it would be a lot easier if the people telling me what to do made up their minds so I didn't have to keep switching around to double-check what I have half-done when they ask questions about it ..

Belle

6:02 PM

We don’t use feature branches. Much to my frustration. I’m slowly convincing my coworkers of the need, but the current devops structure doest support it

scohe001

7:00 PM

@Belle same here^ and unfortunately no matter how many amazing points I make about feature branches, it always comes back to the fact that our version control doesn't handle branches well AT ALL :(

So hoorah for more broken builds I guess

Em C

7:14 PM

we only have branches per release.. meh

the workflow is: make a local branch, make your changes, upload the local branch, get it reviewed, merge the local branch into master (or whatever). it's the local branch that I have to be extra careful about, so I don't include random stuff from the other things I'm working on

no idea if that's normal :P

scohe001

Yea that sounds like how it should be. We're the same but minus the local branch. Ppl just throw code at master and hope for the best. And I speak from experience of watching people throw code--these guys have bad aim and bad arms :p

Rainbacon

@scohe001 Please tell me you aren't using TFS

Em C

hahah

Rainbacon

@scohe001 That must be merge conflict hell

scohe001

@Rainbacon ha. Our product managers have to coordinate to try to make sure no two devs are working on stories in the same areas of code in the same sprint because we'd start losing so much time.

Rainbacon

7:21 PM

@scohe001 that sounds awful

scohe001

@Rainbacon no, and reading about it, thank goodness. We're using svn, which I've learned is just a less useful git in every way

Em C

my last job avoided that problem by having one developer per project :D

scohe001

Lol that sounds like a Dilbert solution

In other words, brilliant

Em C

it's fun times if you know what you're doing! otherwise, very not fun

did mean svn wasn't too painful though because you only ever needed the basic commands ;)

Rainbacon

7:37 PM

My first client used TFS, the way it worked was each team had a branch, when you did a release, then you merged your team's branch into master

Em C

....... that's like, the opposite of how "master" is normally used (in my experience, at least)

scohe001

Yikes. How often did stuff break when you merged everything? Actually how long did it take to resolve those merge conflicts?

Rainbacon

Yeah, we merged to master only after the deploy was successful, and sometimes they'd forget to do that merge for like a month

Usually they remembered when they did the next team's deploy and things broke

chumpbot

11:33 PM

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