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12:05 AM
@Belle that's pretty sweet! enjoy :p
well, i noticed i have a black spot on my lips o.O
lmao, that's why you shouldn't search medical stuff on google, if i search it in portuguese all i get is skin cancer articles, in english i get it's nothing major
still need to check with my doc then
 
 
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@CaldeiraG Edit four posts and don't do anything else!
 
2:23 AM
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Q: My girlfriend is always upset and dislikes every decision I make

James MMy girlfriend of 8 months...from the moment I met her I knew I loved her. So kind, we had all the same briefs on life and loved the same music. If I’m completely honest...she is my soulmate. The problem is that she’s always upset with everything I say or do...she gets sexually frustrated. She get...

 
 
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6:48 AM
While I don't see it in the help center yet, IPS SE likes to have more background on their answers. The other answers here explain what experience they've had to lead them to give their advice. You just authoritatively declare what should be done. I've seen couples who lived apart, shared a residence briefly, and then moved to separate residences again while continuing as a couple, so I know it can happen, but don't know enough to speak about it. Could you explain more why you feel it's so unlikely? — Ed Grimm 2 mins ago
#23711 Ed Grimm (1213 rep) | A: Partner temporary moving in, how to enforce it's temporary? (score: -1) | posted 13 hours ago by fearofmusic (35 rep) | Toxicity 0.0 | tps/fps: 0/0
Matched regex(es) ["chatty"]
 
 
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7:49 AM
@chumpbot fp
 
Marked this comment as not flag-worthy (fp). Currently marked 0tps/1fps
 
Cat please @chump
 
@El'endiaStarman :p
 
@chumpbot are cats even real
 
7:54 AM
 
Morning :)
@chumpbot doggos?
 
aaaaarghbl
 
that's a weird dog :D
 
Morning
I think it's a Keeshond
As a non-American, I'm not sure if I need to get popcorn, alcohol or both for later today.
 
8:23 AM
@Belle ?
what's happening today?
 
Impeachment vote
 
JAD
But that would be the House's impeachment vote right?
That's not going to be nearly as contentious as the actual trial in the Senate
 
@JAD we know what senate would do...
I wish Fox News wasn't there.. or youtube could do something to let people hear outside echo chamber by allowing some of the opposite opinions slip in suggestions.
I am soon going to be a pet owner! Just can't wait to go back to the college. She's a 3 month old, very cuddly pup.
 
8:55 AM
@ankii yay :)
now you can post on r/aww :P
 
9:26 AM
@avazula Are you okay here? You are making weird noise :p
 
@Ælis What? I was saying good morning :p
 
@avazula Oh sorry, I might have forgot to put my translator on :p
 
'm tired
I don't sleep well
can't wait to be on holiday o/
(next week)
 
@avazula :/ I didn't sleep well either and now my mind doesn't want to work (that's why I'm chatty here this eirlier instead of working...)
 
Also shit's happening in my life rn and it's almost my birthday and it triggers my PTSD (yay) and work is awful which explains why I'm not that much around these days. Which is why I'm glad to find dogs and cats when I stop by :D
@Ælis yea, I saw your mishap invitation for a video call at like... what, 4AM? :p I hope you're okay, though :(
 
9:38 AM
@avazula Lots of love and support to you <3 I would have invited you to change your mind with me in Paris, but going to Paris in the middle of the strike is probably a terrible idea ^^ Anyway, if you need to get out of your own life and take a break for a while, I'm always here for you :)
I figured you wouldn't be against some bunny too :p
 
BUNNYYYYYY
<3
 
@avazula I have the start of a big headache but I'm glad that my psychiatrist gave me some sleeping pills. My night was really not good, but it could have been way worse
 
@Ælis yeah, traffic is horrible over here too because of the strikes :/ I actually wanted to come to Paris in December to see friends but I couldn't. Let's postpone to 2020!
@Ælis :( how's it going with the pills btw?
 
@avazula :( but lots of love to you :p
 
@avazula You mean the one against depression? I tend to be exhausted but mostly happy, so I guess they are working nicely ^^ It still is weird to be exhausting and yet feeling fine mentally speaking. I'm not used to that, it makes me feel like something is off with my body x)
 
9:46 AM
@Ælis I know that feel. I'm not taking medicine, but my new job has made me feel a lot better. Yet it's a lot of hard work, so I'm tired most of the time. But fine. Glad to hear you're feeling happier.
 
@Belle Thank you and glad to hear your new job is going so much better than the last one, you deserve it <3
Changing the subject, how do you people feel about this meta question proposition?
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A: How could we have some more winter fun?

ÆlisThe end of the year is a great time to celebrate what was achieved. I believe it's also a great time to thank people for what they are doing for the community. That's why I suggest opening a meta question where people can point out and thank other IPS members for what they have done during this ...

 
@Ælis As long as your basic needs are met ... I know I struggle to get enough food when I'm exhausted so I hope you don't have that issue :/
@CaldeiraG yay, love <3 'm sending some back at you
 
@avazula Well, I have been eating a lot of cold, ready to eat, soup lately ^^ But my increase in happiness means that it's easier for me to "cook", so I have also been eating more pasta \o/ (I love pasta and they are really easy to cook)
@avazula I think my level of exhaustion is mostly the same, except that it's easier for me to do stuff, so I'm doing more stuff which exhausts me more but, all in all, I do believe it to be an improvement (things will be better after the end of the strike though, walking to work and coming back is exhausting me, I hate it)
 
10:07 AM
@Ælis You don't eat eggs, do you?
 
@Belle Nop (well, I have started eating them again for lunch because I can't find a vegan restaurant that fits my needs so I'm eating vegetarian instead of vegan but no, I don't eat eggs if I can avoid to)
 
Ah that makes sense. I often like making shakshuka if I don't have the energy to cook much, but eggs are kind of a central ingredient.
 
@Ælis yay :) pasta is life
 
@avazula <3
 
A J
Afternoon all!
 
10:16 AM
@avazula My aunt would disagree. When she asked me what I wanted for the Christmas dinner, I said "pasta" and I believe she almost had a heart attack x) (she did agree that I could have pasta the second day though :D )
 
Afternoon :D
 
@AJ Hello :)
 
A J
What's up? Having fun bashing winter?
 
@AJ I'm not really running after hat this year. I guess my job doesn't bore me enough :P
And you?
 
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@Ælis Same here. It's my job that's keeping me busy. I was #1 network-wide for a few hours, though. :P
 
10:26 AM
@Ælis I would disagree with her :D
 
I am unable to get the crux of she 'informed' you that she will move in with you - in which 5 year old relationship is moving in not a natural step? I am often (I come from a non-western culture) surprised by how sometimes relationships are defined like business contracts - relationships like these are destined to end up badly. A healthy relationship is a compromise on both ends, it doesn't have to be insta-perfect, but it will survive the test of time. — Jishan 2 mins ago
#23541 Jishan (101 rep) | A: Partner temporary moving in, how to enforce it's temporary? (score: 20) | posted 19 days ago by ekl (844 rep) | edited 19 days ago by ekl (844 rep) | Toxicity 0.0 | tps/fps: 1/0
Reported with custom reason: "chatty" by Ælis
 
@chumpbot bleh
 
Invalid feedback type. Valid feedback types are tp, fp, rude, and wrongo
 
gngngn
@chumpbot pewpew
 
Marked this comment as flaggable (tp). Currently marked 2tps/0fps. beep boop My human overlords won't let me flag that, so you'll have to do it yourself.
 
10:35 AM
@AJ Not really looking to get hats, doing the usual I guess
Number confusion:
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Q: Biggest Irreducible Hello World

MasonCreate a program that outputs Hello, World! The winner is the source code that is the biggest, subject to the constraint that it is irreducible For this challenge, irreducible means there does not exist a program that outputs Hello, World! that can be constructed by removing characters from the...

 
11:14 AM
I shouldn't have come to work. I think I catched a virus and I'm feeling very unwell now :/
 
'tis the season to be sick, unfortunately. Feel better soon...
 
I'll try, thanks
 
11:29 AM
@Ælis you might appreciate this number:
 
Solid advice, but that last bit... I would try to hold the child out of the center, the child might answer in unexpected ways - unless todays lesson is "not being shy with strangers" which is a strange lesson to have. these days. — Stian Yttervik 1 min ago
#21183 Stian Yttervik (1251 rep) | A: How to tell a stranger that the way I wish to educate my child is none of his/her business? (score: 14) | posted 283 days ago by Kate Gregory (35395 rep) | Toxicity 0.0 | Comment on inactive post | tps/fps: 0/0
Matched regex(es) ["chatty"]
 
@Mithical Oh, that's very cool indeed! And it goes very well with the glasses !
 
@Mithical that hat is not supposed to be there tho XD
it's already reported on Meta
 
;)
 
maybe if i post a cute cat, i can get the glasses too :p
or maybe not
looks like it's fixed
 
 
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12:48 PM
It's too quiet here, let's have some cat @chump
 
1:09 PM
what a big cat :p
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Q: Wife hanging out with her brothers, makes husband jealous

user3405291I have a friend who is recently married. My friend loves both her husband and her brothers. Frequently, she goes out with her husband and her brothers for a movie night or shopping. During these occasions, she laughs with, talks to and enjoys being with her brothers. The problem is her husband is...

 
@CaldeiraG You do realize that we have a bot to post the new questions, right?
 
1:25 PM
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Q: Wife hanging out with her brothers, makes husband jealous

user3405291I have a friend who is recently married. My friend loves both her husband and her brothers. Frequently, she goes out with her husband and her brothers for a movie night or shopping. During these occasions, she laughs with, talks to and enjoys being with her brothers. The problem is her husband is...

 
1:36 PM
I agree, it is too quiet here
Wake up everyone. It's Thursday!
 
yay
aka almost Friday
Fri-yay
 
I wish is was almost for me, but I've only been at work for 10 minutes or so
 
ugh
it's 14:37 over here
in two hours it's my company's Christmas evening party
 
Are you looking forward to that or dreading it?
 
I managed not to be obliged to go to the secret activity and will only join for dinner :D
 
1:38 PM
@avazula Oh, nice done from you!
 
@Rainbacon I'd say neither. I'm just really eager to be on vacation. 8 more days.
 
Nice! We're doing a few Christmas-y things the next couple of weeks that I'm hoping to dodge. There's a white elephant gift exchange tonight and a potluck next week
 
@avazula I'm thinking of taking a day off tomorrow, so weekend is even closer for me \o/
@Rainbacon Why is it called a "white elephant gift"? x)
 
@Ælis yay
 
@Ælis Of course I know ;p I just want to give a bump here and talk about it, I was actually going to put something like but I didn't
 
1:43 PM
The origin is unverified, but the common belief is that it is a reference to a story that the King of Siam would give albino elephants to people he disliked as gifts because taking care of an elephant is rather burdensome
 
@Rainbacon x)
 
@avazula yay :)
 
Everyone that does it seems to have their own rules for it (so I'm not a fan of that), and I also hate the social pressures that come with gift giving
 
@Rainbacon my white elephant gift is a homemade-decorated notebook and pencil holder. I hope my coworker will like it o/
 
I'm sure they will given what I know about your art skills
 
1:47 PM
fingers crossed :)
 
@Rainbacon What do you mean "have their own rules for it"? Don't you all have a defined budget (like 10$) and can buy anything within that budget? (that's what we do here, it's mostly working I believe)
 
I've seen a few different variations on how gift stealing is done, like most people do it where you can take a gift that was taken before you and then that person has to choose a new one, some do it where you can only steal the last gift selected, though some people don't allow gift stealing at all.
 
@Rainbacon I had never heard of "gift stealing" before Oo I understand better now why you wouldn't like it!
 
It's more that I hate the social conventions around gift giving than the fluctuation in rules
 
I don't think I'm getting any gift this year
 
2:00 PM
@avazula Oh, really? Why is that? :'(
 
We already got all of ours (but I still need to get some for Mrs Bacon)
 
@Ælis Don't get me wrong I said I didn't want any
Sadly, I know I'll still get stuff from people who feel obliged to gift and I won't like it nor know what to do with it (like cosmetics or makeup) ^^
 
My parents gifts are probably socks lol ;p
(i need them tho)
 
@avazula :/ I told my family they could give money to a charity (that I liked) if they didn't know what to gift me. But I don't think anyone will do that though
 
I think my grandma really stepped up her game last year. I got a meat-oriented cooking book for my birthday and honey- / animal-grease-based cosmetics for Christmas
 
2:03 PM
@avazula I hate the whole "obligation to give gifts thing". My wife gets gifts for friends that she sees maybe once a year because she feels like she has to
@avazula ... that's pretty rude
 
@avazula Oh dear :/ I told my whole family that I didn't want woman clothes anymore and I think I was heard. We'll see what my aunt give me, but I'm optimistic
 
Basically i'm receiving gifts from my parents and that's it, most of my family doesn't believe in Christmas (Jehovah Witnesses or smth) so they don't give gifts either
My grandpa usually goes with 50€ :D (exception of the rule)
 
@CaldeiraG You are lucky, I have to make gifts for 17 different persons each year (plus the anniversary...)
 
@Ælis well, i don't have that issue either, they don't celebrate birthdays either so no gifts
 
I'm jealous ><
 
2:11 PM
:P the downside is that we don't have those big family dinners as much
so less hanging out
 
@CaldeiraG And you consider this to be a downside???!!!
 
@Ælis kinda but I don't mind either
I'm sometimes jealous of other friends who have these big dinners tbf, even if I dont care about half of the people there
 
heh
We're 15-something at those dinners so we only get to gift only one person
I got my grandma this year
I bought her a book about acrylic painting techniques for skies and bodies of water
 
@avazula the same grandma that got you a meat based cookbook?
 
:D
@Rainbacon ... yeah ...
 
2:21 PM
Well, then you're nicer than I am. I'd have gotten her something equally inappropriate
 
Don't get me wrong, I love her. But she's really into social conventions and "not eating like everyone isn't polite" for instance
 
Hmm, that's interesting
 
@Rainbacon heh. That's one of my biggest flaws: I'm too nice. Now I'm bullied by this mean and self-centered coworker and my job is eating me alive but I won't do anything because I truly don't know how not to care about the others shrugs
 
My wife has the same problem
 
:/
 
2:24 PM
Maybe we should have a series of questions about when and how to properly use breaches of etiquette
 
@avazula I didn't know that, I'm so sorry :'( Is this the coworker that contract got prolongated so they are staying longer than what was originally planned?
 
@Ælis No worries! I don't want to bother you people with the bad stuff and everything. And yes, that's him
 
@avazula I would love to be bothered by you about that anytime. Lot's of love and support to you <3
 
Bullies are the worst :\ I don't they they, or, heck, mostly everyone else, understand how much damage it does
 
@avazula :/ You might want to put a bounty on this one, but I'm not really optimistic :/
 
2:28 PM
The social workers got involved in that because my cousin requested their help. Now her parents are accusing her of tearing the whole family apart and told her she'd be to blame if they lost custody of her younger sisters. Not at any point in time did they question their alcoholism or toxic marriage. Tis gonna be a fun Christmas
I'm financially prepping myself to support her should she got kicked out of the house
 
@avazula I'm so sorry :/ At least, things are moving forward a bit, so maybe there is hope?
 
@avazula Ugh, that game. My friend's mother accused me of tearing her family apart when I reported her rapist stepdad.
 
My drunk aunt called her a sl*t last week because she went for AIDS testing (for cash's sake, that's the most responsible thing you can do when getting serious with someone!)
 
Victim blaming is what that is called
 
@Belle :( I'm so sorry
 
2:30 PM
Let's have some cat and love for you both:
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@Ælis tbh I'm not hopeful. I'm doing the best I can for her but I'm sickly worried about her twin sisters... they're just 12
@Ælis yay cat love <3
 
@avazula I wasn't the victim in that case, (luckily for me, less so for my friend), although her family locked her inside after that and I never got to see her again
@avazula you're a good person <3
 
@Belle I'm ... speechless
Humans suck sometimes. They really do
 
@avazula I understand that. I would probably feel the same if I were in the same situation
 
FWIW I think you did the right thing
 
2:32 PM
@Belle That's so horrible :'(
 
@Ælis where do you get those? You're like TFGITW when it comes to cat pictures!
:p
 
The most screwed up part was that my friend blamed me for being locked inside
 
@avazula I just wrote "cat love" in my search engine (lilo) and the trick was done. I must admit, Lilo is better than google when it comes to animal picture searching
 
@Ælis ooh, good to know :D
@Belle she didn't know better I guess :/
 
@avazula The mind does crazy things in situations like those
 
2:36 PM
@Belle When someone is too close to you, it's hard to blame them. So you blame someone else instead. It's sad but it happens all the time :/
 
 
@Belle Oh, nice jacket! :p
 
He (is it okay to assume for cats?) looks like a true gentleman
Also found this picture of a baby crow
 
@Belle Aww, so cute!
(I love crows, they are very smart)
 
@Belle oh. my.
 
2:40 PM
 
I'm filled with joy and cuteness
 
All the cute pictures!
 
@Belle Now I want to go to summer holidays!
 
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@Belle "Draw me like one of your french girlfriend" :p
 
2:42 PM
This is also cute
 
xD
 
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@Belle I'm melting *-*
I'll let you at your flooding, it's time for me to go home o/
 
@Ælis Still walking?
Have a nice trip home!
 
2:58 PM
@Ælis have a nice trip
doggos and kitties yay :)
 
3:28 PM
I have an interview in an hour and a half and I'm super anxious because I'm not incredibly familiar with the product domain of the company. Yay imposter syndrom /s
 
@Rainbacon good luck :)
 
@Rainbacon It's gonna be okay. You're gonna crush this!
 
sure, done. thank you! — danmcb 39 secs ago
 
Thanks for the support y'all!
 
click on the comment for context :) he accepted my answer yay :p
 
3:38 PM
@Rainbacon G'luck! Just remember, you can't do worse than a chicken in a suit.
 
@Mithical I'm not convinced. I couldn't find the source, but I definitely remember there being a chicken at some point that did a better job than most people of predicting the outcome of the College Men's Basketball tournament results
 
@CaldeiraG trying to get 5 accepted answers ?
@avazula how old was your pet when you got her ?
or anyone else who had a puppy ?
 
@ankii Doggo Frisbie was 4 months old, Fedora was a year
 
was Frisbe potty trained ?
 
My parents adopted a border at 7 months
 
3:51 PM
how long did it take for them to hold it for ~8 hours ? so that they won't wake up in the night
 
@ankii almost
 
@ankii My parents' dog could do that as soon as they got her.
 
@Belle so that age in months = hours theory seems to be true
She's ~3 months old, yet to think of a good name.
 
@ankii is that an hat trigger? i didn't knew
 
the key is to do so in one day.
 
4:02 PM
Should we flag this as spam?
I would think no because it does seem like it theoretically could be an attempt at answering the question, though a very low quality attempt
 
JAD
4:42 PM
VLQ != spam
 
I know that, but I'm not 100% sure if that answer falls on the vlq side or the spam side
 
JAD
it's not gibberish, it's not actual spam, IMO it shouldn't get a spam flag
 
4:56 PM
@ankii So no, I'm probably not going to get that, only got 1 accept today xd
 
5:51 PM
Ugh, I was so overloaded from my interview that when I got overcharged for lunch I wasn't able to say anything
 
@Rainbacon how did it go?
 
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Q: Is it appropriate to ask for the text of a eulogy?

paj28At a funeral there is usually a eulogy by family or close friend of the deceased. This usually covers interesting details of their lives. Unfortunately, just hearing it once means you'll miss things. Is it appropriate to ask for the text of the eulogy? For some people I would want this, and would...

 
It went ok. Felt a bit awkward and I'm not sure I want the job. It did cost me an extra $2.50 on my lunch though which is annoying
 
@Rainbacon what is it you don't like about it?
 
The product isn't particularly interesting. Also, I think the job might be a tad too managerial for my liking
Basically, I would be the only senior engineer on a team with a few junior engineers. It could just be my imposter syndrome kicking in
 
6:19 PM
erh :/
@Rainbacon but would you like to manage or is it your imposter syndrome kicking in?
 
I don't want to manage
 
okay then it's good you know what you want :)
I hope you find what moves you
 
@avazula great answer on the eulogy question!
 
thank you :)
 
6:39 PM
But seriously, I hope your imposter syndrome vanishes away. It really sucks feeling like that and I don't think you deserve to feel that way.
 
@avazula Thanks! I'm sure it will be ok eventually, but it kind of sucks while it's hanging around
 
@Rainbacon sure does. I've heard it's normal when in your 20s. I hope to get rid of mine by the time I hit 30!
 
user15026
I'm 32 and I still struggle with it :/
 
user15026
Sorry to be the bearer of bad news :P
 
6:46 PM
I think we can all agree that @chumpbot needs to give us some cats
 
@chumpbot another cat please
 
@chumpbot "What did you say?!"
 
7:23 PM
oh dear
We're supposed to be at the restaurant at 8:30. It's 8:23 already and I'm waiting from my coworkers to come back from the secret activity so that I can drive them there as well
It's a 20' drive + 10' walk
I am so stressed right now! I hate being late haha
 
oh dear
 
So, I probably have the flu. I had forgotten how physical pain can be difficult to deal with too (my body tend to never get seriously sick). Right now, my body hurt everywhere and there is nothing I can do except wait (thankfully, I have a doctor appointement first thing in the morning tomorow)
 
7:53 PM
@avazula My everyday at uni.
Except I keep repeating it
 
@Ælis oh no :( I hope you recover quickly, flu is no fun
 
@Ælis :( Get well soon!
Flu has freaked people out here
 
there's a number of places around here that give out free flu shots, I got mine back in October
 
8:09 PM
Well free or not I would have done it cause I basically have no lymphocytes
 
@EmC Here it's only for elderlies and young people. But I usually never get the flu (or just a very "soft" version of it), so I wouldn't have thought of doing it anyway :/
 
@M.A.R. yeah sorry, I kind of skipped some steps in my thought process :p basically we don't give out a lot of free healthcare in the US - so if people are - it's a pretty big deal here too
I hate shots, but I know people who can't get them but have increased risk, and I use public transit, so I do it anyways
 
@EmC Oh true, I didn't think about that. So yeah, it's impressive that you got free shots. Especially when I heard how much people are against vaccine in the USA
 
@Ælis oh don't get me started... haha
 
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Q: How to deal with a depressed person who thinks people are uniting against her?

infinitezeroLet's call this person Alice. Alice is currently in therapy and taking drugs to treat a long lasting depression. Alice is also quite egocentric i.e. likes to be in everybody's focus and tries to get attention / confirmation from the group. Alice does that by posting lots of pictures of her dog, ...

 
8:35 PM
@EmC It's a pain the arse simply seeing characters in a show talk about thinking about considering the cost of their health plans, so I don't blame ya
 
 
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Q: How do I convince my friends to move their group chat?

sadtriangleI am in a fairly large friend group - 12 people. We all go to the same school, but don’t interact much during the school day. Everyone in this group uses apple devices except one person - me. This is a problem because this friend group communicates mostly over a collection of 4 iMessage group c...

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Q: How to explain to my wife that getting me aroused in the morning is a distraction?

SinsofVodianovaMy wife and I are a happy lesbian couple, and we do several things together, including showering and getting dressed in the morning before work. One of the things shes love to do is get me aroused, so when she comes home, I'm ready to "go". I don't mind this on the weekends, but it does present a...

 
 
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Q: How to handle language differences

SeriousBriI am in the UK dating someone from a different country who has a lot friends here from her own country. Friends are good of course, but they all speak a language I don't understand and I find it awkward to be around when they are all having conversations. Is it rude of them, given they all speak...

 
@avazula hai, oh no references :D
 

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