The Awkward Silence

Rainbacon

2:02 AM

Ooh, my IPS-y meta answer is due for a 500 point bounty

avazula

6:26 AM

@Ælis feel better soon! Flu is the worst. Love to you <3

dhein

6:51 AM

Hey everyone :)

A J

yello!

dhein

Not my fav color, but its decent :D

A J

lol

dhein

interpersonal.stackexchange.com/q/23720/32 Not sure about this one. I feel like giving an answer. But before I put in the effort I would like to reasure: Shouldn't this one be closed? Since it is asking for advice about dealing with a person having heavy depressions and its hard to generalize those things. Given that we are no therapeutic specialists... My answer MIGHT do more harm than good eventually. But I would emphasize that part anyways.

avazula

7:20 AM

@dhein I left a comment there

It really depends what they're trying to achieve so we need to make sure we know what's their goal before trying to answer

But yeah, right now it's off topic because unclear

oof it's gonna to be hard to work today

I slept only 3 hours last night o_o #tinyEyes

dhein

7:40 AM

@avazula Ahhhh don't bring it up :x I had last night 13 hours of sleep unfortunately...

I had the last 7 days ~3 hours of sleep on average per night. And I had a date yesterday... Unfortunately when I had my shower and was about to dress myself I just fell asleep on my pile of clothing... v.v

Ælis

@Rainbacon Wow, congrats! Also, it's raining bounty on this question! It's nicz to see people being so invested in being nice :)

dhein

Fortunately she knew about me having had lacked alot of sleep recently, so she was understanding for me not showing up.... But still I feel so damn awkward about it :(

Ælis

@avazula <3 I already feel better this morning. Thanks science for modern medicin, those drugs are life saving!

@dhein Ouf, that's definitively bad timing indeed!

dhein

@avazula I think their goal is straight forward addressing the problem. So making them aware of it. Should be in itself clear enough, or wouldn't it? But I am not sure if we should answer somethign like "How to adress soemthing to someone with strong depression?" Anyways. OP clarifying this, won't hurt :)

avazula

@dhein I think so too, but until they confirm that we can't know for sure.

@dhein it'll be better next time :)

@Ælis yay, good health <3

CaldeiraG

8:03 AM

Morning :)

so my computer upgraded to Windows 10 1809, I love it because it has Dark Mode

avazula

@CaldeiraG Heya!

@CaldeiraG ooh, neat!

I think I have that too but I use my laptop so very rarely I can't recall fr sure haha

CaldeiraG

@avazula The problem is that I hate Chrome with the dark mode, makes things difficult to read

so I probably need to switch browsers

avazula

@CaldeiraG heh, I don't use Chrome, I don't have that issue :p

CaldeiraG

@avazula Use Vivaldi at home, Chrome at work but i might switch to Vivaldi too :P

2

A: Force light mode in Google Chrome

As of the version 76.0.3809.100, this solution doesn't work anymore. (1),(2) I took a look at this issue in Google Support and found this answer: Add to Chrome shortcut properties target: --disable-features=DarkMode So the entire target looks something like: "C:\Program Files (x86)\...

still no updates to this question as I haven't found anything

avazula

But my browser is still Chromium-based

CaldeiraG

8:07 AM

@avazula Vivaldi is still Chromium-based

It's just better TM :p

avazula

@CaldeiraG I had to look that up. Yay, Opera friends! :D

@CaldeiraG TM?

Mithical

Everything except for Firefox is Chrome-based

CaldeiraG

@avazula Had Opera for a long time, decided to switch because it's owned by a unknown company

@avazula urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=soon%20%28tm%29 :)

it's the trademark symbol

that i totally don't know the Alt code

:P

avazula

@CaldeiraG ooh, okay :D

@CaldeiraG unknown company? How's that?

CaldeiraG

@Mithical Pretty much, even Edge got into Chromium

avazula

8:09 AM

Oh, let me try: This is Neat <sup>TM</sup>

noooo it doesn't work :(

Tinkeringbell

Yeah, that one will only work on main ;)

(or meta)

avazula

@Mithical I think Firefox is great! I use that at home

Mithical

™

Better™

CaldeiraG

@avazula old.reddit.com/r/operabrowser/comments/5st2v5/…

avazula

8:26 AM

now I'm giving Vivaldi a try

CaldeiraG

:p

Belle

Morning

dhein

8:42 AM

@avazula Well, I hardly can imagine how this could be any worse anyways xD And if it would be, its game over anyways >.< So yeah... I must admit... I doubt I could be already now as understanding as she is. If I had a date and the other person not showing up without any notice, no matter what... I would be pretty pissed. So I am kinda mad with myself already ^^

@Ælis Yöps... shame on me ^^

Extroverted Main Man

9:03 AM

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Q: Perfect boyfriend used rude lanaguage with me

My adorable boyfriend and I got into a fight. It is a minor thing, but one thing he told me made me really concerned. He texted "now listen to me" and the rest was related to the fight. Now this tone is something I have never heard from him and it makes me really concerned. It is out of line with...

relationships

Belle

@ExtrovertedMainMan confused

CaldeiraG

@Belle also confused

avazula

9:22 AM

confused why you don't VTC then :D

CaldeiraG

9:38 AM

Well i did now :P

Belle

9:53 AM

I don't VTC without leaving a comment why unless there already is a comment that explains it. This time, I have no comment.

Tinkeringbell

rpg.stackexchange.com/q/161208/42432 smirk...

chumpbot

Maybe he texted when just having "another bad day at work"? Or maybe he thought that you were rude and pointed this out? Have you already talked to him about that? — OldPadawan 24 secs ago

Matched regex(es) ["possible-aic"]

The thing here is that I would immediately switch to Italian and make sure my friends did too, but I always go out of my way to make people comfortable and have been told not to expect that back, so I never know what to really be able to expect in return. — SeriousBri 3 mins ago

#23728 SeriousBri (242 rep) | A: How to handle language differences (score: 1) | posted 46 minutes ago by theSameTime (79 rep) | Toxicity 0.0 | tps/fps: 0/0

Matched regex(es) ["chatty"]

CaldeiraG

@chumpbot fp

chumpbot

Marked this comment as not flag-worthy (fp). Currently marked 0tps/1fps

CaldeiraG

@Tinkeringbell xD

CaldeiraG

10:24 AM

reddit.com/r/mildlyinteresting/comments/e9vd1c/…

Love this idea

Belle

I'm writing up an answer and trying to find sources for my answer. Found this: pnas.org/content/106/20/8140.long

So cool

Tinkeringbell

Oh, that seems slightly related to the theory that people from different cultures group colours differently?

E.g. some would put a colour with the greens, while others would put it with blue's/yellows :P

avazula

best day ever: my boss finally agreed that we move out so now I have an actual desk!

CaldeiraG

10:43 AM

@avazula \o/ nice :D

Belle

10:59 AM

@avazula yay!

My answer got long. It's a bit of a frame challenge.

M.A.R.

11:16 AM

@Belle Holy crap if you're B2–C1 then I'm A2 at best

CaldeiraG

@M.A.R. Same as Belle, B2-C1 :p

dhein

12:19 PM

@CaldeiraG Did you? For me it shows that currently I am the only one having an VTC on it 0o

chumpbot

@CaldeiraG : hence the culture tag needed :) if anyone sends me this sentence, just this simple "now listen to me", my first reptilian brain reaction is drawing the image of the MF I'll throw at you if you say one more word, because I ain't your kid, or little brother, or the intern that you can torture. It really looks like an order given to a silly person, no matter the words are said or texted. The meaning is the same. Or not! depending on the culture IMO. — OldPadawan 1 min ago

Matched regex(es) ["possible-aic"]

dhein

@Tinkeringbell Wonderful :P

M.A.R.

12:35 PM

Well I just took an online English fluency test to see how I do.

They will be emailing the results in a day or what.

What I noticed is I impress myself with my writing sips coffee

Which hmm, I can't tell if is a good or bad thing

Belle

When I last attempted a test, I got C1. My writing (not chat writing) might be good enough for C2, but my speech and especially listening isn't. I haven't practiced proper writing in a couple years, though, so I didn't want to classify myself as too high.

M.A.R.

@Belle Well, wasn't C2 Shakespearean or what?

It's kinda odd that what grammar they consider "high level" is just relics of the past, like inversion and stuff

euenglish.hu/online-level-test-exam-compare-table

This one told me B2/C1 but it doesn't have a writing section

This Canadian one canada-english.com/en/leveltest told me they'd give me the results in a day, and it has a writing section

CaldeiraG

@dhein yeah because i can't actually VTC due to rep

I flagged it although

M.A.R.

12:50 PM

@CaldeiraG pfft noob

CaldeiraG

@M.A.R. :p

Mithical

@M.A.R. Told me C1+.

> 47 of 50 questions answered correctly

Your time: 00:09:31

M.A.R.

Well me 44. And you could have chosen multiple options, so I dunno if I should have or not

So if a native speaker gets three wrong, what does it say about those three questions.

And if that native speaker is @Mith, what does it say about @Mith.

CaldeiraG

@M.A.R. oh wait, is that free?

M.A.R.

@CaldeiraG No you spend quite a few kilojoules getting through

CaldeiraG

1:00 PM

@M.A.R. "The energy we get from food and drink is measured in kilojoules (kJ)." - ah, I got it :p

i need to do those tests again

M.A.R.

@Mithical Heh did you get the one that said "How're you?" and had "I hate this question" as an option?

CaldeiraG

see if I'm really B2 or C1 or what :p

M.A.R.

> Your English fluency level is :p

Belle

I got 43 right, but the answers with multiple possible checkboxes threw me off as well.

Ah, no single answer had multiple correct answers

CaldeiraG

@M.A.R. Lol x)

avazula

1:24 PM

Morning to you @Rain

Afternoon for the others :D

Rainbacon

Morning!

M.A.R.

Mornin

Tinkeringbell

1:52 PM

Would it be very rude to cancel plans entirely, because the person you're making plans with keeps changing the plans?

Rainbacon

I would say no

Tinkeringbell

Great. Now I only need to convince mom.

:P

Rainbacon

Though I would follow up by asking if any iterations of the plans are undesirable to you or if your objection is solely the fact that the plans are constantly changing

Tinkeringbell

No, the changes are undesirable too...

We were supposed to take the train to a concert, see the concert, take the train back home.

Now she wanted to go by car, but doesn't like driving late so ... car to hotel, wander the city aimlessly until it's time to go to the concert, see the concert, go back to the hotel, sleep, breakfast, back home was the second iteration.

After that, it 'would be nice to wander through the city the next day too, before going home. It's a very nice city around christmas'.

After that, there was 'a parade that night, we could stay until the parade'

Right now she's looking at booking another hotel (because the one we're staying for the first night is booked fully) so 'we can have a drink during the day, and I don't need to drive back'

Combine that with her bullying me into buying new clothes and stuff (though that would've happened anyways for christmas).... I'm quite done with this, it's no longer fun.

Rainbacon

Holy cow

Yeah, those are excessive changes

CaldeiraG

2:04 PM

@Rainbacon Morning

Rainbacon

@Tinkeringbell I have an idea. I'll tell her that you no longer want to go to the concert for you and you can call the recruiter and tell him that I'm not interested in taking a second interview for me

Tinkeringbell

Deal!

:D

Rainbacon

Turning down recruiters is so hard, especially when they work for recruiting agencies. They are so pushy and always try to convince you that you are wrong about what you want

Tinkeringbell

Yeah, I guess they're getting a bonus when they do get you a job? Or when they get their clients an employee?

Rainbacon

Yeah

3rd parties always make transactions harder

avazula

2:12 PM

@Tinkeringbell :(

Lots of courage to you

Tinkeringbell

It'll work out. It's not like I won't survive, but she's very much pushing the boundaries of how much time we can spend together without fighting and I think she knows it ....

@Rainbacon :\ doesn't sound that great, no :(

Extroverted Main Man

2:33 PM

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Q: Duplicate gifted magazine subscription, should I tell them?

My two preschool kids have been gifted the Highlights magazine, which is really a great magazine, but unfortunately both my mother and my aunt have gifted it to them, so they received duplicates this month, and presumably will continue to for the next year. Some of the materials are consumable ac...

relationships gifts

Alex Robinson

@ExtrovertedMainMan title needs an edit. the body is fine, but "should i do X" is off topic

Belle

I actually had a very good experience with the recruiter who helped me find this job. Sounds like that's more then exception than the rule :(

Rainbacon

2:48 PM

@Belle Do they recruit in the US? :)

Belle

2:59 PM

@Rainbacon I don't think so :(

Alex Robinson

3:12 PM

errr

Belle

I'm so looking forward to the trip to the tropical pool tomorrow with my brother. Forget we're adults for a day XP

Alex Robinson

i accidentally deleted a huge folder of emails in outlook and i have no idea where ithey're gone

this is really bad

Belle

@AlexRobinson support.office.com/en-us/article/…

Alex Robinson

monkaS

doesn't immediately appear to be a way to recover it

Extroverted Main Man

4:16 PM

0

Q: How can I convey to my husband to take an extra step to finish a task completely?

Hard to explain the question in the title, but anywho. My husband has this tendency to do something and do it almost completely, but stop one step short, or just take a shortcut. A few examples: Toilet paper roll runs out in the bathroom so he gets a new one, but instead of taking the old card...

relationships chores

Belle

@ExtrovertedMainMan Did OP steal my fiancé? Sounds so familiar.

Ælis

5:19 PM

So, apparently, my edit kicked this answer out of the queue, sorry for that :/ (I did re-flagged and voted to delete)

Em C

@Ælis yeah, VLQ flags are automatically marked helpful after an edit

but now that there were 2 delete votes.. I don't mind casting the 3rd ;)

Ælis

@EmC That's not really convenient, this answer was really hard to read without the line breakers ><

Em C

well, NAA flags will stay after edits :)

Ælis

True but I believe most people don't know the difference between those two kinds of flags and might flag incorrectly :/

Em C

yeah, I don't think it's very well known

but as long as at least one person flags it NAA or after edits it'll still get checked out :)

Rainbacon

5:29 PM

I wish we could get custom flag reasons

Ælis

@EmC Does it still go through the review though? Or do mod need to manually take care of them?

Em C

@Ælis I think mods would need to check it out at that point (meta.stackexchange.com/questions/334193/…) (assuming it doesn't get 3 delete votes in the meantime)

Ælis

So more work for the mods, that's not great :/

Em C

eh, it's not that big of a deal IMO. the flag queue has been pretty small lately :)

right now the only flag is.. one I raised a few minutes ago :p

Ælis

5:48 PM

@EmC Maybe I should go flag a bunch of old, low quality, answers then. You know, so that you mod don't get too comfortable :p

Rainbacon

7:24 PM

oof, I can't believe it's only 2:30. This has been such a slow day

Rainbacon

9:39 PM

@Tinkeringbell I managed to get through declining the next interview without too much hassle. Have you made any progress on your interpersonal situation yet?

Tinkeringbell

Does alcohol count?

Rainbacon

Well it is a solution...

Tinkeringbell

;) most hotels are fully booked because it's the weekend before Christmas. So we're not going an extra night, at least.

Rainbacon

Well that's good

Tinkeringbell

Yours is too :)

Rainbacon

9:48 PM